₦airaland Forum

akwesenana:
Why do I feel she's being straffed silly where she lives.
She now wants to use religiousness to pose as a wife material so you'll fall.
But you didn't.

tepes:
She is..the turn off is the fact that she's holding onto that..life is unpredictable..even in marriage people change. Withholding sex is actually not worth it..After deflowering then what next? What can you use to keep me if I don't want to stay with just you? Women don't think

Uptheante:
Is she really a virgin or she's deceiving you while getting fuccked by someone else?

Uptheante:
Bro, the fact is that women don't regard men like you with any form of respect.
You being nice & considerate towards her is actually a turn off to her though she'll deny it.
It may shock you to know that another guy or even guys have been fuccking her silly throughout the 7yrs + while you were being nice & considerate with her.
When dealing with a girl, especially a Nigerian girl, your aim should be to put yourself first & be able to counter any form of manipulation from her.

You should bang her pusssy silly with zero emotions attached & also have other girls around you as a constant reminder to her that she can be easily replaced, & never be afraid to call out her bullshit whenever she misbehaves.
Do this & watch her respect you & always trying to please you

HARDESTNIGGAINT:
YOU SHOULD HAVE DEAD THE RELATIONSHIP FROM THE BEGINNING

OffsahBoye:
Quite a long read
since your mind is made that you aren't going to wife her
Why not just play along,get the coochie then you bounce
Staying all that long with her(7yrs) without getting the coochie is like a loss to me because another man will just come and get it
Play her game with her,your advantage is you know where it'll end But she doesn't

He go pain me if you no deflower that girl,that's your receipt for the 7yrs transaction
Then bounce

CAPSLOCKED:
JUST ONCE, I LET DOWN MY GUARD, THAT ONCE CHANGED MY LIFE. I'LL GO FIRST. REALLY LENGTHY AND CAPSLOCKED!!!

I HAD THE PRIVILEGE OF ATTENDING AN ALL-BOYS HIGH SCHOOL. ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS THAT HAS EVER HAPPENED TO MY LIFE. THE CONDITIONING WAS ON A DIFFERENT LEVEL. YOU HAVE THE MAJORITY OF US DOING THE SAME KIND OF THINGS AND BEHAVING IN A SIMILAR WAY. SOMEHOW, THE REDPILL TRAITS WAS IN ALL OF US. SEE, WE DISLIKED THE INTERNET AS TEENS, HOW MEN SIMPED FOR GIRLS ON SITES LIKE FACEBOOK AND ESKIMI. WE DIDN'T KNOW IT WAS "SIMPING" ACTUALLY, BUT WE CALLED IT IDIOCY TO BE CHASING WOMEN ON THE INTERNET AND BEGGING FOR ATTENTION FROM "WORTHLESS" WOMEN WE COULD LIVE WITHOUT. WE THOUGHT WE WERE DEMIGODS!! WE WOULDN'T EVEN ASK WOMEN OUT BECAUSE WE WERE STEADILY COMPETING WITH OURSELVES ON WHO LOOKS BETTER OR HAD BETTER GRADES. MY READERS WILL REMEMBER ME STATING SEVERALLY IN THE PAST THAT I DON'T HAVE ANY SOCIAL MEDIA ACCOUNTS. I DEACTIVATED THE LAST ONE IN 2010 BECAUSE I COULDN'T STAND THE PETTINESS. WE WERE SMALL BOYS THEN, AND WE EVENTUALLY LEARNED TO "HATE" GIRLS AND THE MEN THAT THREW THEMSELVES ON THE FLOOR BEGGING THEM FOR THINGS. WE BELIEVED IN RECIPROCATION OF GESTURES, AND ALSO IN EQUITY AND JUSTICE. PROBABLY WHY I IDENTIFIED AS A FENINIST IN 2011 WHEN I JOINED NL AND WAS PRO-FEMINISM BECAUSE I LIKE THE IDEA THAT PEOPLE SHOULD BE EQUAL, ESPECIALLY FOR THINGS LIKE EQUAL RESPONSIBILITY AND ACCOUNTABILITY.

