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cococandy:
Are you the type that like your wife to work and deposit her salary in your personal account so that you will allocate to her how much she can spend on her bra and pant.

If she gets money you guys will build the house in your name alone so that one day when you're tired you will marry a new sisi and chase her out as the house is "your house" alone.

Most of you have slave master mentality. Tell me why you won't have rebellious wives?

smh see what am talking about?? nigerian girls wana eat their cake and have it, imagine keeping your money and i build my house with my money , you expect me to write your name, God forbid, a well educated man can write only his name on the house he and his wife sweat for, you people just have a default mentality smh

cococandy:
your house?
Is she a tenant?

Why won't some men have marital problems when they go about thinking the marriage is all about them and the family home is "his house".

Not nice.

women trying to imitate oyibo since 1960 you want a house with your husband open a joint account with him and build together, i have said it before i will say it again, Nigerian women dont know how to invest in a marriage or relationship, you people will be hiding your money here and there and you want to claim house you did not build

cococandy:
The biggest red flag that should have made you press the pause button was when she started threatening to kill you.

Butt pads and insults and all those other things are not even issues that can't be resolved. They are kinda minor compared to the death threats in my opinion.

Although it was wrong of you to try force what she was wearing out of her body. See what it resulted in,tearing each other's clothes in front of people. Very embarrassing.

You could have spared yourself that shame by disregarding it afterall she was wearing it on her own body.

A body you should have distanced yourself from a long time before the butt pad came into the picture. She did start threatening to kill you before that. not so? That's when divorce proceeding should have started.

never ever ever I repeat spend a night with someone who has verbally threatened to kill you or has wished you dead.
Chei nwoke m you're playing ludo with your life.
If you've not already separated from her, then you're too slow for my liking.

on her own body??what are u saying , you women na una dey carry marriage for head, yet you dont do your homework properly, the bible says after marriage her body belongs to him, and vice versa, imagine your hubby telling you he loves to smoke weed outside, is it your lungs? smh

Tobiegal:
@OP, it's a pity you have such vocal wife.

But, like you said its barely a year... Separation isn't really the answer. Would suggest you try to understand what drives her to act the way she does...and why she says what she says...

The issue is way beyond her paying for rent?

You need to understand that despite been married, we are firstly our own individual...and you need to respect that even if you don't agree.

Marriage is all about partnerships...work in progress... If you can't take hold of the situation... Then,... I don't know...

And like its usually advises to women...pls prayer for her...above all... Patience is Key.

Good luck

wish kind mumu advise be dis? its a pity you have such a vocal wife, he should be patient and die of high blood pressure

Rosarie:
i ve been married for three years .i kno nd understand every word i jst said n for ur info the 80% is just 10% that re truly happy in it.go n read ur bible abt consequence.a gal u ve not had sex wit befr marriage has higher repects cos she feels u re unpredictable.if at all she wants to show her attitude it will b in d second year if am lying d op shiuld say m lying

WOW you sound very wise, thats why i love matured women,

p.s. in a good way not otherwise.

one bottle of moet for you

am actually gonna apply this advise in my life

EfemenaXY:
Your wife hasn't cheated on you, stolen your money, or committed any mortal crime.

Your marriage is barely one year old. You made those vows for-better-for-worse. What you're going through is a bumpy phase. You don't just throw in the trowel at the first hurdle.

Man up and face your responsibilities and quit trying so hard to force yourself on her. It's not your place to tear down her clothes, butt pads or not, simply because you don't like them. By doing so, you've lowered yourself in her eyes, hence her fighting you back in retaliation.

Rather than dwell on the negatives of your marriage, try to see the positives - afterall, you must have seen something in her for you to have married her in the first place. Dwell on the positives and you both should strive to improve upon how you relate to each other. Cut out the third parties and keep your business your business.

Goodluck.

i pray this kinda thing happen to your broda or ur close relative so u can give them dis advise,


wonder why women dont know how to advise someone, you know the woman is bad , whats with the hipocrisy, she tried assasinating him, what other positive is there, she curses him, and she is obviously cheating or trying to, so

Orikinla:
Any man telling you that he can be happy without a woman is a shameless liar.
And any woman telling you she can be happy without a man is also a shameless liar.
That is why God made man and woman to comfort each other.

