lilyheaven:
Sorry! But her husband won’t accept he has a side chick neither is he going to apologize.
Instead, he is going to accuse her of going to her phone, he will manipulate her, and turn the table on her, he will turn her into a victim

So what do you suggest she do?

lummy247:
Please, I need advice. I went through my husband's phone and I saw a message he shared with his side chick.

In the text message, the side chick was telling him to get something for her mother. He responded that he doesn't have an idea on what to buy. The lady later suggested that He should buy Provisions for her.

They talk everyday and they exchange romantic texts everyday. They even have a pet name for each other.
My husband is a Civil Engineer and some weekends he travels for 'work', I know he has gone to see her.

This relationship with the side chick is gradually affecting my marriage. I have the fear of what will happen if she gets pregnant. For him to see her mother, it shows that they are already very close. He also sends her money. I see the transactions on his Bank App.

Please I need advice, what can I do.

The reason your husband have a side chick is NOT because you are not a good wife but because it is in the nature of men to cheat, you can be the best wife in the world and a man will still cheat on you, there are only few men that does not cheat.



What you should do is that


Whenever your husband comes home again sit him down and tell him that there is something you want to discuss with him.


you can follow the example I gave below.



You: There is something I want us to discuss.

Your Husband: Alright, what do you want us to discuss?

You: I saw your conversation with your side chick, I have been faithful to you, I do not cheat on you, but you are cheating on me, is this how you will re-pay me for being faithful to you?

Your Husband: (He will be surprise that you find out that he have a side chick, he will try to beg you by saying he is sorry).


Note: If he beg you, then tell him that you have forgiving him but he should stop cheating on you and remain faithful to you the same way you are faithful to him.



Note: Your conversation with him may not be 100% exactly the way I wrote it here, but if you follow this example I gave you then your conversation with him will be 90% similar to the example I gave you above.



Note: Do NOT quarrel or fight with him talk to him peacefully, he will even be surprise and love you more for talking about it so calmly and peacefully without violence.




If I may ask, how old is your marriage? And have you born a child for him?

Honeydenz:
Thinking aloud all through last night, I have thought very deeply till 1am this morning on how a particular pattern Of wealth and affluence drives In a family and society expecially in this part of the world.

Studying the life of rich and influential individuals in the society, most of them seem to come from an already established or comfortable home, this worries me since I and my siblings aren't really from a well-to-do home or a rich background.
For example,
Seyi tinubu is already successful and famous and doing well, all thanks to his father Bola tinubu and understandably, tinubu himself also had a rich parent and studied in the US and With the western exposure they come back home and do great things, Obaseki of Edo state, Femi otedola's father was a governor of Lagos state, I can go on and on.
Your background and the environment you grew up in either impacts your life positively, or negatively, and could determine your future. But only if you allow it to. From the experiences of many, a humble upbringing, absence of one parent or lack of education does not mean that your future is doomed.

What's your opinion? Please no sentiments, religious or emotional comments pls, only reasonable argument is welcome.
would really appreciate if this can get to the front page for more logical explanations.

You are 100% correct baby girl.


In this life there are only 5 ways through which you can get rich and they are


1. Parents.
2. Country
3. Skill (higher paying skill)
4. Business (not job)
5. Luck (e.g winning the lottery).


Let me explaine then one after the other


1. Parents: Who your parents are will determine what you will be, for example a lion will give birth to a lion and a dog will give birth to a dog also if your parents are rich (Lion) then you are likely to be rich too (Lion), Why? Because lion can only give birth to lion, also if your parents are poor (dog) then you are likely to be poor too (dog), Why? Because a dog can only give birth to a dog, so the family you come from can determine if you will be rich or not. People like DJ Copy and Davido are from rich home and that was what helped them.



2. Country: The country you come from will determine if life will be easy or hard for you, in a develop country like American they care for their citizens, there are good hospitals, good schools, good road and stable economy and this things make life more easy for their citizens, but in a useless country like nigeria were if you are not corrupt they see you as a novice who is not smart, politicians keep looting money that is met for the masses, poor health care, poor education system (na every day ASUU dey go on strike). Lack of job opportunity, naira scarsity are the outcomes, if you plant a seed in a good soil (e.g American) they seed will grow up and produce good food, but if you plant a seed in a desert (e.g nigeria) that seed will not grow well and it will produce very little food, Now, just like the way a good soil will determine if a seed will grow well or not, so also the country you are born into will determine if life will be easy or hard for you.



I would have explain the remaining ones but I am tired to type.

iLegendd:
I have, but lost the zeal to finalize it.

Ooh, Alright sir, I will save money for it, how much?

iLegendd:
I don't really read psychology books. A lot of things I know in life are through experience. One of the reasons I can write a book in a day or most 1 week.

Though, I'll recommend a financial book called The Secret of the Millionaire Mind. It's not about psychology, but managing money so you can never go broke.

Ok boss, I suggest you should write a psychology book on "How to handle haters both online and offline" just a suggestion tho, but I will be interested to buy the book if you decide to write it.

iLegendd:
Humans are really funny and jealous beings. Since I intentionally belittled the size of my James Bond and called it tiny, people didn't react to it.

