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Tinkybabe: Nice one!

It was also obvious that the behaviour was not typical of Kunle. His bad day triggered that action which his wife understood perfectly, his response to his wife's query proves it.

Let me introduce a twist to your story
After Esther asked if he had a bad day,his response, " what silly question are you asking me?I just complained about the house being messy and you're asking me a silly question. "
"But honey, I'm just concerned about you" replied Esther quietly but the harsh "save it for yourself!" she got from her husband sent a cold shiver down her spine.

In this instance, silence is best whilst he's left alone to be by himself ..The wife could then approach him later to ask what the problem is/was?

Patience is the engine oil of effective communication.

Op, nice tips and example by the way

AlfaSeltzer: Why do you think Lucifer loves me?

temitopegee: The story no get end??

kennygee: The biggest problem with communication is that we don't listen to understand, we listen to reply.

TheBigUrban2: How did this reach front page?

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declaro: Thank you OP for reminding us that the threat of war is very real in Nigeria. Unfortunately many of us youths, specifically those who were born after the Civil War, have only romanticised versions of it. They quote things like “war is peace” and other ridiculous statements made by rogues who started or gained from wars. I wish they would quote the ordinary people who were butchered or starved to death by war. I wish they would quote women who were Molested and mutilated by foot soldiers, I wish they would quote the innocent children who cried helplessly while their hungry stomachs rumbled. I wish they would imagine the terror that stalked everyone, the stench of death and blood, the frantic pleadings before the victim was hacked to death.

War is ugly my friends. It is during war that you realise your neighbour will turn against you just to stay alive. You will give your attackers money, jewellery, and all your valued possessions. But they will ask for your head instead. Nothing will give them greater joy than watching you die.

Before they do that, they will bring your loved ones before you and make you watch while they commit the most horrific torture on them. They will brutally gang-molest your wife, mother, sisters and daughters without listening to their pleadings. Not content with that, they will forcefully ram sticks or rods into their private parts. You will look on helplessly as your loved ones slowly but painfully bleed to death. Your sons, father, husband or brothers will not be spared, they will be castrated in front of you before being beheaded.
War is not pretty.

Learn from the Tutsi Rwandans, they experienced unimaginable horrors. The survivors are not better than the dead. They still wake up in cold sweat from nightmares. They still hear the screams and smell the stench of rotting bodies. They still see the sights of horribly mutilated dead bodies. They still suffer from post traumatic stress disorders.

You think America, Britain, France or the African Union will come to our aid? Think again. They abandoned Rwanda, they will refuse to be part of a Black-on-Black war. Besides they know how brutal Blacks are even to outside help. They haven’t forgotten what the Hutus did to the Belgian soldiers who tried to protect the Prime Minister of Rwanda. Neither have they forgotten what the Somalians did to the Peacekeeping Forces. They also know what the Libyans did to the American Ambassador. No they won’t intervene, they will look on while we hack each other to bits. It’s not their war, its not their business.

Perhaps you expect other African countries to run to our help and open their borders to let us in. Have you forgotten we are the most populous Black nation on earth? Ghana, Cameroun, …etc can only take in a tiny fraction of us before closing their borders. They too will look on while our attackers hack us in front of their borders.

WAKE UP NIGERIANS. Stop the tribal bashing. The only people who will suffer will be you and I. Our religious, tribal or political leaders will zoom off in their private jets and abandon us while they watch the carnage on BBC.

For the sake of our loved ones please let us unite. The average Muslim, Christian, Hausa, Yoruba, Igbo, Ijaw, Efik… man/woman on the street doesn’t hate you. He/she wants what you want: peace and progress and a better life for their kids. Please refuse to be used by selfish leaders who incite us to hate each other. Refuse to be used to cause war. We are human beings first before our tribe, religion or politics. Please for the sake of our innocent children, let’s work for peace. WAKE UP NIGERIANS BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE!!!

declaro: Thank you OP for reminding us that the threat of war is very real in Nigeria. Unfortunately many of us youths, specifically those who were born after the Civil War, have only romanticised versions of it. They quote things like “war is peace” and other ridiculous statements made by rogues who started or gained from wars. I wish they would quote the ordinary people who were butchered or starved to death by war. I wish they would quote women who were Molested and mutilated by foot soldiers, I wish they would quote the innocent children who cried helplessly while their hungry stomachs rumbled. I wish they would imagine the terror that stalked everyone, the stench of death and blood, the frantic pleadings before the victim was hacked to death.

War is ugly my friends. It is during war that you realise your neighbour will turn against you just to stay alive. You will give your attackers money, jewellery, and all your valued possessions. But they will ask for your head instead. Nothing will give them greater joy than watching you die.

