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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by ibkayee(f): 4:09pm On Jun 13
pocohantas:


Why are they always looking for who to wash their clothes and sweep their houses? Who trained these ones?
Lool I don’t know for them

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by GogobiriLalas: 4:09pm On Jun 13
eodavids:


Op wait!

Wait.

Just wait, okay?

The younger, timid and lowlife women are the ones to beware of.

It pains a man more, even to the marrows and to a man's soul that he brought out a nobody as a wife, brushed her up and made her somebody, then she disrespects him. This case in point as you paint it isnt that too bad.

My thought:
May be the wife at that point was exhausted and, for that reason, requested that the man dish his food by himself.

In family setting, its no big deal for a man to go dish out his food himself, in fact it does not amount to disrespect. I presume that the woman cooked the food. Is it dishing it for his stomach that is a hard labour for a loving husband?

SEE OP, TAKE IT FROM ME AND TELL ANY ONE WHO CARES TO LISTEN:

A MAN SHOULD NOT EXPECT HIS WIFE TO DO ALL MENIAL JOBS AT HOME ALONE. IT SHOULD BE SHARED AND THAT IS WHEN THE COUPLE ARE IN 21ST CENTURY.

TO TRY TO MAKE YOUR WOMAN SUBSERVIENT AND LABOUROUS, MAY BE THE WAY OUR GRAND PARENTS HAD THEIR WIVES DO WILL NOT ENGENDER HEALTHY HOME FOR MODERN FAMILIES.

ADVICE: Let the man not always insist on asserting himself. Let him apply humility, it smoothens love and peace in the home.

If the man had (perhaps foreknowing the way his wife behaves) gone to the kitchen and fetched the food himself without demanding that from the wife, perhaps the woman may have toned this way: "oh Darling, you should have asked me to serve your food na"

In that way, your friend could have saved himself, his wife and their family this whole embarrassment.

The good news is: soon their children will complement the deficiencies of either of them by rendering this kind of services...

I hate men like you more than the devil...all male feminists should be killed and their carcasses fed to dogs. You don't know what the eff you're saying.
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Habeyy(m): 4:09pm On Jun 13
@op bros
How this one take comcern you is what I am finding hard to phantom
Is it your headache

Moralist like you are the real problem of this country

Face your business
If you learn to mimd your biz,you will have less time for this

In other words, thanks for informing us

Get busy with ur hustle...
pray for them if you truly cares

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by tumababa(m): 4:10pm On Jun 13
kevin25:
My neigbor got married to a woman that is financially and academically ahead of him yes they started with love at initial stage she did everything possible to make sure the man suceed i mean everything she sacrify evrytn kudos to her, but the problem now is how the woman talks to the husband with no atom of respect she goes around telling people what she has done for the man to the extent her friends no longer see the man as anything .. The one that pains me was the day she told the man to go and dish out food for himself even in my presence, wen the man try to force her my dear come see insult from how she feed him to how she made him who he is,just because the man ask her to go and bring his food even dou the man is working now but stil the woman stil look down on him.. The worst she stil call the man by his name . The man is talking about bringing another woman that wil respect him as The man of the house.. This is a big lesson without money i dnt think you can control a nigerian woman .

not only nigerian women. google
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Arkmanbuddy(m): 4:10pm On Jun 13
kevin25:
The man is working now not broke he provides but stil the woman dnt respect him coz no matter any amount the man has she has it times two


Do they have kids?
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by franchasng(m): 4:12pm On Jun 13
eodavids:


Op wait!

Wait.

Just wait, okay?

The younger, timid and lowlife women are the ones to beware of.

It pains a man more, even to the marrows and to a man's soul that he brought out a nobody as a wife, brushed her up and made her somebody, then she disrespects him. This case in point as you paint it isnt that too bad.

My thought:
May be the wife at that point was exhausted and, for that reason, requested that the man dish his food by himself.

In family setting, its no big deal for a man to go dish out his food himself, in fact it does not amount to disrespect. I presume that the woman cooked the food. Is it dishing it for his stomach that is a hard labour for a loving husband?

SEE OP, TAKE IT FROM ME AND TELL ANY ONE WHO CARES TO LISTEN:

A MAN SHOULD NOT EXPECT HIS WIFE TO DO ALL MENIAL JOBS AT HOME ALONE. IT SHOULD BE SHARED AND THAT IS WHEN THE COUPLE ARE IN 21ST CENTURY.

TO TRY TO MAKE YOUR WOMAN SUBSERVIENT AND LABOUROUS, MAY BE THE WAY OUR GRAND PARENTS HAD THEIR WIVES DO WILL NOT ENGENDER HEALTHY HOME FOR MODERN FAMILIES.