A day without seeing or talking to my woman is like eating food without salt.
I can forgo food for even two days, but not the loving company of the woman I love.
The woman you love is special.
You may receive phone calls and text messages from one million girls, but if none of them is from your woman, you will not be satisfied. And when she visits you, oh gosh, you light up like a Christmas tree.
You may even make love to 100 other girls, but making love to the woman you love is heaven on earth.
This is when you can tell the difference between lust and love.

My woman inspires me.
Whenever I see her, I perform better at home and at work.
Since my present woman came into my life, my fortunes have increased a thousand fold.
And I can confide in her.
She is my best adviser and she is connected to the divine wisdom of God like me.
Sometimes we communicate more with our eyes than our mouths. And she prefers to talk less and listen more.
She also asks for my advice on her assignments.
She is like my mother, my sister and my aunt. And that is how best to see and treat every woman you love as you would love your mother, sister or aunt. WITH LOVE AND RESPECT.

I must confess that she is not the only one, but she is the ultimate one.
I love all my female companions in Lagos.
Both the younger women and the older women.
We are bonding and making things happen.
Three are working with me and I am working with one ambitious one from the UK, she is only 21, but already an attorney and we are working on a new lifestyle and society magazine for the global village. Our synergy is awesome and come August our baby will be born with all the glory to God and God alone. She has already chosen the name.
And so I cannot imagine my life without these beautiful and wonderful women.

Women love men who love them, respect them and do their best for them to succeed and be happy in life. And that is what I love doing best. And that is why I am surrounded by a bevy of beauties, the gracious graces and muses of my genius.

Do your best for our women, and you will reap the bumper harvest.

smh, the most succesful people of all times did not marry, did Jesus marry, paul, steve jobs apple inc. , elijah, look at succesful artistes, even solomon said, dont give your strength to women, even God nor get wife thats y he did not want to create woman in the first place, no woman in my life check my profile am not a hungry guy, am very happy and free

delishpot:
:Pn

That was because the men had many wives. The mans room had to be free cos no one wife can dominate the bed. The man had a woman in his bed every night. The wives had their duty roaster and besides, those men had plenty kids you can imagine how it will be if all the women and kids lived under the same roof and the husband slept with all the women in the same bed every night
To make life easy and avoid wahala, each wife was assigned her hut, where she and her kids will have freedom and privacy. No who took my salt? Who stole my meat? Who removed my soup from the fire and put her stupid pot? Who removed my wet clothes from the line? Mama mary go to the back its my turn to sleep on our husbands right hand side
That was why. Those women had no choice. If they did, they would not have lived that life. Ask any woman from those days. Ask them why they did not leave, 90% of them will say...... leave to where? No escaping the obvious they had no choice o.

not so bro, women naturally need space, my mum has her own room, same with my dad and they still tell each other i love you,

sukkot:
does it ever get to a point of familiarity and companionship in a wedding ( after a long period ) where you are now like best friends and ' family members ' and then trying to summon up a s-e-xual desire is akin to someone trying to to sleep with their brother or sister, especially if you now have children. apparently elvis presley could never ever bring himself to sleep with his wife priscilla again after she had his baby. and they never had s-e-x after that.

true

delishpot:
Good Idea. But why not just make it like her small girl castle you guys sleep in the same room but she uas her small private corner to poop and change her sanitary stuff in peace. Women dont menstruate 365 days you know so why banish her to a room and only allow her "visit" you when you need $€X? My guy, better nor marry jare. Just enjoy having her as a babe and make sure she visits inly when she does not have shit in her tummy and when she isnt expecting her period. Have her only when you want to do the do, and if shit catch her while at your place, send her home sharp sharp
But if the woman doesnt mind being your on call bedmate disguised as wife sha, then go ahead. You are both adults.

even the days of our fore fathers women have their own quaters, they dont cook when on their period, no wonder the marriages were forever


p.s. read things fall apart by chinua achiebe

clevvermind:
Is first fruits not an old testament practice under the law of moses? Are born again christians suppose to pay first fruits today? Did paul, peter, james etc collect first fruits offering or salary from their members? Why then are pastors collecting first fruits today? I need answers to this?

its biblical,

TrishaP:
Anger can make someone say alot of shitty things. Forgive her but you still have to try and convince her to open up more about herself to u. Cus there might be more to what you heard.

