If you don't want to be disrespected by your wife in the presence of a guest then you shouldn't disrespect her in the presence of a guest.

eni4real:
What is bad is the wife refusal In the presence of a guest. It is very disrespectful!!!

Lol

But not too young to marry an ancestor in real life?

PrincessJr:
Why cast these two as lovers in a movie? This girl is too young to be Ninalowo’s gf or whatever! Poor casting

There is only one port Harcourt mall and it is Spar, formerly Park n Shop. Stop blaming bloggers for your own ignorance.

Anndrew:
..no b only u..i wonder whch 1 b portharcourt mall...no location,no name..usless blogger

Spar is port Harcourt mall.

Kenmatt:
I have been in Portharcourt for almost twenty years but I don't know which one or where is Portharcourt mall?

You are just so damn dimwitted. How TF is someone married to you?

b0rn2fuck:
Don't be quick to judge, woman can make you do something worse but not to point of death. The one that happened to me recently made believe devil is still a learner. It was on sunday, my woman has gone to church with the child. I decide to clean the house, watch the ditches and even some my cloth, the same woman i did it for when she arrived. It was already raining, she told me she want to get indomie for her child. that i should help her to get it . I had to go in heavy rain to get it. On getting back. I had to clean to my foot before steping in, despite that, she start naggin that i should have let my body and foot dried completely before steping in until she start abusing and curse which later result in me landing her slap.

True but those are in the minority and they shouldn't paint every female with the same brush.

missimelda01:
True, but you'll agree with me that there are lots of extremist out there. These set of people are the ones giving men the wrong impression of what feminism is.

If you're not willing and able to change diapers of your own baby at least when your wife is away or incapacitated then you have no business getting married or making a baby in the first place.

So if your wife was very busy, sick,
or travelled you won't change the baby diapers.

It is your type that are so lazy as bachelors to the point that you can't even do your own damn dishes.

deltateam:


You can't marry a man who cannot change baby poop abi? You go tay sha.

Next thread.

But you have seen your mom split the bills right? And somehow that's okay but your dad sweeping or washing dishes makes him less of a man.

I have a neighbor, ex-super eagles player. Hes been around the world though he's broke now and doesn't work. His wife is the breadwinner as this man contributes little to nothing. He sweeps, cleans, prepares and even takes the kids to school. He is looked down upon by many but he doesn't care. He knows that having to depend on his wife for house chores will make them bankrupt as his wife currently works 3 jobs (hussles) to sustain the family.

If you and your wife work and both return back tired and famished and you still expect her to cook, clean and all that while sitting down doing nothing, then it simply means you're a wicked soul.

deltateam:


Scary. Men you see it for yourselves. Look before you say " I do."

I have never seen my Dad washing dishes or sweeping the house. I wonder what our women want to turn us to these days.

Girl, most feminists do same but these NL male retards don't know that.

They think being a feminist means that you reject your husband as the head of the home and I'm okay with them making baseless assumptions as I'm done educating them.

missimelda01:
Yes, both parties should compliment each other, that's what I meant by equity. The man is the head of the home, I stand with that.

I've gotten to understand that it's wicked men who stress their wives with too much work. Some women never stop cleaning/cooking and nothing is more repulsive than that.

Nigerian men just want to split the bills but not chores.

safarigirl:


While I do not subscribe to an actual time table, there is nothing wrong with a couple splitting household work.

If we can split bills, then, we can split household chores. If I cook the meal, you do the dishes or set the table, but don't sit around like some handicapped person when na only two of us dey house. Some women look raggedy within twin years of marriage because their husbands want to kill them with work. Someone will now come and say, "look good for your husband". Those wives you see that look stunning, they do not have to worry about sweeping the house.


I can't do an actual time table for such, because I find it ridiculous, but we are going to find a formula that works, I kuku don't have the physical strength to do plenty work.

Is this what y'all think feminism is?
Damn! No wonder yall have such a twisted view of feminism.

deltateam:


I understand and appreciate this fact but what of the issue of a woman telling her husband to cook for himself or telling him off publicly on social media like Tonto Dike.

I thought y'all agreed to accept such if women agreed to split the bills. Why are y'all complaining now?



