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Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by toprealman: 6:28am On Jun 12, 2019 |
OP, how are you feeling? The root cause of infidelity in marriage is greed and lack of self control. You just want to taste another punnany, why should another man have that veehayjay Then the lack of self control, why let your hormone work against you? |
Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by sinkhole: 6:36am On Jun 12, 2019 |
ImaIma1:but that is the truth, a married man will not tell his wife that! |
Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by trapQ: 6:38am On Jun 12, 2019 |
Ignorance, but whatever if it makes you sleep. NNEWIsuper: |
Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by trapQ: 6:59am On Jun 12, 2019 |
You're very correct. I can't even count how much money my dad has "lost" by not heeding to my mom's advice. Firstly, when my mom saw the land my dad bought, she told him it would be waterlogged and swampy during the rainy season and that he should exchange it for the much bigger and better one (and pay installmentally) like the land owner had earlier suggested. My dad refused and guess what? We moved in and damn, we suffered flooding for several years due to him not heeding to my mom. A few years ago, my mom advised my dad to buy a house for about N7m, he refused. Today that house is worth over N20m and he regrets not buying it. Lastly, there's a place my dad secured land. The community chiefs then told him they were willing to sell more to him and that even if he didn't have the money he could pay in installments. My mom told him to secure as many as he could, but do you know what he did? He went and told his very rich friends. They then bought up most of the land. Shortly after that, multinational companies came there and guess what? In less than 4 years, the price of the land tripled. Honestly I pity men don't know the value of women with minds of their own. iammiracle1: 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by deltateam: 7:04am On Jun 12, 2019 |
missimelda01: It didn't come in the topic. It was expressed in the content. What we are saying is that some women have misinterpreted the meaning of feminism and thinks it's female dominance of men. They no longer submit to a man's authority in marriage. When a man is saying A , they will counter it with B and remain stubborn in it. This is against biblical principles which explicitly states that the man is head of the family. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by LordsApostle: 7:08am On Jun 12, 2019 |
ImaIma1:Better subject yourself totally to what your man wants, else u remain single for life(the greatest fear of every woman) 1 Like |
Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by trapQ: 7:08am On Jun 12, 2019 |
How many feminists do you know? Look at all the people who have declared themselves feminists and go hide yourself in shame. Genevieve, Chimamanda, Tonto etc , do you think splitting bills are their problem in life? I know lots of women who are breadwinners but they keep mum and make it look like their husbands are the breadwinners but when a man is the breadwinner, he never fails to remind the woman that the roof over her head is his. deltateam: 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by trapQ: 7:12am On Jun 12, 2019 |
Bla bla bla Do you know how many women pay kids fees, rent and even own the family home? I knew a woman who sent 4 of her 5 kids abroad for studies. She had built 3 duplexes. Her husband was a never-do-well who stole her car, money and even ran off with a girl he had impregnated when his wife got ill. Many women are breadwinners who don't brag about it. KomonSense: 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by trapQ: 7:15am On Jun 12, 2019 |
That's what men who are not faithful get. You cannot expect to be first place in your wife's heart when you're a Randy "brostitute", nah... doesn't work that way. DMerciful: 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by deltateam: 7:19am On Jun 12, 2019 |
trapQ: Tonto Dike you said? I will move on. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by DMerciful(m): 7:21am On Jun 12, 2019 |
Its egg and chicken which comes first. Your earlier neglect may have triggered the brostitute behavior trapQ: |
Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by DMerciful(m): 7:22am On Jun 12, 2019 |
Something must trigger something...you may be a trigger LilMissFavvy: 1 Like |
Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by tiwiex(m): 7:26am On Jun 12, 2019 |
lovelybugs: It's misunderstood everywhere bro. |
Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by bigl: 7:37am On Jun 12, 2019 |
LasLas: Advise on incomplete info? What happened "ever since u came back from village?" that made u have thoughts of divorce "before" u are married? 2 things: 1. She did something super bad before u met her or while u were dating or 2. U don see another "asa" wey u wan dey run after like mumu Work on your mind bro! And learn to make up your mind... nothing is perfect in this world ... not even you ... |
Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by Rhaspody(m): 7:40am On Jun 12, 2019 |
trapQ: You just use style tell us say your dad grab dough. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by anigbajumo(m): 7:42am On Jun 12, 2019 |
yettymuse: Laugh wan kill me here,2yrs of unlimited shagging 1 Like |
Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by ABOVEDELAW: 7:44am On Jun 12, 2019 |
ARE YOU NOT A STUPID slowpoke? YOU WENT GO SEE HER PARENTS BEFORE GOING TO SEE YOURS, THAT'S THE BEGINNING OF YOUR PROBLEM! LasLas: 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by Pinuc: 7:56am On Jun 12, 2019 |
