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tossie101:
u dont kno the story.... becoz the whole family gave the girl everything.
We even sacrified our brothers love for her.
Because he shifted most of his love for us to her and still we were not bothered.

But her wicked mum later gave her bad advice for no good reason to call off the engagement.

anyways i dnt wana go into that anymore..My brother is happily married now to a delta gal, with 2kids living abroad with his family.

And im not sure the yoruba girl in question is married yet becoz i jam her on d road all d time.

That is just one fu.cked up family amongst a million others which might have bn better. She wasn't actually meant for your brother, you just have to thank God for the success.

vicben27:
for me when it comes to marriage tribe matters, I can't afford to have children who have lost their heritage because of my marrying outside my tribe. soo I'll say fuccck that feeling called finding love out my tribe we chose who to Love! I've Love ! my advice the word of elders are words of wisdom. on the other hand follow your heart. in rihana's "we found love in a hopeless place."

You might be right, but when love finds you, it might not be from your tribe.

coluka:
You are the one who is stupid. Did you read what your useless Yoruba sister said about Igbo women that made me respond in that manner? You guys cannot just come here and insult igbos and expect us to just swallow the bullshit and keep quiet. Go and condemn your Yoruba sister for her comments first. I was only responding to her provocation

You are more stupid my dear, but what did she really say?

tossie101:
I havr forgotten the bible quotation but im 100% sure its in d bible.
U can also search it online.

No time abeg.....but still you've still got to change your mindset.

tossie101:
Lol are u kidding me... pls tell urself the truth.

I neva rememberd saying im more beautiful or intelligent .

That is because you were not, but now you are, not beautiful though.

coluka:
Who doesn't know that you people are the dirtiest and most promiscuous girls in the country? When it has almost become a tradition in Yoruba land for your girls to give birth to bastards in their father's house. You rarely find any family in Yoruba land that doesn't have a girl who was impregnated outside wedlock. The married ones are not any better, sleeping around with other lovers like dogs on heat. Useless people. Who will even think of marrying disgusting things like you? You're free to Go and meet your fellow irresponsible Yoruba men

You are stupid for saying that, you do not even deserve reasoning for saying Yoruba men are irresponsible

bigpicture001:
don't help convincingly them for any reason..tribe matters..if sh goes ahead...she would most likely regret it..no p may arise from the guy himself..but know it that in africa..we marry the family, not just the partner..and moreover...get it strait into your head...YORUBA'S DONT LIKE iGBOS..period..!!!!

My step dad is an igbo man from the east, anambra state to be precise, married to my mum, a Yoruba woman and they have lived happily for thae past 22 years without any hitch or break.....who told you yorubas don't like igbos? It is wrong for you to say that, you would be roght if you say some Yoruba people don't like igbo likewise how some igbo people don't like the yoruba people.

I have a question though; does it really matter if you are from the east or north, south or west? Are we not all human? We all have thesame features except for the tongue.....even with that minute difference, does success in marriage have a thing to do with the tribe of each individual partner or is it the selfishness of our kindreds and their illogical reasoning that is the stumbling block in intertribal marriages.....

tossie101:
Yes u are right.. but there are higher chances to face that ordeal in intertribal marrial marriage.
I have seen many,i have also indirecty experinced it (my brother).
That was the hieght of it becoz we nearly lost him due to heartbreak..ts a long story shaa.

But left for me, everybody should stick to his/het own trible.
Its even somewhere in the bible.
U know?

With all due respect to your person, where in the bible? And that it happened to your brother doesn't mean it would happen to you....but it's ya choice.

tossie101:
U are the foolish one here.. by trying to make my choice for me.
As there are yorubas girls who dont like marrying igbo also igbo girls who dont like marrying yorub men..I AM ONE OF THEM and its my choice due to some reasons and experiences.

So Whats ur concern

Are you done.....if yes, thanks for your time and if No, inform me when you are done.

tossie101:
If e pain u go and die.
U people are too tribalist and dirty.
Same way u dnt allow ur daughters marry igbo same way i wont marrt a Yoruba.

BE U THE LAST MAN ON EARTH.

