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Bella, please help me, I am currently devastated and might just give up on this world.


It’s my fault, I cheated, I felt he was cheating with his co-worker and decided to hurt him, turned out they were just office friends and nothing more, he found out and didn’t want to hear anything and said it was over.


He made me so jealous of their friendship I was convinced something was going on, they went everywhere together, did things he wouldn’t do with me together, spoke and chatted on the phone till late at night, I didn’t want to lose out so I started chatting with other men, was I wrong?


Can you use your blog to reach out to him? Let him know how sorry I am, I promise to never do anything of the sort again or get jealous, please Bella help.



Talk2Bella.



It's a pity your boyfriend broke up with you at this moment after two years, I share in your sorrows and sometimes, it's really depressing. Please don't try anything that you will regret later, relax and try to put your acts right. Let's reason together.


In all my years trying to understand ladies, i"ve come to a reasonable conclusion that most of you tend to always jump into conclusion even when evidences aren't there to justify your claims. Be aware that i'm not trying to judge your actions, since your boyfriend also created a possible ground for jealousy to thrive on.

Whatever the case may be, always know this, No two wrongs will never equate to justify truce. It's good a thing you have accepted your mistakes and are really sorry for your actions, I believe one who isn't hiding anything will understand that his work was really having a negative effect on his relationship and try his best to make out time to communicate and be with you physically.


Nevertheless, the blame game has to stop if you really want your relationship back. Why not try to accept your mistakes without hinting it to him he was the architect of your wrong choices. Remember that you were the one caught in the process, not him, so blaming him further will only worsen everything.


If he is an ardent reader of talk2bella blog, then I have these words for him and those experiencing likely issues in their relationships. I strongly advise that you should understand‎ that women are naturally "territorial" when it comes to relationships, just as air is important for life to continue, so it is with communication in relationships. Yes you have tried to make your point by breaking up, but do you think it's a mature decision? Try to see past human weaknesses and understand women are wired differently from men. Yes she didn't trust you, please forgive her and accept her back and try to eliminate every incidence that will warant distrust to arise.


Like the bible says, sometimes, we learn with real life experiences so that in our next try, our self advice will be the most potent in making the right decisions to avoid a repeat of past ugly experiences.


Good luck.


Reply from CuteHector


Talk2Bella Team

http://www.talk2bella.com/2016/10/my-boyfriend-of-two-years-just-broke-up.html

sqooby:
Give me your number bae,I am not married infact...I am SAS

ItsQuinn:
Ahan?! Bella take it easy .....it's her life not yours, your response seems personal

Ask CuteHector

KvnqPrezo:
Before you can stop doing anything, you must ask yourself What are my reasons for doing this if you discover the causes then you can try avoiding them. Beside adultery is a not good, legally and spiritually...
.

Sometimes there's no reason

It's just a means to an end

herbie27:
She should get a job for herself and that will go a long way in helping her to stop dating married men for the benefits that comes with such relationships.

I think a lot of young men must have broken her heart

The reason I am sending this email is because I want to stop this habit, I want to live a normal life, I want to love a younger version of me, I don’t want to go into details how it started as it might give away my identity but I would love for you to tell me how to stop dating married men.



Talk2Bella



Alright let me iterate you with the consequences of committing adultery, because ladies like you are the reason for broken marriages and when a virtuous woman cries to God and he hears her prayer, ladies like you get punishment such as these.


1. You will never be happy for the rest of your life. Oh yes, when all you do is keep sleeping with married men, the curses from their depressed wives will cripple your future. There will be no tangible thing that you lay your hand upon that will succeed, because you have gone against the sacred union of marriage.


2. You may become Barren. Now, God is not mocked, Adultery has grave consequences, both in life and in afterlife, it's not something that you do and get away with just like that, the more you indulge yourself in it, the more complicated your life will be.


How to stop dating married men.


You have to live within your means. Your selfish lifestyle of wanting material things cause you to go extra mile to sleep with married men in exchange for money. Because you are too lazy to work hard and pay your bills through responsible means, you find yourself getting an easy way out by attaching yourself with married men. Whatever monetary gains you’ve gotten through that means will do you no good as u will always want to keep on surviving through that means which will be fatal.


