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ednut1:
always read before you comment. He owns d coy. @op u hv to leave d job asap. I have noticed most business owners sleep/want to sleep with their female staff. All those sexy secretary nd admin workers. I don witness am live smh. Some ladies too dress seductively. U cannot turn left or right in a office and not see exposed yellow laps or bust. Mtcheeew

So i walk into a room full of rich married man, I should have an affair with one of them because I can't resist shiny things?

Seeeeeeee:
Was she raped?

she was sexually harrassed, and it still is a serious offence in a work place that can justify termination. What you are simply saying is that women that get harrassed, do so because its their fault right? So the offender doesn't have a brain to tell what constitutes misconduct and what doesn't?

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Estherfaith:
No, This is not estherfabian, am not really that popular here. Thanks for your advice, will use my voice recorder, my phone will be too visible

thing is a voice can be computerized and not as reliable, a video is far much better proof.

Seeeeeeee:
Ok what do u want to hear?
From your statemet he started by holding your hand and you acted maturely...

Now his hands is getting down your private part according by your post....


We men behave funny when we see a girl as cheap with slutry behaviour, so co ordinate your self no man will try lowering his hand down your private part in the office or talk of sex with you if you behave responsible.

so all the children that are harrassed or raped by grown men is because they didn't act responsibly abi?

SeverusSnape:
See legs like yam, Body like man.

haba! Stop being cruel there are boobs popping out from her dress joor! Her dress was not ideal for a wedding, its really would have been perfect for a street corner.

Amicable24:
Eeeheen

To think a few minutes after making this thread, he went back to chasing different females again puzzles me i wonder what the excuse is now? "Men are polygamous in nature but a woman has to find a way to make him come back home after his escapades", i guess?

tomquest:
Why do have to descend this low as to fabricate lies? Are you typing from a psychiatry ward?

Why so hurt and bitter over a simple discussion? Who jilted you? This ain't good for a lady, nada. Clean up your heart to have good come your way. My wife reads every word you write and she feels pity for you.

Turn a new leaf ok?

it is her that i pity more because she is married to a single man

tomquest:
Why do have to descend this low as to fabricate lies? Are you typing from a psychiatry ward?

Why so hurt and bitter over a simple discussion? Who jilted you? This ain't good for a lady, nada. Clean up your heart to have good come your way. My wife reads every word you write and she feels pity for you.

Turn a new leaf ok?

it is her that i pity maybe i should just upload more of the conversation

inemani:
Tomquest sir, pls verify by being present. I love two-sided facts

verify gini? If he cannot even verify that he is married off NL what makes you think he will verify anything else? Abegi jokers all over the forum

tomquest:
The above was your last response to me when I stated that Tay16 is being malicious simply because of my thread, and went on to spread lies to defame me for no just reason. You jumped in her bandwagon by saying no wonder I "was spewing trash upandan"...

All these bitterness, insults, abusing one's fidelity, mother because of a mere discussion/debate on NL? And you ladies are adults? Smh.

I don't know why you had to mention me in your reply to Tay16's post and asking me to "verify by being present", so I hereby remind you of your statement above (of not being part of this)...

Lastly, DO NOT EVER mention or quote me anywhere on NL, ever. There are over 1.6 million NL members, never reply/quote/mention me going forward. Thank you!

haba! You do not want easy access anymore abi? Mr Married Man. You thought I was bluffing?

inemani:
Hello Mamas!
Yesterday I read a thread of a man who was curious as to why women blow out of proportion after marriage/childbirth. I snapped out after he wrote this: "And why do they express shock when their husbands go after trim and shapely ladies outside? Is it that they didn't know that men are typically motivated by sensual sights? Are this category of ladies aware that the game is becoming dangerously tighter because "oga" is constantly inundated with young, trim, energetic and sexy girls on a daily basis; while his own wife keeps growing fat and out of shape and looking like his mother?" This motivated my own thread!
Take a look at these true life stories:
1. A former colleague of mine who is married with a daughter lives very close to me. She's still in her twenties, tall, elegant and endowed with this hourglass shape men die for. Her husband is quite young too, with a comfortable source of income. You will think they are dating when they stroll outside - babe is still hot because she waist-trained after her baby, talk about flattest tummy! Now I was, to say the least, shocked, when I learnt Oga was going after other ladies, still in our neighborhood I mean, these girls can't measure to the wife half.