HEADING TO TERTIARY SCHOOL MANY OF MY MEN MUST HAVE FELL OFF DUE TO NEW ENVIRONMENTS AND SOCIALISATION, BUT MY EGO WOULDN'T LET ME "SIMP". NOT FOR ONCE. I STILL HAVEN'T MESSAGED ANY "F" ON THE INTERNET TO DATE. I NEVER ASKED ANYBODY OUT. IF I REMEMBER CORRECTLY IN 5 YEARS OF COLLEGE I DIDN'T KEEP CONTACT OF UP TO 10 GIRLS, AND MAJORITY OF THESE WERE COURSE MATES AND GIRLFRIENDS. ZERO FEMALE FRIENDS. IF WE WEREN'T CONNECTED BY BUSINESS OR PLEASURE I WASN'T GOING TO SPEND ANYTIME TALKING TO YOU WHEN I COULD SPEND THAT TIME LEARNING BENEFICIAL SKILLS ON YOUTUBE. THIS BEHAVIOUR HELPED ME BECAUSE INSTEAD OF "SOCIALISING" OR CHIT-CHATTING I WAS BUILDING MYSELF ON THE INTERNET, AWAY FROM THE DISTRACTIONS. SAFE TO SAY THAT I'M ON THE LEVEL I AM TODAY BECAUSE OF THE LIFESTYLE I MAINTAINED DURING MY LATE TEENS.

IT WAS IN MY 3RD YEAR THAT I STARTED DATING, AND IT WAS THE WOMEN WHO CHOSE ME. IT WAS EASIER LIKE THIS BECAUSE THE WAY I CARRIED MYSELF, ONLY QUALITY GIRLS APPROACHED ME. THINGS LIKE LEECHES AND SCRAP WOMEN, I ONLY READ ABOUT ON THE INTERNET OR HEARD FROM FRIENDS' EXPERIENCES. MY GIRLS ALWAYS TREATED ME LIKE I WAS SOME PRIZE AND ACTUALLY INVESTED A LOT, BECAUSE I WAS FINE AND KNEW HOW TO DRESS AND TALK, OR JUST MAYBE BECAUSE I WAS CHOSEN. I NEVER SIMPED FOR ONCE. CAME FROM A GOOD FAMILY AND WAS SELF-SUFFICIENT TO AN EXTENT, SO THERE WAS NO WAY IN THE WORLD THAT I WOULD PUT MY PRIDE ASIDE TO DO AS MUCH BEG GIRLS FOR ATTENTION OR AFFECTION, OR SPEND A DIME ON THEM UNLESS WE WERE HAVING A THING. THERE WERE EMOTIONS AND HEARTBREAKS IN ALL THOSE YEARS THOUGH. NO MATTER HOW I PACKAGED MYSELF I STILL FELT WHAT THEY DESCRIBED AS "LOVE", BUT LETTING MYSELF DOWN EMOTIONALLY WAS NEVER IN THE BOOKS.

YEARS AFTER GRADUATING, NEARING 30, I THOUGHT I WAS GETTING MORE MATURED AND PERHAPS IT WAS TIME TO LISTEN TO FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND START PLANNING TOWARDS "SETTLING DOWN". I DECIDED THAT TELEVISION ROMANCE WAS WORTH EMULATING. BY THIS TIME I STARTED TO READ ABOUT TRP ON THE FORUM, BUT I DIDN'T PAY ATTENTION TO DETAILS CUZ I FELT THESE WEREN'T CONCERNING ME. ASIDES THAT IT SOUNDS TOO HARSH ON WOMEN, MAJORITY OF WHAT'S SAID WERE THINGS I ALREADY KNEW (SO I THOUGHT). SO I MET A YOUNGER COLLEAGUE AND AS USUAL WITH MY PAST RELATIONSHIPS, I WAS CHOSEN. OR IT SEEMED LIKE IT. THE "SHIT TESTS" STARTED ALMOST IMMEDIATELY BUT THE DESPERATION FOR LOVE AND "OUR" INTENTION TO SETTLE DOWN MADE ME THROW FRAME AWAY INTO THE DEEPEST OCEANS. MY G. HOW LOW I WENT, I'M SURE MY ANCESTORS WANTED ME TO DIE FASTER AND COME MEET THEM IN THE AFTERLIFE SO THEY CAN GANG-UP AND BEAT ME TO DEATH A SECOND TIME.

