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Samantha125:
I don't do private chats, sorry.

Noted

anonimi:
You are very correct about UBA and Tinubu fleecing the country.

UBA was the bank used by Tinubu to steal the $3.3 billion SPV loan from Afreximbank secured by future oil revenues.

The money has failed to help Tinubu achieve his N300/$1 short term goal before reaching N200/$1 in May 2027!

✅This is just one out of many sha. Almost all the big players in the banking sector are nothing but legalized thieves used by these looters to steal. Nigeria is indeed a crime scene.

Justicepluto:
how did i Bleep up?
Please educate me.

I’ve already analyzed it. You didn’t choose yourself, you chose her over you, at your own detriment.

Justicepluto:
Thanks bro, I read this..

Please, and please. Always invest in yourself. When you do, the right woman will get attracted to you. And make sure you even vet the right woman, make sure she is heavily invested in you before making a move. Women hardly leave any relationship they’ve invested their time and money into. Good morning and have a blissful day ahead😊

Rhymesy:
Nigerians will just be posting just to make fame.
Let's understand this. UK is a temperate country locating in the temperate region and temperate snakes are nonvenomous; meaning that there are not poisonous. Nigeria is a tropical country locating in the tropics. Biogeographically, equatorial region is a home to most deadliest species of animals (reptiles inclusive). In UK, out of 50 snakes,the chance of seeing one that is poisonous in the midst of them is less than 1. Comparing snake bites in UK and Nigeria is a bias argument that lacks credibility.Netizens are not fools.We came from different field of studies. Stop blaming the government. Fumigate your environment and stay safe. May her soul rest in peace.

You started well yet ended up saying thrash. Why won’t the government be blamed? A hospital for that matter cannot administer the right treatment to resuscitate a snake bite patient. I am very sure if it’s your family that is involved, you won’t type the beautiful nonsense you put up here.

When I tell people that UBA is a financial institution that is secretly helping Tinubu and APC to steal Nigeria resources, they will not believe. After UBA, pick Zenith join with Access

How many people remember during the one of the business trips Tinubu made to Paris last year or 2024, Tony Elumelu was among his entourage during that time. To do what?

adedayoa2:
excuse me, which one be omo Yoruba Abi omo hausa abi omo ibo? So make I lie sey them no treat the snake bite?

Aunty or Bọda, go back to Secondary school to resit WASSCE and focus on Use of English, and in particular Comprehension passage. Or you go back to my comment, and read slowly and thoroughly🥳

Samantha125:
Women are also secretly polyandrous in nature... If we were to conduct paternity DNA on everyone from babies to our elders, you'd see what I mean...

You’re not far from the truth.


P.S: Are you South African? You seem interesting. I don’t chase but I recognize presence. Mind catching up by mailing me?

QuinQ:
Here's the post:

Justicepluto:
Life is like a two-sided coin.

Three years ago, I met a young woman fresh out of NYSC. When we started dating, she told me she had graduated with first-class honors and was exceptionally intelligent. Impressed by her potential, I began supporting her in every way I could. I encouraged her to pursue her ICAN certification and provided financial help, even though I was struggling myself. At one point, I had to ask her to stop making random financial demands, assuring her that I would always support her when it was truly necessary.

For the first two years, as she grew professionally, I focused on building our future. My dream was for us to travel together after our first year of marriage. She was indeed brilliant, intelligent, and hardworking, which only fueled my commitment.

By our third year, we had seen significant progress: we acquired lands and a car. But amid this growth, one persistent issue overshadowed everything, the lack of basic respect. She never respected me the way I respected her. I held her in such high regard that I even tempered my sexual energy around her. During intimate moments, I often appeared subdued so as not to overwhelm her, especially since early in our relationship, she had mentioned that sex was painful for her.

