The girl needs someone to urgently advise her to leave you asap. She's undervaluing herself by being with you. Imagine begging from morning till evening and you're acting like you're an angel and have never offended anyone before. And why are you tying her down? Are you engaged to her officially and to the knowledge of her parents? No one should beg you and you have no right to question her activities until you're recognised by her family as a fiance. You even deflowered her (her father or brother could confront and harm you for that if they find out), and you had the audacity to say she's "afraid" (LOL. Being 'the lord and master that you are'). The girl seriously needs advice so she knows her true value! And you, what you need is re-orientation and disabuse of your mind from chauvinistic tendencies -- and perhaps some whooping for your own offences against the girl and sin against God.

We know you’ll love to be convinced you’re raising a cute little angel. And you want to hear people say it and commend you for it. We all do. Or at least, most of us.

But how well or badly are you doing at this important job? It’s natural to want to see your kid smile and laugh, but there’s just a fine line between doing everything absolutely necessary to keep him happy and, well, raising a brat.

That is not to say your child won’t have his moments of tantrums regardless of how generally well behaved he is. It’s okay if your super-sweet kiddo slacks off and throws a tantrum once in a while. That won’t make him less precious. You know, perfection can sometimes get boring too .

So, how well are you raising your child? Take this short quiz to find out yourself! We have coloured in green what we think are the most reasonable answers in green.

1. To try to make up for the occasional feeling of guilt for not spending enough time with your child, you…

a. You buy him a lot of new toy gifts to make up for your absence

b. You let him break a few rules and pretend you didn’t notice

c. You deal with the feeling internally and try to create quality time for the child

2. When your child loses his favourite toy, he or she…


a. Makes a ruckus until you buy him or her a new one.

b. Asks everyone to join in the search party to find the missing toy.

c. Sheds a few tears and wipes them off and focuses his or her mind on something else.

3. When eating his or her meal, the first thing your child consumes is the…

a. The main dish

b. The meat or fish

c. The juice

4. Your child’s favourite part of his or her birthday party are…

a. The presents

b. The friends

c.The bouncy castle

5. If your kid knocks over a glass of water or juice, he or she will probably…

a. Try to deny and hopes no one saw him or her do it

b. Quickly look for a napkin and try to mop it up him or herself

c. Hope the maid or some other big person cleans up the spill

6. When you’re having a conversation with another adult, your child…

a. Butts in and takes over the conversation

b. Keeps to himself and only speaks when prodded or necessary

c. Keeps quiet but also often staring intently at each speaker

7. When you pay a visit to a friend for the first time, your child…

a. Sits quietly on the couch and patiently waits for the visit to be over

b. Is restless, explores the other rooms and perhaps scribbles on the wall

c. Quietly throws tantrums, squirms and turns, impatient for the visit to be over

8. When you ask a relative or friend to help babysit your child for a couple of hours, the friend or relative…

a. Give excuse of suddenly being too busy to babysit

b. Are happy and look forward to your child coming over

c. Agree reluctantly and ask if you won’t be long

9. When that “sweet” uncle or aunt comes over after a long time, your child’s first instinct is to…

a. Show the uncle or aunt their new school result or some other latest academic achievement

b. Draw up a long list of cookies, candies, ice creams they love or repeatedly talk about eateries, malls and other places they’d love to go.

c. Ask them cheeky, and sometimes embarrassing grown-up questions

10. Do you let him watch TV even if he hasn’t finished his homework yet?

a. Sometimes

b. Rarely

c. Always

So, how well did you do? Yes, go ahead and score yourself. If you did great, congratulations! But remember this is a nearly lifetime job, so don’t rest on your oars and keep up the good job at raising your sweet, beautiful prince or princess.

If not so great, there’s no need to despair. There’s still enough time to refocus and reorganise your parenting skills and groom a little human you can be proud of. Good luck !

http://theischooler.com/2019/04/07/how-well-are-you-raising-your-child-take-this-quiz/

Cc: Lalasticlala

Children love asking questions – they ask questions about virtually everything and almost all of the time. Studies say the average child asks up to 300 questions in a single day. Some of them are even just repetitions, and you’d already answered them! Pheew!

But how about switching places? So, rather than looking for ways to dodge or ignore the questions or roll your eyes with an exhausted expression, you get to be the one asking the questions! Yes, that means your kid now will do more of the talking. Sounds like a fun challenge? Yes, we thought so too.

And, no, we’re not talking about the regular “How was your day” routine questions.

But before we jump into the fun ways to get your child talking, it’s important to point out it’s actually a good thing when your kid asks lots of questions. So, don’t discourage him or her. Encourage the child to ask more questions, not fewer. When you answer the questions, it helps to open and sharpen the child’s mind.