Remember that you will one day become a mother and a wife to a man, how will you feel if your husband does the same to you as well, and comes home to infect you with STDs? I bet you never thought of that. The earlier this sinks into your head, the better for you. Even if I type lengthy words advising you to stop dating married men and within, you haven't resolved to end that, then I see no reason wasting my energy in inculcating sense into you.


Adultery is fatal all those who indulge in it will never ‎live to enjoy the fruits of their labor.



Reply From CuteHector


Talk2Bella Team

http://www.talk2bella.com/2016/10/i-only-date-married-men.html

PussySmasher:
They cook up lies just to generate small traffic on their blog.

How many truths have you told in your life

THEcolorGREEN:
Smh... this is stale.

Enjoy ur day.

Hahahahahahahahahahahaha

You too

THEcolorGREEN:
Drop the "jennifa" wannabe crap.

Jennifer would be lucky if she had my sense of humor

Imbe

Wow

I smell a sharia divorce soon

Newbeginnings:
I have seen talk2bella and so many others and now am seeing this one...

I am beginning to think that all these relationship situations might be fabricated.....

Bia what I do you

DonTim1:
if only they will hear, was with a doctor friend last week and dude told me, "statistically, one in every 5 girls u meet in this area has 'IT'".

goto badoo and see gurls with different profile (same girls have profile of wearing scarf like Hausa targeting Alhajis, half clad targeting weirdos/regular sex seekers)

you are lucky if you have a true wife in this generation. covetousness has killed most of our females.

PS: talktobella pls drop that superficial foreign accent at the beginning and very end of ur video when u do the guys own pls be original. cheers

I don't have a superficial accent I am just very good with different accents thanks

Dshocker:
I don't know if you the one on the video....But am happy a Nigerian girl could reason like this.


I think the world would be a better place if all female folks behaves in such manner

Yes I am the one in the video

Thanks for liking

smithsydny:
hey beautiful not heard from you.. Wats up

Sorry

Travelled yesterday on my way back

I really can't send the video cos it was recorded first on my laptop and uploaded through YouTube

I am so sorry

Tried sending it to my phone so I can send it to those who wanted it to be sent to their phones but virus nor lemme

Hope y'all understand

TrapQueen77:
Hhahahahah... I no wan albino ooo... I'm already have fair skin sha... I wan those chokolatey like a walking Hershey's with blue eyes balls.. Hahahahhaah

hhahahaahah I give up

TrapQueen77:
Who wudnt want it?


But now I want a chocolatey skin with blue eyes Baby Daddy, Bella...


Tat way I have a beautiful seed inside me

look in the albino section

OBTSubtle:
If I was the kid, at least tell me when I'm 12.. Ain't no need for these long stories..


Cutehector is on team Bella? I thought the nigga was gay before.. But now...

Trust me, he ain't gay

TrapQueen77:
Aaaawww.... This reminds me of my first love we're been together for 5yrs... he died as well in a very tragic accident ...



It's really sucks when u both have plans to be together, have a family... Living in a simple life.. But then, one of u must leave the world...

Anyway, if I we're her ..she shud talk to her child.. U know, heart to heart talk... While the boy is still small... He might not understand everything but surely he will one day... Lucky her, she got a baby..

u would have loved a souvenir right?

Hi please I need your help with an enormous issue I am currently facing. I got pregnant at 18, it wasn’t a mistake it was a planned pregnancy between me and my then much older boyfriend who I loved so much, I decided to get pregnant so I could go live with him, he was my first love, he was my everything.

When my parents found out I was pregnant, they naturally sent me packing, our plan had worked we could finally be together, this was 2008, I had finished my secondary education 2 years back and felt I could continue schooling from my boyfriend’s place, he was financially okay so that wasn’t a problem.

Bella, he died and left me in this world, all alone, I didn’t know he had epilepsy, we were eating one night and it started, he was convulsing, as I type now I can still see the whole scenario in my head, I didn’t know what to do, I ran out for help, called neighbors, they stood and watched till he choked on his food and just died like that, I was six months pregnant.

My parents took me back, I didn’t know his parents or any of his siblings so there was no one to contact about my situation so I went back home and begged my parents.

