₦airaland Forum

Genset:
How? I am very sure that your friend is a Yoruba man. They are the only ones that happily relaxes and feels entitled to their wife's money. Yoruba men are just not it.

hate to burst your bubbles

Ishilove:
Yelz

My profession doesn't give room for gossip

Ishilove:
That means you are the man angry over his wife's money

���..You think so

wirinet:
That is a very selfish behaviour. You say her own personal account should be no issue, but his own personal account should be an issue, right?

The guy might the responsible for the house rent, feeding, school fees, medical expenses of the family, utilities, etc., and most probably, that was why he has not been able to buy a car for himself. And here you have the wife using "her own personal account" to buy a car for her own mother without consulting the husband.

A woman that puts her extended family before her nuclear family is not worth to be called a wife.

Simple truth most ladies fail to acknowledge

UjuJoan2:
Is the lady's husband pregnant? Is his calf swollen and his stomach the size of an elephant? Is he breeding, not just his bur THEIR child? How is it that you can't see that the two scenarios are completely different.

That he bought his mother a car is not even the problem here. He is driving a car himself and is letting his pregnant wife jump buses. That's where I have a problem.

Is it that you guys dont get the fact that a man ought to provide and cater for his wife? She is breeding his children for goodness sakes, shouldn't her comfort come first, before even his own?

In thia scenario the lady doesn't work yet and doesn't need a car. So the man is right to buy one for the mother first. But when the children start coming, he needs yo step up and buy a car for his wife to take them to school.

I would have applauded you on this but, your comment is quite enveloped by gender bias

Ishilove:
I bow. I am sure the aproko OP is the one exaggerating though

I'm a very quiet, reserved young man..who minds his business most times

Ishilove:
I don't understand. He is angry she bought a car for her own mother? Is he high on his own fart? Is it not her own money? Abeg let him go and find a wet transformer to hug.

Divorce ko, divorce ni. Eleribu somborri

Snr Mod, no vex nah.. . It's just this dichotomy about Mother-inlaw and wife, on who should "always" be considered first in some key decisions of a man. But, seems the opposite gender justifies putting theirs first when the ball is in their palms.

bukatyne:
Funny thread.

The solution to men's misbehaviors is not behaving like them: it would mean all the complaints stems from lack of opportunity and not a moral ground.

It also means that women are no different from the men they are complaining against; they do not just have the opportunity.

Instead, retain your good attitude and insist that whoever you tangle with behaves appropriately.

So much wisdom from a lady

No matter how juicy it might seem to sue. Firstly, can we know the name of the antifungal cream. Somehow I know for such cream to be contraindicated for patients of such age, it probably must have a corticosteroid.

Also, you can have a tangible case if only such has been used and it inflicted harm to the baby, then you have a solid ground for litigation.

In addition, most of the patients that visit hospital pharmacy feels that the pharmacist has no contribution to make (that is if it's even a pharmacist that is attending to you) or are always in a haste to go, feeling that they have spent quite some time in the hospital than another important section (Pharmacy) of the health system to steal their time. I actually blame the system flow/arrangement, because you will even see another patient walk up to the pharmacist to ask if he/she isn't done with the patient he/she is attending to.

If I have my way, the setup will be that: you have to be ushered in; into the pharmacy unit where you meet the pharmacist, with brief explanation of why you are on the hospital visitation, your drug history if any; proper verification of your drugs for side effects and possible interactions, counseling on how to use/apply your prescribed drug(s). This is what it should be!, but you know in Nigeria, anything can go. Patients, on average in Nigerian hospitals spend approximately 30 seconds with their pharmacist. Now tell me how 30seconds can discover and address all these.

Abroad, there is a high statistics of people dying of different kinds of medication/ prescription error. Well, let's not talk about Nigeria, because we don't even have a data base more or less data itself.

Well, we will talk about patent medicine dealers later. Our healthcare needs urgent reform, but our leaders careless of that.

olasaad:
See.all Nigeria guy want their wife to tell them how they spend their money but they won't disclose their own except in few occasions

Same way most (let me no say all) Nigerian ladies want their man to put them above their mother inlaw �

UjuJoan2:
It's funny how you guys throw the word feminism around whenever women refuse to cater for your needs.