ADVICE: Let the man not always insist on asserting himself. Let him apply humility, it smoothens love and peace in the home.

If the man had (perhaps foreknowing the way his wife behaves) gone to the kitchen and fetched the food himself without demanding that from the wife, perhaps the woman may have toned this way: "oh Darling, you should have asked me to serve your food na"

In that way, your friend could have saved himself, his wife and their family this whole embarrassment.

The good news is: soon their children will complement the deficiencies of either of them by rendering this kind of services...

Tell them!!

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Halo22: 4:13pm On Jun 13
The truth remains that every man should at least try to be able to be feeding and paying his house rents before thinking of how to have a family else, u are on a woe. I am writing from experience.

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by trapQ: 4:13pm On Jun 13
If you don't want to be disrespected by your wife in the presence of a guest then you shouldn't disrespect her in the presence of a guest.
eni4real:
What is bad is the wife refusal In the presence of a guest. It is very disrespectful!!!

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by kevin25(m): 4:13pm On Jun 13
Arkmanbuddy:


Do they have kids?
yes a boy and a girl
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by eni4real(m): 4:13pm On Jun 13
Xisnin:

It is obvious that our expectations for marriage are very different.

If your "strong thing" has any meaning, please lay it bare.

She picked the man from the gutters and now he has the effrontery to turn her
into a maid.
He should hire a maid if he wants someone to dish his food for him.

Since he is now maid, I wonder why he hasn't look for a young illiterate wife that
will worship him.

Pick him from the gutter
The man is not educated?? He won't eventually get employed He will never be successful without the woman intervention
I think I will have to agree with the op on this. Avoid every woman that think you are less of a man or want to negotiate leadership with you just because she is about to assist your struggling self...

Sometimes, You can't blame culture and religion that promote polygamy . This woman is the only one. Why won't she tun herself to a demi God...

I pity the man tho, she married a woman meant for a temperamental man..

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by GRACEGLORY: 4:13pm On Jun 13
kevin25:
My neigbor got married to a woman that is financially and academically ahead of him yes they started with love at initial stage she did everything possible to make sure the man suceed i mean everything she sacrify evrytn kudos to her, but the problem now is how the woman talks to the husband with no atom of respect she goes around telling people what she has done for the man to the extent her friends no longer see the man as anything .. The one that pains me was the day she told the man to go and dish out food for himself even in my presence, wen the man try to force her my dear come see insult from how she feed him to how she made him who he is,just because the man ask her to go and bring his food even dou the man is working now but stil the woman stil look down on him.. The worst she stil call the man by his name . The man is talking about bringing another woman that wil respect him as The man of the house.. This is a big lesson without money i dnt think you can control a nigerian woman .


It's only a problem of both inferiority and superiority complex. Nothing is wrong with a woman being well schooled and bouyant than her husband. It doesn't change the standard of the home, except in a case like this, where both parties don't know their roles, and are ego murdered. All a man and a woman has belongs to both parties. Ignorance breeds headache.

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Ugosample(m): 4:14pm On Jun 13
pocohantas:

My guy grin
Why Yoruba women though, you mean Igbo women do not do such?
the one wey I see na im I talk.
lipsrsealed
Or you want me to lie on this forum?
I respect those women tho they hustled like mad
tho it is now telling on their bodies
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by ibkayee(f): 4:15pm On Jun 13
pocohantas:


My guy grin

Why Yoruba women though, you mean Igbo women do not do such?
Ugosample:


the one wey I see na im I talk.

lipsrsealed

Or you want me to lie on this forum?

I respect those women tho
they hustled like mad

tho it is now telling on their bodies
grin grin

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by trapQ: 4:15pm On Jun 13
Lol, my brother was once this way, until his fiance got ill and he had to wash not just her clothes but her vomit.

Life has not hit you, don't worry.
eni4real:
E dey sweet your bele grin
Can he wash your pants and any other Laundry he found in the basket too
Is that how your mum treated your Dad?? Continue the emasculation!!!

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by eni4real(m): 4:16pm On Jun 13
trapQ:
If you don't want to be disrespected by your wife in the presence of a guest then you shouldn't disrespect her in the presence of a guest.
"Dear pls dish my food" is a disrespectful call right??
That is immaturity on the part of the woman. There is nothing disrespectful in that!!!