May God keep giving irresponsible men women like yours.

deltateam:


The bearing of names is not even my main contention. Its the fact she is considering splitting cooking timetable and household chores with the husband.

@ your last sentence, you're very correct.

My sister's friend's mom has all her kids bearing a combination of both names.

safarigirl:
don't you have siblings bearing your father's name too? So, why must your wife throw hee father's name away?

Is she your child?

Have you done half the things her father has done for her? So, because you are marrying her, she must throw away her entire identity?

Nothing concerns you with what names she chooses to affix to your name that she will already take, as long as na your name finish story. Afterall, great women like Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala have taken both their father's and husband's names to great heights and nobody has died.


You never jam, there are some mad ones that will insist yoir kids bear a combination of your name and her father's name, na this one you dey fear for. Grow a backbone, because external forces are obviously playing you like pingpong.

My mom does not have the same financial strength my dad has and one of the reasons is that my dad never wanted my mom to "stress" herself doing business.

Also how is stating facts promo?

kushme:


coded guy..

All the props/ promoshe give her mother as good adviser to the dad make me wonder why the so called adviser no close those deals herself if she's got her dough...

My sister has a friend whose mother added her surname to her husband's name and they've been living in peace and harmony.

There are way so many women who use both names and are peacefully married.
If not that I'm currently bearing my grandfather's name as my surname and not my dad's, then I surely would insist on adding my dad's name to my husband's because my dad has been so wonderful to me.

LasLas:

do you know she has actually suggested that one's to me? That she must include her father's name to her name when married? She reluctantly agreed after so much argument. Giving reason that her dad has give much to her, she won't just want her dad's name to disappear of which she has alot of brothers bearing her dad's name

Nah..... honestly I'm not. That's why I refrained from quoting figures at the last instance.

Rhaspody:


You just use style tell us say your dad grab dough.

Honestly these spineless men are a broken record and they feel threatened by a woman's success. They are the same losers who always say, "women can't handle success/leadership positions" or "when women have money, they start misbehaving". SMH at their foolishness.

safarigirl:
Don't mind these people

When my mother was alive, she was paying school fees for I and my sister, amounting to 500k per year, this was as at 2003, my dad was only paying 40k for my little brother, and that one na with abeg. My mother was responsible for our clothes and feeding, she boight all the kitchen equipments and they were a lot. They split the rent, the car they bought, they split the money too. By Nigerian standards, my mother is a staunch feminist.

Some men allow cowardice and spinelessness take them away from great women. They don't have a discerning mind, they are easily swayedbby what their friends say or their family says. So many Nigerian men are particularly fond of this. They claim to be men in their relationships, but they become pussies when they sit with friends and families

Maybe someone in his house noticed the girl no dey take nonsense, maybe they feel threatened that she will come in and cut off their source of free money (the guy), so, they have put ideas in his head and he is looking at her with this new idea.

A weak, spineless and mindless man is what I see here, he is unworthy of submission. There is no feminist, no matter how great, that will not submit to the will of a strong man. The society greatly lacks such men, just glorified weaklings, parading as men.

That's what men who are not faithful get.
You cannot expect to be first place in your wife's heart when you're a Randy "brostitute", nah... doesn't work that way.

DMerciful:
You are wrong to focus majorly on your children. You first love is ur husbandbefore the children came and he shouldn't be abandoned after they come
Many women neglect their husbands and face only the children knowingly or unknowingly else the man start craving the attention from side chicks and it spiral out of control. Change this mentality, its potentially dangerous

Bla bla bla

Do you know how many women pay kids fees, rent and even own the family home?
I knew a woman who sent 4 of her 5 kids abroad for studies. She had built 3 duplexes. Her husband was a never-do-well who stole her car, money and even ran off with a girl he had impregnated when his wife got ill. Many women are breadwinners who don't brag about it.

KomonSense:


Make una go dey blame Chimmamnda Adichie... Nah she put all Nigeria ladies for wahala when she started that her useless feminist campaign..

Imagine she said she won't bear her husband's name after marriage.

How many women would agree to split bills with a man after eating out at an eatry ??

How many feminists do you know? Look at all the people who have declared themselves feminists and go hide yourself in shame. Genevieve, Chimamanda, Tonto etc , do you think splitting bills are their problem in life? I know lots of women who are breadwinners but they keep mum and make it look like their husbands are the breadwinners but when a man is the breadwinner, he never fails to remind the woman that the roof over her head is his.

deltateam:


It depends on what having a mind of your own means.