One day, during a disagreement, we went out to resolve our issues. In the middle of our conversation, she abruptly stood up and left. I was stunned but swallowed my pride. After talking to her about it, she repeated this behavior during another attempt to settle things this time, I took her phones in frustration, and she snatched mine, even pulling my second phone from my pocket.

I began questioning why she couldn't show me respect. I never hit her, abused her, cheated on her, or shouted at her. Whenever I tried to correct her gently, she would raise her voice to counter me, and I'd stay calm to avoid escalation.

She rarely did any chores when she visited. To be fair, she would cook, but that was it—nothing else. Helping with something as simple as cleaning the toilet seemed like an act of divine intervention. My laundry was never her concern; she could wear my clothes and just leave them for me to wash, as if it were none of her business.

Over time, it became difficult for me to address her behaviors without sparking fights, so I started avoiding those conversations altogether. I even bought several plots of land through her, and her company at the time gave her commissions, yet not once did she ever say "thank you." I overlooked all of it.

Her constant disrespect and eagerness to walk away during conflicts made me realize I needed to test her loyalty. I couldn't pinpoint the issue, as there wasn't a single aspect where I thought I was falling short—and when I asked her, she couldn't name one either. Was it the gifts? The phones? Extending my generosity to her family in small ways? The advice I gave? I was truly confused.

During one argument, she left our shared bed, slept alone, and packed her things the next day.

I decided I had to confirm what was really going on, especially since February 14th was the day I had planned to introduce myself to her family officially. When she later came to apologize, I lied to her that I was a sickle cell patient. She cried, accused me of wasting her years, and left. As she was going, I expressed my interest in her regardless, pleaded with her not to tell anyone, and asked if this was a sacrifice she could make for us—that she should think about it and get back to me.

Did I go too far? I don't think so. At one point, I had sacrificed my job, my source of livelihoodbecause her actions had triggered me so deeply. We met again later, and I begged her not to walk away. I promised everything: adoption, sperm donation, IVF. She refused, saying the money we could save and channel into other things shouldn't be wasted.

This was a woman who, in our three years together, had never done anything for me or my family financially. I borrowed money from her when times were tough and repaid it almost immediately. She earned well currently in the hundreds of thousands but never once had she given me even 5,000 naira as a gift. The first and last time she gave me any money was for a hospital bill, and it was 10,000 naira. Yet here she was, complaining about wasting money.

I laughed it off inwardly as she left and sent her belongings after making sure she asked for them. Weeks later, her mother called me as usual to ask about our issues. Because of her daughter's pride, her mom would rather intervene to settle things than her make any genuine efforts to show she was sorry. I felt there was no point discussing it, if her daughter's pride and ego weren't in the way, she would have stepped up to make amends herself, rather than involving her mom.

Now, I'm starting over. This time, it's not about who's the most successful or intelligent, but about finding someone who will stand by you when the chips are down—someone willing to make sacrifices, even when it's uncomfortable for them.

Many highly intelligent and working-class women remain single or end up divorced for a reason. Some are married but face similar challenges. Ultimately, it's about recognizing your potential and finding someone who will stand by you to achieve it.

In the end, she was stuck in a fantasy shaped by her past relationships, which I don't want to write about. In the end, everyone will be happy.

N.b
I couldn't type everything i overlooked and endured but i am glad it's a fresh start..

I read it as you quoted it. That begged the reason why I drop my piece. I will never blame the lady but the guy. He fvcked up big time.

Serenitys:
Go to any church and do a thanksgiving.
Nah God save you..

It pains me I couldn’t address the guy directly. It seems like he has deleted the post. He will still make that same mistake again of building up another lady he intends to marry for the second, third, or even fourth time. I hope he can see this comment of mine by the way. He made a lot of mistakes and most men should not fall into that pit. We all learn everyday.