A man is responsible for his family, and providing for them should be his utmost priority. He can buy a jet for his mother if he likes, but he has to provide for his family.

Does that justify the lady's action? What's the essence of being one, and making collective decisions. I hope you won't find it offensive if your husband buys such for the mum while you still jump BRT

decatalyst:
This is not about a lazy man.

What he woman did is fundamentally wrong. How could she go ahead to do such a fantastic gifting and not informing her husband. I thought two have become one.

The man need to correct this...though it is going to be very hard because most people will think he is not happy about his wife buying car for her mother and this could lead to an even bigger issue that may not get settled in years (family wahala).

Also, maybe the wife doesn't love the husband as much as she loved her mother.

Yoruba would say "bi ina ba jo eni to jo omo eni tara eni laa koko gbon " (If fire is burning you and burning your child, you will first put out the one on you).

Your husband doesn't have a car and you buy one for your mother first? The love is in question here.

Thank you!

Amanee:
It's her money and she can do with it as she please, same thing with him as that seems to be the arrangement they have.

Op your submission is one sided and you seem to have already picked the indignant husband's side (that's if you're not him) but try to look at things objectively. They probably aren't on the same page, finance wise and this has a lot to say about communication in their marriage, it is sorely lacking. Your friend needs to let go of his entitlement and hurt and look at the bigger picture - his marriage is a disaster waiting to happen if they don't do something about their communication. It's not just about love.

Somehow, you highlighted my points and source of disappointment. Why do some women think men should put them way ahead of their mother inlaw, but won't reason same for their own mother inlaw.

Poorboy:
your friend is a their, let me put it in the language you should understand.

If he likes let him trek to hell fire

The wife doesn't owe your friend abi you anything.

Why he didn't tell the husband is that the husband will not allow her buy the car.

We all are opinionated. No wahala.

UjuJoan2:
Why are men of these days so lazy and dependent on women? I just dont get it.

So if his wife buys him a car he will drive it happily? What about pride? Chivalry? What about self dignity?

That aside, do you know the bond between the lady and her mother? So because he gave her a ring, he thinks he is now more important than her own mother? What has he done to earn such privilege?

Lazy men everywhere looking to live off their wives. If your friend cannot keep trekking let him buy himself a car, simple!

I feel your sermon buttresses the fact that feminism is a child's play. And gender equality shouldn't be found in our society. Now, I hope your peers will still keep mute if a man decides to buy a car for the mother that had him for 9months first , before considering the wife

Poorboy:
you don't understand motherly love.

You don't know the sacrifice the mother might have made to the lady in question .

It's not a matter of loving the husband but her own personal conviction that her mother deserves a car.

The boy(husband) in question is a jealous type, the wife knew telling him he won't allow her buy the car.


Don't compare mother with husband it doesn't fall in the same sentence.

would you say same if it were the other way. I'm sure the wife would still throw tantrums

olasaad:
As if most of you guys take permission from your wives before helping your family and friends

Now it's justifiable..? Naija ladies eeh..

Poorboy:
I see envy in your friend before I even talk about the wife not telling him.

Because she knows the boy(husband) will kill the idea of buying the car for the mother.

And you are fully aware about the stress he passes through each morning, as highlighted. Definitely, won't let him take such decision of divorcing. Well, will try though

Ningen:
Divorce is an exaggeration.
Maybe we not end up with inconsiderate wives.

I'm sure the ladies won't justify this one now

MejiLoyon:
My friend kee you there
He send you message make you carry him matter come nairaland?
Abi you no know say him brother or even him mama In law fit dey read this buushiet?
You, my friend, are your "my friend's " problem.
Educated aproko machine

�..Why are you scared on his behalf. He isn't into nairaland aproko

Poorboy:
So your friend is a lazy man, that says alot about you.

Thank you very much, little mind

Apparently, my friend is so mad and even threatening to divorce his wife.

No, this is not a case of infidelity or unfaithfulness. My friend and his wife got married last year. Both are working and keeping personal savings. My friend works at a very far distance, however, the wife's work place is approximately 10minutes walking distance.

