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Xda59:
You guess but he was not! You Yoruba people should,call a spade a spade. what was the timid puppet doing there in the first place? Foolish and naive king

if this is how you gain your happiness, then good for you. you approach things with a sentimental mind. I will advice you though to take time and pick your brain from the ground before the damage to it is beyond repairs

What sight can be like for a person with Usher syndrome

It's claimed that a quarter of us avoid conversations with disabled people.
That's one of the findings of a survey of over 2,000 people by the charity Sense, which also suggests that nearly 75% of young disabled people suffer from loneliness.
Molly and Ellen both have Usher syndrome, which means they were born deaf and, when they were teenagers, they started going blind too.
They told us their stories.
Molly Wyatt is 23
"I was diagnosed at 12, so I had a lot of other issues. I was hormonal like any other 12 year old and I wanted to be a lot like my friends," Molly Watt, who's 23, tells Newsbeat.
"I didn't mind being the deaf girl in the class because I was used to it and I didn't know any different - I was very well socialised and had lots of mates.
"But then I went from being the deaf kid to the one that was also going blind.
"I think it's true when they say you'll learn who your true friends are. Some will struggle to actually face what this condition is.
"But I don't want to sit and talk about my syndrome all day long, I just want to be treated as a normal person."
What sight can be like for a person with Usher syndrome
Ellen Watson, who's now 21, was diagnosed slightly later - when she was 16.
"At that age being able to hang out with your friends and meet new people feels like the most important thing in the world," she tells Newsbeat.
"While my friends were learning to drive, travelling to festivals, going on holiday and actively gaining more mobility I felt like mine was being stripped from me.
"Even if my friends came with me to a party I struggled to communicate and I felt like I couldn't rely on people. I didn't know what help to ask for and they didn't know what help to give me.
"So it started to become easier just to refuse the invitations. And then after a while the invitations just stopped coming."
That personal experience of isolation was one of the hardest feelings in the world
Ellen Watson
Molly agrees that things were toughest when she got a bit older.
"A lot of my friends were learning to drive at 17, which I was gutted to miss out on," she says.
"I really, really craved my independence and the one thing that kept my going was knowing that when I was 18 I could go out drinking.
"But there were barriers there too - because with Usher syndrome you're night blind and it's dark when you go out.
"But, again, I learned who my true friends were - the ones who were open minded and happy to lend a hand and make me feel like I'm not a burden."
Now they are in their 20s, both Molly and Ellen say they're less isolated than they used to be.
"I'm really happy to say I had access to excellent support and I did regain that mobility eventually - and my friends were waiting for me," Ellen says.
"But I know that isn't the case for everyone. And that personal experience of isolation was one of the hardest feelings in the world.
"At the time it felt like there was no way out - and it's heartbreaking to hear that other young disabled people are feeling the same way."

I guess he was standing up from his sit to greet the incoming Saraki. think People, that's is what your head is meant for. look beyond the surface and stop looking for trouble about