You females are manipulative walai. You claim feminism only when it suits you.

How many girls will agree to split bills with you at an eatery? Opportunists and blood suckers everywhere.

You're very correct. I can't even count how much money my dad has "lost" by not heeding to my mom's advice.

Firstly, when my mom saw the land my dad bought, she told him it would be waterlogged and swampy during the rainy season and that he should exchange it for the much bigger and better one (and pay installmentally) like the land owner had earlier suggested. My dad refused and guess what? We moved in and damn, we suffered flooding for several years due to him not heeding to my mom.

A few years ago, my mom advised my dad to buy a house for about N7m, he refused. Today that house is worth over N20m and he regrets not buying it.

Lastly, there's a place my dad secured land. The community chiefs then told him they were willing to sell more to him and that even if he didn't have the money he could pay in installments. My mom told him to secure as many as he could, but do you know what he did? He went and told his very rich friends. They then bought up most of the land. Shortly after that, multinational companies came there and guess what? In less than 4 years, the price of the land tripled.

Honestly I pity men don't know the value of women with minds of their own.

iammiracle1:
Feminism is grossly misunderstood in this part of the world, OP the fact that your fiancee doesn't agree with you in everything doesn't make her a feminist, you may think having a woman who laps and agrees to your every decision to prove you are the "man" is the way to go its not, in the long run its either you get tired of been with a woman that doesn't challenge you mentally or you miss out on having the opinion of your partner which could turn out to be very viable, till today my popsy raves about how our mum saved him from a life of bankruptcy by putting her feet down and disagreeing with his proposed business plan, we would have been in the village by now because exactly what she said happened, it doesn't mean that your woman should be rude but trust me its viable to have someone who can think on her feet.

Ignorance, but whatever if it makes you sleep.

NNEWIsuper:

at the emboldened, women don't pick men, rather we men pick u all..as a lady u can't choose your man, your man chooses u

And you're just realizing this after 2 years and a visit to her parents. Lol

You don't deserve her. Leave her and I guarantee she will find someone better.
You just don't like her anymore hence all these excuses.

If you hadn't met her parents it'd be less hurtful; but you met her parents and made it known you would marry their daughter.

LasLas:

Her ideologies are totally different from mine. When ever i correct her on some issues or tell her to do some stuffs she feel am trampling on her and sometimes she feel i'm punishing her.

It means they are not doing it for the love and desire of it but because they feel compelled to due to the fact they don't wanna hurt or bring shame to the other party.

murphyrichy:
I wonder why most people use this word Out of pity whenever marriage is concerned... Wat exactly do you mean by "out of pity here"?

And what is wrong with feminism?

LasLas:

Not that she's really balance financially but from her statement and body language sometimes you will suspect such. I have actually told her that she's a ferminist and she laughed and told me she's not.... Am just scared because she might be hiding it now

Watched it. It was crazy... Plus the US ladies were so beautiful.

The Thailand girls should be flogged mercilessly and banned from ever participating again.

You entire states that can't do without SS proceeds are their placentas buried in the SS?

blackaxe78:
They still wont heard there. Their placenta's buried in the West

Don't women also pay bills? The women you see everyday struggling under sun and rain to sell their merchandise are not doing so to pay bills right?

Look, don't ever compare child birth to paying bills ever. It is sacrilegious. Experts say the pain of childbirth is equivalent to all the bones in the human body breaking at the same fvcking time so shut up.

donziggyman:

And so? Are men not trying to prove for the family?
You think paying bills is like open legs to Bleep and carry belle??

So there are no Yoruba prostitutes?

If you fight with a mad man who should feel embarrassed between you and the mad man?

YorubaWarrior:
Wait... so the stupid olosho wey naked her body no disgrace herself abi? Na pesin wey dress up na him dey disgraced? Rubbish.

Of course we know the tribe she for come... dem Okoro Savage pipu.

My thoughts exactly.

stano2:
I thought she said she gets paid to post on Twitter or Instagram what happened to the money

Dumb fvck

wilsonchilboy:


Senseless Slay mama spotted