Who owns the private company they are transferring it to?
These northerners want to pull wools over our eyes

constance500:
Plus accessing nl during the day now is something else.. How can I be using 30 minute to open just 2 threads.

I thought this experience was just peculiar to me. pages take forever to load on nairaland these days

Saintmary:
ThatIgboBoy,
Personally, I think some ladies prefer to spend on only their husbands, and until the wedding ceremony has been completed, she is not your wife.
Lots of ladies have spent money on fiances only to get jilted for the flimsiest reasons.
Try and find out the root of her stance if you're interested in making things work.
All these people advising you will not live with you in your marriage.

I am not asking her to support me now. I meant after we married. Working together as a couple helps us achieve goals faster. She ain't part of that. Said I will be the man of the house and carry the responsibilities of the home. She can decide to help or not and that I shouldn't even expect any help from her.
With the same mouth she will be asking why I am delaying to come and see her people. Is that not heading directly into disaster?

Ishilove:

You better flee because you're about to enter something more than what you can handle.

Thanks Ishilove

mariahAngel:


Stop kidding yourself!
If you wanted to, you would've ended it before now.

I am
Today's discussion is the final on it
I actually made this topic when she raised the matter up this afternoon and still reiterated her stand on it.
Have shown her people's response too.

akaahs:

Like I said earlier, my girlfriend is also of similar opinion as urs. In all that she said this is particular portion *That men now marry working women and this tends to make the men lazy and not hustle hard* is what still keep me into the relationship to proof her wrong but again what if I didn't make it?

What happens to growing together?

I am going to end the whole thing

backbone503:


Well, morally and tactically, she is right. Her money belongs to her, and yours to you all. As a guy/man, his should be your reasoning. But it becomes a little worrisome if thats her orientation, regarding her incomes. Its always better to have a partner that reasons otherwise. What will be your fate if your source of income suffers setbacks?

Its always preferable, safer and sweeter to have a relationship where duties and responsibilities are not apportioned.

That's her orientation oo

That I should look at her as if she is not working.
Thst her sister not working does not supports her husband.
Told her that's a different case. That's understandable and moreover tla wise husband would look for a way to help her get a job or start a business. The sisters husband just opened this paga business for her.
She said no way. That I should see her as not doing anything. That her money is hers. How many times does a man buy a shoe in a year? That her own is to take care of such things for herself and I the man should take care of the family. That if she starts adding to the family it will make me become relaxed and lazy.
Moreover I am not asking her to pay major Bills. Just minor things she can contribute to the house on her own volition. I am not apportioning responsibilities to her.

HRHQueenPhil:
pls leave her be. U and I know what she is looking for and besides she does not love u enof to settle down with u.. painful truth

Somebody that is wondering why I haven't come to see her parents yet. She openly told me she was expecting me to have come since sef. But these stuffs from her keeps making me delay going to see her people.

HRHQueenPhil:
We won't follow you into the marraige, you decide if u can live with a woman dat sees her money as hers.
My ask is that she must be ready.and willing to share responsibilities but if she feels all bills are on u, then it's a problem. Now if u love her so much and feel u will never need her salary to manage ur home, den plsngo ahead!

We both earn above 100k tho she is slightly higher and work in different organisations. I believe pulling resources together will make us achieve more. Set goals together and achieve them. But to her No. She says I am the man and must be willing to bear all the financial burden. That her money is hers. That if she decides to help no wahala. And if she refuses I should not feel bad. That that is why i am a man. That men now marry working women and this tends to make the men lazy and not hustle hard.

Righteousness89:
Did u seek God's Face for His Choice of Pattern for you?

There are Certain discussions that won't crop up if you are in God's will for you..

This one , una never start e Come be like say na Battle and Competition!

Funny enough, she is the one that keeps bringing up this topic

lovelybugs:
Are you willing to help her out too?
You can't eat your cake and have it.

Sure I am willing to. A man has to lead. But in this present economy, help from your wife shouldn't be such a bad idea.

Hello fam
I need your in put on this topic.
There is a lady I want to get married to. But we keep having one particular problem.
We both work. But she is of the opinion that her money belongs to her and she might decide to help out or not.
I am of the opinion that as a couple we have to work things out together. I dont expect her to pay any bill for me but to help out as a help mate. She flatly refused that her money is her money and she might decide to help or not. And that I should not have it in mind that she might help me. That the role of the man as the head of the house is to take care of everything.
I dont know if my perception is wrong here. I need experienced married folks to advice me.

meforyou1:
ur very short, very ugly, paedophile, criminal laycon is dying of severe pains -HIV/AIDS. That fool has no chance of living long

Is there any other ThatIgboboy on nairaland?
This is my alternate moniker and I have been seeing u a lot in my mentions

Has she gone AWOL?

I need suggestions from you guys. This country is no longer funny and man really needs to survive. I need an extra source of income and I believe I will find it in IT.
I studied microbiology in the university. While awaiting Nysc, i attended NIIT where I learnt oracle database administration. I tried all I could to get a job in the IT sector but I didn't work out. I am right now working with my B.sc degree in a pharmaceutical company. Yea the salary is above 100k but it's not enough. I am still single oo. Imagine I add a wife. My mind keeps telling me to go back to IT. That's where I think I will flourish more because I am one who thinks outside the box and I love solving problems. I didn't get a job as an oracle DBA because job opportunities for DBA's were scarce and not that popular. So guys I need an IT course I can do and easily use it as a side gig. If it pays more,I will resign and focus fully on it. Something I can combine with my present job.
Mod lalasticlala and other supermods, you all can help a brother here.

this nigger is beginning to sound like a jilted lady.
and dude looks like a dwarf