A former President, Chief Olusegun Obasanjo, revealed on Saturday that the late dictator, Gen. Sani Abacha wanted him, the late Shehu Musa Yar’Adua and the June 12 hero, the late Moshood Abiola, dead while in prison.
He stated this at a dinner programme organised by an inter-denominational Christian organisation, Christ The Redeemer’s Friends International of the Redeemed Christian Church of God, Lagos Province 39 Chapter.
The former president alleged that Yar’Adua was poisoned by Abacha’s killer squad, adding that he was to be next victim, but that he was saved by God’s divine grace.
Obasanjo said, “Two people had earlier told me Abacha promised that three of us would not come out of prison or detention alive; myself. Shehu Yar Adua and MKO Abiola. And two of them did not come out alive. So, that I came out alive, maybe God has a purpose. And therefore if the purpose is for me to serve the people and by so doing, serve God, then so be it.
“Abacha claimed that I was plotting a coup. I wasn’t the first to be arrested. When Shehu (Yar’Adua) was arrested, I tried to plead for his release. When Abacha said he didn’t know about Shehu’s arrest, I said to him, ‘the number two man in this country cannot be arrested without you knowing.’ He then said he would go and find out.
“In Abacha’s plan, he left God out of it and because he left God out of his plan, it (his government) eventually failed. There is God’s hand in the life of each and every one of us and every institution. I believe that very well.
“When I was arrested, they took me to a house in Ikoyi (Lagos) and that became my abode (I was) in isolation, for three months.
“In the meantime, there were national and international pressures for my release, (former US) President Jimmy Carter was one of the world leaders that came to ask for my release. Some African leaders like Yoweri Museveni and Robert Mugabe came. I believe it was because of those pressures that I was released from isolation in Ikoyi where I was under house arrest.”
Obasanjo described the day he was court-martialled and sentenced as one of the ‘worst days in his life.’
He said, “I must say that, that day, in a split second, it felt like the worst day in my life. What flashed through my mind was that I was forever ruined. I asked myself, ‘What did I do to deserve this? Is this what I get for serving Nigeria?’ But then, I told myself again that this was not done to me by Nigeria, but that one man did it for me.”
Obasanjo said he and Yar’Adua were detained in Jos and Port Harcourt prisons because they were the best prisons in the country at the time.
He said, “I was to go to Jos (prison) and Yar’Adua was to go to Port Harcourt (prison). In Jos, I was visited by my colleagues, including Yakubu Danjuma, Joe Garba, Domkat Bali, many of our colleagues, and then family members and friends.
“Then a decision was made that I was becoming too popular in Jos prison and I had to be transferred to. Yola prison which is a native authority prison and I don’t need to tell you what life was there.
“In Jos prison, before I was transferred to Yola prison, they had decided that Shehu Yar’Adua and myself should be poisoned. So, they took him from Port Harcourt prison to Abakaliki. In the process, he was injected with the virus that killed him. The same was supposed to be done to me. The man who came took me from the prison to a guest house in the GRA in Jos, said, ‘We know you have problem with cholesterol so I have to take your blood for a test.’ Then I said, ‘Not on your life, I don’t have any problem of cholesterol.’
“I was slightly diabetic. But God had taken care of it because I was checking my blood sugar almost on a daily basis and it had become better than normal. So, I refused him (the man) touching me with anything. So, they took me to Yola and he said, ‘when you get to where you are going, we will come again.’”
The former president said he was saved from being poisoned by a doctor and specialist in the prison.
“The doctor was a professional man in charge of the General Hospital in Yola. He listened to my case that I needed special food because I was diabetic. He said the specialist would come to see me. The specialist turned out to be somebody from Okeogun in Oyo State. Two, he was a Baptist, and three, he had heard about me and knew me. So, he looked at me and said, ‘Don’t let anybody touch you with anything.’
“Within three weeks the man that came to me earlier returned again and said he wanted to take my blood. I said, ‘No, you have to get my doctor to come and take my blood for you.’ That was the arrangement between me and the doctor. And my doctor came and he brought a syringe and he took my blood and gave it to him. He now asked the man, ‘When would we have the result?’The man said, ‘Within 24 hours of my getting to Abuja.’I haven’t heard the result till today.”
Obasanjo said after his release from prison, he gave into pressure to contest for the presidency and he ended up becoming president for two terms by the grace of God. “Nigeria that was a pariah state became a darling (of the world).
“What is the lesson for me? I developed in prison but unfortunately I was not able to sustain it. Maybe because there was nothing else to do in prison except to pray and fast. I used to fast a lot. On three occasions, I fasted for seven days, no water, no food… a unique power was given to me by God.
“In all these, God did not leave me alone, and I know that. I say to people that God has never let me alone nor disappointed me in spite of all. I am a sinner. It is not because of my goodness, but because of the grace of God, and the grace of God continues to abound.”

all this people that are focused on Big sheff, how do you manage to not notice salawa. the Woman is ageless and graceful

If there's one sharp difference between these two men, it is their back stories.
Vladimir Putin spent his early career in the world of Cold War espionage, and was working as a Soviet spy in East Germany when the communist state crumbled.
He is used to operating in the shadows, and kept a low profile as an aide to the mayor of St Petersburg in the 1990s before taking the reins of the FSB intelligence agency and later the presidency.
Mr Putin has been at the top of Russian politics since 2000 and has the reputation of a cunning street fighter, an image that can be traced back to his days growing up in a tough communal housing block in Leningrad.
He has said those years taught him that "if a fight is inevitable, you have to throw the first punch".
Donald Trump, in contrast, was born into wealth as the son of a New York real estate tycoon.
He managed to avoid being drafted into military service during the Vietnam War, and got started in real estate himself with a $1m loan from his father, eventually building a property, hotel and entertainment empire.
Far from keeping a low profile like Mr Putin, Mr Trump shot to stardom as host of reality TV show The Apprentice.
He later used his fame and wealth as a springboard to make a bid for the Republican Party's presidential nomination in 2015.
Yet though his public style is very different - brash and unpredictable where Mr Putin is comfortable yet controlled - like the Russian leader he doesn't shy away from a fight.
Seeing a return to more glorious times
Neither man hides his ambition to recover some sense of lost grandeur for his country.
Mr Putin famously called the collapse of the Soviet Union "the biggest geopolitical catastrophe of the [20th] Century".
His moves in Ukraine and Syria are seen as attempts to bolster Russia's power and influence, and hit back at the West for the expansion of Nato into Eastern Europe that he so resents.
And Western European officials accuse him of meddling in their elections to try and weaken the European Union.
On his side, President Trump's stated ambition is to "Make America Great Again".
For him this means boosting US military spending, putting pressure on allies to pay for more their own defence, and pulling out of efforts to fight climate change to protect jobs in domestic industries like coal.
They also share a "strongman" style and macho attitudes which have shone through in meetings with world leaders.
Mr Trump refused to shake German Chancellor Angela Merkel's hand during an awkward March photo-op, and pushed past Montenegro's prime minister at a Nato summit in Brussels in May to ensure he was front and centre.
Vladimir Putin uses more calculated means to intimidate others, once letting his large labrador into a meeting with Mrs Merkel, who is afraid of dogs.
Family matters
The Trump White House is a family affair, something that certainly cannot be said of Vladimir Putin's Kremlin.
President Trump's daughter, Ivanka, has an office in the West Wing and advises her father in an unpaid role.
Her husband, Jared Kushner, is a senior adviser to the president and a significant force in the White House. His responsibilities stretch from the Middle East and China to criminal justice reform and relations with Mexico.
President Putin, on the other hand, zealously shields his private life and family from scrutiny.
He and Lyudmila, his wife of nearly 30 years, announced their divorce in 2013, and his two daughters are kept well away from the public gaze.
Little was known about them until media reports in 2015 revealed his youngest daughter Katerina was living in Moscow under a different name and working in a senior position at Moscow State University. She is also an acrobatic rock and roll dancer.
Maria, the elder daughter, is an academic specialising in endocrinology.
The differences in approach to family are stark. Ivanka Trump and Jared Kushner's five-year-old daughter Arabella sang in Mandarin to Chinese President Xi Jinping during his US visit in April.
Mr Putin, meanwhile, recently refused to disclose the names and ages of his two grandchildren.
'Fake media'
Mr Trump might have popularised "fake news" as a pejorative term that politicians the world over can now hurl at journalists, but he's not alone in describing critical coverage as false.
Mr Putin's government keeps a public list of foreign press stories that it says contains "false information about Russia".
In dealing with the media, however, Vladimir Putin normally remains calm.
Unlike Mr Trump, he does not fire off angry tweets about coverage he doesn't like - he is calculating and level-headed when taking questions from journalists.