Since children are good imitators, turning the tables in conversations with them will help you model to them how to ask good questions and get good answers. Let’s start:

1. What do you often think about when idle, like when you’re lying on the bed and not asleep?

2. What makes you happy?

3. What happened today in school?

4. What fun thing did your teacher ask everyone in the class to do today?

5. What did your friends do today?

6. What would you have rather loved to do at the moment and why?

7. What is your best cartoon character and why?

8. What else do you like on TV besides cartoon and why?

9. If we were at the mall together and you had money to buy things, what 5 things would you buy first?

10. If you see someone you love sad, what would you do?

11. How does it make you feel when I hug or peck you on the cheek?

12. If your teddy bear could talk, what would you tell him?

13. If you had a thousand naira to give, who would you give it to?

14. What do you like giving to people?

15. If you were the one to cook in the kitchen, what meal would you like to prepare instead?

16. What did you dream about last night?

17. What do you always wish we could do when I take you out?

18. What is your best song?

19. Where do you wish we could go together?

20. If you stayed outside for the whole day, what would you do?

21. What do you like most about going out together?

22. What irritates you?

23. Tell me about the day you remember fondly. What made it special?

24. Who is your best friend and why do you think he or she is awesome?

25. What makes you so awesome?

26. What is your best time of the year? Christmas? Easter? School hol? School field trip time?

27. If your best friend travelled and you want to speak with him or her, how would you keep in touch?

28. If I want to buy you a pet, what would you choose? Puppy? Kitten? Parrot? Rabbit?

29. What would you name your pet?

30. What would you do with the pet?

31. If your teacher asked you to teach the class, what would you teach?

32. What is the best food you have eaten and what was the worst?

33. What things do adults around you help you with that you really would have loved to try doing it yourself?

34. What have you seen or been told that surprised you a lot?

35. If you had to be in charge of the home for a day, will you make new rules and what will they be?

36. What do you think was the best gift I bought for you?

37. What was the worst?

38. What would you like to be when you grow up?

39. Is there something you think I might not know about you?

40. What do you think really makes me happy?

Some children may not find the exercise fun initially as you do, but that shouldn’t worry you. The trick is to not rush your kid. Let the child answer any questions that excite him or her and skip whichever one that doesn’t tickle his or her fancy. As the adult, move on to the next question quickly so the fizz in the conversation doesn’t die out. You may want to give your own answer to some of the questions too to keep the energy going; but ultimately, stick to the plan. Remember, it’s also a fantastic way to light up and push your own creativity and imagination, and to start learning again how to think outside the box!

http://theischooler.com/2019/06/23/40-fun-questions-to-get-your-kid-talking/


Cc: Lalasticlala

Education systems and customs vary from country to country across the world. The history, curricula, and tradition of education in some countries are quite interesting, some are really inspiring, and some are plain odd. Some, too, are… well, just educational.

For example, like most people, you’ve probably thought Cambridge University is the oldest in the world. But is it really so? Come along, let’s explore 21 interesting facts about education around the world that they’ve probably not taught you in school.

1. In terms of the number of pupils, India has the largest school in the world. The school, City Montessori School in Lucknow, India has a population of 32,000 pupils.

2. The King’s School in Canterbury, England is the oldest school in the world, having been founded in 597 AD. Interestingly, the school’s facilities and syllabus are in no way old. In fact, it is up-to-date and provides modern education with quality equipment and supplies.

3. The oldest university is Muslim university – Karaouine (al-Qarawiyyin) in Fez, Morocco. It was founded in 859 AD.

4. In the US, parents can be arrested if their kids do not go to school.

5. In sharp constrast, NIGERIA HAS THE LARGEST NUMBER OF CHILDREN OUT-OF-SCHOOL, ESTIMATED AT 10.5 MILLION CHILDREN

6. In Holland, a child begins school on his/her 4th birthday – except it is in December or it falls on a holiday. This means there’s always a new pupil in the class.

7. In Finland, a child doesn’t start school until he or she is 7. That’s just about the oldest age to start school anywhere on the globe. Interestingly, Finland’s education system is reputed as one of the most successful in the world

8. In Russia, children always begin school on 1st September, which is marked as the country’s ‘Knowledge Day’. It doesn’t matter if the date falls on a weekend or a holiday.

9. In Germany, on their first day at school, pupils receive a special cone called Schultüte. The present is filled with pens, pencils, books and snacks.

10. In China, students spend an approximate 14 hours a week on their homework. That is the most homework for a pupil anywhere in the world.

11. In Japanese schools, janitors are not employed. The pupils clean their own classrooms, they travel alone and do other independent stuff.

12. In Cuban high schools, students learn to combine their studies with work activity. For example, each year, high schoolers in the city go on agricultural works for 5 to 7 weeks.

13. In Sweden, the head teacher can transfer a smarter-than-average pupil to the next class during one school year – as long as the child’s parents consent.

14. In Ireland, it is compulsory for children aged 6 to 15 years to go to school. Class attendance is free for the pupils.

15. Sadly, in Pakistan, children do not have a legal right to free education. Only children aged 5 to 9 are entitled to compulsory education.

