₦airaland Forum

DaddyMorenike:
this one na sweet potato.

MrRhymes101:
Who kon remain for Nigeria

IvarTheBoneless:
I would risk Joshua's punches just to get to this babe

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kingxsamz:
This is a very sad image. If I tell you I'm happy to be a Nigerian, na lie

francesawesome:
is it only national identity card? Would they accept international passport?

DaddyMorenike:
That 2nd girl from the left is ripe already. Ready to be harvested. See as she fair.

merahki:
It is not Ore’s fault that she is a good lover
The problem is her attitude as stated and not her bedroom skills or body type which we have learnt are top notch (a great thing)
That’s an unfair judgement by you sha

francesawesome:
is TRCN certificate compulsory? Please how can I get LASRRA number?

Sliss:
Is the LASRRA mandatory??

bobokeshington:
The foolish mod wey ban me, abeg wetin you gain? Now that you've lifted the ban mesef go refuse to comment

dominique:
He should go for Ore, they both deserve each other. Kemi (if she's exactly how the friend described) deserves better than this indecisive fuckboy who will cause her nothing but heart ache and pain in marriage.

englishmart:
Transfer and go in peace, befor they tag you a thief and shot you in the leg. Armed robbers in uniform.

Ftheophilous:
How do I even start the conversion?
What should I say?
How should I react? Do I smile or seem indifferent?
Oh! we are meeting again, what do we talk about now? maybe I should just evade him.
What will he/she think of me?
Do I say something or allow him talk first?
Do I greet or allow him greet first.
Should I follow her to the party? What will I even be doing there, I will just feel lost and out of place.
Do I get in a relationship? What if I get bored halfway.
What if she finds me odd?
Won't I look stupid or seem proud by answering the question?
What if I stutter?
What if I tell him this and he looks at me weirdly?
What if I get laughed at?
........dang it! Let me just dust my shoes and lie on the bed while I type away on my phone.....at least my device can see all my weirdness without being freaked out.


Introversion as well as shyness is a characteristic of a person. While the former results from personal choice and of course one's personality, the latter stems from low self-esteem leading to social anxiety.

You can be a person who simply like his privacy. Enjoys his personal time but likes to mingle once in a while, out of choice not out of need -unlike extroverts- then you are introverted, not shy.

You can be a person that gets uncomfortable and uneasy when in a large gathering, especially when you are the focus of the discussion; you get nervous, sweaty, uneasy, tong-tied, short of breath etc. You are shy and possibly introverted.

In a situation where a person exhibits both features of shyness and introversion, of course not limited to the above listed ones, then that person is both shy and introverted.

Although extroverts too occasionally get overwhelmed by shyness as regarding certain situations. I.e. a love interest, superior persona, new situations or making a faux pas; they oftentimes quickly recover because they are more socially adept than their introverted counterpart.

For an introverted person that is shy. It is hard.
Truth is introverts are more sensitive. They quickly adapt and react to people's expression or opinion of them and this can be attributed to the fact that introverts tend to over think and like to carry out planned actions. Almost like being a perfectionist when it comes to carrying out social actions. Spontaneity is not a forte of introverts in social situations due to their meticulous nature and the desire to carry out planned actions. Introverts that can flow well during social interactions are those that go out of their way in associating and that's the simple truth.

If you are an introvert who is shy, it means you have a low self esteem which may be caused by but not limited to; one's financial disposition, health status, physical appearance, lack of self worth due to hurtful statements that might have been made sometime throughout one's life, feeble-mindedness etc.

The first step in tackling shyness is to identify the source and then you are on.

Sincerely, different causes of shyness have different manner in which they are handled but generally, there is need for preparedness in the mind and this goes a long way in affecting one's mentality because, actually, the source of shyness resides in the brain.

If it's fear of large crowd, start with small groups, preferably friendly ones as they are less prone to insensitive talks.

If it's fear of what to say. Model your persona after someone you admire and imitate the habits that suits your person because, truth is, everyone learns. Life is a lifelong process of learning and since introverts tend to study people very well, it is usually easier to create a self, or lets say a hybrid self, which is a combination of different traits that have been studied overtime. This is similar to the behaviour of a growing child, isn't it. That's the goal - remodelling.

Everybody is unique. You can't be everything the society wants you to be but you can be the most important thing the society needs.

No person is a repository of all the knowledge in the world, even social understanding or skillfulness is learned. We all learn as we live. Some are willing and some are not.