cloud9usher:
ITS OFFICIAL!!!!!

https://www.arsenal.com/news/alexandre-lacazette-agrees-join-arsenal

Even without champions league we got him!
Best Ligue 1 player 2 seasons ago;
Top League 1 goal scorer 2 seasons ago;
2nd top goal scorer in Ligue 1 last season;
And best French goal scorer in amount of goals scored in the last 3 years

All that and we got him at a fair price. I laugh at Chelsea, Man Utd begging to pay 80 million pounds upwards for the likes of Morata and Lukaku who are not even at his level yet!

Since 2014 to date, Lacazette has scored more goals that Benzema, Giroud, Martial and Griezeman as compared individually, meaning he is the most prolific French striker!

Same thing for Aguero, Kane and Ibrahimovic, Lacazette has scored more goals than all of them from 2014 season to date, go and check!

And for those that would say he is from the French league which doesn't produce good players, please be reminded that the last 3 EPL players of the season all came from the French league, namely: Hazard, Mahrez and Kante.

Next season prepare to hear this from commentator Peter Drury: "Alex Iwobi outruns Kante and sends a pass to Alex Chamberlain who dribbles Willian and passes it to Alexis, Alexis then sends a through ball to Alex Lacazette who smashes it in the net beyond the reach of Courtois, and its 3-0 at half time again to Arsenal just like they trashed Chelsea last season in the same style"

you must have been taking weed since 5years old...stop it now!!its bad for your health

Jeus:
Nollywood Actress, Adesua Etomi has been casted for a new role in a Movie titled "MUNA".


She was pictured wielding a Samurai Sword. Her husband, Banky W lauded her while comparing her to Veteran Hollywood actress, Angelina Jolie


NEWS VIA: http://www.jamienaija.com/2017/07/adesua-etomi-poses-with-samurai-sword.html?m=1

banky w, no behave like bradpitt sha...key una story no end like their own

delishpot:
Dem go dey kill people dey burn non existing evidence to cover tracks ba? It is very unsafe now in Naija. Anyone can just point a finger and shout thief! now and get his enemy killed. If you draging land with someone na to organize someone to follow him or her in the street and slip your property into his pocket and shout thief!!! and when he or she is searched they would find the said item and carry out jungle justice. This gotta stop. Abeg naija police start doing your job well so that people would trust you with their suspects. Unfortunately even those "ontop"are clients to ritual killers hence they would push buttons and cause the release of the real ritual killers. Nigeria is a very evil place right now. Crime esp ritual crimes cuts across every strata of the population. Very few clean hands to bring justice.

my brother, I tire

I am interested, if you can half that price

Professional women are freezing their eggs due to a "dearth of educated men to marry", a US study has claimed.
Yale University researchers suggested an "oversupply" of graduate women left them struggling to find a partner and "desperate" to preserve fertility.
They said the "man deficit" was worse in countries where more women were going to university, as in the UK.
The researchers interviewed 150 women who had frozen eggs, of whom 90% said they could not find a suitable partner.
Author Prof Marcia Inhorn said the research challenged perceptions that women put off having a baby so they could prioritise their job.
"Extensive media coverage suggests that educational and career ambitions are the main determinants of professional women's fertility postponement, especially as they 'lean in' to their careers," she said.
"Rather, they were desperately preserving their fertility beyond the natural end of their reproductive lives, because they were single without partners to marry."
Speaking at the European Society of Human Reproduction and Embryology conference in Geneva, Switzerland, Prof Inhorn thought there were "not enough graduates for them".
In the majority of cases the women, who were treated at eight IVF clinics in the US and Israel and interviewed between June 2014 to August 2016, said they could not find an educated man who was willing to commit to family life.
"Women lamented the 'missing men' in their lives, viewing egg freezing as a way to buy time while on the continuing - online - search for a committed partner," Prof Inhorn said.
'Painful process'
Prof Adam Balen, president of the British Fertility Society, said that he had noticed a "big shift" in UK society, with many university-educated women delaying starting a family.
"In my clinic I certainly see more older women seeking fertility treatment than in the past," he said.
The research comes amid a sex imbalance at British universities. In the academic year 2015-2016, 56% of UK students were women and 44% men, according to the Higher Education Statistics Agency.
Prof Balen warned that freezing eggs can be a painful and costly process.
"Freezing eggs for a future pregnancy is not a decision to be taken lightly," he said.
"The technology in egg freezing has improved a great deal but it is still no guarantee of a baby later in life.
"Women choosing to 'bank' eggs until they are ready to start a family have to go through painful procedures and what can be a difficult regime of medications - this is not without potential risks to the woman undertaking the procedure."
In the UK, the number of women storing their eggs has increased substantially despite success rates remaining low.
In 2014, 816 women froze some eggs for in vitro fertilisation (IVF) later, up 25% on 2013, according to the latest figures from the Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority (HFEA), which regulates the industry.
Eggs are more fragile than embryos, and less likely to survive the freeze-thaw process. The pregnancy rate for transferring frozen embryos was 21.9% in 2013, and 22.2% in 2014.
One patient, Jessica Hepburn, told the BBC she spent over £70,000 on 11 cycles of IVF including other "add-ons" sold by fertility clinics as ways to boost the chances of pregnancy. She never had a baby.
She told BBC One's Panorama programme there should be better information about fertility issues.
"These are doctors. We believe what doctors tell us and this is a doctor that holds my happiness in his hands," she said.
The law allows for eggs to be frozen for up to 10 years, and in some circumstances up to 55 years.
Egg-freezing can cost several thousand pounds, with added costs for storing the eggs, while one cycle of IVF treatment may cost up to £5,000 or more.

