Drisade:
guy wise up now before u go take sniper abeg

Lol. Not upto that man. I can’t come and kill myself because of a girl. I got myself another woman and she wouldn’t know. I’m trying to move on but she won’t know

djojo:
Who the fu*king game help,

Mr man wise up and stop playing bull shit game

Call her to come to your place sit her down and discuss with her that it your instinct is telling you that she is playing you and using you for her ATM, let her know that though you promised to finance her if she tell you the reality that she is into another person.

Bro you cant be funding someone else future and at the long run you will be the looser except you just want to help for God sake
and if your help is for God sake i will tell you to continue but still call her to tell her that she is playing you.

Tell her you knew all this while that you are just playing along with her.


you need to man up be a man and dont allow any stupid love make you loose forever.

little words is enough for the wise.

I’m schooling in Ado-Ekiti and she’s in one polytechnic like that in Oyo state..

mrblessed:
Dearest Thuglife, it is self-evident you need sense more than you need help. It boggles my mind how a young bimbo could take you for a ride, disrespects you, and yet you appear helpless and pale. Nevertheless, I see a burgeoning trait of philanthropy in you.

Lol. Man it’s not what you this. I love her front the start and I have the intention of helping her. But I later realized she’s not into the relationship. I promised to do a lot for her but I’ve stopped already. I’m even thinking of telling her I won’t be able to come up with the money I promised her or I should just play along and keep posting her

Good day Nairalanders,

Please I need advice on what to do about my girlfriend. She used to tell me she love me but my guts is telling me she’s not into me or not into the relationship. Before we started the relationship, she told me no sex would happen between us but I wouldn’t say anything then.

We started dating December 31st last year. She’s in school and I’ve been supportive of her financially. When she finished her exams in school, I invited her and she honored it but something happened throughout her stay at my side. Since the day she arrived, her phone is always on flight mode but the moment we are not together (maybe I go to friend’s place) she will turn on her phone. But I wouldn’t say anything.

I accused her of dating someone else but she denied it. She once put up a quote like that around April this year that says “ask me any question and I will answer sincerely”. This particular guy I accused her of dating dm her and ask “why she’s single” but she told the guy she can’t find someone she can trust and that makes her single ( we’ve been dating then). She showed me to prove to me that she’s not dating the guy, whilst she was showing me her conversations with the guy, she only showed that part where the guy asked “why she’s single” but she wouldn’t let me see the rest of the conversations.

Throughout her stay at my side, we never had sex although I demanded for it but she begged me that I should give her time.

She’s in school but she doesn’t have anyone financing her. Before she left my side, I promised to be there for her and do whatever I think I can do for her but I’m still having some doubts in her.

There was this faithful day we were chatting on WhatsApp and I asked her to put up my pics with her on her WhatsApp display picture (DP) she told me she can’t as I can’t dictate what to do to her (I only asked her to put it up to clear all doubts that she’s into the relationship and she has no one but only but I wouldn’t tell her the reason behind it as she didn’t bother to ask). Although she always want to introduce me to most of her female friends but I used to decline.

Before she came to my side, I used to send her some screenshots and I once sent her two of my pics but when I checked her phone gallery I couldn’t find my pics in her gallery but found those screenshots sent to her. And I can find a lot of different guy’s pics on her phone.

I chose not to say anything when she told me she can’t put up a pics of me and her on her DP. Although when I asked her to do so, she stopped talking to me for some hours and later texted me by saying “Hello my love”. I pretended nothing happened but she wouldn’t know anything.

She’s supposed to be in school by now because she left my side for her friend’s marriage ceremony and since then she has been stuck and finding it very difficult to eat at where she’s staying for now.

I’m thinking of telling her I won’t be able to come up with the money I promised her as I’m impecunious now ( I’m saying this because I’m having some doubts)

Please I need advice. What should I do??

Please, push to front page

Whenever we are having intimacy, she doesn’t feel anything. She would just lie down like a log of wood, Although she has been sexually assaulted in the past. I was thinking if that’s what I’ve been affecting her. Please is there anything I can do to help her

Here is one

I’d only advise you to follow your mind. But at the same time, I would advice you not to send her to school. I did that to my girlfriend, she started dating another guy the second month she gained admission and when I finally knew about it, she insulted and say all sorts of words to me like, to Bleep with me and my money.. if I have the chance to chat you privately, I would explain better to you and share you some screenshots of what she said to me. Be wise dude

Ok

She’s sex addicted, and I’m willing to help her, is there any solution to that

Being a sex addict and drug addict. Which one is really easy to quit Talking about female alone.

My girlfriend is a drug addict and I want to do everything in my capacity to help her. How do I do that? Please, I need help?. Please push this to the front page

Ok

May Allah help us in this country. I’m still comfused about Atiku campaign slogan #LetsGetNigeriaWorkingAgain! The question is that .. has Nigeria ever worked before ?? Please I need an answer to this folks

Good one ☝️.. you don become dancing governor unlike Adeleke

ayourbamie:
U lie, P-Square had many hit before busy body. E.g Senorita

Olamide's Eni duro was a hit too before omo to shan

Yeah you’re righ. Eni Duro makes Olamide blow and not Omo to Shan!

