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Richiy:
By knowing I don't mean it literally. I mean knowing its power and advantage.

It isn't hidden that attractive people get more attention and more favors than others. I know about that, my bestie being a very attractive girl.

But those of them that understand its power, will tend to use it. And rashly too. Hence the generalization.

You made a lot of sense my dear. Only left for those who can utilize it


Btw, are u using yours rightly ?

Godmother:
The topics are similar but not entirely the same. If anything, its looking at the other topic from the other angle so there's no need changing the topic.

Richiy:
There are two kinds of attractive people. Those that are fine and they know. Those that are fine and they don't know

All these misconceptions you mentioned are mostly carried out by those fine people that know that they are fine and want to show the world. It eventually rubs off on all other fine people.

So, o.p, sorry eh?

ideology:
Some guys are funny though.
they think supporting ladies all the time makes them likable better still nice guys or gentlemen.

In fact most of these dudes are bad guys, trying to attract ladies by supporting everything they do.

If I may say, guys are the ones spoiling ladies, by making them feel that is the way and Its their right to get anything they want, all guys need to do is to say "yes " to them.

In the OP's case the girl is thinking it's her right maybe because that appears to be the norm or because Op has been doing it all along.

Sometimes I marvel at the mentality/views of some folks on relationship matters. What is the role of a lady in relationships?? is it just to be a receiver??
What is 150 that she couldn't pay for herself if she's really loves the guy!!

back in university days, some ladies would say that they want to visit me, well, i'll reply my door is open, they could visit but Let me know when they are coming. Guess what, they will say that they are not coming till I invite them. I just told them that I don't invite people to visit me, because I don't get invited when I visit others including them, I visit because I care. I tell you none of them visited me till I graduated. that showed you the mindset of some ladies, probably because that's how They have been treated all along, they now feel its the norm or their right.

Even during NYSC, my no is no, a lady once said if not that She knew me she would call me gay because I don't give a damn, I can be jovial and nice but when it comes to serious issues I stick to my stand.

@ochilikoko, if you invited her, sorry bro you should at least appreciate for for coming, better still if you want to see her visit her, or she wants to see you let her visit you on her own.

Sleekshady:
ROTF

speaktogen:
I luv ur maturity! *no homo*

remsonik:
Pls the constant whining and women bashing on this topic is getting boring

Mynd44:
Gold digging is not out of greed . It is just personal preferences.

She likes guys with money cos they spoil her, she goes for them

He likes girls with big boobs cos he enjoys it, he chases them.

Where is the greed?

Godmother:
I opened this thread cos I want to know if what I'm doing is right, cos I ve kind of being out of the dating pool for a while. This is not an attention-seeking thread and if you have nothing good to say please take a walk.

Mynd44:
Individual discretions yes. Now imagine if a girl grew up poor and saw poverty in her neighborhood and how little kids suffer and starve and she decides her kids will have a better life. That her kids must live is a better neighborhood, attend good schools and eat good food hence she will work hard and whoever she marries must also be able to provide that dream. Is it her fault?

A guy who has seen his dad frustrated cos his mum is not as sexually active as his dad and that caused friction will want to marry a woman who is sexually compactible. Is it shallow thinking? Yes but is it right? Hell yes

1one:
Orijin

Mynd44:
Dude, you need a pulpit and a microphone.

This is not a church. Preaching morals is lost. How dare you say someone looking for sexual compatibility is wrong? Or a woman searching for financial security ?

These are things that can drive one nuts Na.

1one:
I agree.... But those standards must/should border more on personality than physique, on content rather than structure...In this time and age, it's not a common trend, but when have we ever done what we are supposed to do as humans.

This is how true relationships are forged, content and character, not structure and physique.... If there has to be a mixed proportion of the two which of course there should be I'm not denying that... Then it should be 60/40 in favour of content and character any other, if otherwise then it becomes what we know as the conventional meaning of the term "gold digging"

VickyyB:
No gender is a gold digger.
The phrase is mostly used when a broke arsè guy has been dumped by his gf.
[s] No gf for a lazy man or probably, he could get an ashewo for 200naira or a low class girl [/s] .

Mynd44:
And a guy that knows he is not sincere about a girl but keeps giving her hope so he can sleep with her is a what?

That is not gold digging, it is called being manipulative

Mynd44:
There is nothing like "Gold-digging" it is a lie we tell ourselves to hide our ego.

A lot of us have tastes. We won't go after a girl/guy who does not have that quality l. If a woman or man is concerned about her financial security and see finds it attractive in a man why should we blame her?

A lot of men love women with big boobs and won't look at women with small boobs and no one insults them Na.

If a girl does not like you cos you are not rich enough, move on and find one that does not consider money.

Stop Bìtching

goldfish27:
Abeg tell dem....by d way hw many pass waec without expo....d guy no talk say him broke like most of u wey dey talk trash.....only God go help our ladies dats y most of them done over ripe for there father houz....

Cheadiva:
no!I dnt...d only carrot s eatable

Dotwillis1:
o boy

excel111:
so if the lady is ur babe...she should sit at the middle so that the rider wil b enjoying the two oranges sotey. Chai there is G...D ooo

chibwike:
Lol..i tot u became a man of God Recently

Cheadiva:
Carrot

Jsmile:
Pls I always see this "OP" in replies, what does it mean ? s