majamajic:
Sauce please

ofada sauce

yungd0c:
and yoruba said 'Ija o dola'

ashipa owe.

yungd0c:
and yoruba said 'Ija o dola'

ashipa owe

Joshua-Klitschko rematch could be held in Nigeria - Hearn
A potential rematch between Anthony Joshua and Wladimir Klitschko could be held in Nigeria or Dubai, according to promoter Eddie Hearn.
Joshua stopped Wladimir Klitschko in April to add the WBA world heavyweight title to his IBF crown in front of 90,000 fans at Wembley Stadium.
Hearn, who is Joshua's promoter, says they are finalising offers from potential venues for a rematch.
"I really get the feeling for Wladimir it is not just about the money, it is about being involved in a special event again," he said.
The Principality Stadium in Cardiff has been discussed as a possible venue but Hearn does not feel the capacity is big enough to tempt Klitschko into agreeing a rematch.
This clip is taken from 5 live's Costello and Bunce podcast on Monday 3 July, 2017.

NwaAmaikpe:


I disagree...


There's always a reason for every action or decision to beat a woman.
Now some of those reasons may not be justified.

But women, are wired strangely...they claim to hate men who beat women but won't be loyal or respect those who don't.

When a woman calls you romantic, check yourself well...there's a 75% chance you are a sissy with her.



Well...I've hit a woman more than once; I had my reasons and the beatings were productive. I may not be proud of it and I don't by this endorse my belief in battery but I'm better than the male hypocrites who condemn beating women on forums as this.

When real life all they do is beat women.



Not up to 2 in 10men can honestly say they've never hit a woman...
Hypocrites!

I have on two occasions. this is often after I had done my best not to break the terrible 'record.' yes terrible!! because majority of people like you might see the beating on those instances as justified, I still regret them. I felt my strength had a limit. I could and should have persevere a little more, overlook those slaps that couldn't really hurt me and the gadgets they broke. the way I think is...strength is when you can control without force...think, what if you can't beat the lady? what if along the line sickness leaves you indispose? won't you be able to exercise your headship?

see, wisdom is this;even if you see somebody shoot someone before your very eyes but you can apprehend that person without him causing you harm, arrest him don't kill him, in this way you can save 10 more lives. you can get to his sponsors. and what more, he might really hold a gun, but the bullet might not be from his gun. the thing is, you cant correct any mistake after death. it is final, it should be discouraged

OkuFaba:
How stupid can the father be?? He entered the house, didnt fvck her in the palour na for parents room and shes claiming rape.

The foolish girl is just trying to escape from her fathers wrath now the innocent guy might go to jail for having sex at the wrong place.

*ADVICE* *FOR* *GUYS*
Dont chuku chuku a girl in her house you peepu wee not hear