16. In Norway, school children are strictly segregated by age groups. For example, primary school pupils aged 14 years do not study in the same building as 18-year-old students.

17. In Iran, there are segregations too, but it’s based on gender. Boys and girls are taught separately until they reach university. The teacher must also be of the same gender as the pupils in the class.

18. France has the shortest school year and the longest school day.

19. School children in Canada are taught most of their lessons in both French and English.

20. In Brazil, schools begin at 7 am and close at 12 noon, while some begin from midday to 4 pm or 5 pm. A few schools called escolas integrais run classes lasting from 7 am to 4 pm. This weird school schedule is blamed on “the weak structure” of the Brazilian education system.

21. Students in Greek universities enjoy so many benefits that some of them decide to delay education until they are 30 years old. Education, medical care and food in students’ canteens are absolutely free! Plus, there are also discounts for travels and more.

22. Lastly, on a personal mental development note, when you write a note with your pen, whether it’s simple classwork or homework or a more difficult project work, you’re simultaneously stimulating a collection of brain cells in your head known as a reticular activating system. The writing activity brings the information to your forefront, activates your brain and makes it pay close attention.

Cc

Lalasticlala

http://theischooler.com/2019/04/23/interesting-education-facts-around-the-world/

Most parents want their kids to do well in school, look and behave responsible and go on to become successful adults. But there isn’t a specific manual on how to raise successful children.

However, according to research psychology, there are a handful of pointers that predict success. And just as you may have suspected, much of it comes to your parenting style.

Keep on reading to discover 15 traits that parents of successful children have. Some of them may surprise you!

1. You make your kids do chores

From washing the dishes to taking out the trash, from folding laundry to doing some small errands around the home, someone has to do the little chores. Who should have that responsibility? The hired house help or maid? Or perhaps you? If your kids aren’t doing the chores, then you or your partner or domestic worker are.

But here’s the difference when you let your kids do or get more involved in doing chores: it builds and hones the values of hard work, responsibility and co-operation in them early on.

These go a long way in helping them become successful adults later in life as they learn and imbibe the importance of teamwork, empathy and working on tasks independently – which are core qualities of top performers or star employees and managers.

2. You’re a happier and less stressed version of yourself

Parents have a way of infecting their kids with their moods and habits. Emotions are contagious. If you’re a generally happy and cheerful person, your kids are likely to take on some or all of that in their personality as well.

On the other hand, if you’re stressed and miserable, your children are going to catch those feelings like a cold.

According to a University of Illinois study review, children in conflict-ridden families don’t usually do well, compared to kids whose parents get along.

Of course, you can argue that work, social and environmental pressures nearly everywhere and everyday make stress inevitable in the life of an adult. But it is not about the presence or absence of stress; it is how well you manage it and continue to put on a genuinely positive character.

The University of Illinois research also found out that 20-year-old-plus children who witnessed their parents’ divorce as kids still report pain and distress over the split ten years later.

3. You develop a relationship with your child

There is also scientific research that backs up this point. A 2014 survey of children born to poor parents found out that those who received “sensitive caregiving” in their first 3 years performed better in school, compared to those who didn’t have a healthy parent-child relationship.

The children who enjoyed a healthier parenting style were also able to build healthy relationships with others and had greater academic achievement.

4. You teach your child math early on

Guiding your child to an early grasp of math skills do not only get him/her prepared for future mastery of the subject, but also general future academic achievement, Northwestern University researcher Greg Duncan concluded.

In a detailed study of 35,000 preschoolers across the US, Canada, and England in 2007, it was found that developing math skills at an early age can be a great advantage to a child.

“The paramount importance of early math skills — of beginning school with a knowledge of numbers, number order, and other rudimentary math concepts — is one of the puzzles coming out of the study,” Duncan said.

5. You read to them

When you read regularly to your toddlers, the child will have better language, literacy and reading skills by the time he or she is 4.

That’s because slowly you’ll have developed a love of books in the child and he/she will grow up to become a person who enjoys reading books and gaining new knowledge. That’s according to a scientific result from researchers at the New York University School of Medicine.

6. You focus more on their positive behaviour

Psychology scientists say you should be intentional about reinforcing your child’s positive behaviours by focusing on them, rather than the negative ones.

In contrast, screaming, scolding and shouting at your kids over a bad behaviour may lead to them repeating those actions as the child may internalise a belief that “I’m a bad child who misbehaves and gets scolded,” explains Yale University psychology professor Alan Kazdin.

Consequently, the motivation to correct that negative behaviour is a loss as the child subconsciously makes the negative behaviour he/she is consistently reprimanded for a part of his/her identity. And the negative behaviour may worsen.

So, what is the right approach? Acknowledge and describe your child’s good behaviour when you see it. (Be specific. For example, “Wow, great keeping your room clean. Good girl!”)


Psychology scientists say you should be intentional about reinforcing your child’s positive behaviours by focusing on them, rather than the negative ones.
You may have to go out of your way to do this, but soon you’ll notice an improvement in his/her behaviour.