2. A lady I know advised me after my first baby to look trim and sexy so that my husband won't go after other women. You won't believe she is a mother of four, I really looked up to her for inspiration in my keeping fit regimen. Babe did not know her perfect gentleman was busy banging anything in skirts around town. She probably thought depriving herself of certain foods, working out and staying trim would put Oga in check!

3. What about our celebrities who retain their pre-baby weights after their babies yet their divorces are most times based on infidelity? what about countless beautiful women who put in their very best to maintain their shape but are still being cheated on?

What is my point? My fellow women, if you think you are staying fit, trim and sexy so that your husband wouldn't cheat on you, please change that mindset. A CHEAT IS A CHEAT, no point going on a long thing! Stay fit because of the health benefits, you wouldn't want the health risks associated with obesity, would you?
All these Nairaland boys bashing African Women with little or no respect, tuale!
All the men (married and unmarried) who gallivant around in potbellies yet criticize childbearing women, chop knuckle! It's a man's world, isn't it?
All the cheaters continue cheating, the day of reckoning would sure come

Women please, stay fit and trim not for Oga but for your health! *drops mic*

i have some of tomquests private messages sef. The very same guy is a shameless flirt, like the people you mentioned above. Going through his thread was quite entertaining, especially when I know what he really is like off NL

tomquest:
When you finish your medication let us know.

You maybe the one who needs medication, because i am not the one cheating on my "sexy, fit wife" am I? So what is it, is she not light enough or her ass isn't big enough which one is it? What exactly is making you flirt with other women? You do not know how to be loyal do you?

This thread is absolutely funny coming from a cheating husband who still has a wife that her suffers herself to stay fit for her husband, only for him to chase after girls who are just naturally fit that have not set foot in a gym before. All this greedy, low self-esteem bastards that can never be content with anything roaming around NL

tomquest:
My two married-with-kids sisters are still in shape. Very active ladies.

And please no one is hating nobody. We are just having a healthy discussion here, everyone has a right to be obese or as slim as a rope. It's not my life. As for me and my household, we know that with EXCESS body fat comes more health issues over time...


Don't twist the discussion: I'm not talking about the little weight women gain from childbearing, which of course can be eliminated over a few months of SPECIFIC exercise, I'm talking about EXCESS WEIGHT or BLOWING OUT OF PROPORTION.

Lastly, since you mentioned "skinny accounts", is it a crime if you as a woman have an "obese" bank account to take care of your body?

Now this is classic, so your wife is fit and sexy but you still go around social media flirting around with South African girls? Haaa laugh won't kill me!

Since your wife is fit, is her skin just not light enough or her assss just not big enough to keep you off other women? Wonders shall never end!

Whoever is wearing the attire must be responsible.

I am planning on doing a masters degree at SFU (Spring semester) I am hoping to find a fellow nairalander to give more insight about student life in BC. From ideal accommodation to the best things to in BC. I know i can google some of the stuff, but i want to here from personal experiences. Even if you are not a student, please feel free to share more info.

GuDErboY:
Why??

if i can work 9-10hrs a day, cook and clean, what makes him so weak that he cannot do both too? Do not get me wrong, i wouldn't expect him to make some fancy italian or french dishes. He should be able to cook up decent meals.
If i am away (for work or hospitalised) i will know that the children are in safe hands. If he cant he should be willing to take cooking classes, if he isn't willing to do so then he just won't be for me.
Cooking lessons for easy meals should not cost more than $500 and getting a babysitter may cost between $10-$14 per hour. I am working hard so i will not a liability to my husband and he should be doing the same.

No

donbenedict:
I swear...



If na my younger brother dey dis op house eh, the maid clothes go dey loss one by one until she no go get wetin to wear sef. Him go start with pant.. den bra..