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by gforce5: 4:17pm On Jun 13
I am so tired of niggaz complaining about dating/marrying women who earn more than they do. When they tell you to marry women of your levels, you will not listen. A woman who is a high salary earner is not going to endure your "Headship" B.S. Even the religious ones can only endure for so long. I'm not giving these women any excuses on their behaviour but something's got to give guys.

When you find yourself in that situation, you have to bring something to the table in order to make them appreciate you. It could be your intellect, charisma, bed skills or character. If you really want someone who is going to "submit" to your "headship" then marry a someone you can control. Otherwise, you have to change your attitude and be smart.

You cannot be whining about poor girls bringing nothing to a relationship but sex and then when you find someone who brings more than that, you nag that she's not respectful enough. The reality on ground is that most Nigerian women regardless of class are very materialistic. Choose your poison.

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Arijude(m): 4:17pm On Jun 13
sassysure:
So he can't go and dish out food?
I have never dished out food for my husband and he is not a small or hungry man. As a matter of fact even when I stopped working for sometime unless when we are eating together.
Once he finish eating, from the day one of our relationship, he will take his plate and wash, with every other thing he sees on the sink.
It has not reduced him from being a man and the man in the house that has my respect always.

Enough of all these gender rules. It has destroyed more than it builds.

Simple things like that are what endears your spouse to you but it seems like your friend is always trying to bring "I'm the man card" in his union like most of our men do.
The woman refused to dish out food, and she was forcing her?
If she usually dish out food, what made her not to do it at that time. Was she too tired or very angry over something?
Did he try to know what was her annoyance, rather he want to exert his right as the head by ordering her to do that. Somebody that houses and feed you?
Common, u guys are really very dumb sometimes. It takes so little to make women lay down everything they have for guys especially working ladies but pride will never allow you guys to see whats before u.
Everyone can't be a pvssy like your husband .
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by mechanics(m): 4:17pm On Jun 13
Not all women.

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Theyoungmatron: 4:18pm On Jun 13
Billy0naire:


You are a typical timid man that is incapable of understanding that cerebral power is the divine order. I am a man, a real man and not a snow flake. I am such man that is not afraid of the devil and not even the Gods. But even as tough as I am, if I ever get challenged intellectually by a woman, I am humble enough to admit to learn from that woman. If she is more wealthy, then there is something she knows more about money that the man does not know, so what makes the man superior to the woman? His dick? His name? or his ego?

I am of the opinion that Gender is a farce, and brain power is ultimate. Success leaves clues and if the woman makes more money, she is more experienced in conversion of intellectual and intuitive functionalities to material gains.

So, the woman is absolute head of that home and the man should wash the fuccking plates or go out there a be a man and bring money and respect to the home and himself.

Full stop to foolishness of snowflakes and weak men who think they deserve Glory because they were birth with a phallus.

Respect is Earned and Money is Key to any earnings.
TELL THEM SIR.

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Inception(m): 4:18pm On Jun 13
olaolaking:
God will bless you. My wife a graduate for UI with Master degree from lasu marries me. I only have OND.

Her parent were finally buoyant than mine because the dad was an ex staff of chevron.

5 years ago when we wanted to marry, the daddy collected only 60 naira as dowry. They are not Hungary at all. From jss 1 to ss3 she use to board planes to and fro - FEGOCAL TO LAGOS. Meanwhile me I did not even know how to enter airport sef until we marry and she booked a flight for us.

Apart from the normal quarrel, she had respected me all the time and never say any stupid things to me. She corrects my English at times but with love. She still cook my food with will even me use to complain sometimes to rest. She is gainfully employed and holding a managerial post at a company.


People just assume anything.

I have said it repeatedly, MARRY A GOOD GIRL. A good girl remains a good girl. A bad girl will only appear like a good girl if there are other things to benefit from you.



HOLD THAT WOMAN WELL OOO!!!!

When we played , millions of girls were at beck and call.

It was when we decide to marry, that you you will realize that women are very, very, very, very , very, very,very, very...











Scarce.


To the OP i will only say this:

RESPECT IS EARNED. NOT BOUGHT. NOT DEMANDED FOR.

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by HBB1(m): 4:18pm On Jun 13
Dated a woman who was earning 5 times what I earned.

She was the kindest, smartest person I know.

Though her sanguine nature sometimes got on my nerves-- as she 'talks a lot,' she has the kindest heart!

Only girl I know who washed my underpants... Wakes me up with food, and constantly sends food to me at work ( even when outside the country).

We were not on the same level, at all, she was smarter than me and way more charismatic!

How did we gel?
I allowed her be herself, I was not intimidated about her successes, and constantly asked her to improve herself.
She had never done well with controlling people as she has an adventurous spirit, so I never sought to do so.