donbachi: The best advice, follow it. |
Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by bilulu(m): 8:00am On Jun 12, 2019 |
Olamega78:maybe what's he's trying to say is compatibility... |
Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by bilulu(m): 8:04am On Jun 12, 2019 |
Chi59:possibly or he's trying to go back to an ex whom he felt he loves more 1 Like |
Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by quisera(m): 8:04am On Jun 12, 2019 |
The Op probably has feelings for someone else. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by ricki: 8:07am On Jun 12, 2019 |
LasLas: I understand and feel ur pain........going through same too. Not fun at all. It is like curse written in Deuteronomy 28. I saw dem too but by heavenly father power he prepared me. |
Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by LasLas: 8:15am On Jun 12, 2019 |
KomonSense:do you know she has actually suggested that one's to me? That she must include her father's name to her name when married? She reluctantly agreed after so much argument. Giving reason that her dad has give much to her, she won't just want her dad's name to disappear of which she has alot of brothers bearing her dad's name |
Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by LasLas: 8:28am On Jun 12, 2019 |
Ishilove:Yea I noticed all this which I sometimes draw her attention to, sometimes when I tell her to do some home chores she feels I am punishing her, dat if I can't do it myself. She once said she fell for me cuz of how she sees me doing my cleaning and cooking myself dat she needs such a man. there was a time she told me she must add her dad's name to her marital name which I objected. we even had to argue about it for sometime. I have tried to discuss somethings with her but she thinks am too archaic or not modern in my reasoning. she'll always tell me things aren't done dat way again 1 Like |
Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by LasLas: 8:29am On Jun 12, 2019 |
ricki:are you married to her now |
Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by missimelda01(f): 8:35am On Jun 12, 2019 |
I had to go and read the post again to be sure of what you're referring to, and I still see no connection... OP wants to marry his babe, he has started making the necessary moves, suddenly after returning from his village he loses interested (he didn't mention the reason), now he's asking how to tell her that he's suddenly no longer interested. What concerns feminism with that? I'm not all about equality between a man and woman in a marriage, equity works better. deltateam: |
Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by safarigirl(f): 8:38am On Jun 12, 2019 |
Feminist traits? I have never heard such idiocy in my life. Your communication leaves a lot to be desired, so, because she isn't rolling on the floor for you, you suddenly noriced what you ignorantlt call "feministic traits"? Most Nigerians know nothing about feminism, the ignorance is always glaring. OP, please leave the woman and find a non-feminist. The God that gave feminists like Beyonce and Chimamanda husbands will give this your feminist soon-to-be-ex, a man that has sense. Your mindless zombie is out there waiting for you, but I have the feeling you will turn her to a feminist one day. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by missimelda01(f): 8:39am On Jun 12, 2019 |
LasLas please go and update your story to avoid misunderstanding in the comment section, I don't want people quoting me anyhow. My comment was based on what you wrote in your post, I'm not following up with the continuation of the story in the comment section. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by missimelda01(f): 8:41am On Jun 12, 2019 |
I don't get you MR, what is suppose to be the logical response? Read his post only and understand the angle I'm coming from. I didn't know he has been updating the story in the comment section. Belrandstar: |
Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by safarigirl(f): 8:49am On Jun 12, 2019 |
trapQ:Don't mind these people When my mother was alive, she was paying school fees for I and my sister, amounting to 500k per year, this was as at 2003, my dad was only paying 40k for my little brother, and that one na with abeg. My mother was responsible for our clothes and feeding, she boight all the kitchen equipments and they were a lot. They split the rent, the car they bought, they split the money too. By Nigerian standards, my mother is a staunch feminist. Some men allow cowardice and spinelessness take them away from great women. They don't have a discerning mind, they are easily swayedbby what their friends say or their family says. So many Nigerian men are particularly fond of this. They claim to be men in their relationships, but they become pussies when they sit with friends and families Maybe someone in his house noticed the girl no dey take nonsense, maybe they feel threatened that she will come in and cut off their source of free money (the guy), so, they have put ideas in his head and he is looking at her with this new idea. A weak, spineless and mindless man is what I see here, he is unworthy of submission. There is no feminist, no matter how great, that will not submit to the will of a strong man. The society greatly lacks such men, just glorified weaklings, parading as men. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her? by deltateam: 8:51am On Jun 12, 2019 |
missimelda01: You understand that op didn't volunteer all the information in that post. He released them in bits along the way. He seems afraid of releasing every detail though. 1 Like |
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