If I had talked about how big it is, hundreds of men would've been jealous and abused me to death. We are funny creatures.

We always want people to say what will make us feel better not what will make them feel good.

This is psychology 101.

Boss, can you recommend any good psychology book for me.

You dey find people idea when u go steal abi? #rubbish

JASONjnr:

Lol.....

There's a difference between judging and attacking...

Moreso, I wasn't attacking you ..I only dared you to go out to the core North and walk around the streets telling them that there's no Allah and let's see if truly you're a good atheist. And i made that clear because you atheists always find away to bring Christianity into your arguments. All I want is for you guys to always stay away from Christianity and be fighting other religions...Christianity is not your problem.

Also, there's nothing like "intelligentcy"....Infact, just go back to school...You're a mess and beyond correction.

1stly, you believe God exist right? And u also believe Christianity is the true religion right? If you are very sure Christianity is the true religion why not you go to the north too and say lslam is fake, only Christianity is true? Lead by example 1st, then I will follow suit and do same.



The funny thing about people like you who clam to know English is that you do not even pass English language in Waec and Neco.

JASONjnr:


You should work seriously on your English....

It's "quick to"... Not "Quite to"

Anyway, you're not to judge anyone ...So live your life and allow others live theirs ...

We will all face judgement day...

Firstly The different between you and a fool is that even a fool knows that it was a mistake but you did not


Secondly, you do not practice what you teach, you said I should leave judgment for God, but you are attacking (judging) others for being an atheist.


Thirdly, I purposely made some mistake when writing this comment, so that you can come and correct me again to prove your small intelligentcy.

JASONjnr:


Why are you planning MTN?

Anyway, I'm blessed by God who created me and I've been on his grace and I can tell you that I've achieved so much from God.

You can say whatever you want but I believe in his existence. If you don't, stay happy with your disbelieve.

Believing in his existence is not the problem, the problem is that are you Keeping his commandments? Because the last time I checked those who are always quick to defend God are actually the ones who sin the most. #nonsense

JASONjnr:


This is the level you can get....Being abusive ....


I won't even call you names....

Go and rest!

I did not blame you, I plan MTN who gave you free data of 10MB that u are using to display your stupidity online.

JASONjnr:
It's always their hatred for Christianity....


I've always wanted to dare an atheist...A true one..To go to the North, near a mosque and proclaim his disbelieve openly there....Tell the people that there's no God or Allah...

Just try it....I'd love to see something...

Seun, I dare you particularly...

Modify

Lol...See All of them quoting me and wailing as usual...

Point is, they're scared of getting killed....

But I want the people that knows how to cut neck to send you to go meet their Allah with lots of virgins, so you'd believe that there is a life after here....

By then, you must have been rotting in hell...

Your stupidity is unique, one of it kind

AquaPetals:
My sister dated this guy for 6 years. They planned on getting married December. Both did blood tests yesterday and her fiancé turned out to be AS. She is AS as well.
She was shocked because the guy initially told her he was AA. In fact she only agreed to sleep with him for the first time because he promised her marriage and when she inquired then about his genotype, he lied about it.
Now he says his genotype must have changed. My sister is devastated right now. I told her to go ahead with the marriage and plan for adoption.

Do not forgive him

Jidebabs88:
We are 3 close friends. One of us entered a competition without informing us. After a while he sent in a link to check out the site and vote for him as the best candidate. Having visited the site and saw other contestants & what they did, I didn't vote my friend but another contestant who I think DESERVED it more. I told our other friend about it and he has been calling me names.

Is what I did bad by voting for the right
person?

U be animal

iLegendd:


He is married with kids. I have never caught him with a woman or wasting money or even smoking anything. Also, he sends money home to his parents regularly.

So, it's understandable unlike me without no wife, no girlfriend (choice) and kids to drain my pocket.

OK sir

Haakeem:
I wanted to reply you yunno, but immediatly i remembered it was nt my post i changed my mind.

Same here, wanted to reply you too but I will not

iLegendd:

Let me ask you. Did he do the right thing? Would you do what he did?

If you were in his shoe, what would you have done with the money?

He should not have sold the bike, all the money he have being working and saving all this while should be enough to travel to the north, if selling the bike was the only way he could be able to raise money for him to travel then I think he has being wasting all the money he have being working for all this while without saving some out of it for emergency cases, so in conclusion I think he lack saving skill,

iLegendd:
I love learning new things. I may have a rethink if you convince me.

I am an Atheist, I can convince you o

Atimjessy:
I just signed up on nairaland today so I can just pour out my mind.
I have been coming to this site for almost a year now because this is where I get latest and trending news.
I live with my brother who cares about me a lot but he has been too strict with me. I FEEL CAGED! Can you imagine I don't have a Facebook account, I can't use WhatsApp, I don't even have a bank account. If someone wants to send me money, I usually use our neighbor's son account.
He monitors my calls and contact list.
I only use e-mail because he said I will be using it for future registrations.
I envy my friends a lot. I'm in my mid-teens.
I am just fed up.

