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OBTSubtle:
You put way too much emotions, and most of the time.. It's totally unnecessary.. Don't you get tired??

Anyway..you're doing what you love..


She's lucky the parents accept the child, they even want the kid to be born abroad... If I was her, I wouldn't even remember the cretin of a boyfriend..

Recently read a story of a stripper who got cheated on by her boyfriend, and she has a kid for the guy..

She has moved on.. Living her life, taking trips to the beach with her kid, making her kid happy..

If she can get past the drug phase, I'm sure her boyfriend isn't as addictive as cocaine or whatever drugs she was on..

Her boyfriend is also all about the life, he broke up with her because she decided to change for the better

TrapQueen77:
If I were her, I keep the baby but damn I won't go back to a dead beat bf....


She's lucky tat both sides of the family are very supportive and tatz only matter.. Men nowadays most of them their brain is in their dick. Once they messed up, they gonna point their dirty fingers..

if both parents hadn't accepted it, I would have

OBTSubtle:
You this Bella, you attach too much emotions to your answers or replies..


You could've just directly told the drug addict to fuçk off until she gives birth since both sides of the family have accepted the bästard..

yes I do,cos I put myself in those situations subconsciously to know how they feel before I reply, and she's no more a drug addict, everyone has a past, everyone makes mistakes, do we keep judging them because of that?

I smell trouble

does this have anything to do with the other group of terrorists who visited the president in aso rock?

please if u don't understand the humor don't quote me

Hello Bella, please keep this anonymous thanks.


My story is quite a long one but I’d try to make it short, I have always been a party girl so you can imagine the type of men I date and friends I hang out with, there were drugs, booze, money, name it, I was living the life and having so much fun but one day my friends and I had an accident on our way back from a club, I almost died, Bella this incident traumatized me so I decided to tone down my life for a while.


Well my boyfriend didn’t take this too well, he loved the kind of girl I was and this new girl I had become had no place in his life, he would invite me out and I’d be scared to keep late nights because of what happened, I couldn’t even drink, smoke or do drugs anymore, this put a big strain on our relationship but I still loved him anyway, we had come a long way.


Four months back I found out I was pregnant, I told him of course and he was so mad at me, telling me how would a drug addict become pregnant, that the baby wasn’t his, I couldn’t have his baby, that drugs have spoilt my womb, he said a lot of hurtful things Bella, I thought he was angry at the time, maybe the news shocked him, so I gave him some time and went back to him, he said worse this time.


My family knew his and vice versa so we went to see them, they talked and talked to him and he wouldn’t bulge, my mum told me to keep the baby, my dad has been supportive, everyone in his family have been so nice, his dad has already chose a name loll, and I would have the baby in the states, but for the life of me Bella I can’t tell what went wrong, I still love him and if he comes back tomorrow I’d accept him, I just wanted to share my story and know if keeping this baby is the right thing to do.



Talk2Bella.



Most times when we have an Epiphany in life, many people don’t understand the decisions we take afterwards, they see it as selfish or pretentious, because we stop being who we were, we stop believing in the things we did and we discover a new chapter of ourselves, so congrats on taking those steps you took which changed your life for the better.


I am glad you decided to keep the baby, kudos to your parents for the support, many African parents aren’t that supportive when their child bring an unwanted pregnancy home, kudos to the guy’s parents also, not many would stand by a woman who their son had rejected.


You need to think about yourself now and the baby, stress and thinking aren’t healthy for a pregnant woman, you should have happy thoughts every day and stay around people who would make you happy.


You wanted to know what went wrong in your relationship? Well your man wasn’t ready to grow up, he’s still all about the life, the fun hasn’t ended for him yet, it’s your sole decision to wait for him to outgrow this life or not, I get that you still love him but you got a baby on the way now who would need your undivided attention, so loving someone who doesn’t love you and having your child see this is might not be the first way to start the first months of his or her life.


I wish you joy all the days of your life and during this pregnancy, you shall deliver safely, and when you see that this man who got you pregnant is ready to calm down on the party life, you can introduce him to your child.

http://www.talk2bella.com/2016/10/i-got-pregnant-for-man-who-doesnt-want.html

ucsparks:
you're very wicked

Gladiator1:
But u lie wen the need arises?

