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Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by komekn(m): 6:30am On Jun 02, 2023 |
MetaBroadband: No Matter how gloom a story is, there are always two sides to a story. Without the Father's consent there is no marriage. I don't know about Akwa Ibom, but bride price is NEVER EVER paid to the mother. I have a cousin, who did what you are doing,he is painfully divorced within two years. In a nut shell there was a huge can of worms that was hidden by not contacting the Father side of his then bride. Ignorance is not wisdom but KNOWLEDGE is . 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Justkatty(f): 6:46am On Jun 02, 2023 |
Vboot1:NO I still don't agree with him meeting her biological father for any reason, except he's trying to call for peace which may be late now because the mom is already married to someone else and so with that it may be difficult but still possible. A man cannot just disappear to the thin air,all because he doesn't want to take responsibilities of his wife and kids And tomorrow such a man will appear seeking for what he has forsaken for a very long time. Talking about him blessing their marriage, I don't think is of any use for now. Make e Sha go beg e children to forgive am but for the wife, she should keep enjoying the real MAN. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Fiscus105(m): 6:47am On Jun 02, 2023 |
Joseph77200: In as much I biliv that one should hear from both side...... at ur bolded, what stops father to look for her daughter during upbringing and let her know what really caused the fight? Let her know that he is responsible father. Something similar happened with a woman we worked together years back, despite the fact that the father frustrating the woman not to see her child, she still found tedious way then, to see him. Then, the boy even though still in still in SS1, he used to console his mother that everything would stop if he eventually enter university. What about "Churchy and Tonto Dike"? I biliv u know Chuchy still trying his best to reach out to his son, even if it on social media. That's how to show to ur kids that u re thr for him/ her during upbringing and not totally negligence. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by lalabrother: 6:55am On Jun 02, 2023 |
Guy, don't make that mistake... give to Caesar what belongs to Caesar. Why would the step father collect bride price when the biological father is alive? If they hate the man that much, then let them have someone from the fathers family come and collect it. As an Akwa Ibom man you should be wise in these things. MetaBroadband: |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by virginprincess(f): 6:59am On Jun 02, 2023 |
TheSuperX:Why are you so pained by my comment😂 😂_😂😂😂 or Are you the father in question😏😏😏😏,Ewu. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by BigIyanga: 7:03am On Jun 02, 2023 |
Go and see the man.. e get why. Your girl was neither a party nor privy the relationship that led to her birth…so she cannot tell the whole unbiased story. She’s a product of that relationship… so she should not stop you from seeing her biological dad. If she’s inherited her mom’s beef with her dad.. you’re likely going to have problems in your marriage. In most Naija cultures, bride price is paid to the biological family not step family. Look wella b4 u chop |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Rheetaa(f): 7:04am On Jun 02, 2023 |
What rubbish point is this, please? Criminal? "Entrusted" to you by the father? And why couldn't he raise his child himself? Did you truly read through this thread? Na wah, sha.. Biletaste: 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by polite2(m): 7:07am On Jun 02, 2023 |
MetaBroadband:Bro I ve been married for 13yrs and i can tell that you are not man enough to get married yet. Ur responses and still defending reasons why u should see the biology dad is sickening.. Respect her opinion 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Bigpat: 7:08am On Jun 02, 2023 |
It's her choice, depends on the role they play in her life. He could be her father but not her Daddy. Some stepfather actually assume that position from childhood. Care, education and all that. He is still her father, only when she say so. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by BigIyanga: 7:10am On Jun 02, 2023 |
satelliteDISH: Bride price is paid to the biological family not step family. It would that his girl and her mom are looking for a husband and son-inlaw to recruit in beefing the man.. pls stay away from such family. You’re about be caged. I have a friend who did what you are about to do.. he’s divorced now . |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 7:22am On Jun 02, 2023 |
zezebabs: You’re very stupid. 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by IamMobisola(f): 7:26am On Jun 02, 2023 |
turischool:It would be in his best interest to cancel the wedding because if he goes ahead to involve the biological father against his fiancé and mother-in-law’s wishes, there would be problem in that marriage. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by thinkmoney(m): 7:30am On Jun 02, 2023 |
PrimadonnaO:Ok please I want to listen to you |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by LUCASC(m): 7:35am On Jun 02, 2023 |
MetaBroadband: My brother, you have to do the right thing, even your own father won't buy the idea of making arrangements without the biological father. This is what I know for sure the biological father will be the one to collect his daughter's bride price so far his alive. To avoid complications, insist that your family must meet the real father, I have witnessed this first hand how the mother played smart and how the smartness almost led her to her downfall. The only way you can proceed without the biological father is if his not married legally to the mother before she married another man. Thank you..... 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by JASONjnr(m): 7:35am On Jun 02, 2023 |
MetaBroadband: My uncle married in this condition.... Although the family of the girl lied to him that he was late and he proceeded to pay her bride price. Along the line, she died and she died 2013. Her father surfaces and asked my uncle to do the right thing and marry her corpse. Till today as I speak to you, her remains has been abandoned at the mortuary and I doubt if those people will keep embalming her body this long. Last December I was with my cousin and he refused to speak on thile issue but was blaming his father for abandoning his mother without proper burial and his father pushed it to her family member for frustrating his efforts. I took my time to explain this situation for you to learn from it. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by TheVictorious(m): 7:37am On Jun 02, 2023 |
