₦airaland Forum

kathyann:
what if your guy don't show any jealousy, wen things like that happen,even when you answer another guy call,or do anything u suspect he supposed show jealous but he don't,and when u discuss about it,he will only say,"he don't act so becus he don't want any quarrel to come up,pls what do u guy think about this guy,

Maam, Jealousy is good in a relationship, a healthy jealousy. He may be annoyed but doesn't know how to speak out. In my own case, I had to let down my ego to speak out. Guys don't normally say it cos it looks like we are weak, and most girls tend to abuse it when they know it is a guy's weak point.

Don't blame your friend and quit making him feel jealous cos one day, just one day, he will leave you, for everything you put him through. Pls, stop putting him in a condition to feel jealous, I beg you.

HazzanTazzan:
I didn't want to do this but since I've been called out, I will say some things to motivate others and myseld


Bad month and good month...

Good month in the sense that I made 755usd on my Fiverr acct while I used backdoor to make 285+250+200 thru a client who shared her contact with me on Fiverr...

Total earning Thru freelancing for the month is about 1500usd...

Other dollar transactions earned me about 1100usd

Its a great month to have earned about 2600usd I'd say...

Bad in the sense that all the Freelancing earning was BTW 1st and 16th of August and since then, no single order on my freelancing hustle...

Seems my sales are always good in the early part of the month...I need to find a solution to that in the new month...

Thanks to beatzone for being the vessel God used to bless me

Baba, may God continue to bless your hustle. I tap from your blessings. Touch my head, abeg. Lol

Nomeh17:
Na one hand I dey use to type o as I dey Lagos traffic. Grammar checkers take note

I was actually checking out your grammar, my bad! I believe that's the best way to learn, especially if you are into article writing niche. I wasn't gonna bring it up, was only making the corrections on my mind. May I send you a pm if you don't mind?

rosalieene:
Respect u say? I laugh in Swahili
Maybe because she hasn't seen any guy that adores her and won't insult her when they quarrel that's why she is still with you.
I hope she sees one soon because she doesn't deserve someone who insults her at any slight provocation.

You girls are just funny. What does "adore" even mean to you girls? When we guys show too much love, You girls see us a weakling and not man enough. When we act like we don't care, you complain and probably look for avenues or reasons to cheat.

The guy you quoted only states what works for him and you should respect that. Chicken brains, in my opinion, are what some girls have.

JustHere2Observ:
There are 2 sides to the story, she might just have been tagged in the picture by the guy meaning she may have not posted it.
You might have actually over reacted and showed a lot more jealousy and accused her or insinuated she is cheating prompting her response.

So the way you reacted to the issue I.e. your so called little jealousy might have prompted her so stupid behavior.

If you have an itch and scratch gently you get relief, but if you scratch vigorously you get a painful sore.

She posted it herself. I didn't over react nor suspected her. I only told her that it looked somehow having our pix on her fone and not uploading it but instead uploading a colleague's pix.

When I was in the game, it was as simple as ABC what I would have done. I wouldn't have told her anything, but would have made her jealousy rise more than 100%, but this was someone I wana settle down with, and i wouldn't even imagine I played games with her. It was just a matter of " Do to others how you want them do to you." She even insinuated I was making a mountain outta nothing and it could force her keep things to herself.

I wanted her to understand that jealousy was normal as far as it wasn't overly reacted. All I wanted her was to shut up and only convince me it was nothing. She lost my respect.

OdikwaRisky:
Okay, jealousy was allowed. It was only natural for you to feel a bit spiffed about the whole *Facebook* incident . I'm sure if the reverse was the case, your girlfriend would have blown the roof.

But abeg, don't use your girlfriend's action to judge all girls. You and other guys on this thread. If you were unfortunate enough to have dated a girl with "halved-brain", that was your bad luck. Not all girls would act in that manner.

Thanks, I respect your comment.