Every sane human being despises control, but wants to be lead. Our cultural evils have a lot centred on control-- Parent, Husband, Pastor, Boss, Politician... All thinking they are the all-in-all.

I say to such people, ' calm the Bleep down!, You are just a human being'

I however don't support abuse and arrogance from a woman and vice versa, if my wife changes to something else, I will leave her, no time for rubbish.

My father controlled my mum and she never realised her true potential-- her charisma, charm and talents all died because my dad was afraid.

I was trained to wash dishes, do house chores and I do so till date.

My woman won't end up looking like a hag due to overwork.

This is not me defending feminism though, a man is the head, he leads but doesn't rule!

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by mirexxx(f): 4:19pm On Jun 13
nwanneni:
I am not even domestic.things like food and chores can't ever bother me.
But the moment she starts battling for supremacy in my house then it's on.
Operation leave the house for her so we see how far she and her feminism will go with the bills and probably kids cheesy
cheesy grin
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by LordKO(m): 4:20pm On Jun 13
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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by LordKO(m): 4:20pm On Jun 13
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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by trapQ: 4:20pm On Jun 13
Even this one that can't type properly is deriding women.

It is well.
kevin25:
I dnt have such time guy they are my neigbor get that if not watin concern me nd them the man always advice me not to end with her kind of woman... He always regret everytn he says had it been he married a woman of his level he wil not been havin dis issue... Guy wen ur wife dnt respect u my dear ur finish.

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Ugosample(m): 4:20pm On Jun 13
ibkayee:

grin grin
lmao cheesy cheesy
what's funny
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by juwoonn(m): 4:20pm On Jun 13
sassysure:
So he can't go and dish out food?
I have never dished out food for my husband and he is not a small or hungry man. As a matter of fact even when I stopped working for sometime unless when we are eating together.
Once he finish eating, from the day one of our relationship, he will take his plate and wash, with every other thing he sees on the sink.
It has not reduced him from being a man and the man in the house that has my respect always.

Enough of all these gender rules. It has destroyed more than it builds.

Simple things like that are what endears your spouse to you but it seems like your friend is always trying to bring "I'm the man card" in his union like most of our men do.
The woman refused to dish out food, and she was forcing her?
If she usually dish out food, what made her not to do it at that time. Was she too tired or very angry over something?
Did he try to know what was her annoyance, rather he want to exert his right as the head by ordering her to do that. Somebody that houses and feed you?
Common, u guys are really very dumb sometimes. It takes so little to make women lay down everything they have for guys especially working ladies but pride will never allow you guys to see whats before u.
Nigerians love to judge..
Don't judge if you do not hear from both couples.. this report is from a third party.
As much as this info looks like a complete story, I'm sure we don't have up to 70% of the info that can necessitate an accurate judgement. No need to take it personal.
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Fvckmoderators: 4:21pm On Jun 13
From time I cant move in with a woman that stacks more than myself. Subconsicously she will never respect you, no matter how lovey dovey it seems

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by eni4real(m): 4:21pm On Jun 13
trapQ:
Lol, my brother was once this way, until his fiance got ill and he had to wash not just her clothes but her vomit.

Life has not hit you, don't worry.
Of Course. That is understandable!!!
She is ill.

Even if she is not sick but tired. Helping out is not a problem.

But to say that "I have never dished out food for my husband since we married. After he finish eating his food he will wash his plate any dish he met on the basin..." Ha ha. You guys should stop emasculating men especially those that are gentle..

Issues like this make Polygamist believe they are better off..

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Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by ibkayee(f): 4:22pm On Jun 13
Ugosample:


lmao cheesy cheesy

what's funny
Thanks for appreciating we hardworking Yoruba gals grin
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Bossjakande: 4:22pm On Jun 13
ogorwyne:

You will pay me for this.
The first means 'God forbid bad thing' in pidgin.

Second means 'young man, sit!
gosh my delta beauty how did u know IBO like dis.? hahaha how much now I will give u d key to my heart and plenty kissed lol
Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Theyoungmatron: 4:22pm On Jun 13
eni4real:
"Dear pls dish my food" is a disrespectful call right??
That is immaturity on the part of the woman. There is nothing disrespectful in that!!!
I didn't read where the man said dear dish my food embarassed embarassed embarassed Please where is it ? He must have exhibited the usual Nigerian men character and was shocked to the marrow by the reaction.
Action and reactions are always equal and opposite.
No woman will wander away at the sound of a pet name, she will snicker and behave anyhow but will still response somehow.

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