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ChinenyeN:
This is the real issue in this discussion. It becomes more of a problem because we do not know if she stopped talking to him simply because he is Yoruba, and people just want to hop on and straight away pass judgement.

Now, although I am one person, I'll use myself as an example to illustrate something. Say that I am a dot at the center of a paper. Draw a circle around that dot and label it "close friends". The people within that circle that surround me (the dot) are my closest friends and they are from all kinds of backgrounds. Draw another circle around the circle labled "close friends". Label that circle "Associates". These people are people that I see and greet, say "hi" to at the mall when I pass by them, friends of my close friends, people that I work with or school with. Our relationship usually won't extend past that moment when we are face to face, and even then we don't really engage in much dialogue. These people are from all kinds of backgrounds, but the majority are from my ethnic group. Now draw another circle around that labeled "Associates" and label the new circle "Others". These people are those that I do not associate with at all (ie. People I do not know, people that I don't personally like for who they are and how they behave, etc.). They are from all backgrounds, walks of life, etc. If anyone were to see me outside the house with anybody, it would most likely be someone from the category "Associates". This person is also very likely to be from my ethnic group, but we are not going to be talking as if we're close friends. We will probably be standing or sitting somewhere (because we just so happened to bump into each other) and exchange a few words then continue on with our life. So if someone were to see me on a normal day, they will misinterpret my actions the way the girl was misinterpreted (assuming that there's more to the issue than what adeniyi83 posted).

This is an example of what might be the situation surrounding the girl that stopped talking to adeniyi83. Even this "stop talking" issue. . . I find it hard to believe that she just straight up ignored him after finding out he was Yoruba. Again, I do not know the situation surrounding the issue. All in all, I see nothing wrong with tribalism. I only see the incorrectness of what people do to one another in the name of tribalism.

The OP's simple and straightforward post  has nothing to do with what you just typed, plz. Maybe you meant to post on another thread.

we got a a little close and when she found out that i was Yoruba, she stopped talking to me. I later overheard her telling a fellow Igbo collegue that she didn't know i was Yoruba, considering that i am light skinned.

Angelheart:
From what I have gathered in this forum, most Nigerians share some common traits of stupidity though. You tpia, some Carmelly idiot and a few others. You just have the art of ranting and manifesting your stupidity I just can't help being amused. Go to another forum? Nah! I couldn't be asked! I'm concerned about you, you just might miss me, Ure the link between ur daddy dearest and I.

read through your posts on this thread and stop pretending you're unaware of your mind boggling level of daftness. I'm sure that's why you attract only Nigerian losers and drug dealers. Decent Nigerians dont hang around the likes of you.

Why dont you let me miss you- absence makes the heart grow fonder, not so?


The way you shamelessly make a play for my dad, is very disturbing, for real. You're so desperate and I feel your pain. I know time isnt on your side and you have to get a presentable man at all costs. But why hang your problem on my neck nah.

subice:
When will debates like this be a thing of the past? Must there always be an angle to everything?

thank you.

How does one opening prayer make Lagos a Christian or Muslim state? I doubt the OP is familiar with Lagos at all.

ChinenyeN:
First thing's first, I haven't read through the entire topic. How can I, with such little time and you all typing up such long posts. . .

Anyway. I want to ask, in all of this, has anyone even yet bothered to define tribalism in this discussion? So far, it seems as though the discussion isn't about "tribalism". Rather, it seems as though you all are talk about prejudice and ethnocentrism. By the definitions that I'm familiar with, tribalism is nothing more than having a strong sense of identity with one's ethnic group and feelings of loyalty towards one's tribe. There's nothing wrong with that. What it seems like to me, is that the issue is with stereotyping, prejudice and suspected ethnocentrism that comes about as a result of people not being knowledgeable about other tribes. By definition, I am a tribalist. I don't see anything wrong with identifying with my ethnic group and having loyalty towards the tribe that I come from.

Long story short, we need to define what we're talking about here before we continue talking about it. I don't know if anyone else has already proposed that (and I wouldn't know because I haven't yet read through the entire topic).

this is what's being discussed here (if you read the original post):

Why are Nigerians tribalistic?

I met a chic when i just started working in my office, we got a a little close and when she found out that i was Yoruba, she stopped talking to me. I later overheard her telling a fellow Igbo collegue that she didn't know i was Yoruba, considering that i am light skinned.

Blackcat:
Give honour to whom honour is due, must she jet out to L.A before we know what she is worth. Steph has her own line of perfumes and body creams .

'Sensual by Stephanie' cost 190 dollars and comes in blue and pink small containers, while the perfume named 'Sweet and Sensual by Stephanie' cost 165 dollars

do you have a link where one can get more information?

MC Usman:
The Stats is deduce form the comparative disadvantage the north has continuously been associated with by nairalanders.

so are nairalanders the new gospel?

trying to start another tribal war, I see.



Yet you're not even Nigerian.

Interesting!

MC Usman:
yORUBA DELIGHT

you just had to go there, didnt you? Making it look like this is a particularly Yoruba thing. When someone jumps on your case now and flogs you senseless, you'll be here screaming blue murder because something dear to you was insulted.