I just did that this morning, I wount do it again

Argentine football star Lionel Messi has married his childhood sweetheart in his hometown in what has been called the "wedding of the century".
A civil ceremony for Messi, 30, and Antonela Roccuzzo, 29, was held at a luxury hotel in the city of Rosario.
Football stars and celebrities were among the 260 guests, with hundreds of police deployed for the event.
Messi, the Argentina and Barcelona forward, first met Roccuzzo before he moved to Spain aged just 13.
Among the guests at Friday's wedding were Messi's Barcelona teammates Luis Suárez, Neymar, Gerard Piqué and his wife, Colombia's pop star Shakira. A number of guests flew into Rosario on private jets.
Argentina's Clarín newspaper has variously called the wedding "the wedding of the year" and "the wedding of the century".
Earlier, crowds gathered at the local airport to try to spot some of the famous guests.
A private security firm was working inside the hotel to keep out potential gatecrashers.
About 150 journalists received accreditation to enter a special press area, but were not given full access to the venue, organisers said.
Where did the bride and groom meet?
Messi met Roccuzzo when he was just five years old. She is the cousin of his best friend, Lucas Scaglia, who also became a professional football player.
Messi accepted an offer to play for Barcelona when he was 13, on condition that they pay for treatment for his growth hormone deficiency.
He has spoken about the difficulties he faced on leaving behind his loved ones and former club.
The couple, who now live in Barcelona, have two sons together.
In May, his appeal against a 21-month jail term for tax evasion in Spain was rejected. He is unlikely to go to prison as the sentence can be served under probation or possibly avoided by paying a fine .
What do we know about the big day?
The event was held at Rosario's City Center hotel complex, which has an adjoining casino.
Roccuzzo, 29, was widely expected to wear a dress by Rosa Clara, a Barcelona-based designer who has dressed actress Eva Longoria and Spain's Queen Letizia.
Aside from a "sushi station", the menu was a very Argentine affair, including empanadas (traditional pasties) and all parts of the cow, from a casserole of sweetbreads to blood sausage.
Who is on the guest list?
Messi invited the Barcelona squad, including Neymar, Luis Suárez and Gerard Piqué, who arrived in Rosario in a private jet with his wife, Colombian pop-star Shakira.
Teammates from Argentina's national team, including Sergio Agüero, were also present.
Clarín reported that Messi did not invite any of his recent coaches, including Pep Guardiola, who is now at Manchester City.
Argentina's other big football legend, Diego Maradona, was also omitted from the list, according to the local press.
Where is Rosario?
The port city of Rosario sits on the banks of the Paraná, about 300km north-west of Buenos Aires in the centre of the country.
Another famous Argentine to have spent his early years here is Ernesto "Che" Guevara.
Messi is known locally simply as Lío.
He has been a local hero since his days as a star player for Newell's Old Boys.
The team has a staunch rivalry with nearby Rosario Central, similar to that of Boca Juniors and River Plate in Buenos Aires.
Since moving to Spain, Messi has won a record-breaking five Fifa Ballon d'Or awards.

bgwin2016:
Worth every time it took me to read this and most importantly God is still and will always be awesome.

you are part of the little few on this platform looking out for how to make things better. kudos to you

ugofr:
interesting.... what country is that again?

it can't be Kenya, can it?