If your child exhibits negative behaviour, rather than attempting to control him/her, try to understand the child’s perspective and feelings, and then use logical reasoning to get through to him/her.

True, it’s not easy to stop yelling when your children are driving you up to the wall, but making a firm decision not to shout at your kid except it’s a matter of safety really helps. If necessary, just walk away.

7. You show and tell

While you should know when not to respond and to learn to ignore bad behaviour, especially if the child isn’t doing something dangerous, you should also show and tell when necessary. Let your child see those behaviours you want to see in them. Be a model to them, and teach them right from wrong in calm words and actions.

Be clear and consistent on limits. Let them know the consequences of any particular bad behaviour. Explain the rules to them in the language they can understand.

However, listening is important. Be sure to hear them out and let your child finish her story before you make a conclusion.

And lastly on this, if you notice a pattern of misbehaviour, it may be best to talk with your child rather than reminding her of the agreed consequence.

8. You live in a nice neighbourhood

Living in a great neighbourhood with excellent schools is just about the best gift you can give to your growing children.

Besides the academic opportunities, the kids can also get to grow up with peers who value education, hard work and achievement, while even the parents and older children can enjoy access to more career opportunities living in such a neighbourhood.

But do you have to be wealthy to live in a nice neighbourhood? Not necessarily. So, as soon as you get a chance, go for it!

Studies say living in a nice neighbourhood may be a better investment than any extra school lessons or extracurricular activities you may enrol your child.

9. The family eats dinner together

A Harvard University research shows that children who eat with their parents at least 5 times in a week are less likely to find themselves in scandals such as teenage pregnancy, and substance abuse – now or later as older children. They are also less likely to suffer from depression or obesity later in life.

Instead, they are very likely to have more advanced vocabularies, get better grades in school or college and have more self-esteem.

10. You enforce no-screen time and no-screen zones in the home

The brains of children are not developed enough to deal with the addictive risks of spending long periods using a smartphone or iPad. In fact, the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that kids who are not up to 18 years should have no access to mobile screen time at all as this can get them permanently altered.

They also recommend parents enforce specific no-screen times and no-screen zones in the home, such as an hour before bedtime, at the dinner table, and on road trips.

11. You teach them empathy

Science says because of their simple and innocent nature, children derive joy when they help or give to others. This is unlike adults who have become complex and self-centred, and naturally looking out for their own needs or after their own interests first.

Lara Aknin’s research shows we can find the same happiness as children do if we learnt to tame our selfish nature and focus on trying to satisfy the needs of others.

If you want your children to be happier with a bouncy spirit, teach them empathy, to learn to serve others and contribute. Get them involved in activities where they get the chance to help others and make a positive impact.

When your children begin to imbibe the values and attitude of contribution more than personal achievement, they’ll be on the right track of building a meaningful life for themselves.

12. You go on family vacations

In a survey done by a student and youth travel group in the US, 1,432 teachers said travelling improved kids’ attitudes in these ways:

They developed more tolerance of other people, their cultures and beliefs.
They had better adaptability and sensitivity.
They increased tolerance and respectfulness.
It expanded their desire to know, learn and/or explore more.
They had more intellectual curiosity.
They desired to travel more.
Their self-esteem and confidence increased.
They became more outgoing.

13. Your kid has a lovable name

There is a broad body of research that has discovered that your name can impact on your level of success.

For instance, if your child’s name sounds lovable and easy to pronounce, most people will be fond of him/her just for that simple reason. If a person’s name is common, they also tend to have a better chance of getting hired.

14. You work

Another Harvard Business School research shows that a child benefits a lot when they grow up seeing their parents go to work regularly and earn legitimately to take care of their family.

In particular, if a growing girl has a working mother (who works outside the home), the child will more likely go to school longer, get gainful employment, climb up the career ladder quickly to a managerial role and generally earn more money – 23% more compared to daughters who had stay-at-home mums.

The impacts were significant on the boys too as they tend to contribute more in household chore and childcare as adults.

15. You’re educated

According to research, women who finished high school or university were more likely to raise children who will also go on to finish a higher level of education and do well in their careers.

Another study shows that the educational level of the parents when a child is 8 years old is a significant pointer to the education and career level the child will attain a couple of decades later.

Conclusion – The Bonus

Now, here’s the bonus – trait number 16, if you like.

Your kid is very likely to grow into a well-educated and successful adult if you’ve read this long article up to this point – to the very end.

Why? Simply because it shows you are a committed parent and you are willing to help your child become better and explore his/her potentials. Congratulations!

However, as much as possible, make sure to implement the other tips above (any of them you’re yet to start working on), so as to become a better parent.