Until the whites come back to enslave the whole lot of you, you wont let go of tribalism.

Tribalism is the curse of Africa, for real.

https://img360.imageshack.us/img360/7544/akanodj7.jpg

this looks like a middle eastern city.

No hills, and you can see for miles from this vantage point.

The buildings look nice though.  I heard Kano has an ancient part and a newer section. Most people I know, who lived there, say they like it.

ezeagu:
Er, I was replying to why there's ethnocentrism in NIGERIA, plus it's not an answer it's an opinion.

true.

ezeagu:
Because we didn't chose to be together which caused us to clash hence why there is:
[size=18pt]Ethnocentrism[/size]

sorry, wrong answer.


Racists didnt choose to live in the same country with blacks. Does that justify their attitude.

my lover's name is pidgin and we love each other deeply.



_{however, let me know when it becomes a banable offence.}

are mpele and Angelheart typical examples of a south African education?

eyahh.

Some mothers do have 'em.

Is there any way the two of them can exit to a south African forum before they catch a Nigerian virus from this one. I wouldnt want Angelheart to have yet more diseases than the ones she already caught from sharing needles with her Nigerian drug dealing pimps. Too late for Mpele though.

as it is, madam Angelrat dey chase my dad everywhere not knowing he's not the same class as her boyfriends. All Nigerians are not the same, sweetie.

surely women arent that scarce anywhere?


I heard of a man who did this, and from then on, his life went downhill.

On the other hand, this is perfect karma if the guy is a user and abuser of females.


Personally, I'D think it should be an abomination though. don't know why it isnt.

well, as long as Nigerian men continue trying to mold foreign women into their ideal "Nigerian" wife, its only natural for the women to wonder at the nature of traditional men/women relationships in Nigeria.



Someone wasnt raised Nigerian in any way, yet you keep telling her this is how "Nigerian" women do things. (an attitude which doesnt make sense to me, talkless a non-Nigerian). If you're so stuck on Nigeria, then why date outside Nigeria?

Of course, there are some foreign and Nigerian women whose ideal life involves being bound hand and foot to some guy, and worshipping the ground he walks on. But at the end of the day, turning yourself into a doormat doesnt really earn you that much respect from the man himself. However, some people dont mind that, I guess.

I happen to come from a very mixed background, paternal grandparents are from Akwa-Ibom and Cameroun, maternal grandparents are from Lagos island and the west Indies.as a result, i never belonged ANYWHERE. It got worse as i grew up especially because i could only speak English.
I was crucified from all angles.Imagine standing in a long queu waiting to register for NYSC (camp), university,common entrance and the likes of it and when you get to the front, the person screening sees your surnname (ibibio surnname and a yoruba first name) and starts to speak, ibibio. I don't understand a word and i say so, and i receive the insults of my life, typically  it goes like this
1.shame
2.your father married YORUBA
3.you can't speak youar language
and they leave you standing there and not attending to you.

On my mothers side- i was always omo yomirin.

as time went on, i tried to learn ibibio, but whoever was to teach me, always got so annoyed "that i did not understand" and stopped teaching.

then i started to learn yoruba-folks teased me, called me omo igbo and all sorts, but it was better than learning ibibio.

I used to dread association with either tribe at a stage, but later on toughened myself and became non challant about the whole thing.

Today i understand yoruba very well, relate to ibibios well also (and can even mimick the accent)- you definitely learn to do that after years of hearing " YOU MEAN YOU don't SPEAK YOUAR FATHERS LANGUAGE, SHAME"

and also educate both ends when they say something negative about one another.In all i have learnt to stay on top of the situation,you can do the same.Only little minded people discriminate.

cheers

I don't think people understand how extremely bush tribalism can make them appear. Just plain bush. As if they're still in the predawn of civilization.


Nothing harder than a thick head, for real. And yet people go on as if they're the ones who invented the tribe they claim they're from.

hmph.

and I noticed the people who always try to make others feel bad about their mixed heritage, are usually the really bush ones, with such a primitive mindset. Yet for some reason, instead of working on their exposure and trying to get a veneer of sophistication, they tend to dump their personal issues on others? And seem to think the mixed kids are easy picking?

bawomolo:
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ouch!!!!

TKO.

that must have hurt.

I would have dropped my congratulations as well if I hadnt noticed this thread:

I Need A Wife.

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=173597.msg2833260#msg2833260

Within the space of one month you mean to say you found a wife, got her pregnant and had quadruplets? Or you were busy advertising for a wife while the current one was heavy with the quads? Or there's no wife at all and you're pulling people's legs?



This is very confusing and it would be nice of you to explain this puzzle.

oh dear.


Deepzone: I hope you're not someone I've met sha.

Its a small world and Nigerians do gossip socialize a lot. My two older brothers have friends in the US- Philly side.

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oh God, not another George Bush and Florida circus.

But from all indications, it does seem like Obama is leading?

they must have stymied him with that German language fiasco before the match.

Very demoralizing, if you ask me.

I wouldnt be surprised if they gave him some evil grins and looks in addition to the language thing.

anyway, he'll have better luck next time, I hope.