Igbos are more tribalistic than yorubas because it is easier for an igbo man to marry a Yoruba lady than it is for a Yoruba man to marry an igbo lady.....the reason why I quoted you was because you raised yourself as if you are more intelligent and better than those beautiful igbo ladies that have found a home with a Yoruba man.....change your mentality please.

As a guy, I plan on marrying an igbo lady in the furure, my step dad is an igbo man who have only shown me love right from childhood up till now, he even made me promise that I would marry an igbo gal.

tossie101:
If e pain u go and die.
U people are too tribalist and dirty.
Same way u dnt allow ur daughters marry igbo same way i wont marrt a Yoruba.

BE U THE LAST MAN ON EARTH.

You sound illogical and foolish at thesame time, is it only one family that there is in Yoruba land, some families as we both have it on both sides are lacking intelligence and reasoning when it comes to matters such as this. A family might reject the proposed partner of their wards the same way some family would gladly accept the proposed partner of their children not minding which part of the world they come from.

Nobodys:
is this really necessary?

Yoruba gals are dirty, agreed. Igbo gals are a public domain......you con dey ask if it was necessary?......what model of brain are you using?

tossie101:
Me marry yoruba man?.
Hmm odikwa egwu.
IT CAN NEVA HAPPEN..
I neva even consider edo na yoruba.

Na who you be wey you no go fit marry Yoruba, your mates wey marry dem nko, you beta pass them?.........you beta carry that your smelly ass and move off before you pollute the air.

Ondo state yorubas are more liberal than those of osun, oyo and oguns......they even encourage such inter-tribal marriages between themselves and other tribes especially igbos, edos, but not with Hausa and fulanis, if you try ahm, na your own wahala be that.

Cool ride.....amma get myself one asap

The shame of Nigeria......how I wish the northern borders could be fenced, the porous borders na ihm dey cause their population increase as their fellow foolanis troop in seamlessly into the country.

wtfcoded:
Shut the fvck up n learn 4rm kanu

Try to be sensible now, so you want him to learn how to run like kanu abi....did you even read through what he said at all......shio to you efulefu.

It's useless talking to most of you; yorubas are this, igbos are like that, na who those ones help? Can't you all just put those Shit aside for once and focus on the areas where you both have jointly prospered?... Majority of you yorubas have a relation married to an igbo and surely, you have an igbo friend, likewise the igbos having a Yoruba inlaw and many yorubas as friends. If you really want to hate each other, what stops you from starting from them? You igbos especially, you need to change your thinking because it has made a lot of you, especially those from the east so paranoid that all you see is the perceived bad side of all Yoruba which have made u all to generalize your opinion about us, but the truth is that, such thoughts only make you forget the bright side of them. Come to think of it, are the igbos any better that the Yorubas in any way?

Even you my Yoruba people, I think we should change and improve our image from what they perceive of us. We made a lot of mistakes in the past which we must correct now but still, I praise you guys for your resilience and perseverance against the hate and insults, not that I support our actions too oo, I only appreciate it that we are enduring. The time is now or never for us to decide which path to thread, I am tired of this country and as such, I want us to actualize the odua nation dream if restructuring is not feasible. Tnx to you all.

In my own opinion as a person, first and foremost, in the last election, most Yoruba people voted for buhari, not because of religion but on the basis of buhari's past imprint as a no nonsense military head of state back in time and the perceived improvements he would bring to better anticorruption stance in the country ( I haven't seen it yet though and besides, back then in the military regime, it was tunde idiagbon who held sway in government policies at that time and this was a major influence on the Yorubas, not that they hated Jonathan). Religion had no part as I see it because Yoruba Muslims alone wouldn't have that much vote to boost his chances. Jonathan was my preference even though he was no better than his predecessors, but the blantant rape of the government purse with reckless abandon and lavishness, openly, it turned the tide against him. Aside from that, he was too naive and as well overconfident believing he would win, without much support from the west cost him the power. Furtheron, there were also political heavyweights from the eastern side who worked for his downfall (we all know them) who betrayed him because of cheap political scores, our political leaders only did what would benefit the region. One question from this now is that why didn't kanu agitate for biafra openly back then?

