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wordbank:
In as much as I don't dispute your argument on polygamy, I can't seat back and watch you talk like you're the one who took the oath to be faithful on behalf of your dad.
I grew from a boy to a man, and each stage comes with its cons which even men can't explain.
Now, no matter how confident one is, until a counter-situation show up, there's nothing to take home. So, I say to those still standing and blabbing just like you, there's a flip side

JeffreyJamez:
... and like I said before,if it's in your DNA,it's definitely not in mine.

JeffreyJamez:
You're right , I don't have ladies stalking me because I put everyone in their place and no be woman I come life come pursue. I have goals and Ambitions and frolicking around women is definitely not one of them. I have female friends.... not female stalkers. I have female friends who have a purpose in life and not the ones who are looking for the next guy to milk. Those are the kind of people I surround myself with.

The fact a few weaklings are not able to control their sexual urges doesn't give y'all the right to be throwing absurd statistics and theories up and down.

Jman06:
Just imagine what a supposedly matured guy is typing. So, because you've got ladies around you you must cheat? We know that in most cases these ladies don't talk to you about their feelings first, you make the move! Now, relate that to ladies who get bugged by many guys on daily basis, yet don't cheat

FTBOY:
this time i agree with you 100%.

JeffreyJamez:
You're right , I don't have ladies stalking me because I put everyone in their place and no be woman I come life come pursue. I have goals and Ambitions and frolicking around women is definitely not one of them. I have female friends.... not female stalkers. I have female friends who have a purpose in life and not the ones who are looking for the next guy to milk. Those are the kind of people I surround myself with.

The fact a few weaklings are not able to control their sexual urges doesn't give y'all the right to be throwing absurd statistics and theories up and down.

iLegend:
Honestly, I only read the OP's post, Tosyne's reply and yours. I don't want to argue with anyone. The truth hurts and no one likes it, including myself. Obasanjo and Oshiomole are not good looking, but they are rich. Have you ever read the Bible? It says, "Money answereth all things." And my #1 on the list is talking about poverty. The reverse of any of the things I listed will make the man have an option to cheat. Weldon Sir! Let's not argue. iLegend is always wrong. Lefulefu my man! Carry on!

The truth is, most of these guys claiming "Mr nice guy" never can tell if they will cheat until they own cars and become rich... Most of the guys throwing shades at the OP are using their current state of financial instability to judge that they will remain faithful when married.. Let them own a car and some millions in their bank account, you will see the unfaithfulness and promiscuity in them

The same way students throw shades at lecturers for sleeping with female students in order to earn marks.. But when they become lecturers too they tend to do worse

Cutehector:
it strikes me when girls who aren't righteous claim to be saints when attacking someone else because of her views.

Jesusgirl92:
Check the circle of people you roll with. #just_my_advice.

JeffreyJamez:
If promiscuity is in your DNA,I know for sure it's not in mine.... and I can confidently vouch for a few others.

You sound like someone who doesn't have what it takes to attract ladies to be hovering around you.. Cos with the way you're talking, on can doubt if you've got ladies stalking you, If you do, you wouldn't be saying all those things.

Even some married men in the remote village where I live in Ekiti still play side games despite the fact that they look ugly and unkempt much more of a man that's got what it takes to win almost every lady.

As a very handsome dude with nice swag, good dress sense, good oratory ability, and to crown it all, money still dey your pocket join ... Even if you get married, you will always fight to be completely faithful

iLegend:
I haven't read any comment on this post. I just read the entire post and I already know 99% of the people that'll comment will be against this post. If I had read this post 10 years ago, I would've said, this girl is mad. Trust me. I'm an insider in the dating world and I also understand psychology. Most people who will read this post will think the way I would've thought 10 years ago. Thank God, 10 years ago is over.

There are only 5 types of faithful men left in this world and they are the types of men most women don't even admire.

1. The man is too poooooor. (Too poor to the point it affects his brain. Just like me Lol).
2. The man is uneducated. (So uneducated to the point he can't spell his name, let alone compose a coherent sentence in front of a lady).
3. The man is too ugly. (So ugly to the point he, himself, is scared to look at himself on the mirror).
4. The man is extremely short. (Too short to the point Aki and Pawpaw will look like giants).
5. The man escaped death or a severe sickness. (He escaped a kind of situation where he asks God to save his life and he will forever serve him and him alone).

If you're a man and you belong to any of the above, then being faithful is your default duty. So, we don't see this as being faithful. It's your job. Any man who does not belong to any of the above CAN NEVER BE FAITHFUL. Although, he'll promise his wife or girlfriend he'll forever remain faithful, and to be honest, he'll try his best to be faithful, but the devil will NEVER let him keep his promises. It's just a matter of time. When this happens, some men will commit suicide for not keeping their vows, other men will confess to their wives or girlfriends, while the rest will forever keep silent by telling themselves, "as long as she doesn't know, there'll be peace." (He'll promise himself never to do this again, but don't worry, it's just a matter of time as usual). The truth hurts and no one likes the truth, including myself. If I'm ugly and you tell me I'm ugly, I won't like it, even if it's the truth. So, the truth hurts and no one likes it.

When I post dating tips for men all the bad boys moderators know it's the truth, but they can never move it to front page, because the truth is bitter. But the moment importexpert goes online and copies other people's dating articles that are untrue and written by Mr. Nice Guys, the moderators move them to front page (knowing fully well dating is not his Jagaban specialty). They do so because that's what the masses want.