As a man, make sure you’re better than your woman times 10. Women are naturally hypergamous in Nature. This guy is in question keeps developing his woman but never develop himself in other aspect and I can beat my chest that he doesn’t have the needed charisma. He also makes a mistake of contributing financially to the relationship without allowing the lady in question to contribute. Women find it hard to leave any relationship or marriage they’re deeply invested into. As a man, your status matters to your wife. When you act as a needy in a relationship, with only you making the relationship work, you’ll get played by your partner who will possess the belief that she has all the cards, with the guy having the mindset of nowhere to go simply because he wants to make the relationship work after he has invested time and resources into the relationship while on the other hand, the lady has only dropped just 10k. She has nothing to lose. As a man, before you spend 2k on your woman or in a relationship, make sure you’ve collected 20k from her or she’s spend 20k in the relationship. Think or sink!

Justicepluto:
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honour8:
What ever you do, don't leave your wife oh, the day you do, the day you will see and know the true meaning of suffer. Sorry to break it to you but all the things you said point to one thing, your wife is likely what we usually call an Ogbanje. If they, love you dem done done love you, things will be going well for you. They will continue to support you spiritually and you will think all your success is yours, do you know how many people graduated with first class in Nigeria or how many software developer there are, guy if you think I am lying ask a spiritual man, they will tell you. How you go expect person wey done carry her lucky charm join your own make e serious for work again.

Another thing that made me say that is that abroad stuff, the source of her power is in Nigeria, that is why she is discouraging you from travelling bet it if you too push her she will ask you to go, even with the children but she will stay behind, this is because they cannot leave far away from their source.

You are lucky you brought this here if not Oyo would have been your future. You will leave her and she will still find another man and the man will be very successful while you will fall flat. You go wonder, except you want make another person train your children.

😂No be only ọgbanje na ọgbanka😂😂😂Nollywood and Asabawood don full your head. People with a mindset of yours are dangerous to themselves and society at large. And a lot of people like you people the country in millions. It is well😂😂🥳

elipheleh:
Marrying an unintelligent woman is really the worst mistake a man can make.

If I can reverse the Hands of clock I wont go for my current wife.

Well, I always loved an intellectually sound woman. It trips me. Something like a medical doctor or a programmer lady. At minimum a working class lady. Both intellect and beauty trips me.

I imagined a marriage where I'll be on thesame frequency.

I am a 1st class material but financial burden made me drop to second class upper in my 3rd year to 5th year.

I always knew I was going far in life and needed a woman who wanted to go far too.

When I met my wife she was very beautiful, speaks very well and in her 1st year. Each time I asked about her studies she would convince me how she was the best in her class and this and that.

Ask for her results, she would say results are not yet out.

By her 2nd year I married her after she got pregnant. As per the honorable man na

Do you know this girl after I2nd year, all her results were carry over. I mean ALL. Not even 1 pass.

Damn. Women fear women.

Now she just birthing beautiful kids. But now there's communication. Tge knowledge gap between us is too wide. Nothing to discuss about. Even when I try to communicate it frustrates me. I will speak and still explain my very own grammar. Then I will now explain the meaning and the etymology before continuing with the sentence. Its a real pain communicating.

You can imagine my regrets when I see an intelligent hardworking lady doctor outside.

Secondly, she doesn't want to work or even study to improve herself.

I am not poor by any means. I am a software developer. I earn about N4 million monthly.

But my wife is only happy selling ZOBO and kwulikwuli. Even at that she is not serious with it. Imagine this year she has not even started selling anything. January has passed.

I've told her to learn and IT skills. She says No.

Told her learn nursing, she said No

I did international passport for me, her and our 3 kids. She just came up and said she won't like to travel abroad. Her fears is that women there are likely going to be working on jobs.

Ok. Madam lets open Boutique for you - she no get the energy to run boutique.

Oya learn driving and be taking the kids to school - it is taking her almost 3 years to learn. Today she will drive, tomorrow she will forget it.

Oya madam go back to school and complete your education. She no want.