Secondly, I as a Yoruba understand the longsufferings of the igbos due to neglect but if we are start apportioning blames, we should then start from 1966 when the first coup was orchestrated by a faction within the military, spearheaded by soilders from the east and this has created a domino effect through generations of leadership in this country...........

Even the Yoruba political heads are guilty of some mistakes which I am not ready to exonerate them from because due to their level of knowledge, influence and power, they could have made things right. Thesame mistakes some have recently made and some will still make in the future as a result of greed.

No tribe is innocent, if we keep pointing fingers at each other and won't stop saying hateful words to one another, it doesn't help anybody, at the end it would be generations after us that would suffer the consequences. We the youths should instead show a unified front against the schemes of the north to create a divide between us and stop the hate already. Both tribes have both enjoyed each other's influence and contributions so much to the extent of having comfort in intra tribal marriages, economic and entertainment platforms, thereby creating a bond which shouldn't be broken based on political desires and aspirations, it would be unfair to so many innocent people and their dreams which would be taken away from them. What will be will be, good or bad, but we shouldn't use ourselves to destroy the lives of others coz some how we are a part of a big family, we are brothers already, so much than being neighbors and friends......please let's stop the hate and anger. May God help us all.

It's really disheartening to read online the bitter and hateful words being used by both parties. Majority of us ( Yoruba and igbo) have friends from the mentioned tribes, why can't we just see ourselves thesame way we see our individual friends. I know this country can be tiresome and at times confusing due to the decisions and desires of some powerful few but I do believe we can still rise above this negative rivalry and instead compliment ourselves and become better. History as well has given us reasons to be at odds but we have come a long way, even up to the point of intra tribal marriages which have only bonded us together as a sign of prosperity and goodness. It helps no one to hate but it is much more refreshing to the soul to live happily with one another because hatred will only make see the other from the fault side and not the possible goodness in them. Please my dear brothers and sisters from both sides of this widening gulf, we should stop it all before it consume us all, Let those who want to be apart do so with respect to the other group and not with hatred.......

Oga lalastical.....help us preach the gospel please.

pazienza:
No.
We recognize fully that most Yorubas are anti Biafra and pro one Nigeria, and would hate you if they learn that you are pro Biafra. We see Yorubas exhibiting this hate all over the internet, from facebook to on here on NL.
The very idea of a Yoruba person of a non hateful Igbo is the Igbo that hates his own people , castigates them online and denies or make mockery of our Biafran struggle. That's the idea of a good Igbo to an average Yoruba man.
The Igbo man who holds unto our Biafra legacy and seeks for rebirth of Biafran Nation, immediately becomes labelled as a hateful person by a one Nigeria seeking Yoruba person and who would then out of hatred go on to denigrate our Biafra struggle and say many obscene things about the Igbo, prompting the Igbo to retaliate back by sending a more concentrated hatred towards the Yoruba person and his Yoruba ethnic group. Then the cunning treacherous Yoruba will return back chanting that Igbos are hateful people.

The well parented, well bred Igbo man will always be pro Biafra, and the hateful Yorubas will always hate him for that. The hate is coming from your angle, we only return your hate. Stay off our Biafra ideology and quest, stop equating a people quest for an independent nation absent of Arewa odua people for hate. It's not hate that you seek to keep a disinterested people in your failed third world country, but it's hate that the people want out of it all. The psych of the average Yoruba man is really twisted.

Guardiola, Laporta, and other Catalonians are pro Catalonia independence, I guess if Spain were Nigeria, they would be labelled hateful people.

There is nothing to forgive Arewa Oduanistanis of by Ndiigbo, the only forgiveness we have to offer you lots is total severance of any colonial national bond we share with you lots, that's the only forgiveness we have to offer, we are not same people, neither do we share same economic, political,social or cultural ideologies, we have no point of convergence with you. Borders will make us all good neighbours and defuse the built up tensions.
The Igbo don't have problems with Yorubas until we all find out that you people hate us for our ultimate desire to establish Biafra and retrieve ourselves and unborn generation from the bondage of co existence with Odua and their Arewa Muslim brothers.