JustHere2Observ:
Your topic should be "why does my gf act so stupid because I showed a little jealousy?"
Because you are experiencing it or your friend is doesn't mean all girls are like that.

What is your point? From your perspective, is it truely stupid? Be specific

rosy1992:
Exactly what I'm saying I would also get jealous if I was in your shoes but that shouldn't trigger mistrust or argument .

Thanks dear, I appreciate.

rosy1992:
It's normal but you both should work things out positively.

Rosy, enunciate that a lil bit, pLease. How is it normal? Shouldn't a guy ask on issues like that?

Ifakiland:
When dey ask u people to av one main chick and many side chicks u'll not listen...now see wat a gal is putting u tru cos of a forking pix! U sef upload a pix of ur face buried in a gal's boobs and see if she won't behave! When ur gal tries to get u jealous...do ure in a 100 folds!
Be a bossman abeg! I serious!

You are right my brother, very right. It was my Ex, remember;we are no more together. Also remember I talked about settling down and not flirting around. I completely know how to get at women, but never will I do that while searching for my better half. Thanks for your opinion. You are 100% right.

@VolTOxic, thanks and point well taken. Mine wasn't an unhealthy jealousy. Infact, she once saw me with my junior cousin and narrated how jealous she felt when she saw me talking to her.

I completely knw that insecurity is the no 1 killer of relationship. I only felt jealous because she had our pictures but never uploaded them. I didn't feel any atom of bad about it, but the moment she uploaded that guy, the jealousy, out of spontaneity, came up. Who wouldn't feel bad?

Drew0:
Break up with her. U will thank me later.

She no value u my guy. If u meet girl wen value u. U no go complain, even my ex till today still show me love in every way she can.

SSo many girls out there.

I can. Never think twice to leave a girl who disrespect me for once.

My current gf, wen we quarrel I insult her wen am really angry but she has never replied any

Respect#.

Thank you so much, Sir. I apPreciate a whole lot.

dairykidd:
Dont mind very confused set of humans (most girls)..buh me these i treat them like they want to be treated if u act like a ho% i treat u like that and if u act like a lady i treat u same as a lady should be treated.Nonsense na money to take buy properties down we dey find nw oo no be one daft girl go come dey pollute my mind when i dey purge off negativity every day..u gat right to ask any question if she is avoiding it guy just turn the table and dont stop till she tire for life...tell ur friend op

You guys are my family, I swear! Thanks

youngest85:
kids everywhere

Your ignorance will only be compounded by your ignorance, fool!

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]Don't mind such mumu girls. It's only when they are guilty that they bring up quarrels when you try to ask them questions concerning a guy.

If you're not guilty simply answer the question and everybody moves on.

You have every right to get jealous and ask questions. If you don't feel the need to guard what's yours then where is the love?

If you keep acting like you're not bothered it's the same girls that will say you don't even care.

Confused beings! [/color]

Naijaboiy, you don't know how much I respect ur comment just now cos I felt I erred then. Thanks bro, I really appreciate.

I believe relationships are meant to be enjoyed equally by both parties involved. It's been a cliche' that the women crave For attention more, and I'm here wondering, " does it mean guys should not crave for that too, after all males are humans, not logs of wood?"

I dated my "Ex" for four years and was going to settle down with her. I never dated nor had the time for any other woman. I cherished her so much since I had finally made up my mind I was going to marry her, but girls are funny;they act like their brains are halved.

During her IT, she uploaded pictures of her male colleague and herself on FB. They held each other like love birds It didn't bother me. It was until she sent her pictures (even ones with other female colleagues) to me and omitted that of hers with the guy that the jealousy crept in.

The next day, while chatting with her, I tried to bring up the issue since that was the only male picture on her entire FB pictures;mine (her bf) wasn't even there. I simply, in the most polite manner, made her know how I felt about it. She became annoyed and said I was acting overly jealous. I asked her what would be her reaction if she were to be in my shoes, and I acted just the way she did? She waved it aside, ended that she was gonna get rid of it; "it was a mere pix!" But my problem wasn't even the mere pix thing. "Why was she hiding it from me?"