IF na your broda nko? smh, anger makes women to say the truth

wisdomguy4u:
I have been dating this girl for more than a year; and I intent to marry her. But lately, while she was in my house for a visit we had a hot quarrel ( that's normal ). She was shouting at me, calling me name and swearing ; yes, it was obvious that she was pissed off and likewise me. When things were stating to escalate, I angrily ask her the leave my house , because she was stating to create a scene in my neighborhood . That was when she said something that baffled me and got me thinking. She said a lot of bad things to me , I never took any of them to heart because I knew she was angry , but not until she said this exact words " YOU HAVE TO PAY ME FOR ALL THE SEX YOU HAD WITH ME BEFORE I WILL LEAVE".
This got me thinking, have I been dating a prostitute? Why will she quantum sex with money?
Now, she is apologizing and asking me for forgiveness . A part of me wants to continue with the affair because I still love her and we have gone a long way, moreover, I have already introduce her to my family. But , another part of me don't want to continue because I feel like I don't know her and that she might have a dark secrets which might explode after marriage.
Guys what's your say in this scenario ?

Bleep love, think with your brain, its marriage not relationship, even if she is a prostitute she is a bad person for shouting it to the public, youfvcked free ashawo move on bro.

i had dis experience ones, she was giving me a blow jobb, i was feeling it , i held her head , she said with a tone i dont like "leave my head, you are not paying for it" LATER FOUND OUT SHE WASA BIG TIME RUNS GIRL

me i just decide to follow my dreams and let women wait for now, am comfortable, eat well, buy good clothes no babe so i can invest my money on myself and my business, life is good.......when i become very rich and famous i can date, but till then casual sex rocks

ehen, abeg wetin una dey go do for bathroom before sex? e don tay wey i wan ask

ireneony:
babe that is not true....there was this guy in my department he knew that i have a boyfriend then.....he do come to visit and i will go and visit him too, will also hang out...so oneday he told me he will come over to my side to sleep over, but i refused....but i later agreed cos my girlfriend will be coming over too, since we are all in the same department it will be easy for us to relate, i stay in a flat in school and they will be enough space for everyone....
he came over, later my girlfriend called me she couldn't make it again.
before we slept we chatted...so i allowed him to sleep on the bed while i was sitting on the rug watching a movie i slept off..
it was 1am i decided to move my body i was suprised to see hims sleeping close to me, he even put his hands around my waiste...
i got angry and warned he and went to the parlor to continue....
ever since that incident i stayed cleared from him.

if i want a relationship i state it, i want friendship its friendship, the guy for talk e mind simple, nor be crime

Nigga, U̶̲̥̅̊ hustle for money, and let the bitccches look for. U̶̲̥̅̊,

Simple answer, NO, the average Nigerian girl will cheat on you with your kidney and tell you she has repayed you with sex

shegsky:
They say they don't like playing games, yet in
order to have sex with them you got to play their
silly games. You can't just walk up to a woman and
ask if she wants to have sex. No, you got to pretend
that sex is the last thing on your mind, and instead
chat with them for hours, days, even months about
irrelevant stuff before you can bang em. And the
most annoying thing about all this is that women
want it too. They must really enjoy seeing men go
to all that trouble. The worst ones are the religious
types. Gawd don't they know how to drag it out!
They're not so innocent as they make out.

bro we r in the same shoes, nice one

insults coming in op hideeee

ozwor, she thinks you are immature, women love sex too youknow, dont let these girls deceive you, WHO DO DILDOS SELL MORE THAN SEX DOLLS??

nollywoodovie

erico2k2:
U will always be controled by ur parents as its thier duty until you are matured enough to go and get your own accomodation

my mum loves it, i have even graduated, she will want to still act controlling and motherly when i come visiting, she doesnt let me stayout late when am around like she knows what i do in my house, but my dad doesnt care just my mum, so i just accepted her like dat