Achebe died a celebrated man all around, even Times magazine elevated him as the most influential African before he died, his enemies came to pay respect to him. He was a real intellectual who stood by his people, wanted the best for them, and knew they can never get the best in a failed Third World colonial entity.
He was a visionary , a non conformist to colonial chains, African literature can never be complete without the mention of Achebe.
His last masterpiece was needed to wake the Biafra consciousness in some of us who had fallen asleep, we were forgetting who we are(Biafrans) and needed some awakening, Achebe did that for us, and he will forever remain a hero.

Achebe wasn't a freedom fighter, so it's stupid comparing him with Mandela and Luther King jnr, he was more like Diderot, who wished to change people orientation and sell his ideas using the almighty power of ink.

You are just a hater, whose hatred might consume if care is not taken.

Meanwhile, while you continue to search for the perfect Igbo man, which in Yoruba brain would mean an Igbo who would give up on our Biafran ideology and castigate fellow Igbos for supporting Biafra, while promoting a fraudulent failed colonial British estate, I think this fine piece by Okonkwo might help reformat your brains :http://saharareporters.com/2013/08/13/futile-search-good-igbo-rudolf-ogoo-okonkwo

Happy reading.

From what I read through the quoted epistle, you are the one spewing bitterness and hatred.....it's so foolish and stupid at thesame time. If the Yorubas wants one Nigeria, it's all about love, not wanting you to break some kind of brotherly love and affection that has developed at the base of the conjoined relationship between igbos and yorubas. you want your biafra on the basis of the hatred you have for the Hausa and Yoruba which is not good for your rational mind thereby influencing your judgements. Yorubas generally do not speak in bitterness about the igbos but it's you and your type that bring such out of them, most especially online, with your abusive and annoying, and sometimes stupid arguments and comparisons due to your pride and inferiority complex at times. The igbos based in Lagos are more matured and open minded than most of your brethren in the east because they never let past history distort their veiws about other tribes and people, instead, they pick what they can learn from it and discard the rest. Nobody is saying you shouldn't agitate for your beloved biafra, not at all, but ur agitations shouldn't be based on your dislike or hatred of other tribes.

pazienza:
Igbos are not the only people of colour in America, so the issue of Igbos banding together in America because of colour sounds irrational.
The Igbos in America and diaspora are more enlightened and exposed, they have a better balance view of how functional societies work and frameworks upon which the efficiency of those functional societies are built on and therefore are more likely to rationally dissect and realize that Nigeria as a colonial entity will never cease being a third world country, than an average Igbo lagosian who had been fed with endless one sided propaganda of the civil war by Yoruba media and friends, so much that many of them had developed a chronic form of self hate and need to be in good books of their Yoruba friends and associates.
The end result is that these confused set of Igbos see the world through a Yorubatic lens, and end up having an Igbophobic default setting that often leads to them taking an Igbophobic stand on most issues of national discuss.

IPOB have strong membership amongst diaspora Igbos in North America, Europe and Asia.


The North have no strong propaganda machine. They don't care about propaganda like Yorubas,they are not cunning too, they don't try to hide their Igbophobia like Yorubas do , the average Igbo in North is continually exposed to anti Christianity cum anti Igbo stand of the North, he sees the horror his parents told him that happened in 60s ,in the North everyday, he is constantly being forced to come to terms with the truth. This translates to them being strongly Igbophilic in outlook.

Igbos were discriminated in Lagos and Yorubaland during the war, the Igbo intellectuals in Ibadan soon found out that the place was no longer safe for them, and they had to flee home to the East , it was a moment of truth and understanding for most of them.
The Oba Lil Wayne recently threatened Ndiigbo in SW. What happens with Igbos in SW, is that their inferiority complex driven desire to be accepted as "lagosians" by Yorubas, constantly means that they must display typical Yorubatic Igbophobia towards their fellow Igbos, in futile attempt to gain acceptance. It's akin to the slave camps, where blacks appointed as slave leaders by white masters had to show more cruelty to their fellow blacks in desperate attempt to gain acceptance from white slave masters.
When you see these Lagos Igbos in the Eastern universities, they speak Yoruba amongst themselves, and speak English with irritating, ear aching Yorubatic accent with too many use of Yoruba words like "shey" "abi ", "Kilode ", "Olorunmaje ", "Ema binu " , etc yet they pretend to be irritated that you speak Igbotic English. Many of them can't speak Igbo language. They all suffer from deep seated inferiority complex.