I STOPPED BODY BUILDING CUZ SHE DIDN'T LIKE IT AND MY SPARE TIME WAS CHANNELS TO HER. I STOPPED DRESSING AS FIRE AS I USED TO. STRICTLY "FAMILY MAN" THING NOW. CUT OUT ANY FEMALE PRESENCE IN MY LIFE AND STOPPED HANGING OUT WITH THE BOYS. I THREW AWAY A US VISA CHANCE BECAUSE I DIDN'T WANT TO BE FAR FROM HER. MIND THAT ALL THOSE TIMES I FOLLOWED THE THREADS OF MARTINEZ39S (AND UBUNJA) BECAUSE WE'VE BEEN CONNECTED ON NL FOR ALMOST A DECADE SO I MUST SEE EVERY POST, BUT I DON'T CONTRIBUTE. I THOUGHT I HAD THIS ONE UNDER CONTROL BECAUSE I WANTED TO DO "WHAT'S RIGHT". I DID NOT ONLY SUCCUMB TO HER PRESSURE FOR MARRIAGE, I STARTED WORKING 2X MORE AS WELL IN ORDER TO HASTEN UP. HASTEN UP TO WHAT EXACTLY? IF YOU ASK ME NOW I SWEAR I DON'T EVEN KNOW.

SUBSEQUENTLY I TOOK SECOND PLACE BETWEEN US AND EVENTUALLY DECLINED TO BEING THE STRING HOLDING US DESPITE THAT SHE WANTED OUT MANY TIMES. I'D BEG TO CONTINUE. THIS MEANT MORE INVESTMENTS FROM ME AND ALMOST NOTHING FROM HER. I HAD A JOB OFFER THAT I SNEAKED HER NAME IN TO MAKE HER HAPPY. I STILL MADE MORE THAN HER BUT THE NATURE OF THIS NEW JOB MEANT SHE STARTED TO ROLL WITH HIGHER CALIBRE OF PEOPLE. IT WAS A BIG ORGANISATION, AND I LOST IT ALL AFTER THEN. I CONTINUED TO FUND HER LIFESTYLE. I MEAN, WHY WOULDN'T I FUND MY FIANCEE? THE PRESSURE GOT OFF LIMIT AND IT STARTED TO BE CALLS WITH MANY MEN AND OUTINGS WITH HER "BIG GIRLS". CHEATING NECESSARILY WASN'T CALLED IN AT THIS POINT BUT IT WAS CLEAR SHE WAS IN A HIGHER LEAGUE. ON ONE OF THOSE DAYS I LOOKED MYSELF IN THE MIRROR AND COMPARED WITH THE MAN I WAS YEARS BACK IN COLLEGE. THE DIFFERENCES WERE CLEAR ENOUGH. BUT WE WERE GONNA GET MARRIED, RIGHT? WE'VE LASTED TWO YEARS AND I WAS LOOSING MY MIND. SO I WENT BACK TO MY OG MARTINEZ39S AND ACTUALLY PAID ATTENTION TO ALL THAT HE'S BEEN SAYING OVER THE YEARS. IT DIDN'T TAKE LONG FOR COMMON SENSE TO GET BACK TO ME BECAUSE I REALISED EXACTLY THE POINT I FELL OFF AND ALL THAT I'VE BEEN DOING COMPLETELY WRONGLY OVER THE YEARS. I MOVED BACK TO MY GIRL AND INFORMED HER OF MY REALISATION, AND THAT TO BE HONEST SHE WAS PRIVILEGED TO HAVE A QUALITY PERSON LIKE ME IN HER LIFE. I TOLD HER THAT I'VE SPENT 90% OF THE TIME "BEGGING" TO KEEP US GOING BUT LOOKING AT US FROM A NEUTRAL VIEW SHE WASN'T EVEN QUALIFIED TO WORK FOR ME AS A MAID. JUST READING THROUGH THREADS, LIKE MAGIC, MY EYES OPENED OVERNIGHT AND I DIDN'T STOP CRYING BECAUSE, "WHAT THE HELL WAS I DOING"?. I WAS MAD THAT I BECAME A SHADOW OF MYSELF. NO GOOD THINGS, NO INVESTMENTS, NO SAVINGS BECAUSE I WAS TAKING CARE OF FIANCEE WITH ALL I EARNED. I TOLD HER THAT I KNEW ABOUT HYPERGAMY AND WHAT WAS COMING AND DESPITE THAT SHE WAS ASKING TO CONTINUE AND SWEARING IT'LL ALWAYS BE ME, I KNEW AWALT AND THERE WAS NO WAY THIS WHOLE THING WASN'T A HUGE MESS ALREADY CUZ THERE WAS NO FRAME TO MY IMAGE.