Second he go carry mumsy jewelry take hide for the maid bag.. den tell mumsy say he dey suspect d maid


E dey very easy to make place living hell for person I tell u

haaa your brother is legendary

Tell that to your daughter if she marries a womanizer and I promise to come to her funeral when she dies of AIDS.

donbenedict:
I guess u must have talked to your mum severally about her behavior yet she doesn't want to look into the matter right?


Have you ever made a place a living hell for someone before?


One of my wicked aunts came to live with us so many years back, she was just acting like a tyrant.. chei.. my younger brother showed her pepper.

She had no option Dan to leave.

this reminds me of a friend who framed a stubborn maid and she was fired! your brother and my friend are a match made in heaven

whogoscam:
1. Money was not lent to me. You must be broke and cheap.

2. It's simple commerce. I pay for a woman in the name of BRIDE PRICE! PRICE!! PRICE!!! Who is fooling who? Open your eyes It's a price. That's cost for a comodity. It's not same as a white wedding. White wedding there is no fixed price it's what I want. What I want to spend. But in africa there is fixed price for the woman. Soon dollar go affect am

3. I did not marry an Asian. Your post is off point.

do tell the purpose of a white wedding please, since according to you they do not come with a fixed price

AccidentalGenius:
Even more dignifiying for her.

Assuming there's a heated argument and words are exchanged, she won't hear stuff like "after all I paid for you"


That's demoralising.

Women sha. Sometimes it's their fault they're seen as objects

maybe the rest of us are still in the dark and you have seen the light, but doesnt a wedding ring signify the same thing as bride price? Are you still not paying something or rather paying for something just to get married to her? Or do you pick up wedding and engagement rings from Iroko tree at no cost?

Better yet, make me understand the purpose of a white wedding sef, if you even know its origins and purpose? And please none of that google stuff you will try to copy and paste after reading this post.

CFCman:
I agree it's archaic.

Make me understand how an African tradition is archaic? Did white people start having white weddings in 2010 or it has been a tradition for centuries? Are white weddings archaic also?

Help me understand how its perfectly normal for a man to save up and even go as far as taking out loans for a $5,000 engament ring, $2,000 wedding ring, $10,000 wedding reception and $4,000 honeymoon and completely outrageous to take out less than $2,000 as bride price, just to achieve the same purpose (union between a man and a woman)?

Asian people have been influenced by the Western culture too, but are they abandoning their tradition or culture because white people do not engage in the same practices? God bless the mordern African man and "his follow the white man blindly" mentality

whogoscam:
Tradition is tradition. That's why we have education. Who created the tradition? I can't pay for love that's why I married foreign woman. The money I spent on wedding abroad and all that is more than Nigerian bride price but yet I can't pay for love. A woman is no commodity. Neither would my daughter be.

you can't pay for love but you spent money on a wedding, im still trying to make sense out of this. If you do not mind me asking, when did you finish paying back all the money lended to you to have your white wedding?


Maybe you might not be aware that before white people came to Africa, paying bride price was what signified the union between 2people and white people had a wedding ceremony to signify the union between 2people. Its funny how you think your own tradition is archaic when its purpose is just the same as a white wedding that you are now having in the 21st century. If white men start wearing skirts on a daily basis i bet you will be the first follow, so you wont be called archaic for following your own culture or tradition

The beauty of Asian and Native American people is that they have their own minds and they still embrace their own culture. Although they have been influenced Western ideas, they never through away their culture because a white person doesn't believe in what they believe in. Unfortunately the same cannot be said about some African men, he cannot engage in anything a white person doesn't understand or approve of.

AccidentalGenius:
This is what makes me jump on the foreign train.

I'll definitely not pay for love nor will I receive money for my daughter.


A gift will do, or group dinner where we'll all discuss. Get to know the man that'll marry my daughter. Not take money and let them go and years later you start listening to drama. Pssshhh

i agree with you, you shouldn't be paying $500- $1,000 as bride price when you can get a foreign girl who will expect you to buy an engagement ring for not less than $5,000. Its better to spend more following a foreign culture than paying anything in a bid of following your own.