If I was in anyway related to that girl I would have advices her not to proceed with you because I'm sorry bro, you are not a reasonable person. 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Song001: 7:41am On Jun 02, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:Call it what ever you like, there’s tradition in Akwa Ibom state, if you choose not to do what tradition demands, you will face the same thing others face. Give to Caesar what belongs to Caesar means something |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Tzar(m): 7:45am On Jun 02, 2023 |
You better don’t start a curse that will be difficult to break. The girl’s mother likely doctored the story to demonize the father. The biological father is the one to be paid the bride price period! How would you feel if you are denied your fatherly rights by your child? Most women selfishly transfer their bitter and vengeful spirit to their children, unfortunately, these children make everything even worse… that is what your wife to be is doing! It says a lot about the character of the girl & her mum. Expect worse from them if you marry are with this character…. YOU WILL BE THEIR NEXT VICTIM! |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by TheVictorious(m): 7:46am On Jun 02, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: Don't mind the guy, let him keep wallowing in the delusion of his dark ages "wisdom" in 2023. Like how do women even involve themselves with something so serious with people like that. Not even a single iota of respect for her and the loving family that raised her to become something in society today, baba wants to bring his own tradition and change theirs when they're not even married oh, what will now happened if they're now married? And I'm sure she will see this red flag and still continue. Later she would be the one to run to NL for advice. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Song001: 7:49am On Jun 02, 2023 |
marcopollo:Yes but Akwa Ibom tradition says otherwise |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by razible5384(m): 7:53am On Jun 02, 2023 |
sisisioge:continue forming woke...this is Africa, u guys feel everything is black an white. The op is very wise, he needs to see the biological father an hear his own side of story an then make his decision. If things get over complicated then he cancels the wedding plan |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by ShaqFu: 7:59am On Jun 02, 2023 |
MetaBroadband:Did her biological father pay her mother's bride price? 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Titogbanski: 8:45am On Jun 02, 2023 |
MetaBroadband: It would have been nice to see the bio father but on what basis? What is the link or connection to follow. In all your dating days you were not introduced to the bio father at any time. If your girl has introduced her "father" and mother to you and you have been interacting with them ever since then you do not have any reason to go beyond that level. You may only go to the biological father if your girl says so or if the bio father somehow got wind of the marriage and requested that you see him. |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by tiswell(m): 8:50am On Jun 02, 2023 |
Jovialjune1:You jumped into conclusions first,I didn't... Have a nice day |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by turischool(m): 8:53am On Jun 02, 2023 |
IamMobisola: You are absolutely correct it's toxic and divided family already it's better not to marry the lady |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by TheSuperX(m): 9:07am On Jun 02, 2023 |
virginprincess:Olori pelebe 😡 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by profsomebody(m): 9:26am On Jun 02, 2023 |
If truly this is what happened, then it's a no brainer that the biological father is a useless person who deserves to be cancelled. However, all we're trying to base our judgement on is one person's side of the story. I've broken up with a gf in the past because I caught her cheating. Do you expect her to be sincere whenever she tells the story of why we separated to her friends and coworkers who all knew us to be lovebirds? Of cause, not. She'll most likely do and say things to portray herself as the victim. We've seen cases where a young guy gets a girl pregnant and the girl's parents make sure he never gets to see the pregnant girl or whatever comes out of the pregnancy again. We've seen people run away to be with a richer, "better" man. Would such people happily tell their children that they left their dad because they found a "better deal"? Now, no reasonable man wants to get married to the daughter of a dangerous woman because most times, the closest person to your wife is her mum, so you want to be sure the mum isn't a bad person. I know that you're a woman yourself and might naturally want to assume a woman is always the victim, but inside this life, a lot dey happen. Many men are terrible, but some women too would do things that will shock even the devil. frozen70: |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Titogbanski: 9:31am On Jun 02, 2023 |
On second thought it could be an opportunity to bring reconciliation and closure to an age long issue. Carry bitter blood attracts no blessing. Insist on meeting with the bio father |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by IamAsiri: 9:37am On Jun 02, 2023 |
Osombo: You really don't know what you are talking about. So you believe that every woman that was abandoned was indecent? Have you not heard of legitimate husbands who run away from their homes when things get tough and never looked back? Even for those who were born out of wedlock, does it not take two to tangle? It is in fact really unfortunate the way pre-marital sex is no longer a problem but having children out of wedlock is. Which one leads to the other? |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Emmahunk(m): 9:54am On Jun 02, 2023 |
Please look for him and get his blessings. Father's blessing is so important that Jacob's mother rigged Esau out of his Father's blessings. Women are cocky fellows and turn their children against their fathers easily. Seeing the real father may open your eyes to what you are about to enter. |
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