Is your parents still alive? If yes, where are they?

iLegendd:
Sorry

Hahaha

iLegendd:
University should be permanently closed in Nigeria. We are okay with nursery, primary, and secondary.

I'm in 300Level, boss make your boy graduate 1st na

Lucasmuyiwaa:
Hello Nairalanders, I want you to pardon my English.
I’m 27 years old and a very cute guy.
I’ve always noticed people don’t really greet me at events or any gathering.
Though I’m a shy type and always busy with my phone when we are at a gathering.
I don’t talk to people if they don’t ask me and I don’t start a conversation where I don’t know one or two people . I’ve noticed this for the past 6 years that people to really greet me.
What can cause this ?
I sometimes think maybe cuz my face look so gentle and calm. Sometimes I will have to change my gentle face to rugged face and still when a visitor comes around they greet other people more than me.
There was something that happened yesterday.
This guy came and shake everybody there and didn’t shake me. Please what’s the proplem ?

Just like the way people judge a book by it cover, so also they judge people from their appearance, the type of appearance u have makes them to underrate you, below are reasons why they are underrating you subconsciously


1. they notice you are shy
2. You have a small body size, are you short? And smallish in size?


Other reasons that can make them not to greet you is because they are jealous of you, what are they jealous about you?...it your cute face


Once people notice u are cute, some or them will immediately conclude that you will likely be an arrogant person with pride cos of your cute face, so they will indirectly tell you that being cute is not a big deal, and how will dey tell you?...is by acting as if u do not exist




Try and make money and u will be the one to beg them to stop greeting you

infofirst:


Sir, I do not know of other prop firms, but for mff and ftmo, their spreads are not as high as you mentioned esp with major pairs, eu spread is like 0.4-0.5 pips etc.

And targeting 1-3pips is no trade to me but gambling. I might be wrong. If you can not trade and make 50+ pips , you are not there yet. 1-3 pips target is sign of no strategy in place.
Prop firms do not really encourage swing trading. Fear of weekend gaps.

Alright boss, as for the 0.4-0.5 pips you said, I will check to confirm if it is true


Lol, u said 1 - 3 pips is sign of no strategy? Hahahaha, sir, 1 pips profit on a 100 lot size can feed you for 3 months

infofirst:
Once upon a time, traders complained capital is the issue. Now we have the capital courtesy prop firm, and man is still not able to make himself proud. Oh the prop firm rules were too strict. strict koh strict ni, they should allow you to trade recklessly so you can blow $200,000 abi. Some of us thinks 5% 0r 10% is too small but the thing is, if they allow 98% of us to hit 100%, infact, do not be surprised that 98% of traders will successfully hit Margin call on $200,000 on a weekly basis.
Man, the super greedy creature. Man, the super gambler. Oh Forex is scam, oh sorry, Man is the scammer

There is nothing hard about prop firm trading, the reason I do not like prop firm is because their spread is too big for me, I am a scalper who trades on the 1 minutes timeframe and aim for 1 - 3 pips per trades, now imagine if their spread is like 3 pips, what will now be my profit?



Prop firm is good for swing, and positional traders not scalpers (especially the ones who uses the 1 minutes TF)

GreatestManEver:
If you want to calculate lotsize for AUDUSD
Divide the amount you want to risk e.g 20$ by your (SL*10) I.e 13 pips * 10 . So everything would be 20$/(13*10) = 0.153

Na small boys dey use fx calculator

What sha it profit you if u know how to calculate lot size without calculator but still do not know how to trade

iLegendd:
No option D. You must choose from the list.

Lol

iLegendd:
Which of these makes you happy? Which do you prefer as a man.

A. TV
B. Food
C. P*ssy

What is missing.

None of the above sir, I prefer option D

D. Money



With money u can buy plasma Tv to watch, with money you can buy good food to eat, although u do not really need money to get pussy, but it also make getting pussy easier too


After money, then peace of mind should follow

alphaNomega:


Your $10 live account?

10$ compounded over a period of 1 year can buy you

haryodehjia:
Demo update: Account blown cos I'm just determined gold will sell.. My strategy didn't work well with gold but worked well with other pairs.. Likely I will drop gold and start again

3months account gone and I feel sad cos of the win rate

So u are even still blowing a demo accounts and u want to argue with me that is trading a live account, chaii, ona Don see me finish for this thread

realone12:
Oga you talk Too Much.. we are all humble learners here.. no come dey form boss here..
I have been in Forex business for so long. and I have come across people like you often. calm down with this gra gra.

OK, The father of Forex I heared u

rhynoemmie:


This is insightful, thanks a bunch bruv.

Will be looking for a ranking or choppy market but incase I don't see it, I guess I'll have to tighten my entry rules..

If the trades don't match my rules, I'll be staying off and that's that for me, no second guessing or fomo-ing.

We skip the trade and move on to the next one..

Discipline na the key last last

Okay