Ginaz:


it has been sorted out. take your time to read through the pages.

I'm fine.

I've read the most recent comments and I'm really excited.

You are a kind person, but you're also very emotionally sensitive - that in itself is good if you learn to apply it intentionally (I'd recommend Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman)

And may God bless you abundantly for all you do ma'am, pls don't relent.

I was enjoying your narration until I read the part where you blocked her, you were very emotionally aware until then. You should have reached out to discuss, so that even if it'd lead to ending the friendship, you'd have been certain that that's exactly what she was trying to communicate indirectly. You didn't try at all. Please unblock her and still reach out, tell her you took the action of seeking to let her be in a bid to empathize with her because you infact thought she wasn't too comfortable with your closeness, and then hear what she'd say.

AllBlack:


Please tell me that Maslow's principle only applies to Nigerian women or that it is not obtainable in other countries (or environments) with respect to their economy and IMMEDIATE the present situation of the subject.

You still don't get the drift. The majority of those in poor countries are stuck below the bottom of Maslow's hierarchy, and hence interpret everything in life in terms of its ability to meet their existential needs (food, shelter, and clothing). And yes there are people who are that poor in developed countries too, but they are not a good representation of the bigger population at all.

Now to strike the balance between you and the other commenter, I have dated someone before who did everything possible to prove she "loved" me and won me over. I would soon realize deep into our commitment that she was leaving the option open, hoping that any random "richer" dude could come to take my place. Of course, this hurt me and I had to remove myself, as I didn't want to be one of her options, or bring myself down to being judged by material things that just anyone can get. That saved the friendship, and as we remained friends and continued to interact over time, I would later understand where she stands from a point of empathy... this person came from a village in Imo state (as a nurse) to hustle in Lagos and uplift the condition of her family - who (unreasonably) depended on her for almost everything. And so LOVE in its real meaning hardly existed in her reality. In fact, something as basic as the love of parenting (where children should find their first real love) was never experienced by people like her. Most of the care they got from their very own parents was bargained, and it's especially worse for female children in such a situation, as they are warned every day from an early age while being "cared-for" that they are a commodity which a future male suitor will buy and payback for. Albeit, these things are never said directly.

On this realization, I continued to support her with food (as much as I had, whenever I did have) - what she needed the relationship for. She, on the other hand, I noticed that she continued to "love" and accept "love" from everywhere she could find it. A year down the line, she got pregnant for someone and confided in a mutual (female) friend of ours whom she was at the time close to that she wasn't sure whether it was the guy who sponsored her to Lagos or someone else who flew her for a trip to PH that was responsible, but she settled for someone sha. And lol, that was when I further realized that it was even another man who promised her (and her family) marriage that even sponsored her to Lagos in the first place.

AllBlack:


And let me tell you again. Even rich babes & guys look into prospects, social & financial status, social benefits and other factors when relationship or even sex is involved. The demand might be indirect or bit-by-bit but it will happen.
You think wealth equivocal to behaviour? think again. It is just like saying kids from rich homes don't steal or lie. It is a behavioural trait.

Like I said before, not all females (and even males) are so materialistic or focused on benefits in relationships. It all depends. And if you find yourself with a demanding person and it doesn't work for you, then there is option to leave rather than complain.

Case closed.

The other guy was right. Do you know what Maslow's hierarchy is?

I will really appreciate it if you could share what skills you learned from that lab you talked about. Also, did you pay or was it on a scholarship basis... What were the selection criteria? Also, have you now gotten a job with it, and tell us about it? This could be of help to other people here in your situation seeking to transition too. While trusting the lord in faith, and praying, I'm sure there are one or two right steps they can learn to start taking from your experience, and mistakes to avoid too. Thanks and may God bless you.

Angelfrost:


Sshhhh... Calm your soul!

If he delivers all round in this first tenure, nothing is stopping his reelection! Not even if he decamps to APC!

Don't get too emotional about political parties and politicians in Nigeria... They are all the same!

People should vote for individuals not party!

TRUE.

Monzze:


Why are you still sinning?

Or do you mean, why am I having victory over sin daily?

Monzze:


Are you saved?

Yes, by God's grace

Monzze:
It's impossible to be righteous. people don't repent, we just ask for forgiveness and go back sinning again (maybe a different one this time), and it keeps going on and on till your last breath.