Nigerian song lyrics suck, the beats are great, but because the masses like it like that, it will sell. Do anything contrary and no one will give you attention. If only Mode 9 and MI knew, they would've started singing like Olamide at their initial time in the music industry. If they try to sing, they'll call them sell outs. In this world, when you say the truth, they'll call you a fool. When you don't say the truth, they'll call you a pretender. Any lady or man who says anything bad about this 100% truthful post will ONE DAY remember this post. I promise.

They say if you can't beat them, join them. But for me, if I can't beat you, I'll look for someone who will fûcking beat the shît outta you. Tosyne I'm glad you know what's up. If only I wanted to fûck other people's wives, do you know how many of them I would've fûcked. If someone like me who's not extremely good looking can achieve this, then what will the extremely good looking guys achieve? Now, reverse the gender and see the atrocity (or should I say fornication), going on and most will NEVER know. I have so many things I would've said, but this world wants untruthful people.

When I created a thread telling guys to lie soft and resolvable lies to women, they came for my neck. I created another thread telling guys not to lie to women, people also came for my neck saying women love lies. In fact, me I done tire. I wan go back to my village. Lol.

Wooow!!! This is brilliant!!

If I read this article a decade ago, I would also bash the OP and call her all sort of derogatory names but now, I think I can relate with the message she's trying to pass across

You should know that most of the people who throw shades at the OP are still teenagers and even if they're not, they're still ignorant people who know little or nothing about marriage. People who can't even manage "boyfriends and girlfriends" let alone marriage

The question is, how old are they? How many married men do they keep as friends? Do these men discuss with them how hard they find it to remain completely faithful to their wives?

Once again, nice one boss

Aderola15:
You get time Tosin, you really do.

JeffreyJamez:
Comprehension problem?

When you lot start raising boy child,sing into their ears that they have cheating in their DNA.

JeffreyJamez:
If promiscuity is in your DNA,I know for sure it's not in mine.... and I can confidently vouch for a few others.

Toks2008:
If nah my thread some ladies will curse and rant but thank God this is coming from a lady.

vedah:
So you'll be comfortable when you get married and your wife doesn't trust you because of the embolden. You're giving justification for cheating which is morally wrong?

JeffreyJamez:
What is she right about?.....That there are no faithfull men?... or women?

Toks2008:
I'm happy seing a lady taking the heat...I'm so happy this is coming from a lady.

MathsChic:
I think you are under an illusion of grandeur. You have a feeling you are smart. But indeed you may not be as smart as you think. It's the wrongest thing to think a boss who remarked, even if in passing, about your superior presentation skills, would now be thinking of bringing you down, when all he needs to "bring you down" is to merely fire you. And hire someone else.

If he found work for you between 10am and 4pm, it could be for a host of other reasons, and for nothing related to your paranoia. If he thought the DSTV needed to be shut down, there could be a thousand other reasons for it and not for the hunt you think.

You need to watch it. Sooner those feelings you harbour will creep out and in no time will become perceptible to your boss. You should know that once that happens, insubordination is the interpretation. I'll suggest you simply do your thing. Do your job and don't entertain those feelings of greatness, which, frankly, ain't even great anyways. Concentrate on honing your skills and not on who's after your phantom glory.

In other words, stay focused, oga.

wapadunk:
You would end up one day moving from one place to another without consistency and achievements because of your ego. Mr Orator.

Better Still start your own business, cause you won't Last long under someone. You want to be noticed, seen and shining. So, be your own BOSS.

iLegend:
Wow wow wow. Since I came to Nairaland this is the first post by a woman I'll rate 100/100. Larabae13. Come and read what this girl is saying. I may be wooing her soon, cuz she sabi book just like you.

Davijunson:
I'm Jes speaking for myself and not for anyone else. I know relatively very few men out there are faithful. I quite understand her point. like I mentioned, cheating is a choice. that the OP hasn't found or seen one who is faithful doesn't mean she should write off all men. she didn't even mention if quite a few are faithful or not, she Jes wants women not to expect their man to be faithful.... but then why marry him if you can't trust him to be faithful.

Aderola15:
Very well ooooo

Davijunson:
Anything wey person do for this life, it's all a matter of Choice. you Cheat, it's a Choice. you're faithful, it's also a choice. as For me oooo, I have made a Choice never to Cheat on ma Spouse (whether wife or fiance or GF) and so far, three years into my Current relationship, we're still good together. it's not like tots of cheating or ideas don't come to my head but my Decision and Mind have been made up neva to cheat. that is why I maintain my own lane and keep my bae as my only true friend. no time for long turenci.

the OP is one of those ppl who because they can't have what they want, they settle for what's available. if 1000 men are in this World and 999 of them are cheats, I want to be the only one who doesn't. yup. that's me. I jes want to be different from every other person.

Aderola15:
Uncle 10/10

EmperorShizzy:
I wanted to quote you before but stopped to respect your wish

frenchwine:
Was he only spotted by Garba Shehu? No other Nigerian spotted him?
You mean to tell me that a President of Buhari's clout would go out and the aura around him wouldn't draw peeps to take selfies with him?
Looks to me like he was driven to that point, dropped, took a pic or two and then driven back to Abuja house.
Next we would see is : Buhari watching Arsenal match