They had all been fed with Igbophobic stories by their Yoruba friends all their lives, that they had concluded that Igbos are bad people, and when you attempt to correct them and tell them your own version of the story, they get upset and accuse you of being hateful.
They in their stupidity don't consider their Yoruba friends and society that ended up making them hate their own people by filling them with Igbophobic stories, hateful, but they consider a fellow Igbo trying to put up a defense against Yorubas Igbo hating propaganda that they had been fed with since birth , hateful. Such is the level of their mental slavery.


NB: Not all Igbos born and raised in Lagos behave this way. My best friend in my University early days was an Aro guy who was born and raised in Lagos, and he spoke flawless Igbo Izugbe, and has a perfect Igbophilic view of the world. His parents did a wonderful job.
The issue of Igbo lagosians, is an issue of poor parenting mostly and other variable factors.

Let me correct you; the Yoruba people didn't teach hate or miss inform lagos based igbos, rather, their parents are to be blamed for not telling and teaching their wards about their homeland. You can't expect them to grow and develop their knowledge from birth without parental influence. They grew accustomed to the society they found themselves. Even most yorubas do not remember anything about the biafra war as we'v all moved on with our lives. You were saying something about your people not feeling safe in ibadan during the war, now let me ask you, when your people brought the war into Yoruba land, crossed Benin into ore, what did u expect from us?

prodigy24:
I don't know what your mission is, but I'm particularly worried about those so called lasgidi.. I'm not debating with you on the Igbo in the north and west. I'm saying the later have some of them that disrespect the Igbo culture.

Why should you expect someone who hasn't visited his or her mother land for years to have the slightest knowledge about your traditions and culture talkless of respecting it?.....the best you can do is to bring the so called culture to them and persuade them to accepting it and that is if the accommodating community and society would allow you to.

prodigy24:
I sincerely respect your view ,its very clear, but there is a big difference here.
Let me use your analogy here, the Igbo in the north have the " we feeling " and understand the culture, what could be the reason for the Igbo in Lagos not to at least understand the culture and accord it the respect.
Ok you said they spread across Lagos, which is not enough reason. How about Igbo in America? They don't live in clustered pattern too. So it's not really anything serious..
it is very annoying seeing an adult of an Igbo extraction speak ill of the Igbo culture just to be seen as lasgidi. The show off is too much. They live the fake life that is very unfamiliar with Igbo people.

Let me come in here, the igbos in the SW region like he rightly said are more free to express themselves and interact with the locals while igbos residing in the predominantly Islamic north are homogeneous due to the contraption of religion and history. I as a person have an igbo man as a father, though am a Yoruba and I so much which to learn the igbo language, even my step siblings don't understand talkless of speaking it. I have so many igbos as friends who feel safe with me and are proud of being an ibo, the Yoruba locals here respect them for their industrious abilities and are even jealous. As per The issue you raiseed about igbos in Lagos, they are not to be blamed at all for such behavior, instead the blame should be on the society where they'v found themselves because if you should replace those same ibos with the ones in the north or America or other places, they would still all act thesame. Such attitude is common, even among Yorubas, an instance is an oyo man who won't even regard or count an ilaje man from ondo state full yoruba due to difference in the youruba tongue. You can't expect them ( Lagos based igbos and north based igbos) to be equal as per knowledge because of the environment and society where they developed. A johny just come from the east would at first see as alien the practice and attitude of the Lagos igbo before he himself will be immersed totally into thesame society. Finally, eastern based igbos should free their mind and shouldn't be expectant of their fellow igbos in other lands to be on thesame level of cultural knowledge as them and they should stop that myopic veiw amongst them about the Yoruba people. Tnx.

I seek your opinions on these two ventures; which is more profitable? Poultry farming and supermarket.

This is one territory I dream of intruding, I so much love the business. May God increase you in folds bro, no flu shall come near your pen in Jesus name. But this money hefty ooooo...4.9 milla!

Lord why all these confusion in the zoo! Why lord! Why..........

I just graduated this past month....school of health information, LUTH,.....but I don't know if it would be possible to go for service this year as I haven't sat for the license exam yet, i need clarifications please..tnx.