When Terry Gobanga - then Terry Apudo - didn't show up to her wedding, nobody could have guessed that she had been abducted, raped and left for dead by the roadside. It was the first of two tragedies to hit the young Nairobi pastor in quick succession. But she is a survivor.
It was going to be a very big wedding. I was a pastor, so all our church members were coming, as well as all our relatives. My fiance, Harry, and I were very excited - we were getting married in All Saints Cathedral in Nairobi and I had rented a beautiful dress.
But the night before the wedding I realised that I had some of Harry's clothes, including his cravat. He couldn't show up without a tie, so a friend who had stayed the night offered to take it to him first thing in the morning. We got up at dawn and I walked her to the bus station.
As I was making my way back home, I walked past a guy sitting on the bonnet of a car - suddenly he grabbed me from behind and dumped me in the back seat. There were two more men inside, and they drove off. It all happened in a fraction of a second.
A piece of cloth was stuffed in my mouth. I was kicking and hitting out and trying to scream. When I managed to push the gag out, I screamed: "It's my wedding day!" That was when I got the first blow. One of the men told me to "co-operate or you will die".
The men took turns to rape me. I felt sure I was going to die, but I was still fighting for my life, so when one of the men took the gag out of my mouth I bit his manhood. He screamed in pain and one of them stabbed me in the stomach. Then they opened the door and threw me out of the moving car.
I was miles from home, outside Nairobi. More than six hours had passed since I had been abducted.
A child saw me being thrown out and called her grandmother. People came running. When the police came they tried to get a pulse, but no-one could. Thinking I was dead, they wrapped me in a blanket and started to take me to the mortuary. But on the way there, I choked on the blanket and coughed. The policeman said: "She's alive?" And he turned the car around and drove me to the biggest government hospital in Kenya.
I arrived in great shock, murmuring incoherently. I was half-naked and covered in blood, and my face was swollen from being punched. But something must have alerted the matron, because she guessed I was a bride. "Let's go around the churches to see if they're missing a bride," she told the nurses.
By coincidence, the first church they called at was All Saints Cathedral. "Are you missing a bride?" the nurse asked.
The minister said: "Yes, there was a wedding at 10 o'clock and she didn't come."
When I didn't show up to the church, my parents were panicking. People were sent out to search for me. Rumours flew. Some wondered: "Did she change her mind?" Others said: "No, it's so unlike her, what happened?"
After a few hours, they had to take down the decorations to make room for the next ceremony. Harry had been put in the vestry to wait.
When they heard where I was, my parents came to the hospital with the whole entourage. Harry was actually carrying my wedding gown. But the media had also got wind of the story so there were reporters too.
I was moved to another hospital where I'd have more privacy. That was where the doctors stitched me up and gave me some devastating news: "The stab wound went deep into your womb, so you won't be able to carry any children."
I was given the morning-after pill, as well as antiretroviral drugs to protect me from HIV and Aids. My mind shut down, it refused to accept what had happened.
Harry kept saying he still wanted to marry me. "I want to take care of her and make sure she comes back to good health in my arms, in our house," he said. Truth be told, I wasn't in a position to say Yes or No because my mind was so jammed with the faces of the three men, and with everything that had happened.
A few days later, when I was less sedated, I was able to look him in the eye. I kept saying sorry. I felt like I had let him down. Some people said it was my own fault for leaving the house in the morning. It was really hurtful, but my family and Harry supported me.
The police never caught the rapists. I went to line-up after line-up but I didn't recognise any of the men, and it hurt me each time I went. It set back my recovery - it was 10 steps forward, 20 back. In the end I went back to the police station and said: "You know what, I'm done. I just want to leave it."
Three months after the attack I was told I was HIV-negative and got really excited, but they told me I had to wait three more months to be sure. Still, Harry and I began to plan our second wedding.
Although I had been very angry at the press intrusion, somebody read my story and asked to meet me. Her name was Vip Ogolla, and she was also a rape survivor. We spoke, and she told me she and her friends wanted to give me a free wedding. "Go wild, have whatever you want," she said.
I was ecstatic. I went for a different type of cake, much more expensive. Instead of a rented gown, now I could have one that was totally mine.
In July 2005, seven months after our first planned wedding, Harry and I got married and went on a honeymoon.
Twenty-nine days later, we were at home on a very cold night. Harry lit a charcoal burner and took it to the bedroom. After dinner, he removed it because the room was really warm. I got under the covers as he locked up the house. When he came to bed he said he was feeling dizzy, but we thought nothing of it.
It was so cold we couldn't sleep, so I suggested getting another duvet. But Harry said he couldn't get it as he didn't have enough strength. Strangely, I couldn't stand up either. We realised something was very wrong. He passed out. I passed out. I remember coming to. I would call him. At times he would respond, at other times he wouldn't. I pushed myself out of bed and threw up, which gave me some strength. I started crawling to the phone. I called my neighbour and said: "Something is wrong, Harry is not responding."
She came over immediately but it took me ages to crawl to the front door to let her in as I kept passing out. I saw an avalanche of people coming in, screaming. And I passed out again.
I woke up in hospital and asked where my husband was. They said they were working on him in the next room. I said: "I'm a pastor, I've seen quite a lot in my life, I need you to be very straight with me." The doctor looked at me and said: "I'm sorry, your husband did not make it."
I couldn't believe it.
Going back to church for the funeral was terrible. Just a month earlier I had been there in my white dress, with Harry standing at the front looking handsome in his suit. Now, I was in black and he was being wheeled in, in a casket.
People thought I was cursed and held back their children from me. "There's a bad omen hanging over her," they said. At one point, I actually believed it myself.
Others accused me of killing my husband. That really got me down - I was grieving.
The post-mortem showed what really happened: as the carbon monoxide filled his system, he started choking and suffocated.
I had a terrible breakdown. I felt let down by God, I felt let down by everybody. I couldn't believe that people could be laughing, going out and just going about life. I crashed.
One day I was sitting on the balcony looking at the birds chirping away and I said: "God, how can you take care of the birds and not me?" In that instant I remembered there are 24 hours a day - sitting in depression with your curtains closed, no-one's going to give you back those 24 hours. Before you know, it's a week, a month, a year wasted away. That was a tough reality.
I told everybody I would never ever get married again. God took my husband, and the thought of ever going through such a loss again was too much. It's something I wouldn't wish on anybody. The pain is so intense, you feel it in your nails.
But there was one man - Tonny Gobanga - who kept visiting. He would encourage me to talk about my husband and think about the good times. One time he didn't call for three days and I was so angry. That's when it hit me that I had fallen for him.
Tonny proposed marriage but I told him to buy a magazine, read my story and tell me if he still loved me. He came back and said he still wanted to marry me.
But I said: "Listen, there's another thing - I can't have children, so I cannot get married to you."
"Children are a gift from God," he said. "If we get them, Amen. If not, I will have more time to love you."
I thought: "Wow, what a line!" So I said Yes.
Tonny went home to tell his parents, who were very excited, until they heard my story. "You can't marry her - she is cursed," they said. My father-in-law refused to attend the wedding, but we went ahead anyway. We had 800 guests - many came out of curiosity.
It was three years after my first wedding, and I was very scared. When we were exchanging vows, I thought: "Here I am again Father, please don't let him die." As the congregation prayed for us I cried uncontrollably.
A year into our marriage, I felt unwell and went to the doctor - and to my great surprise he told me that I was pregnant.
As the months progressed I was put on total bed rest, because of the stab wound to my womb. But all went well, and we had a baby girl who we called Tehille. Four years later, we had another baby girl named Towdah.
Today, I am the best of friends with my father-in-law.
I wrote a book, Crawling out of Darkness, about my ordeal, to give people hope of rising again. I also started an organisation called Kara Olmurani. We work with rape survivors, as I call them - not rape victims. We offer counselling and support. We are looking to start a halfway house for them where they can come and find their footing before going back to face the world.
I have forgiven my attackers. It wasn't easy but I realised I was getting a raw deal by being upset with people who probably don't care. My faith also encourages me to forgive and not repay evil with evil but with good.
The most important thing is to mourn. Go through every step of it. Get upset until you are willing to do something about your situation. You have to keep moving, crawl if you have to. But move towards your destiny because it's waiting, and you have to go and get it.

Desyner:
remove the pic of that man. he isn't evans.