Every quarrel, she will threaten to commit suicide (informing random relations of mine to take care good of her children if anything happens to her) and accuse me of not seeing any value in her. Madam which value? You don't want to improve yourself and you now cry that I am improving.

She wants this and that and I spend so much. How can a man be spending more than 3 million every month? She want chop chop chop.

Since I met her, I have overworked myself.

Story long..

Sometimes, I always feel like quitting this marriage. But being a Christian, I feel trapped in this better for worse journey.

If only Madam can develop herself. I wish she can be just willing to learn or pursue knowledge. Let her drop this laziness about self-development and littleness mindset thing. Kai. No ambition. No dreams. I wish she can just have dreams for once in her life. And be a lover of wisdom.

I plan to go far in this life. But its difficult to do so when you're unequally yoked with an unambitious partner.

Only God can save my marriage at this rate things are going

Guy, with what you say. That institution you’re presently in is doom to fail at anytime. Anytime, you’re fed up, no one will tell you to leave until you leave with being afraid of any social conventions, dogmas, or Christianity this or that. I’m not sorry to say this: your wife is a liability raise to power 100.

Wealthyonos:
Some of this type of ladies are like tools. A good man will know how to set them on his own course if he has one. You just have to provide food and shelter shikena

Why are you giving excuses for this menace? Why don’t you remain jobless, and unskilled then wait for a woman to equip you to her taste too? What is the job of the lady’s parents no to train their children until waiting for a suitor to do the needful. Let’s stop giving excuses for failure like this.

Sirchiboy:
I have an uncle who is a teacher that married a Lady , no skill or education.
He married her because she is fair.
Guess what , this uncle couldnt achieve anything throughtout his 35 years of teaching.
All his salary was used to pay debt his wife push him into.
If not for their first daughter that married a well to do man who helped him to build a house on his land he bought from his gratuity.
This man would have just grow old and go without anything.
I don't pity him because he caused and brought that upon himself.

If as a man, you avoid women. You’ve solved 99% of your woes.

adedayoa2:
Dr Nigeria is not a useless country, my mum was rushed to the hospital some years ago, it was snake bite, and she was treated. Nigeria is not a useless country.

Ọmọ Yoruba, pẹlẹ o. What would you have said? If a Fulani man, or Ibo is in power, would you say Nigeria is not a useless country? Think deep before you answer ooo.

You will never see the “dem-dem” on this thread to come and defend this government and the system like this. But when it concerns Peter Obi, you’ll see them coming in droves with comments flying around as if they’ve just been released from Yaba Left

Techpik:
Happy Sunday guys, this have accusation of labeling me yahoo guy in the compound have happened on many occasions during compound meeting, side talks etc.

But I’m not to be sincere I’m a freelance website developer working from home, I have worked for lots of people even on this nairaland, within Nigeria and abroad at the comfort of my home.

What use to trigger this labeling is because most of my neighbors go out in the morning and come at night and I’m always indoor (at home) living good.

So this have been causing side talks and even confrontations from some neighbors.

Most times I have been explaining and try to prove to them, that I’m a freelance website developer that I worked from home.

Before anybody will think the same on nai.raland, you can check me on google Techpik and all social medias and my site.

You will even see good reviews from people I have completed projects for.

I also need your advice guys, to deal with those neighbors.

Na neighbour opinion about your work dey unsettle you like this. Dem never talk say you do money ritual. Continue to let people’s opinions get into you😂

Burob:
Unserious Clowns, no pity for their followers.

Yet, their followers still get sense pass ewedu boys times 150

QuinQ:
Na lie. You can meet a woman and you two are always smiling and laughing when together and you don't know why. You're just happy to be in each other's presence

That one dey sha but one day e go comot for your eyes like carnival😂 You go soon learn in a hard way. It seems to me you’re in your mid-20s😂

JoeEeL:
Dont cast the update so they dont begin speaking d truth

lol😂 You sabi their way

QuinQ:
You are the one REALTHERDED. What has one thing to do with another? She, and only she, supplies what you need. Let's say you need $1m and she satisfies that need, what has the fact she slept with 1000 men to do with it??