Over time, you’ll discover your kids becoming more self-motivated, resilient and responsible. And you won’t have to nag them most or all of the time. Of course, it’s a path that will demand time and effort from you. But it will be worth it!

http://theischooler.com/2019/04/04/14-traits-in-you-that-can-help-make-your-child-successful/

Cc: Lalasticlala

asuustrike1:

I have researched this too hence I gave you exception. I even use myself as an example that I didn't watch cartoon when growing up it is even now that I began to fall in love with it. Why not provide empirical evidence instead of using observation? Having empirical fact resolves issues like this even though it might be criticized

Your self example is a blatant lie. What else would you have said? You needed to save face, so I understand. Bring a verifiable stats. Your words are a mere opinions and hold no water.

asuustrike1:

That many journalist use that word " Nigerians are religious " doesn't mean it is the right usuage. This word can be interpreted by many to mean all Nigerians are religious hence we should be careful on the use of words. I did say that it is safer to use "many" because it passes a message across to many readers that there are exceptions.

My friend, it is correct. . Your knowledge of the language is limited. You don't need to go on and start adding "many" in every assertion, as none is 100% applicable. Even scientific facts have exceptions. When scientists, for example, says "exercise is healthy for you," you think they should have changed it to "exercise is healthy for many people"? Once something is a general occurrence, it's ok to say write an assertion without "many." You only use "many" when the exceptions are a significant number.

asuustrike1:

Mr man my assertion are verified anywhere. You go and research well instead of posting lies

You made a weird, baseless assertion, and I should go ahead and verify it for you? Is the onus not on you that made the claim to provide supporting stats? You just say something on a whim and I should accept it as a fact? Please, keep moving...

The person that you said made the assertion obviously doesn't know what he's talking about. I'm very sure of it. I wish there could be a 'block' button, so I could avoid your distractions. Your arguments are incoherent and derailing. So, next time I see your moniker, I simply IGNORE. You can bank on that -- except there's a very compelling reason to reverse that decision.

asuustrike1:

Pride will not let you accept your fault. That many journalist use that word " Nigerians are religious " doesn't mean it is the right usuage. This word can be interpreted by many to mean all Nigerians are religious hence we should be careful on the use of words. I did say that it is safer to use "many" because it passes a message across to many readers that there are exceptions.
Secondly you contradict yourself when you said [b]all children between 7years loves cartoon [/b]however someone refuted your claim that he doesn't. Doesn't that passes a message to you that your assertion is faulty?. Am very such many will refute your claim as time goes by. That you lived in city and observed many children showing interest in cartoon doesn't mean all do. So accept your fault for once instead of beating around the bush

A regular child (whether in the city or village) that has a TV in front of him/her and is given a choice between cartoon and African magic will naturally prefer the former. It is inborn. It is natural.

Just pass and move on. It's convenient to use reverse psychology and say I'm proud when it is pride that is not allowing you to admit you had no argument in the first place. I'm proud cos I refuse to submit to an inferior argument from you? Then that must be a good pride. Let folks like you refute the points, even if you're a million uninformed people saying the same thing, I still won't accept just cos people like you join the bandwagon.

Give me a superior argument and I'll take it. Do you think I write my opinions and without research? Or do you think I'm a greenhorn?

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My assertion stays. You've still not said anything convincing. Go and read the post again - this time, slowly, deliberately and with an open mind

If you don't understand a line in a post, ask for clarification. Funny, you said I don't understand English and yet your sentences were crippled with grammatical blunders here and there. Do you know how many years I've been doing this? How many clients I've worked for and with, in Nigeria and internationally?

I'm sure you've heard the statement below over and over again:

"Nigerians are very religious."

Did you argue against it? Is the statement wrong? Does it mean every single Nigerian is religious, and there are no atheists? Why do people that use that line not always edit it to read this way instead: "Most Nigerians are religious"?

Do you understand the difference? Not sure you do. You sound like you still have a lot of English learning to do.

asuustrike1:

I don't need to be an authority to point out the flaws in the article. When you humble yourself to learn it will help you in the future but when you exhibit pride and ergo by refusing to accept your fault then you are on your own. Nobody is perfect, nobody is above mistake but the ability to accept your fault and criticism makes you better.

How do I accept what is wrong? Just to satisfy you. So you pop up with flabby, unsubstantiated argument, I should accept it?

I accept arguments, but only informed, verifiable ones. If you weren't egoistic, my valid points above would have shut you up.

asuustrike1:

Throw you pride then edit your work you don't want to learn

Edit on whose recommendation? You? Lol. You must think you're an authority. Sit down, read slowly and learn. Obviously, your knowledge is very limited.

asuustrike1:

Mr man you are wrong OK just admit your fault for once. Not all kids love cartoon please research well before coming to the media to post unrealistic assumption. I faulted your work because I want to correct you but it seems pride and ergo wouldn't let you so because you can't face criticism. Every being be it small or big cannot behave,love,or share the same traits. There are always exemption that is why when posting an article it is safer to use the word "many" than been generalistic except you would agree with me that all Nigerians are corrupt going by your logic. Have a blissful Sunday.