Lol. May God help in this our country.

worlexy:
it's better for Omisore to trust Saraki than to trust Tinubu/Buhari. Saraki doesn't disappoint his friends/loyalists and he's always in charge (forget the rubbish that he betrayed his father and sister, that was only a political game) on the other hand, Tinubu and Buhari can't be trusted, despite the fact that Saraki and other nPDP members formed alliance with Buhari and Tinubu to wrestle power from PDP, they never fully integrated the nPDP members into their fold, they tried everything to force saraki to resign as the Senate president even though they never supported him ab initio. Tinubu betrayed Ribadu for Jonathan, and Buhari relegated Tinubu into the background and made him persona non grata in APC until recently when he's seeking reelection . Omisore please work for PDP and Saraki rather than the desperate power grabbers!

Lol. You are really confused dude.. so you want us to trust the man that could betrayed his own dad and sister C’om.

I got rejected from a lady more than 2 times. Although we’ve been a very good friends to each other and our friendship is more than 2 years now.. she will still tell me no whenever I come up with same thing.

Tho I used to send her money because she’s not financially stable. I doesn’t send her money to attract her but just using that to helping her. I had the inclination to woo her before so I wasn’t trying to gain her attention by sending her money..

The moment I told her my mind, she was like “Dude, why are you just telling me this now and why haven’t you express yourself since” she would still tell me “NO”.

Brinebryne:

give her the money and let it be the last... Don't cut ties with her completely. Reduce your care and attention for her. if she calls you sometimes, don't answer and don't call back immediately after any missed calls.

Thanks bro. I think that’s the best thing. If she needs any help again, I guess her boyfriend should be there for her and not me.

SirMichael1:


You say you don't send her too much money but I see a bitch who's partly dependent on you for monetary value without giving value to you in exchange and still raises your hope high.

The truth is, she doesn't see you as someone she can fall in love with. I tell you, your excessive care has sidelined you to be looked upon as someone who cares -more like 'brother-zoned' or 'father-zoned'. In this case there's only little you can do.

Lmao, I read the part where you said she calls in tears but doesn't ask for money and you give her because genetically, you're programmed to be a gentle and a king in shinning armour. These days, when ladies call you in tears while telling you her problems, she is indirectly requesting for your help cause they you can help them but don't want to come across as been too demanding.

I bet when she calls you and tell you her problem, you'll be like calm down, 'how much do you need'? and then she'll tell you a definite amount and also add that she's depressed as she doesn't know where to get it from.

Something like this...

You: So like how much will you require?
She: Don't worry. It will be fine. (still sobbing)
You: (You'll insist then she tells you the amount)-This is where you shot yourself.
She: It's 30k for my clearance. I don't even know what to do. It comes in 4days. I tried every way to get the fund but only came up with 15k. (amidst sobs)
You: Don't worry ehn.. I will see what I can do about it. Cheer up dear. It will be fine.
She: You know you don't really have to do anything. I'll just... (burst into sobs again)
You: Stop crying now. You know I don't like hearing you cry. I'll do something about it.

That's how girls control guys. I tell you what; If she totally dig you, she'll never call to tell you her problems because she knows you've got problems too. You'll even be the one trying to know her problems.

Reduce your communication with her and your affection will eventually dwindle. Absence makes the heart grow fonder but too much absence makes you fall out

Thanks for your advice brother. I was even thinking perhaps we are too close that’s why she’s giving me hard time. It get to some extent when she complains about how she’s being treated where she stays and the kind of stress she pass through at her work place. She told me she earn 9k as salary. I Wanted to tell her to stop working and to calculate 10-20 months salaries that I will pay her but I just had to caution myself then.

She complains about the phone she’s using. I thought of getting one for her or let me say I got one for her already but chose not to give her then before the phone was stolen (can still get one for her if I wanted). She used to tell me she doesn’t have time for men when we started talking because of what she’s going through. But the worse apart of it is when I wooed her, she told me she has a boyfriend but she used to tell me then that she doesn’t have time for me. If any problem arises, I would be the first person to call. I was really disappointed when she told me she has a boyfriend. She said we can only be friends. And I told her that’s going to be the last thing I would ever do. She would still call me and tell me about her problem. She even called to remind me of the money I promised her (her clearance fee). I don’t know if I should give her that and cut ties with her or I shouldn’t. Please advice

eterisan:
your English is so bad how would she date you.

Seriously stop acting like a pussssy and ask her why she can't date you and just be her friend or not. What kinda nonsense is this. Is it by force to date you. Leave her alone dude she's not into you. Focus on your girlfriend or find another who tickles your fancy.

Moronic ignorance equals negative reaction. Bro can you please turn off your phone and turn on your brain. It doesn’t matter you make contributions.

SenorFax:

Cut all ties, until you find someone who feels the same way with you. I bet she can do fine without you. You owe her nothing, and time heals all wound. You'll get over it.

Thanks bro! I really appreciate.

milemimi93:


When guys say they are in love I get confused..