No woman, I repeat no (one) woman can make you satisfied. And no one can be your soulmate. Na you never waka well to see different women where dem dey

ebubeson:
Many ladies are single probably because if the husband they truly desire comes, they may go to sleep with their EX etc few days to their wedding day.

Marriage is not a ground for unseriousness. Does is make sense to cry to God for a husband, and if God gives you a husband, you go to sleep with your EX few days or weeks to wedding day?

As a married man having side chic is bad, also, for a lady, having sex with your EX few days or weeks to your wedding is bad.

FINALLY, it is bad to have sex with another person when in courtship or preparing for marriage. It is also wrong to cheat in marriage.

Avoid pre-marital and extra-marital sex.

African men don’t cheat. We are polygamous in nature. It’s women that cheat.

ibechris:
When I was leaving with my brother in Abuja,the wife accused my younger brother of stealing her blackberry phone she bought.

I asked her,where she kept the phone and she flared up and escalated the matter beyond control.

And i went ahead to ask her again,if she has called her husband to find out if he was with it,Madam said her husband does not enter her closets and has never done it before,she even shouted me down terribly.

Finally,I placed a call to my brother,oga said he is with the phone...after the confirmation, Madam come calm down like cold water.
She started looking for ways to reconcile with me and my brother.

"Some men na thief for their house,coded thief."

I can imagine the shame wey go catch your brother’s wife after the whole truth. In my own case, she don fvck up for life. I hardly forgive people, I see it as a weakness. The only thing I show them is my indifference as if they don’t exist.

seunmsg:
Nigeria is now the 6th largest contributor to global GDP. This speaks volume to how far we’ve gone in rebuilding our economy for global competitiveness. Now, we can all see why Shell wants to invest $20billion in our country over the next ten years.

All these are happening and some hate filled folks will still keep lying that the economy is not improving. We must never allow them to derail this trajectory of growth and prosperity that we are experiencing. This progress must continue. Kudos to Mr. President and his team for the great job they are doing.

“Shey na statistics we go chop?” Na your Amọda Ṣangolere talk am. I expect you not to relax on this charade by IMF. By the way, na IMF statistics you Dey celebrate like this? IMF that don’t mean well for African countries? The joke on you guys😂

uche87:
The Nigerian marriage institution is patriarchal in nature. It is a male-dominated system. The man is tagged as the head of the family, while the woman is the backbone. The backbone supports the head, which leads. When former President Muhammadu Buhari was asked about his wife’s involvement in politics, he infamously said she belonged in the “kitchen and the other room (bedroom).” This statement exemplified the misogynistic nature of Nigerian society.

A man in Nigeria is a king, and his family is his empire. Most times, he is accorded great respect if he has the financial means. Sometimes, he cheats on his wife, and she feels helpless. In some cases, she may be physically abused. Since the man mainly takes care of the family’s finances, with the woman contributing little or nothing, it becomes difficult for her to leave. It becomes even harder when children are involved, and their welfare must be considered.

Nigerian society also frowns on divorce. A woman might lose everything if it happens. There is little legal framework to protect her and her children. Returning to her father’s house is seen as shameful. On religious grounds, Christianity forbids divorce. Additionally, divorced women are accorded less respect. Some unscrupulous men see divorced women as desperate or undesirable, labeling them as “second-hand” or “fairly used.” Their chances of remarrying become low, and people become overly judgmental when single mothers are presented as brides.

Considering all these factors, many women stay in marriages and smile like they are doing toothpaste advertisements. They pray for change, listen to relationship advisers, and hope for the best.