I seriously don't

dmgr:
u see!
U jst lied

Nah I didn't

djkaycee001:
Nice question
Am tempramental and little tinz piss me off
Am seriously working on my issues...
And am praying to settle down very Soon
With a ( Crazy ) Woman that Understand Me..joo

Sorry!!! What about you, why u Single
And asking us..? Tell us yours jare...

I have graduated from singledom

ucsparks:
I've got about 3 girls who still feel am their boyfriend,, buh to me am single cos I've moved on but they still can't
Am i in a relationship? talk2bella help me answer abeg

You're in a Situationship

TrapQueen77:
I love my boiz Bella... I always keep them locked and loaded

TrapQueen77:
I told u already tat I will delete my acct due to full of blocked rubbish ppol na..


Don't worry I will text u once I feel better to activate a new one

Mama for the Boys

Gladiator1:
Lol... Who doesn't lie? Even girls lie alot... U don't use a single person to judge a whole

meh I hate lies

ucsparks:
hmm his brother in the US own the car he drives and his rent is being paid by the same brother. Why you date him?

yes na

dmgr:
well i dnt even knw hw to lie to girls slf

ucsparks:
Girls love guys that lie na,,, can you girls date a guy who toasts you by telling you the truth about himself?

what might the truth be?

Jarizod:
[color=#679267] That's one thing I can never do..Lie about shìt to a lady about something I don't have..because of what __pusssyyy Am I mad [/color]

na so

gloriaunobi:
I always concord whenever his lying just to have peace that moment.

falconey:
that's what Nigerian women love to hear.

this one is from Ghana

Hello Bella, This Is An Angry Mail


I have never met a single Nigerian man with an atom of truth in his existence; they lie virtually about everything, from owning things they don’t and claiming to be from rich homes.


I am a lady of class, I expect more from any man I will date but do they have to keep lying? One idiot borrowed my car for 2wks claiming his was spoilt, and the idiot doesn’t even have a tro tro.


I want your fellow Nigerians to read this and get off my back, they are the worst sort, Ghanaians are far better than they are, even Kenyans.


They claim what they are not, eat my money, lie they love me and at the end of the day I get used, eaten and dumped.


Please hide my email, I am sure one of them will read this thanks.



Talk2Bella.



Honey, to date some Nigerian men is to know bliss, I have no idea what you’re talking about, I am sure Ghanaians have their bad eggs too but do we term all of them bad and liars? No we don’t.

You said this was a vent mail so you really don’t need my advice, but I’d give it to you anyway, stop flaunting whatever you have and you definitely need to stop releasing the cookie too soon.

http://www.talk2bella.com/2016/10/bella-why-do-nigerian-men-lie-too-much.html

dmola:
he who hasnt tried has nt done anythin new

well said aunty

Thanks

Lawlahdey:
I don't like commitment

U say

ItsQuinn:
Leave her, let her dwell in fantasy

JackieMay:
I'm still looking for a guy that's 6 feet tall, cute, not fat, not necessarily with 6 packs, not necessarily rich, but not a parasite biko, sweet, charming, romantic, faithful, calm, smart, fun. and must speak at least three foreign languages. interested candidates, please apply

SpitsOnYoruba:
And you're Foolish enough to think that only convicted criminals are in prison

Hian lemme just be the adult here and ignore the stupid assumption

SpitsOnYoruba:
Smh
What's the difference ??

Last time i checked, there are dudes convicted of double homicide sitting in county jail for 6 years now

Go to each of them and come back to ask me this question

Sauce biko

Prison cell or jail

olutosfem:
Destiny

Which one is destiny?

TerrorSquad147:
nice post fo broke guys. Maybe I'm still nursing old wounds cos when I was still doing the relationship thingy, i wasn't buoyant enough and it really killed my vibe. Since my financial status changed, I didn't really see the need to engage in some serious shii. I know i'll still give it a trial anyways

That's the spirit

TerrorSquad147:
no girl loves a broke guy, including you

Read my post on how to be broken and still be a ladies man

TerrorSquad147:
yea, free from nagging, free from having to bother my mind concerning one beautiful girl that I know how stiff the competition was before getting her, I'm still building my career, free from being monitored all the time...etc. I'll still get into another relationship, but for now lemme b enjoying freedom and peace of mind

Now there's a reason "Career"