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Your pride and dignity comes from your husband. the day you married him was the day you lay down your pride and dignity on his feet

works both ways though!!!!!


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viclee009:
accept my sympathy. i will give you this advice from a man's propective.
first telling your husband that he stinks was absolutely wrong on your part. there are ways to tell your huaband to take a shower. it's not what you said, but how you said it.
My friends girl friend once told him one day that they won't eat  dinner until he honor her by joining her in the shower. they both went and took shower together and ended up having a w i l d time at the bathroom. it might have turned into a fiansco had she used your approach.
also when you are pregnant, your sense of smell heightened as well as other sensory perception.
Your Pride does not justiy killing an innocent child, a blessing from God to solve your marriage problem.
My dear lady. apologise to your husband. forget the modernism and ill advised philosophy of our decaying era of so called sexual equallity. Your ability to resolve personal differences determine the kind of family you will eventually have.
Your pride and dignity comes from your husband. the day you married him was the day you lay down your pride and dignity on his feet. remember this;

"When you think to take determination of your fate into your own hands, that is the moment you can be crushed. Be cautious. Allow for surprises. When we create, there are always other forces at work".

Seek freedom and become captive of your desires. Seek discipline and find your liberty.

he was wrong in slapping you on the other hand. please freedom from marriage to him will only lead you into the wrong hands. Be well adviced.

well said.

They both need to apologize to each other though. The man should swallow his pride and do so first and also learn about anger management. I cant believe some men are still battering women after seeing Rihanna's face!!!!


If he makes it a habit to react like that everytime he's provoked, then he'll get himself in big trouble one day.


and I'm sure it's pregnancy hormones that made the wife get so upset over her husband's shower or lack of it. Assuming she was married to an oyibo nko- most of them dont shower as much as Africans do. Maybe coming from the tropics makes us sweat more, I dont know.

In any case, the husband and wife need to calm down first. The fight cant be resolved while they're still angry.

ferdimako:
I noticed this woman (the poster) is this kind of women that want a man to bring and bring. He brings about the relationship (she mentioned that she was always down with handsome men) and  I guess  when none popped the question, she went for this not-so-good-looking man (her current husband). This man works his ass out every day, comes home to say honey here honey there, no much strength to fukc her like she wants it (may be a sex freak though) and he starts to smell, hence she reminded/reminds him to take a bath. If the man has changed, so does the woman or she never improved at all.You know people who do not do much, always complain of others doing little.Experience from my younger brother!

Marriage and child birth are never a necessity.She can abort and leave this poor man in peace and go for fine-faced guys.

what part of pregnant women are highly influenced by their hormones dont you understand? Her sense of smell may be hyperactive due to the pregnancy hence the reason for her getting so upset over the husband's refusal to take a shower.

And see the litany of complaints you just spilled as if you've been rehearsing them for months!!!! na wa oh!!!!

It was wrong for the man to react with violence even though he felt he was provoked. He shouldnt wait for plice to tell him that. sheesh.

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dont terminate the pregnancy!! Dont cut off your nose to spite your face.

What the man did was very wrong- a man should try to restrain himself from wife battering- and if it were overseas he could get jailed for that, but terminating your pregnancy solves nothing. Besides, it comes with a risk too.

Next time if the man doesnt want to shower, let him be. He's not a small child who needs to be reminded of things like that. When you have your baby, after a while you'll have to remind the child to bath all you want until you tire sef.

As long as he showers before going out in public with you, let him be. Or as long as he's presentable, shower or no shower.

But regardless, he shouldnt have slapped you- that was very bad and cowardly of him.

Some pregnant women do get very cranky due to hormones- I dont know if your husband is aware of this. If you have a trusted friend,relative or pastor who you know wont turn this into a gossipfest, you might want to get them involved and hopefully have them explain this to him.

and dont forget to pray.

ndo!

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the ladies are getting their groove on.

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