When you take a woman in this position to the UK, the situation changes. The labour market is more open to women, and sometimes they even have better opportunities than their husbands. Western marriage systems are seen as partnerships where equality is the norm. The system views women as vulnerable and offers them protection. If a man becomes violent, she can call the police and have him removed. There is a legal framework to compel child support payments. A man can lose his home through legal processes. Women can also access immigration and welfare benefits after divorce. Even then, society rarely judges them negatively; instead, they are often seen as strong women who stood up to oppression. Divorce is normal in this part of the world. In 2023, there were 102,678 divorces granted in England and Wales — about 100,000 marriages ending each year.

This reality motivates women to demand equal power and order in marriage. Some even push further.

Most times, African men still pay most household bills but have little say in home affairs. The king of yesterday loses his authority and power. He is easily challenged in his own palace. Frustration sets in, and he becomes toxic. Life in the UK can be boring and lonely. There is often no one to talk to, as everyone is too busy. Work can be competitive and stressful. The cold weather discourages social life. The man runs on empty emotionally, and his home — which should recharge him — becomes another battleground. His mental health suffers. To avoid doing something he may regret, he walks away from the marriage.

The UK did not break these marriages; it gave women power and leverage, and they exercised them. The system simply exposed fragile arrangements. Any man humble and adaptable enough to accept these new realities can still save his marriage.

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What you put up here is a beautiful nonsense. UK is not Africa continent or Nigeria. African traditional marriage is different entirely from western marriage. Although nothing concerns me with their yeye pretentious monogamy style here that they copied from the west.

cr7lomo:
Fake news ...bitter haters that can't accept that Republicans are here to stay for a very long time... we don't want LGBTA, feminists , pvssi men that can't let go of simping,

The funniest thing is that it’s the Democrats that are sponsoring terrorism in Africa and also backing the fraudulent APC Gestapo government

WizardOfNG:
Citizens have no responsibilities they abdicate also? Do you know how many Lagosians do not pay LAWMA dues and simply dump thrash everywhere even in decent estates?

Paying "all the taxes in the world" my foot. Some of you are just shameless liars ready to say anything to shame Government you have been brainwashed to hate and blame for everything.

There was a thread the other day showing African nations paying the most taxes. South Africa and Morocco were top and some smart Nairalanders immediately drew similarities to why the two nations are efficiently run with good infrastructure.

Whereas Nigeria that has one of the lowest and most negligible rates of tax remittances in Africa is full of people like you lying about Nigerians, the biggest tax Dodgers in Africa, "paying all taxes in this world".

You can't even be factually honest and you wish to portray yourself a good governance advocate. You are a mischief-maker bro.

Do you know what tax to GDP ratio is and how it impacts provision of infrastructure and services such as waste disposal etal?

Nigeria has one of the lowest in Africa yet Mr.Good Government advocate is claiming up and down a majority tax-dodging people now "pay all the taxes in the world".

You are one of the problem of Nigeria and never part of the solution in so far as you cannot discern the big picture and continue to trot out the claim the Government is at fault always for every problem ailing our nation.

When you’re ready to speak the truth, I’ll be here. APC fraudulent government defender. Nigeria is the lowest country paying tax. You mean after the removal of fuel subsidy, after all the indirect income tax, after VAT, after stamp duty, despite the numerous natural resources. Give another excuse again🥳

Anything the Nigeria government denies, refutes, just believe the opposite.

dalongjnr:
Wike would be a Persona non grata in Abuja when he is sacked by the president in 2 months from now. He will fail and no longer be allowed to be welcomed in Abuja.
Politic is a sensible and long-term venture. He's trying to instigate the Abuja civil servants against the president. He should know that APC has not won in Abuja since 2015.
The civil servants are very influential and they have at least 4-8 dependents, imagine just 8,000 x 5 people = 40,000 votes against the president alone in Abuja. What if they call their relatives in the villages and instigate them against the APC government?

And that’s what we want. If Wike will ruin APC, so be it🙏🏻

Yeye man. Wike in the mud. Please just do worse to discredit the present illegitimate government before dem send you packing