A girl is probably somewhere bleeping and you are giving yourself unnecessary stress.

Watch your BP.
If you die, that same day the girl will bleep someone and might not even attend your funeral.

Forget these prostitutes and get a life..

It is important to try to understand the things you don’t know. No need for insult. Thanks!

SenorFax:

Now that's the problem, you are already an extra in case the present person bleeps up
Plus, out of sight is out of mind, the moment she expected it is gone bro. Someone already gave her a shoulder to cry on when she needed it. Let it go but be a good friend to her yet, in your own way.

I once deleted all her contacts and her account number on my phone then. I can’t just be friends with someone I love . It won’t work that way. Like I said, when she told me about her stories. I can’t help but to bury the thought of wooing her then. But I can’t continue being friends with her. I would rather cut ties with her and move on because she will always cause a distraction to me as long as we are talking

OneSentence:

u didnt sound like this at first...all the best man

How bro? How did I sound?

EMEKUSBOY9:
You are still inexperienced, try to be around women most times and try have female as friends too. You will stop been desperate. You acting as someone who has never seen women before. Come with me let go to "Ivory Coast Republic " for one week.... I bet You when you come to Nigeria that girl will look like old witch in your face. Nothing move me anymore have Seen girls.. ...............

Remember what dispatches from your mouth may be despicably rude to others.

SenorFax:

Girls are soft hearted than guys, if you guys have been together for a year I got some questions for yah

1. Does she get jealous when she sees you with other chicks
If yes, she's keeping you as a spare (one year no be moinmoin)
2. Have you seen her with other dudes, expecially fine boys
If yes maybe you are not her taste.
3. Does she call you as much as you call her, be honest pls
If yes, human invest where they think they can profit.
4. What value did she plan on adding to you or added to you since you've been friends.
If none, guy, just delete her number quickly. Vampires alert

Truth is bitter bro, and the maths is simple. Those questions might guide you better.

Choose to be the number 1 and never a spare tire.

We doesn’t live in same street. We doesn’t live in a same state. I was in ABJ then and she stays in IB when we used to talk over the phone. I doesn’t know any dude with her. She used to tell me she doesn’t have time for men. But if she beep me at times and I failed to call her within a couple of minutes, her number will be busy then. (Let me say, she receive a lot of calls). She only beep me (tho I told her to beep me when she wants to talk to me.) she beeps me almost everyday. She doesn’t add any value. We only talk over the phone and we share a lot of things like that. Although when I wooed her. Her first response was, why didn’t I tell her all this while and why will I have to wait till this moment. I don’t know what she was trying to insinuate.. that not a proper excuse to me

OneSentence:

that's my point exactly. it doesn't start with the promise. it only starts with the thought...sorry for the insults but my advice is don't even dream of sponsoring her through school because you want to show her love. it will backfire. don't answer any lady who will come here to tell you to do it since you can afford it and not with anything attached

No I won’t do that. One thing about life. You don’t force people to love you. She used to tell me then that she doesnt have time for relationship as what she’s going through won’t make her want to jump into any relationship then. If she calls me at times and trying to explain things to me, she will be crying like a baby. So the thought of wooing her then, I buried it. Tho she never for once ask me for help but I used to send me some money.. I promise to send her some money for her clearance. I will only be giving her that since I promised her already and I will cut ties with her and move on.

BestDude:
That is the problem. talking everyday, being too close... ladies are attracted to this opposite of this . You dig? Dont ever think there is anyone out there that will value this your attribute. I swear. there is none. so if you wanna date a girl, never go close to her.

Thanks bro. I think sometimes in life it’s a good idea to make a U-turn. This won’t happen to me again

front4line:


Only fools love people that do not love them in return.

Some people are so entrenched in their beliefs that they failed to notice things that are in plain view.

BestDude:
That is the problem we have with girls when you become too close to them. they dont ever want to date you. I know what you are feeling cos I have been there before.

just disappear from her presence and watch her reaction.

Bro I swear some of my friends adviced me not to woo her because of our closeness. But I can’t just watch myself being friends with her because I truly and sincerely love her. We talk almost every day and we used to spend nothing less than 20 minutes with her over the phone. If she has a problem, I would be the first person to call. I love her but anytime I tried to convince her. She will tell me we can be friends. I stopped myself from sending her money because I doesn’t want her to feel I want to entice her with money..

OneSentence:
this got me laughing...
I bet you op your foolishness is just beginning. try this simple test.
tell her you are willing to sponsor her education. she will def agree. Infact don't just tell her, spend on her like you really care. just count the spending as the price you have to pay for your foolishness. as u are training her through school she will meet and fall in love with another...you have already said it sef but your foolish feeling will still blind you...
then and only then will you learn. many have threaded this path in the name of love and come here to open threads about how ungrateful women are after being trained through school...

Bro take it easy. I only seek for advice here. It doesn’t matter you insult. To pass judgment or draw conclusion without thought is a vital mistake. I didn’t promise to sponsor her school. I didn’t let her know my plan for her. I wouldn’t do anything stupid in the name of love.