Don't let your experience deceive you of the saving power of Christ bro. Run to Christ. He will save you to the uttermost

Likoya:
Bunch of idiots....The only thing in your mouths is sex sex sex sex and more sex, as if that is the only sin in this world....You will not talk about the high rate of corruption among the government and their repercussions, or the high rate of false prophecy among some pastors and their repercussions or the high rate of ritual killings....It's always the high rate of sexual related stuff you guys are fixated on,as if Na the only sin wey dey this world.... Sometimes I wish I could see some of you one on one, body go tell Una... Useless fools

If this is your heart convicting you of the sin of immortality then repent when you still have the opportunity to. Christ will forgive you and set you free from this sin, bro. Stop hardening your heart or seeking to fight the vessel through which Gid is bringing your sins to your attention. May the lord help you, bro. Amen.

OP is my bro and this issue has not been easy at all. Pls can the moderators push this to fp for more suggestions.

Seun, Dominique, mynd44, lalasticlala. 🙏🏽🙏🏽

goziem1982:


P.O is not challenging the result but the process that led to the result.

He's challenging both actually. Without proving the compromise I'm the process, it might be difficult for him to argue the results.

9jatriot:
Perhaps someone could provide an explanation regarding this matter. How do any of these factors prove that Obi won the election?

His argument seems to suggest that if the results were not uploaded to iREV, the entire election should be canceled in order for his line of reasoning to make sense. However, I am trying to understand the basis of his argument, which implies that everything went well until the uploading process, without any indication of altered results in those units. He is solely relying on the fact that the results did not upload to claim victory.

I have mentioned before that Obi, along with his lawyers and associates, is aware that he did not win, which is why he is not even attempting to demonstrate his victory and is solely focusing on the issue of iREV not functioning properly.

Nonetheless, INEC should provide a proper explanation as to why that aspect did not work.

A reasonable response here but you don't seem to be getting the point. The point of bvas is to ensure that accredited voters are authentic, and the point of irev is to ensure realtime uploading from the polling units, which in turn is meant to prevent alteration. Inec adopted this to reduce the possibility of changed results. Now Peter Obi's team Seema to be arguing that that process did not work (the second part of it) and against that backdrop, the results in a lot of polling units were altered to either favour other candidates (like the eventually declared winner) and/or reduce his own votes alongside. This is what he wants to use the certified tru copies of electoral materials from polling unit in kogi, venue, rivers, Lagos, etc. to argue, and he wants to prove that these discrepancies were substantial enough to overturn the election. You get?

From the way I'm seeing you I don't even think quitting the relationship is the main issue here. I can deduce that if you even go into another relationship the same thing will still happen. That girl (and ladies generally) won't do such for someone they respect. For some reason, you don't seem to have any iota of respect for yourself. Do you care to discuss this?

Bro, you write like an educated person. I think you should respect yourself a lot more.

If I may also ask, what do you really stand to benefit from this association or relationship? What's really at stake for her here?

Even the screenshots too you posted didn't contradict your fears at all. She's using you. It's as clear as daylight.

Goodlady:

I ll give you two.
* My ATM (Any Time Moneygiver)
* My GOAT (Greatest Of All Time).

Tips:
Always rub your head on the centre of his head. It's a charm to secure his source to your source. Own your man completely.

These are very derogatory

Kobojunkie:
A sperm donor does not a father make. Science has more than made that abundantly clear to us all at this point in time. You are not a mother simply because you donated an egg or carried a child to birth — women who work as surrogates can attest to this. Again, science has shown us that on numerous occasions. It is now up to us to update our individual cultures to account for this wisdom or continue to wallow in the ignorance of the past pretending we fulfill some sort of righteousness in our foolishness. That is my opinion.

Don't mind the guy, let him keep wallowing in the delusion of his dark ages "wisdom" in 2023.

Like how do women even involve themselves with something so serious with people like that. Not even a single iota of respect for her and the loving family that raised her to become something in society today, baba wants to bring his own tradition and change theirs when they're not even married oh, what will now happened if they're now married?

And I'm sure she will see this red flag and still continue. Later she would be the one to run to NL for advice.

May God bless you, bro. Nigeria needs more people like you.

MisterBanny:


So you expected Tinubu to criticize Buhari?

Maybe not express his disagreement harshly but I expected him (as a statesman) to have been constructively opposed to certain dangerous policies and/or measures taken by Buhari. On the contrary he passively and 'actively' supported them, including being on the side of hardline statist anti-market policies which Buhari continued to take... just for politics sake? It was sad. But like I said before I hope and pray that he represents a different worldview to Buhari and proves all detractors wrong for the better of Nigeria. Amen.