Read the submission above. Children are not adults. Children are innocent (under 7) and their minds are not completely formed. Don't apply the "all Nigerians are corrupt" logic. It shows how flawed your reasoning is. These are children! Ridiculous! You just want to sound correct.

Look, I'll never agree white is black, no matter how long an epistle you write. I'll admit others, but never against a known social and scientific fact all around the world!!

You admit you don't know and just want to feel you know. Why will I admit cos you gave a baseless opinion?

Lol. asuustruke1, you used your second moniker to add support to your earlier argument, so it looks like it has authority.

You're wasting your time. Read again slowly and with concentration. I can't be a student to you. If anything, it should be the other way round.

Danicomrade:
Its nt really natural is wat u give 2 them dat they will wat they are sum kids u greW up without watching cartoon bt only aficamagic and stuff
So is the way u train up a the child.

I've NEVER seen or heard about a child (under 7) who prefers other kinds of TV programs to cartoons. NEVER!! And I'm old enough to know this is a FACT. You're and your bandwagon friends are just lying and want to argue for simply argument sake.

Every child loves cartoon. It is a plain fact. All these talk is just a bandwagon effect. It's psychological. When someone gives a differing opinion - even if it's an uninformed one -- other uninformed people will repeat it to just "belong in the crowd."

Every child (at least under 7) loves and is a fascinated by cartoons. It sits with their nature. It is a scientific and social fact everywhere on the globe. You CAN'T convince me or any informed, sincere or open person against a known fact since immemorial. You simply aren't.

Africanmagic!? Lol. How old are you? I can sense your ages, including the other one that was self- praising and said as a child he was intelligent enough to know cartoons weren't real. Lol. So, the other kids supposedly watching, while he was all adult-y, weren't 'intelligent enough.' Lol.

asuustrike1:

help.me tell am

Kids love cartoons. It's a known fact and there are scientific reasons. I can't be bothered by your spurious and baseless claims or your pal's above, who obviously wants to bandwagon.

Besides your nomenclature, who is your friend and who are you to try to act like an authoritative voice on the subject? Your motives are obviously impure and I could read that from a distance the first time from your cynic tone.

I've been long enough on NL to know when to ignore wafts and recognise informed comments when I see one.

You are both wrong, that's why I initially ignored. Your arguments are flabby and motivated by ego and something else... Don't want to say that one, but you know it in your heart.

Please be gone!

asuustrike1:

Why don't you edit your work by including that phrase.

Even after educating you in the first mention, you're still dancing round the circle of ignorance in public !

For the umpteenth time, "typically" means not all. Your argument is thus baseless and simply egoistic. Sigh. What exactly do you want? Not the smokescreen you stated above.

This is simple English. Focus and understand before arguing and repeating the same thing in different ways. Enough of you, please.

asuustrike1:

My kids don't like cartoon and I didn't watch it when growing up hence a flaw in your assertion

Lol. Whatever feeds your ego, even if it's a blatant lie. Done entertaining your distractions.

LuciferAkbar:
Are they drawn to Boondocks & Family Guy?

Hahahaha. Bondocks,The Family Guys, The Simpsons, haba those are x-rated and not for kids. I guess that's why they're never licensed for kid's channels like Nickelodeon, Cartoon Network and Disney Channels. You'll only find those adult cartoons on Fox Life.

asuustrike1:

Not all men and women as opined by you there are exceptions.

I wrote "typically" in the line you quoted and that already answered your query. Typically means "not all." I thought that was self-explanatory.

asuustrike1:

Not all kids as buttress by you as there are many kids that loves movies and football

Every child loves cartoons. Please show me one (especially under 7) that doesn't. Cartoons resonate with their nature. What were you watching as a child? Star Wars?

Hi Lalasticlala, let's all learn some fun facts.

We bet many times you’ve been intrigued by how so much your kid loves cartoon programmes. It gets even weirder for you when you notice the child sometimes gets distracted when his or her favourite cartoon shows is on the tv – even if they’re just about having their meal or in the middle of doing their homework.

Okay, so sometimes you remember you were once like that back then as a child too, but that awareness still doesn’t really solve the mystery for you.

Truth is, there’s really no mystery to it. It’s just similar to the way men are typically glued to football matches and programmes on tv and women are attached to soap operas. Cartoons are all about fun and children love fun and hate ‘boring.’

Actually, most people, regardless of their age, don’t like being bored. It’s especially so with children as they are always seeking something new, different and fun. They easily get bored and prefer varieties and fast-moving activities that’ll get them laughing and giggling, even if it’s a learning activity.

Of course, as children grow their unique personalities will start shining through, but most of them always want to do something fun. In essence, cartoons always have an element of fun, whether the animation is educational or simply for pleasure; and kids, as a result, find cartoons more fun.

Besides, cartoons are more of fantasy programmes than reality. This sits well with the child’s idea of the world, as really, they don’t know much about life and the world, outside of their home and school.