Its part of the story...it goes to show how our security even mistook another man for Evans, because they shared the same surname . A daily even posted the pics with a price tag on it

TrueSenator:
con minded blogger...... repent and miss your opportunity to build trust in your career as blogger

you need to learn the act of marketing. I didn't lie in the post...

bolseas:
I didn't see any pee and I didn't see any pants...

and No, I didn't read that thing...

sorry, its because you have started peeing with your eyez

bolseas:
I didn't see any pee and I didn't see any pants...

and No, I didn't read that thing...

sorry, its because you have started peeing with your eyez

HausaOverlord:
Op why eh why, who do u expect to read this long peice of shit, I only read long ass post like this if it's in the sexuality section

if you had taken your time to read it, you would have seen where your girl went to visit him

MarkGeraldo:
olosho, I can't read this case....I'm not a lawyer pls

no wonder, you didn't finish school

Jerryojozy:
Haba! Op just say his dad na. If u see the way I take rush open this thread ehn!



Genius J

sorry, I just gave you the opportunity to share in the shock. my heart came up to my mouth too when I first got the information

Jerryojozy:
Haba! Op just say his dad na. If u see the way I take rush open this thread ehn!



Genius J

sorry, I just gave you the opportunity to share in the shock. my heart came up to my mouth too when I first got the information

