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Thunderdick:
Talk2Bella, i really respect ur words anytime i read them, u got a way of saying it to solve it...

As for d dude, i wonder why u bother abt what ur friends say... Who d hell gives a fvck abt friends in tins like dis. He better be wise becus i bet if he breaks up with her he will regret. Becus one of his friends could possibly go for her and that could kill him emotionally...
Guys should be wise, we got lots of friends who fvckin envy us of our good possessions and find way to make us loose it and they have it...

Nothing matters other than love... Some mistake love for lust... If he's got love for her and whats d relationship to head somewhere, then i would say 'FVCK' what friends think...

Lovechyld101:
I beg to differ there is only one difinition of feminism.
Dictionary.com : noun: the doctrine advocating social, political, and all other rights of women equal to those of men.

wikipidia: Feminism is a range of political movements, ideologies, and social movements that share a common goal: to define, establish, and achieve political, economic, personal, and social rights for women that are equal to of men.

darkenedrebel:
Sometimes harsh words could be the only means in driving home the point.

People are hardly gung ho in coming to their stepfather's defense, though. You too get along well?

Gracious10:
Anom gidigba!
No shaking, they should come

Gracious10:
Umu Nwanyi atago afufu,

So everyday, men come up with one rule after another so they can continue to marginalize and reduce us to nothing.

I guess women are zombies that have to be controlled by men, they should also tell us when to breath.

God is watch all of you in 3D.

Cutehector:
Because he knows u lack cooking skill

prettythicksme:
gidigan

northvietnam:
Aaaah Aahhh babe , what r u implying ?.... That my beloved would be wife/the mother of my unborn children can't attain the level of those women......

darkenedrebel:
No, she should not. It's morönic. Where's the sense in that?

This is just one of the many problems associated with the practice of brideprice — the woman becomes a cheap commodity, and a mindless marionette who is expected serve her husband like a common slave, even if it means losing her life in serving him.

If we trace why your stepfather feels this way, we would probably discover that it's because he paid dowry before he married your mother, and believes himself to have complete proprietorial ownership of her entire being.

I'm sorry to say, but your step-father is an arrogant, insecure and backward fool who needs to focus on being a man, rather than filching from his wife's purse like a petty criminal.

freshvine:
If your mom is not extravagant, I don't see the reason why her husband should be demanding for her salary.

My suggestion is that she should come out clean and tell him how much she earns and if possible surrender her next salary to him to watch his reactions.

Men are known to display inferiority complex when broke by acting irrational. He just need the assurance from his wife that with or without his money, he's still in charge of the home.

Advice your mom to massage his ego a little and study him to avoid matrimonial conflict that could be blown out of proportion

prettythicksme:
God forbid i tender my salary to any man,am i mad?


I trust my guy sha,he dare not ask me to do dat.My salary is like 1naira in his eyes.

northvietnam:
Only if she is dezeani or Ngozi okonjo iweala then i can now call my kinsmen with the deacons of our church... We will sermon her for her salary

2dugged:
tender her salary,for what na?,some men they take this head of the home thing too far, so he will be the one to decide how much he will give her from her salary, na wah o

queenfav:
Tender Salary bawo..lol...As i dey hustle for my money abi?Well,i am waiting for that man with the liver to even jokingly suggest that to me!When no be him help me find the work?
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Ayoswit:
Haba, a woman is a home maker and should handle d financial aspect in a home. My hubby does not demand for my salary rather he gives me money from his salary for monthly upkeep, since I'm also working I take care of some of d bills.

Cutehector:
Nice comment hungerbad, you just spoke the truth.




I don't think a woman should tender her salary to her husband, even joint accounts pose a risk as well..



My opinion is the same as that of the Op's parents and they really did well in that video.


Thumbs up talk2bella. We love you.

Diddyydiva:
Feminism is not well defined in Nigeria, It has been abused by power starved women. I don't know your own definition of it so your will be difficult to answer.

bamisepeters:
This is a response to a post by Talk2Bella on https://www.nairaland.com/3410702/boyfriend-two-years-just-broke#50246112

Cheating is extremely bad and can destroy any relationship no matter what has been committed into it nor the years.

Some relationship that has been devolved are caused by the man of the relationship.

It is very conspicuous you love her even to the blind and deaf but some actions you take with other women needs to be checked before you let your woman do the checking for you.

The closeness with other ladies must be checked, nothing like she is my very good friend once you are in a devoted relationship.

I am not saying you cannot have best female friends, all i am saying is that you must be considerate the way you deal with that best friend having at the back of your mind you have a woman you care so much for.

You call her your friend and you keep disturbing each other during the night via calls or social networks.

You say she is your friend and you prefer taking her to an event instead of your woman. Yet, you want her to believe what you say she is is what she really is.

Even if she is a business partner, there should be limitation.

You need to put yourself in her shoes and feel what she will be feeling. She trust me is not the basis for setting such grounds.

No matter the trust, her mind wouldn't be at rest, even when you know there is nothing else between you and that other lady which she is not aware of, she will not want to say it to you that she is suspicious so as not to doubt her trust.

Some will then try to do same thing you are doing since she also knows you trust her and you don't easily get jealous since you are doing same thing.

However, women are emotionally weak, they fall easily and then the shit happened, you now start blaming her.
Once you have your woman you need to know you have limitations to engagements with other women no matter how close they may be.

That woman disturbing you that ungodly hour or the one you take out with you to honor events cannot allow her man to be that close to another women, just that such women are selfish which makes them to be unreasonable most times, but you the man should be ready to set boundaries if you really love your woman.

Believe me, in relationship, it is not easy to see someone else perform your responsibility. Love is not only blind but mad also.

Cc: 2dugged, Cutehector


Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2016/10/how-some-men-force-their-woman-to-cheat.html

Diddyydiva:
In my own opinion, it is not obligatory for a woman to tender her salary to her husband.

Why would she?

Assisting in financial responsibilities is okay but making it the woman's duty is bad.

Of course there could be a mutual agreement on percentage of the woman's salary that will go into the family's up keeping .


Tendering is a no no for me

delishpot:
If the man and woman have mutual understanding, they pull resources together and run the home in peace. Husband brings, wife brings. Only a wayward husband or one who is battling for supremacy would fight with his woman to hand over her paycheck.
In my honest opinion.

Diddyydiva:
Tender ko,

Nurture ni


Lemme just read comments before am termed ' Feminist '

uboma:
Women should not be coerced into handing their salaries to their hubbies.

It should rather be out of mutual consent...

richieadams:
on a normal circumstances that is how it suppose to be though some families still maintain that

HungerBAD:
Interesting.

It is important to note that every family is different,and so one can not authoritatively say this is how it should be.

There are husbands that beat their wives up,others don't. There are husbands that cook at home,and others will not go near the kitchen,and there are husbands that will demand to know how how their wives earn and others won't.

The truth is,if a man is doing well in life,he will be less concerned with what the woman makes,even if she is the President of a Nation.

Collenshy2020:
Story for Buhari, a girl get mind cheat, still get mind dey yarn poo, she has shown what she's capable of doing ahead, the guy did the right tin by retiring her .

Collenshy2020:
Story for Buhari, a girl get mind cheat, still get mind dey yarn poo, she has shown what she's capable of doing ahead, the guy did the right tin by retiring her .