Didn't I have a right to be a lil bit jealous. I remember it now because it is happening to a friend of mine too. What ya say, my Nairaland family? Just know I respect every of your comments.


Last bullet--> African men are not romantic isn't the issue with our women. I think our women are wired to repel romantic gestures.

I completely know your write-up is wonderful, but it doesn't make sense to me. Every new graduate employed in a particular place must act like that; it is just normal. It is like telling a baby to use spoon to eat pap instead of sucking it through the feeding bottle. I believe everything has its time. With that time, they will learn and life will continue.

I just hate how everything in this life has to do with rules and more rules. Other than yours now, there are other rules many will still bring for these lovely graduates to embark on thereby compounding their lives.

Op, ur dab is purely made in ABA.

delugajackson:
Lol. You just said my mind! They just keep sharing around like its no man's business, for me, as long as you don't contact anything silly, I'm fine. There's no loyal girl anymore, bro.

1 bottle of Moet for you, jare. You be my man!

Since he has the full conviction that it's a miraculous job through the Pastor's prayer that landed him the job, he should heed to him. The next miraculous job could be the best ever. The breweries' job may just be a test. My opinion though.

chocolateme:
This DJ Khaled is very cute facially..
"Say my name""
"DJ KHALED"....

Tiwa i respect your determination and hardwork, even the scars of broken marriage did not disable you from your focus..

She use to base abroad before with ample opportunities but somehow, the change and occurencrs of life put her through different strokes but once again, she has found herself where she truly belong.

We must end up at where God has designated for us despite the challenges of life.

Wish her marriage will be repaired.

Come.. i hope this month's FrontPage news will not be full of Tiwa since she has decided to go about locating all these celebrities, snapping pictures with them and then posting for us to leave what we are doing to view?

By the way Mods.. where are our snakes??
Where is Olajumoke?




FTC
CHOCOLATE CREAM

I go vex for you o. So snakes and bread wey you dey chop for your villa never do you, shey?

Badoox:
Confam!

You be my G! Leave others make dem dey mumu.

antieverything:
if she is a loyal galfrnd guys u gat geh loyalty to kip things priv buh if she a h0e? seriously shout to d roof top,u might b saving a bro like this dude below frm a crappy relationship... bros4life

Thanks jaree. You really understand....bros4life joor

MissHatey:
at your siggy, thats me and that is what I will give you

Ok. Sorry. I already gave it to you before quoting you. If it isn't enough, holla back.

MissHatey:
Yes for ladies
Don't quote me

Come and hold my hand and come and stop me from quoting you.
I won't ask you if you do it, cos I believe that's ur fear.

I think so to an extent.

Maxiii:
i hope you have kid sis?


if kiss and tell is good for you then I rest my case.

let your conciense judge you.... cheers

As far as I'm concerned, you have not made any atom of sense at all. There must be kiss and tell no matter how it is preached for people to stop it.

For me, I don't do it but I was happy through it, I got the information no one would have told me, even my saint gf.

Just as WAR is bad, there are people who love it. Your sense of comprehension isn't just ideal for my liking.

Maxiii:
emboldened, are you encouraging kiss and tell?


to me, kiss and tell is very wrong and childish, only guys that act like an ass does that

Out of everything I wrote up there, it was only those innocent words you picked out. You didn't even acknowledge the fact that it was thru this same kiss and tell I got to know my gf was cheating on me. Take time o. I no get ya strength.

CrazyQuinn:
It made 1000% sense

I'm not tryna correct you whatsoever. From your stateMent, it means that there is no woman on earth that is emotionally weak, and that the emotionally stronger men are just 2% of the men's population. I stand to be corrected, maam.

Who would bet? This is FP material. Snake is in it.