His name resonates, like an octopus, across criminal circles all over the country. His colleagues in crime hold him with awe and utmost regard because of his exploits. Security agencies in the country dread him. He is simply Evans which may not be his real name. That is just what he has succeeded in making nosy security operatives believe in. Any other thing about him remains in the realm of conjecture. His operational stratagem and manipulation beat security men with ease.
Evans has continued to terrorize the popular Festac, Amuwo-Odofin and the environs for years. His victims are vast and they vary. His gang seems to be the most dreaded, crafty and appears to be the most organised criminal outfit in the country so far. Both the police, operatives of the State Security Service, SSS, the Army, Air force and Navy have made several efforts to arrest the suspected leader of the gang popularly called Evans, without success. On the contrary, many members of the gang have been arrested in different bloody operations yet; mum seems to be their watchword over the whereabouts of their leader, Evans.
His modus operandi includes a detailed study of their potential victims, his business concerns, associates, family background (including where his wife works, the school his children attends, and address of his relatives ). He uses both acquaintances and business associates to track down his victims after which he will hit the target. Soon after, he will reel out demands which normally range from a million euro, or dollar. Most times he insists half of the ransom is paid in foreign currency. He issues strict instructions, advising relatives of victims to avoid dealing with security agencies or risk losing their loved ones. Ironically, their patience never wanes as they have so far succeeded in keeping their victims safely out of security focus for months and releasing them at will. So far, families of victims have been patiently abiding by their strict instructions and paying heavily in order to safeguard their relations. In most cases, victim’s life savings and precious investments have been quickly disposed in order to meet up with their demands occasioned with threats after which they suffer in penury upon release. Some of the victims who survived the excruciating ordeal normally relocate to either abroad or another city in the country without trace. This is to avoid being made to suffer the same fate, the second time.
Sophisticated equipment
While the police and their sister agencies are busy tackling the menace of militants who engage in kidnapping students in and around Ikorodu, Ishawo, Epe and other Creeks, Evans and his gang operate around Festac, Amuwo-Odofin, Ago-Palace areas. Lately, they have spread their evil dragnet towards Ilupeju, Anthony and Mende areas of the state. Their targets are wealthy business men and women that reside around those areas. Particularly, they have foot soldiers in and around major markets and trade centres where business thrives more in Lagos. So far, they have succeeded in beating all the tracking devices used by the police and security agencies to locate them. Interestingly, they invest heavily on sophisticated tracking equipment, thus making it practically impossible to be tracked down. Shockingly, investigations revealed that they connive with some workers in communication outfits in perfecting their nefarious activities. Ironically, these are the same people security agents use in tracking criminals in the country.
Known cases
The case of a wealthy Ibo man who deals on pharmaceuticals with office in Ilupeju area of Lagos is frightening. He was abducted around his office on February 14, 2017 after he closed for the day around 8pm. Few hours later, his abductors called members of the family demanding 1million euro, failure of which he would be killed. While under their captivity, they were mounting pressure on members of his family, who managed to raise N50million, to work harder after forcing their victim to disclose all his assets and liabilities both at home and abroad. They even contacted his foreign business partners with threats to kill him if they failed to meet their demands. Few days ago, the family of the victim was made to part with N150 million after which they simply called to tell them that it was not even enough to take care of their brother with them.
Rat race with the police
Incidentally, after the abduction of the Pharmacist and the warning from his kidnappers not to contact the police, members of his family maintained a closely guided secrecy over the case. Fortunately, based on intelligence report, the Inspector-General of Police Intelligence Response Team, was able to get hint of the case and they put machinery in motion with a view to arresting the dreaded kidnap lord called Evans. They reportedly trailed a member of the victim’s family to Festac area where he went to pay the ransom. The kidnappers dribbled the family member with the money from 7.30pm till 11pm after which they thought they had cleared all hurdles and took the ransom somewhere around Ago Palace Way. However, unknown to all the parties, a formidable team of IGP’s Intelligence unit was trailing them. Whatever happened after the ransom was paid and the criminals were allowed to slip into safety remains a puzzle. Meanwhile, expectations from family members of the victim for his safe return turned into illusion soon after his abductors called to state categorically that the ransom was a chicken feed.
The case of another top Manager in a flourishing Pharmaceutical Company also in Ilupeju seems to be more pathetic. He was abducted few days after the February 14th incident and taken to an unknown destination. Till date, it was reliably gathered that members of his family may have dispensed with over N300 million yet, his abductors are insisting on 1million euro or nothing. All efforts, covertly or overtly, made so far by families of these victims to plead for their release have always been met with threats and call for more money. To worsen their plight, the victims are forced to speak with them while claiming to be under intense pains.
Tales from freed victim
Listening to survivors from Evans kidnapping gang is like stories told from the one of the world’s most brutal prisons. Stories of torture and even summary executions were freely re-enacted by the survivors. One of them, a very wealthy international business man from Anambra State who resides in Festac narrated a very sordid and frightening encounter while playing squash with his friends. He was abducted in front of his palatial home around 21 Avenue after he closed for the day’s job at Trade Fair complex in July, last year. According to the visibly traumatized victim; “Soon after they struck, I was blindfolded. Surprisingly, I noticed that at every intermittent stop, they chatted freely with people I suspected to be policemen at check points after which they will zoom off. After what seemed like interminable hours, their vehicle was brought to a screeching halt in a seemingly serene area. I was taken upstairs to a dingy, lonely room where they dumped me on a bed. My hands were tied at the back and they only removed the blindfold when it was time to eat. My food was just bread, Indomine and tea. They, however, provided my daily hypertensive medication after I told them the drug recommended for me. That was where all niceties ended. The bullying, threats and physical torture meted to me were unimaginable. At times, they would force me to cry like a baby in order to impress upon my family that I was at the point of death and they should rally round and meet their 1Million euro demand. Whenever their calls for more money failed, I would be at the receiving end because they would flog me as if I were an animal. The only outside noise that penetrated the room are noise of plane. From their discussion, I was able to decipher that their boss was given orders from another location. I also noticed that almost all the rooms in the place were occupied by other victims. This is because I use to hear agonising cries of men pleading for leniency especially, when their families could not raise the demanded ransom. I assume that some of them may have giving up the ghost later because their painful cries were so persistent and heartrending. I was released after spending four and half months in their den and parting with 1million euro. After I was freed, I could not summon courage to report to the police because I am not sure they will save me if they come again.”
Role of police, security agencies
Most of the victims who spoke with Crime Guard lamented that the manner they were abducted and freely taken to their den did not give them courage to repose confidence on the police for safety. While the police especially, Inspector-General of Police Intelligence Response Team, IRT, under the indomitable Assistant Commissioner of Police, Kyari, has so far performed creditably well in arresting a reasonable number of kidnappers, it is noteworthy that their successes were recorded after the deed had been done and ransom paid.
Police sources, however, stated categorically that the issue of checking the deadly menace of kidnapping has to do with the provision of sophisticated modern equipment that will be used in tracking them whenever they strike. They attributed successes recorded so far to the ‘skeletal equipment’ at the disposal of the police. “The IRT is succeeding because they have some sophisticated equipment but you cannot compare it with the one Evans and his gang are using. There is the great and urgent need for enough money to be pumped into providing world best sophisticated equipment. By so doing, these kidnappers will find it very difficult to operate. We are not also finding it easy with telecom operators. We have black legs there that assist criminals in perpetrating their nefarious acts and government must check this by thoroughly screening workers in the outfit. Most importantly, the police and other sister agencies are totally lacking in surveillance and intelligence. These kidnappers keep their helpless victims in their den littered around us. An efficient surveillance and intelligence work will, no doubt, assist tremendously in rounding them up while they are with their victims and not after ransom had been paid and the victims made to suffer untold hardship.”
Evans easily turning warlord
Concerning the apparent emergence of what appears to be ultra-sophisticated kidnap gangs, the question Nigerians should be asking is, when will Nigeria’s national security establishment contain or curtail the dangerous dimensions of such kidnap gangs? How can a kidnapping outfit be collecting $1 Million ransom from each victim and easily beating police tracking and the government can’t help out?
Is the Nigerian national security establishment waiting until this Evans metamorphoses into a “terrorist” warlord attacking the whole country before it wakes to its duty? Obviously, the gang now has a sophisticated intelligence outfit that identifies prospective targets, complete with financial, banking, assets and personal security information. They once asked a victim to sell the property he had in a particular area of Lagos and meet their ransom. The man had paid N50m but the gang asked for more. The dimension of the gang having IT specialists and employing electronic countermeasures to defeat police tracking and tracing of their calls and to monitor movements and contacts of victims’ family members and the police lends an unabashedly frightening coloration to the menace. This clearly is well beyond the capacity of our traditional, orthodox law enforcement to handle. That the “Evans” kidnap organization could act with complete impunity in Nigeria, keeping victims captive for periods ranging up to six (6) months underlines the reality of the complete helplessness of our traditional law enforcement. Is it that the National Security Adviser (NSA), DG of SSS, Director of Military Intelligence and NIA(considering the alleged international connections with foreign criminal organizations and foreign residence of this “Evans”) are oblivious of what is happening? Are the Governors of Lagos and Ogun States as powerless as they think? Not really. They can prevail on the Federal Government to bring its best national security and intelligence assets to bear on the menace thrust on Nigeria by the “Evans” network. The failure of the security operatives to nab Evans appears to be inspiring him to go for bigger fishes. And he appears to be winning the war. SAD.