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Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by 001spice: 1:00pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Jajasabali:sha take am easy o. Persin dey craze o |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by Young042galaxy: 1:00pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Anyway, I think my case is different. Am soft hearted, down to earth, feel ppls pain and equally somehow shy guy but u dare not take advantages of that. Cos if you try to, you will discover that am actually a devil when provoked. I don't regret being who God created me to be likewise I can't let anyone trample on me because I am not rascal or hard. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by HeavenVGate: 1:01pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Solofresh2:First, start hating everybody and always stretch your hands to slap faces. Remember that would always leads to yawa so no going back. |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by Imbecilicsamuel: 1:02pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Who da fvCk is talking about woman matter here? Redpillers and alpha males should not be put in the same sentence. The latter ain't frustrated sex starved f@gg0ts like the former. Closet pu$$i slave. 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by ajademola2000(m): 1:03pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
sandra50: Can we be friends ? I think we share same views .. I mean it |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by ajademola2000(m): 1:03pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
sandra50: . |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by dapadawee: 1:04pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Solofresh2:Guy there is nothing you can do about it. That's your strength don't think its a weakness, no matter how u try u still keep falling victim either by trusting or giving people chance. Not your fault, its just that u are a right person in a wrong society, soon your like mind we locate you and u will enjoy your nature. U can't change it just as a wicked man can never change |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by ajademola2000(m): 1:06pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
OP, don’t listen to the advise of the people saying you should try colorado please. That shit can make you go crazy. Being strong hearted has nothing to do with drug. It’s something you have to build from inside you. Like I said before be emotionless and calculative when acting 3 Likes |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by phemmyfour: 1:08pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Solofresh2:Diju pa Le ju pa Kala Ma rẹrin |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by lavylilly: 1:08pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Solofresh2:Continue to be kind but be firm |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by IRALIFE(f): 1:09pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Solofresh2: It would help to begin to live with margin. Your emotions should not control your logical thinking. If you have genuine reasons not to give, stick with it. If you decide to make a sacrifice, all well and good. Let your actions be well thought out and decided after weighing the options. 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by Razaneli(m): 1:09pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
My father told me you can't really change who you really are. Although it's an advantage being kind, if you can harness your kind heartedness, 1) you need to be wiser than everyone around you so that you would be able to put a limit to things and people's encroachment 2) you need to have genuine love for people, I mean selfless love for humanity and God's creation so you don't feel used while practicing genuine love. 3) kindness is a door to spiritual enlightenment if you know how to harness your being kind. Just be the best version of yourself, cos that's the best you can ever be. Don't be fake Very true...... kindness & humility is key to spiritual intelligence |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by yunqdady: 1:10pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Solofresh2:Rrad about assertiveness and how to be assertive. Start small like that. |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by Caseless: 1:11pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Solofresh2:Don't let the behavior of others to define you. Who's good is good. You just have to be smart and create boundaries - if you're good in the heart people would take advantage of that. But if you're doing it because of God and humanity, then, don't stop. He'll place you above all those who are trying to take advantage of you. 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by Imbecilicsamuel: 1:12pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Solofresh2: Don't change. But only show your soft nature towards those who deserve or have earned it. Any other person should be granted favours on trade by barter. That is how the world works now. No one gives a sh1t. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by yunqdady: 1:15pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Mikester:I concur. Hardship, failure etc makes one hard hearted |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by Connected1: 1:15pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
If you have a genuine reason to say NO, then say it no matter who it is, even the people you called bad have same emotions too but they suppress it and face reality. I assume you haven't suffered from your emotional decisions, that's why you are saying this some things you said here. You don't need to change to a bad person but never do a good that will affect you badly you in any way, it ends up being foolishness and once you help someone and that person defaults without you seeing the real as genuine, ghost that person out of your life else them go just open market for your head. |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by bizhop01: 1:16pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Nigerian don't appreciate meekness, even your dog will take you on granted. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by Babaken(m): 1:16pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Stop watching zee world and Telenovela be watching action movies like gangster, drugs, harden criminal related movies you automatically become akpor (very mean) try movie like Jackson lyrics, state property there many more. |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by Murphyenemuwe: 1:18pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
I've always been in your shoes so I understand perfectly. Someone will do unspeakable things to u and the moment u retaliate just once u will lose your mind feeling so bad. I hate that shit. Even resorted to weed at some point just to be hard hearted but all na lie. That's how you're being wired. The best solution is to surround yourself with few people that will see that weakness as strength and won't take advantage of u. And lastly if you're soft hearted limit the people in your circle Solofresh2: 3 Likes |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by Jerry88: 1:20pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
BigRocky:this your topic is exactly what what I'm facing and it has really destroyed my finance.Usually I don't comment on nairaland ,but this particular one has really touched me reason is I'm broke now not because I'm supposed to but been too emotional and kind hearted over 3m naira just in few months to d hands of ppl that are so wicked,they just take advantage of me even in relationships ladies do same to kind-hearted men and dump them.Bro if I narrate my experience today wouldn't end just get up and continue to work on your self,mine almost led to succide because I kept vowing that I will not repeat it but ppl know that when they confront me I borrow to give ,buy on credit for others,it so pathetic that Nigerians don't deserve such and when u see another person advicing u on such he or she too has a wrong motive I don't know mean all d time but most times ,d reason is for u to have sufficient for d advicer to benefit more from you I have all this experience . 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by yunqdady: 1:20pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Godfullsam:Did you even make sense? 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by Emmaculate77(m): 1:29pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Solofresh2: Your problem is simply lack of confidence and not light heartedness. Work on your confidence(self esteem) and you will be able to make decisions and stand by it without any p. 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by tunde4top(m): 1:32pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Solofresh2: You need to develop/upgrade your mind with the right/liberating info in order to escape this limitation barrier... Go and read this book and thank me later... "No more Mr Nice Guy" Dr. Robert A. Glover I am willing to help you with the pdf or EPUF file if you drop your mail id... Also check my profile to read a thread I posted few weeks back on "Kind Vs Nice" Cheers and goodluck!!! 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by Executive729: 1:34pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Solofresh2: Bros in honesty there is nothing you can do about it that is how God wired you, am like you even if you pretended to be hard and take hard decisions you will get stuck in the middle and back down, mine made me marry an ex prostitute I don't have to who later came to attacked me later in life. What you do is to pray to the almighty to keep bad people away from your Parth in life. Even your grow up siblings will attacked you later in life after using you not to talk of strangers. 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by macho44(m): 1:34pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Candidlady:CandidLady!!! After BUHARI, Na You We Know |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by sodique20(m): 1:39pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Solofresh2:Same here � and I'm tired of it |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by francisobiabo(m): 1:39pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Na my biggest problem be this o... BigRocky: |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by BigRocky: 1:39pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Jerry88: Your story is touching bro. Hope you are okay and doing fine now? We should learn to put logic first before emotions. Am beginning to wise up 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by BigRocky: 1:42pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
We will all be fine,we should learn to damn our conscience (is hard)but is a task that must be accomplished. francisobiabo: 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by Sureplug123(m): 1:51pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Solofresh2:Bro please I need your help. I've been out of Job since last year and I'm currently broke. I need Job or cash. |
Re: How Can I Stop Being Soft Hearted As A Guy by dododawa1: 1:57pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Guy, continue your way,their is light at the end of TUNNEL 1 Like |
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