Still on the subject of fantasy, cartoon show makers like to create a futuristic setting, and this in so many ways mirror the way kids set out with their imaginations. Unlike movies or serials for adults, the superhero always has a solution to all problems and supervillains. This is the ideal world in the imagination of children.

Thirdly, just like kids, most cartoons are about innocent stories. No stories or focus on hardships of real life, of heartbreaks and disappointments, of bitter dramas and facts.

Many cartoon programmes communicate the idea of an innocent world of kind people who get rewarded for their deeds, and superheroes who consistently thwart the evil plans of villains and save the day for a happily ever life for everyone. These are what kids can relate to, hence their attraction to cartoons.

Also, the way cartoon characters are drawn, plus the technical effects fascinate kids a lot. The storylines are, in addition, a big magnet for children, especially with the suspenseful and adventurous twists and turn with the main characters (the superheroes and supervillains) in the centre of it all.

Add all of these to the vivid colours (children naturally love colours), playful or action voices, and theme songs and you’ll see why animated shows capture the hearts of children. Now, you understand why your kid easily remembers and often hums the title songs of his or her favourite cartoon shows?

Another factor is that cartoons are becoming quite interactive these days, particularly educational ones like the Mickey Mouse Clubhouse show. The aim is to provide learning with fun, while engaging children to be part of the show. Children are drawn to activities that combine learning, fun and interaction.

So, until your kid becomes a young adult, you may not be able to separate them from their beloved cartoon programmes. Actually, some never grow out of their love for cartoons and still secretly enjoy it as adults (like yours truly. Lol). Hey, who says cartoons are for kids only anyway!?

http://theischooler.com/2019/05/11/why-are-kids-naturally-drawn-to-cartoons/

chukxie:
Dear OP, thanks for starting this valuable thread. As a dad of a four years and six months old daughter who's currently in her senior year at kindergarten, the word of advice I always give her is : Never let anyone bully you! If your classmate hits you on purpose, ensure you hit back. Some kids of this generation can be extraordinarily mean.

Hmm... Not sure that's the best approach though. Hope it doesn't condition the child negatively.

uzobaby:
Please who has an idea of what was done to that teacher??I had to stop watching it at some point..it was heartbreaking. .prolonged bullying also leads to low self esteem..

The teacher was arrested and the school shut down. Although the teacher was later released on bail to appear in court.

https://briefly.co.za/27521-preschool-teacher-smacking-sick-child-video-arrested.html

Even though it’s one of the greatest fears of many parents, most of them often don’t realise their child is being bullied until it’s too late. The child may not want to tattle tale from fear of being subjected to more harassment by the bully or the child might be ashamed to spill his or her woe or show their wound.[i][/i]

There are numerous other reasons your child may choose to suffer in silence if he or she is being bullied. Therefore, you know it is your job to stay vigilant for your child and watch out for any worrying signs of bullying when they are away at school with their schoolmates and teachers.

Typically, the bully is a class or school mate who is a brat and often older. But what about when the teacher is the bully? The internet went into a rage recently over a viral video of a preschool teacher in South Africa repeatedly and despitefully beating a sick child of about 2 or 3 years old. The child was whimpering, visibly terrified and helpless. Needless to say, the video tore viewers’ heart out, especially parents.

The majority of teachers at standard schools are well trained for the job and know how to keep your child at ease and in the best frame of mind to learn. Many of them will go the extra mile to do this and earn the love and trust of the child. But there are teachers who do not handle their responsibilities well and some will even bully the kids in their class.

Instead of using proper classroom management techniques and mildly correcting a child where necessary, they use their physical strength to harass the child or manipulate or ridicule them. So, the child not only gets hurt physically but also feels and endures psychological pain.

Parents should note, however, that this piece is not an encouragement to them to overprotect or obsess over the child. It is just for them to be aware. Sometimes, older kids like teenagers may just need a bit of the toughness to navigate life better as adults.

You don’t go to school with your child every day, and so you really don’t have an idea about what happens there. But if your child is being bullied at school or elsewhere, there’ll be subtle signs.

Here some early signs to look out for if you suspect someone or some people are bullying your little one at school.


Your child frequently feigns sickness to avoid going to school

If your child is normally happy to go to school but has suddenly started developing cold feet or fakes headaches, stomach aches or some other illness, especially in the morning when it’s time for school, then something is amiss. It could be he or she is being bullied by someone in their school.

Your child may be feigning sickness to avoid the bullying or it could as a result of the bullying – or both. It should get you more curious and worried if your kid never makes similar complains and is his or her normal lively self during the weekend.

For preschoolers and junior schoolers, watch out for repeated excuses to skip school and stay at home, such as headaches or joint aches.

Instead of getting frustrated by your child’s reluctance to go to school, sit down with him or her and ask why they don’t like school anymore. Be patient and attentive, as your child may be nervous at first.