MisterBanny:
It's no longer news that Buhari failed us. That's why Nigerians came out in their numbers to unanimously elect Tinubu to right the many wrongs of Buhari's maladministration and it's attendant consequence on Nigerians

I don't understand it when you people say this thing about voting BAT for Buhari's maladministration bro, because Tinubu was on Buhari's team all along and never seemed to have even seen him as a failure... that alone scared me! That's the exact reason why me and many others supported Peter Obi. I just hope and pray that Tinubu proves us wrong though. 🙏🏽

I'm confused, in whose interest are they fighting for

telim:
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Thanks for the review you saved me from another headache.That as always being the attitude of alot Nigerians. They will over sell themselves then provide a service that is below there client expectations. There types will waste your time and are often good in given excuses all the time.

Are you seeking a research writer?

ganisucks:
Rubbish. You'll do no such thing.
I watched the townhall today, and I must say, it was a poor display of two men who are as alien to each other like North Korea is indifferent to Switzerland. The President and his vice are complete cross opposites of each other. And they made it blazingly clear that they are in disagreement over some hidden issue unbeknownst to the public.

This is my personal appraisal of their performance at the townhall

Overall: 40%

Grammar: 35%

Presentation: 38%

Understanding and comprehension: 39%

Dissemination of information: 40%

Who is your candidate?

A good step in the right direction

lhordspy:
This is the first time i am agreeing with Reno. I think he is starting to come back to his old self.

The Counter-statement from APC was needless. Mr Bayo Onanuga the APC spokeperson should always learn to keep his emotion in-check. It is not everything you dish out responds to. Little little things like these piss people off, especially like me. If PDP decide not to respond to the endorsement just like APC. Then the joke is on APC.

Olusegun Obasanjo has the right to endorse anyone or anybody. Terming his endorsement useless is an overdo. It makes no sense. The yorubas and well meaning Nigerians aint complaining. We wish him well. Even though me and my entire household will be voting Asiwaju Tinubu.

I'm an Obi supporter but this is a wise statement. May God bless you and may God bless the Federal Republic of Nigeria.

Pierocash:
He is calling for air defence system from the West. Yet some morons think it is Ukraine that is fighting Russia.


Russia is taking on the entire Nato countries on Ukraine soil and made mess of the entire Nato,but morons keep hailing Ukraine

This thing is not as straightforward as you think. With Russia, nukes are involved here, and that's the difference from the examples you cited. A hot-headed egomaniac is threatening the world with nuclear weapons if he doesn't get his way in Ukraine. And he would have a lot less to lose in the event that he is defeated in Ukraine and therefore resorts to nukes. That is why the US is treading carefully. It's like you're fighting a madman who has a gun but you have a more advanced gun, albeit guns have never been used before and this madman does not mind dying to prove his point, for as long as you go down with him. That is what is playing out.

Aufbauh:
'Share the loot party' PDP is shamelessly telling us about infrastructural development. Wonderment!

Lagos has being on a geometric growth since the return of democratic rule in 1999, and every growth there can be conveniently attributed to Asiwaju handiwork.

Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu is indeed the undisputed Architect (He conceptualized, designed and supervised) of the modern Lagos.

What is "modern Lagos" and what does pre-modern Lagos look like?

bamiede:


1. If you wasn't Ready for it as you claimed, how come you are claiming you have given it to another person for less than 30 minutes delay in reply on the Correction

Just to prove how smart you are

2. How you never mention you wasn't Ready for it yet while you was requesting for the minor correction ?

Between 12:39 and 2.08 is "less than 30mins" every one can see through your lies.


And how is that even the point? Did I tell you to proceed with that?

I'm no more replying you, as I've said before go ahead and do whatever you want to do, and you'd see what I'd do I'm response.

I'm only here to reply concerned NLers reading this thread.

bamiede:


You didn't Accept the First One and you Requested for A PNG version which I sent you this Morning

You keep trying to change the facts but i won't allow you.

After telling you what to do with the first, i resounded that you shouldn't proceed with the second yet. You replied noted, only to sens me you supposed "final version" of the first alongside the second.

Also is that your "PNG"?

(Image below)

Amazing thread once again bro. ��

A lot of Nigerian girls have been spiled by guys who tolerate nonsense. As in once you're fine, a lot of them will excuse your impoliteness to be with you. And that's also noy good for the girls themselves too.