Its eight years now, my boy doesn’t know I’m his mother, he calls me auntie, my parents said that was the only way I could keep him and they could sponsor both of us, he bears my family surname. I haven’t been able to love another person, I get scared when someone shows me love, I have this feeling they will die and leave me, Bella I am through with school now, waiting for service, and I know God will grant me a good job, how do I pay my parents back? How do I tell my son I am his mother? How do I make my heart forget Obinna {My son’s father} how do I make my heart love again, I feel so sad, I

need words to pierce my soul and your blog seemed like the right place to send an email to, please help me.





Talk2Bella



Wow... I’m so touched by your story and I do believe a lot of young girls out there will learn from this. I understand it's been pretty much difficult living through all the hurdles, I’m also happy that you weren't so quick to choose abortion as an option when you got pregnant, I’m very sure the Lord has forgiven you since you have made peace with your parents. It's also good to know that at this stage of your life, you’ve graduated from school and are very much capable to start life afresh.

Now, judging from your predicament, the first thing you should do right now is to take responsibilities for your actions since you are old enough and have graduated from school. Please forget about love or whatever stupid shades of it for now and focus on your career, there are many ladies out there who made same mistakes in their past but they owned up to their faults and now they are popular figures in the society.

Try as much as possible to get a skill or start a business, something that's going to engage you while waiting for service, you can't continue living with your parents at this stage under the same roof also with your son because the guilt will always be there and will haunt you until you take responsibilities and get out of your comfort zone.

And as for your son, the truth is that your parents have legally adopted him as their son since he formally answers your father's name so their is absolutely nothing you can do about that (legally speaking). So even if you try to let him know that he is your son, you still need your parents' consent on that, which is where the hard work and being independent comes into play.

All I suggest you do now is to stop the worry, go out from your comfort zone, use the money from your days as an undergraduate and start a small scale business before you go for service no matter how little, with time I believe you will be able to stand on your feet.

And to all ladies out there who have read the sender's story, please zip it up! Yes, close your legs for goodness sake! The reason why such things happen to naive ones like you is because you fail to read your bible concerning issues like this. There is nothing as pleasant as keeping yourselves ‎scandal free during your youth. Your parents send you to school to read and pass your exams but you send yourselves to open your legs for all and sundry and when a baby is involved, you begin to seek for international help. The gospel of abstinence is being preached in the streets, please curtail your excesses!



Thank you.

Reply From CuteHector

Talk2Bella Team.

http://www.talk2bella.com/2016/10/i-had-son-when-i-was-young-till-now-he.html

Don't forget Nairaland

3rdlegxxx:
babe I don't understand all these your smiles ooo.. speak the language I understand joor

Smileys sometimes portray things which when said might seem flirty

3rdlegxxx:
True talk dear, true talk..... like ur open mindedness, seem like the cool, naughty, crazy but down 2 earth type of girl, anyway do enjoy your evening

3rdlegxxx:
not only that, he needs to tell his friend and all 3 of them sit and chill together and notice the atmosphere, if his friend and babe are completely cool and seem free and flow when all 3 are together then he is 1 step in making her his girl, i am trying to process why a lot of people are killing themselves over a girl having a 3sum.... these things do happen na...

Matured minds respect each other no matter the circumstance

Vince77:
I like like this. Waiting for when u will wash the guys

Will be doing that soon, thanks a lot for liking it

finalbosss1:
yea ..
lies...

Are you referring to yourself

smithsydny:
Send it too me on whatsapp swt

Drop your digits

THEcolorGREEN:
Why not tell 'girls' to check her out... what does her advice to runz girls have to do with us (men)

Hian biko take It easy

Eris nor a byforce somethin

Presh900:
lol...i wz talking abt the story aspect...btw you really are one funny character y'knw..

Awww

Thanks

finalbosss1:
i know your tricks nah.. but are you fat ??

Yea

Presh900:
Another Talk2bella wannabe??.. Op you deserve to be beheaded!! Is ur brain for decorations?? You have spent over 50k on a girl who is not ur gf,sister,mother,close friend??why?? You are a disgrace to Nigeria..

Which one is another wanna be me

Have I ever raped anyone