He/she becomes sad, moody and withdrawn – unusually so

Has your child’s general mood shifted? Was he or she usually excited whenever going to and coming back from school, but is now lethargic and sad? Worse still, won’t the child say what the problem is?

Psychologically, the child may have started associating his or her school with fear and anxiety rather than their previous view of it as a place for fun and learning. They may start to become indifferent to school and school work and their academic performance may drop.

While this could be hormonal changes kicking in if your child is a teenager, it could also be a sign someone is repetitively hurting your child at school. You know your child best and so should be able to quickly spot a change in their demeanour.

Torn clothes, curious bruises and scratch marks


If your child cannot reasonably explain why a small area of their clothing is torn or why their books have been missing more than two or three times, then you should investigate. If also the child sometimes has strange bruises or scratch marks on a part of their body, the child may be a victim of playground bullying. Ask your child about these things.

If he or she is mute, evasive or cannot explain them, ask them open-ended questions to try to unearth the truth. Questions like: “What happened today during school break?” “How did you feel when that happened?”

The child suddenly has problem sleeping

According to studies, 36% of children who have sleeping problems are silently suffering from bullying. Such children may experience parasomnia or nightmares. In addition, children who are victims of bullying may be depressed, which causes them to either sleep too much or have difficulty sleeping.

Withdrawal from regular friends’ group

If you notice your kid begin to keep away from his or her regular cycle of friends, keep a note of that and try to find out why. Your child may be avoiding her old group of friends because they are now friends with the bullies. Take a close look at the group to see the new face or faces, and right there you may find your answer!

Your child skips meal at school but binges at home

Has your child been weirdly coming home from school with their lunch box untouched and yet hungry? And even more strangely, they binge at night? Something may not be right.

Generalized fear

If you observe your child is developing a general paranoia and distrust about almost everyone and everything around him or her, you should get bothered. That’s often a sign of a deeper problem, and bullying at school is often a culprit.

For example, you may notice a silent generalized fear in his or her eyes and demeanour when you’re walking with them to school, they want to take the school bus, or taking part in a class group activity.

Your child starts to bully other kids

This may surprise a lot of parents, but yes, if your child is being bullied at school, he may be subconsciously conditioned to think being aggressive with his younger or weaker siblings and peers can get him what he wants, and when he wants it.

This is sometimes a natural consequence of being bullied and you should be worried if your formerly easy-going son begins to get assertive and uncooperative with his friends, siblings and even you, his parent.


What to do as a parent…

If you have a strong suspicion or a “good” evidence someone may be bullying your kid at school, your first instincts could be to storm the school, all guns blazing, and confront the bully.

But sometimes, it’s best to use a more delicate approach.

First, make sure you’re keeping your emotions in check and avoid impulsive reactions. Speak to the teacher or school administrator, since these people spend more time with your child during the week. Well trained educators will also considerably understand your kid almost as much as you do, and can easily spot when the child is exhibiting changing behaviours.

On a final note, it is important that you build a solid relationship with your child, so if they are experiencing anything unusual or worried about someone or something at school, they can trust and feel comfortable telling you about it. Children will stay close to people they find helpful and supportive.

http://theischooler.com/2019/05/04/early-signs-your-child-might-be-getting-bullied-at-school/

It's quite a pity the mess Tonto keeps enmeshing herself in. There are thousands of people who have had bigger marriage storms, heartbreaks and betrayal and yet have carried themselves with great equanimity and quietness and yet happy and not bitter.

I wish I could see her one on one. Sad she surrounds herself with people with no marriage values like Freeze (a loud hypocrite and an antichrist deceiving the gullible. Freeze is in danger of sinning against the Holy Spirit and standing in God's judgement), and Bobrisky (an abomination to God. No, I will not mince words).

Tonto, who are your best friends? Are they real Christians? Wise in life and marriage?

Marbella003, every adulterer (just as with other serious sins) also has a "justification." Please stop saying you did what you did cos you don't find your husband attractive. Those who steal blame the system or say they were hungry. Those who fight and kill say they were angered. A sin is a sin. No excuses with God.

"No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it." (1 Corinthians 10:13).

But He is a merciful God and we are in the age of grace.

"Then Jesus stood up again and said to the woman, “Where are your accusers? Didn’t even one of them condemn you?

“No, Lord,” she said. And Jesus said, “Neither do I. Go and sin no more.” (John 8: 10-11).

Hhmm.... This story begs so many questions:

Isn't this guy a 'big' Nollywood actor/comic - at least middle level and expected to be of a slightly better living standard?

Wasn't this guy recently a brand ambassador for one of the big telecom brands?

Why is it the grown sister in law living with them that was confronting him? I suspect she is the main architect of whatever is the problem here. 95% of what she wrote up there is cock-and-bull stories.

Why hasn't the guy be able to explore the exposure and opportunities his little fame gave him?

*A deep sigh*

Cc

Lalasticlala

popsy2:
Great ! Better than Canada?

Of course, not many realise these facts. In terms of education, Finland sets the pace.