I ENDED UP DOWNGRADING MYSELF TO UPGRADE HER (BECAUSE OF LOVE). SHE EVENTUALLY STARTED FALLING FOR UPGRADED MEN. IT DIDN'T TAKE A WEEK AFTER THAT EPISODE FOR ME TO FIND OUT SHE STARTED SEEING A COLLEAGUE OF HERS. A GUY THAT I KNEW PERSONALLY. HE EARNED LESS THAN I DID BUT WAS SUPER-POLISHED AND LOOKED LIKE HE WAS EVERYTHING A WOMAN WOULD EVER WANT. HE WAS BUILDING HIMSELF. I WAS BUILDING MY WOMAN. SHE WAS FALLING FOR THE MAN THAT WAS BUILDING HIMSELF.

THE MOMENT I REALISED THAT, I LET HER KNOW WHAT I FOUND OUT. SHE CAME DOING THE CROCODILE TEARS BUT I WAS LAUGHING ALL THROUGH THE EPISODE BECAUSE I WAS FOLLOWING THESE NAIRALAND THREADS BUMPER TO BUMPER AND EVERYTHING THEY PREDICTED WAS WHAT I WAS EXPERIENCING. IT WAS FUNNY ALL THE DRAMA SHE PUT UP, ALL THE LIES AND PLEADINGS, BEFORE EVENTUALLY OWNING UP. I DIDN'T EVEN PROVIDE MYSELF TO LISTEN ALL HER NONSENSE BECAUSE I WANTED HER TO BE GONE ASAP WITH THE TWO YEARS I HAVE WASTED. INSTEAD OF GETTING ANGRY AND CRYING/FIGHTING ABOUT IT OR DESTROYING THE HOUSE I RENTED AND FURNISHED FOR HER, I WENT BACK TO THE DRAWING BOARD IMMEDIATELY CUZ I NEEDED TO PICK MYSELF UP FROM WHERE I FELL. I WAS STARK POOR BECAUSE OF THIS PERSON. HER BIGGEST EXCUSE WAS THAT I DIDN'T LOOK LIKE I COULD CARTER FOR HER IN THE FUTURE AND I WAS WASTING TIME WITH THE MARRIAGE SHE DESPERATELY WANTED. BUT THEN I WAS DROWNING BECAUSE I SPENT 70% OF ALL I HAD TAKING CARE OF HER??!. SHE SPENT THE NEXT 6 MONTHS TEXTING ME BUT I HARDLY READ THEM OR BOTHERED TO REPLY. IT WAS RELIEVING FOR ME AT LEAST. COUNTED MY LOSSES IMMEDIATELY AND WENT BACK TO MY NATURAL POSITION. IN THE NEXT 6 MONTHS I WENT FROM BEING ON ZEROS TO MOVING MY NET WORTH ALMOST 100X BECAUSE I STOPPED THROWING MY MONEY AWAY, AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, I PAID MORE ATTENTION TO BUSINESSES AND BUILT BACK ALL THE CONNECTIONS I BROKE OR FAILED TO BUILD BECAUSE I WAS BUILDING A RELATIONSHIP.

IT'S BEEN 3 YEARS SINCE THAT TIME. THE ONES THAT HAVE COME AND GONE MET ME REFINED, LEFT AND I WAS EVEN BETTER BECAUSE EVERY STEP OF THE WAY I INVEST IN MYSELF AND PRIORITISE MYSELF AND ALL MY ENDEAVOURS. JUST ONCE I DECIDED TO DROP GUARD, IT ALMOST COST ME MY SANITY. THE LESSONS FROM THAT SINGULAR EXPERIENCE WAS ENOUGH TO JUSTIFY HOW I WAS LIVING PRIOR, AND WILL BE ENOUGH TO LAST THE REST OF MY LIFETIME. IT'S RIDICULOUS HOW MOST MEN GO THROUGH THINGS LIKE THAT NUMEROUS TIMES AND STILL CONTINUE TO LIVE LIKE FØØLS.

I TRIED BEING A "REAL MAN" ONCE. YOU TOO CAN SEE FROM MY ORDEAL, THE AMOUNT OF LOSSES IT BROUGHT ME. SO TAKE THAT I'M SPEAKING FROM MY EXPERIENCE AND THE EXPERIENCES OF MANY OTHER MEN WHENEVER I URGE MEN, ESPECIALLY THE YOUNGER ONES TO PRIORITISE THEMSELVES AND NEVER PLAY THE "REAL MAN" ROLE. IT ONLY PAYS WOMEN AND SUPPLIES YOU AN ENDLESS STREAM OF LOSSES.

tyup:
Available, ib city

manee2:
I will tell her

quentin06:
A bitter truth.

sunshineV:
So nigerian girls are useless?

nani667:
The MVP ✔️

Blurpy:
What's your field/ profession?