My friend's mother-inlaw stays in a different city, and she is close to retirement. My friend just found out that the wife sent money to his brother to get a car for the mum. Though, she was actually going to tell him or inform him about it. Just that her mum was the first to call my friend, thanking him for their kind gesture.

My friend's anger was that the wife knows how much stress he passes through this period to get to work. But she however made her choice on the best person to get a car for.

Please, what is your opinion about this. I don't even know what to say.

Millenniumlady:
Nigerian men think dating white women is an accomplishment.......Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeew




Modify

It will end in tears premium one for that matter.

So you think. Aunty change your mindset and stop generalizing. You wish to tell me there are no good white ladies. Then, I hope you won't feel sad when it's been said "There are no wifable Nigerian lady".

jaryeh:
Twitter option would be better.

If we can gather ourselves in a group and trend hashtags for a week, we will get their attention.

I made a case on this on Twitter, funny enough the retweets weren't that much. Seems most of you don't want to fight for what you deserve. I just made a post on nairaland on that. I have actually tried, it's left for those affected to push it.

Please this deserve a front page. Kindly tag

THE KILLER SILENCE OF DragnetNg CUM THE AGONY OF AN AVERAGE STUDENT BENEFICIARY OF AGBAMI MED/ENGR. SCHOLARSHIP.

At this point, I wish to tag this single act of @DragnetNigeria as unlawful excommunication. It's obvious that some beneficiaries of the above named scheme are yet to get their stipend; with no information about the delay of such reimbursement as stipulated in the binding contract/award letter between Agbami and the said beneficiaries. While others are smiling to their respective banks, some of these beneficiaries are yet to receive any email more or less their stipends.

Dragnet might come up with an argument that these students have graduated, they should also fault their inability to reimburse the beneficiaries on time, as stipulated in the award, therefore the beneficiaries should not bear the consequences of such delay in payment. Please, I feel this should be addressed as some of these students have debts to pay off.

Cc: lalasticlala
Ishiluv

When our Healthcare system is busy fighting the superiority war....# I'm just laughing

Without being biased...This speech was more of a primary school pupil given a written essay to present after several cramming.

"President recorded speech to be played to Nigerians" would have been a better caption. This does qualify to be an Address to a Nation.

28th Feb. was definitely one of my biggest days of joy. I am most grateful to God almighty, my family, amazing tutors/lecturers, friends and well wishers likewise the grace to run this very race to the end as well as pick up another Baton; not just for self and professional development in the pharmacy profession, but as a freshman Entrepreneur. It was a privilege to officially launch this amazing “MOBILE APP. BASED RECHARGE CARD RETAIL SERVICE (GoRecharge)”.
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Within the last two months, I and my team have strived to make the Gorecharge service a brand to reckon. The Gorecharge mobile Recharge card vendor has transited from just being a mobile application (App) for convenient Recharge card purchase, Phone Recharging and Recharge card Sharing; to a capital generating App for users, through our latest feature—BYOV (Be Your Own Vendor). Thanks to the above hundred downloads so far.

The dream and goal enshrined in its service delivery have always been to create a platform where everyone is a shareholder (especially the student community). Where everyone will be a benefactor of a good amount of the interest incurred from “447.8bn –NCC” spent by Nigerians on Airtime on monthly basis. Your family, relatives, and a host of friends on your contact list are your potential customers.

This very day, I humbly present to you my innovation; actualize through great/outstanding team work:

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.mgorecharge

I will be delighted to see you download this App as every purchase you make is a huge motivation for me and the team to even strive harder. Just know: I am your closest “recharge card vendor”, kindly patronize me. I believe with amazing partnership and interest from investors, there are still more services to integrate and better return for every user.

Please share and download.

Kind regards.
Pharm. Sylvester K.E

Cc: Lalasticlala

belovedaja:
Which school please

For some reasons, won't like to disclose

Actually went to my Dean's office, the Secretary told me that Agbami didn't come for verification of any sort, as we earlier thought.

https://mobile.twitter.com/Sylverly2/status/1231114377853636608

We can choose to push this by retweeting and tagging people..Or forever wait for dragnet