Before they do that, they will bring your loved ones before you and make you watch while they commit the most horrific torture on them. They will brutally gang-molest your wife, mother, sisters and daughters without listening to their pleadings. Not content with that, they will forcefully ram sticks or rods into their private parts. You will look on helplessly as your loved ones slowly but painfully bleed to death. Your sons, father, husband or brothers will not be spared, they will be castrated in front of you before being beheaded.
War is not pretty.

Learn from the Tutsi Rwandans, they experienced unimaginable horrors. The survivors are not better than the dead. They still wake up in cold sweat from nightmares. They still hear the screams and smell the stench of rotting bodies. They still see the sights of horribly mutilated dead bodies. They still suffer from post traumatic stress disorders.

You think America, Britain, France or the African Union will come to our aid? Think again. They abandoned Rwanda, they will refuse to be part of a Black-on-Black war. Besides they know how brutal Blacks are even to outside help. They haven’t forgotten what the Hutus did to the Belgian soldiers who tried to protect the Prime Minister of Rwanda. Neither have they forgotten what the Somalians did to the Peacekeeping Forces. They also know what the Libyans did to the American Ambassador. No they won’t intervene, they will look on while we hack each other to bits. It’s not their war, its not their business.

Perhaps you expect other African countries to run to our help and open their borders to let us in. Have you forgotten we are the most populous Black nation on earth? Ghana, Cameroun, …etc can only take in a tiny fraction of us before closing their borders. They too will look on while our attackers hack us in front of their borders.

WAKE UP NIGERIANS. Stop the tribal bashing. The only people who will suffer will be you and I. Our religious, tribal or political leaders will zoom off in their private jets and abandon us while they watch the carnage on BBC.

For the sake of our loved ones please let us unite. The average Muslim, Christian, Hausa, Yoruba, Igbo, Ijaw, Efik… man/woman on the street doesn’t hate you. He/she wants what you want: peace and progress and a better life for their kids. Please refuse to be used by selfish leaders who incite us to hate each other. Refuse to be used to cause war. We are human beings first before our tribe, religion or politics. Please for the sake of our innocent children, let’s work for peace. WAKE UP NIGERIANS BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE!!!

macof: I still don't get why humans are afraid of war...every great change like the changing of the ridiculous state Europeans left Africa would surely need blood to cleans.
Many won't get it, but an opened eyes would see Nigeria isn't working, it never has and would never work.
A total disintegration is the only path to any better future

Whether Igbo, Hausa, fulani, Efik or ijaw want war against the Yoruba, they would get it. We certainly aren't the trouble markers

baby124: Just listen more, and speak less

cliffm43: IF THE IGBO'S ARE UNITED AND NOT SABOTAGING ONE ANOTHER,BIAFRA SHOULD HAVE STAYED LONG AGO..NIGERIA IS NOT ONE,IGBO PEOPLE HAVE BEEN INSULTED SO MUCH IN EVERY PART OF NIGERIA,,,,WAR OR NO WAR PHYSICALLY,BUT NIGERIA IS AT WAR SINCE 1960,THAT WHY HAUSA CLAIMS THAT THEY ARE BORN TO RULE IN NIGERIA,..YORUBA'S ARE LIKE SNAKE,YOU CAN'T TRUST THEM,BECAUSE THEY ARE READY TO BETRAY YOU......ANYWAY,I BLAME IGBOS FOR LACK OF UNITY..THE ONLY ONE NIGERIA IS IGBO'S......HOW MANY HAUSA MAN BUILD HOUSE IN IGBO-LAND?HOW MANY YORUBA MAN BUILD HOUSE IN IGBO-LAND?ASK YOURSELF..THERE WILL BE NO PEACE IN NIGERIA TILL EVERYONE GO..BOKO HARAM IS KILLING EVERYONE EVERYDAY....WE ARE AT WAR ALREADY

kendrick93: its clear dis country cnt be united so sumtin has to be done abt it.. if it is war,den so be it

kendrick93: if it is by goin to war dat will bring peace and all dis rubbish tribalism against one tribe and also to hav a better lyf then so be it.. i hate cowards who cnt confront issues instead trying to make peace all because of fear..
whether we lyk it or nt everyone goin to die so wats d point of being a coward..i will rather die as a hero fighting dan being a coward

frankben: I'm fûcking ready to go to war!!

I fought the civil war from 1967-1970... I killed many and i'm willing to kill again

justicesky24: Always eating fish

MabraO: People leave eventually

berem: Did that child die sucking his mother's bossom? Oh lord Jesus!

kingk: Getting Hot T4t4

CFCfan: Mine is quite self-explanatory:
CFCfan- Chelsea Football Club fan

UjSizzle: An anomaly from Texas?