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TERRIBLE EXPERIENCE NO GIRL CHILD SHOULD EVER EXPERIENCE.

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AmadeusCho:
Hi good people of Nairaland.

Please I need information on how I can get certification like:

ITIL
MCP
MCSA
MCSE
CISCO
CCNP

Can’t find any helpful tip on google. So please if you have done any of this certification or have idea how I can go about it. Kindly help out.

Bless

leave your house and go to an ICT institute like NIIT and enroll there.

Kokaine:
thank you very much.

Should a man expect submission from a woman or are they equals

As you stated earlier that love and other pretences soon fade away and we are left with our bare natures. Do I keep pretending I don't know I am physically and financially entitled to call the shots as it would be if she was my junior sister or colleague. Do I need to accommodate power tussles and insubordination from a woman who feels tired of remonstrating and letting me have the upper hand.

I have always swallowed the bitter pills of combative and argumentative women in relationship with so much difficulty just to appear civil and not necessarily because I think its okay. But just as demand and supply naturally determine the market of a product, does not financial, intellectual and physical superiority naturally determine who leads in a relationship as it does in other ventures in life . should a husband be any less esteemed than her boss at work who she obeys without firing back hot pellets of words, or her dad and rich friends who had moderated her needs for equality all the while before marriage with little difficulty

Hmmm you have strong points sir, BUT we must understand one thing, NIGERIA IS AN EXAGGERATIVE STATE, meaning we go to the extreme with whatever we copy from the western world.

also sir I NEVER SAID LOVE FADES, my narrative was simply to attack what we call LOVE, for BUTTERFLIES WILL ALWAYS FLY AWAY, and all the horniness and hormones will calm down.... THIS IS WHERE LOVE IS REDEFINED (if from the beginning it was not defined). LOVE IS NOT A FEELING, but a FILLING- LOVE is not feeling I need you, but taking the responsibility of joyfully FILLING a need in you no matter what.
Love is a herculean responsibility and choice despite age, circumstances, body shape, odour and health/financial status. The ENTERTAINMENT INDUSTRY has subtly but deeply ruined and perverted the definition of Love for our generation. So it is painted as EROTIC FINANCIAL freedom rather than RESPONSIBILITY, SACRIFICES, CLEAR TRANSPARENT COMMUNICATION, BATTLES, VICTORIES and some losses, etc.

SUBMISSION sir, has been grossly misunderstood and mistaken for SLAVERY. Hence HOUSEWIVES soon see themselves as SEX SLAVES or BABY FACTORIES. This is why our society is filled with damaged adults. Many even value their moms' far more than their fathers' because they spend more time with the Mother than they even see their busy workaholic father.

Let me balance SUBMISSION in a bit. Submission is simply MUTUAL RESPECT, yes o. Women are powerful and men must respect that they process things differently. Women must understand that MEN are not only powerful, they are the PILOT/CAPTAIN of the SHIP... AS Such decisiveness is in our nature and we are meant to be LOGICAL. Women are meant to be emotional. AND ALLOWING EACH OTHER BE WHO THEY CAN BE FOR THE PEACE AND UNITY IN THE HOME, IS ACTUALLY SUBMISSION. Where submission got misunderstood was in the simple quest for CONTROL. Most men and women need to master the art of our grand mothers, the art of LEADING WHEN YOU ARE NOT IN CHARGE.

Equality is also misunderstood. Being EQUALS do not mean having same responsibility or being TWINS. So the simple BALANCE of all things is this....

MEN SHOULD LET WOMEN BE EMOTIONAL LEADERS
WOMEN SHOULD ALLOW THEIR MEN BE LOGICAL

then both should compromise for each other with UNDERSTANDING.
Children from such homes will be sooooooooooooo balanced and very fast achieve greatness in Life because they would know how to handle things from their area of strength and how to work with people no matter how damaged the people may be.

I hope it is simple and easy for anyone reading to apply.
Swinger60

Kokaine:
I'm sure this is one major cause of cheating.
I'm scared of it. What's the solution to this. I know it will definitely happen to me. I have enjoyed been alone over many years. I know that after a while in my marriage, I will want my wife to give me some alone time so I remember memories of my life she didn't share with me

SOLUTION:

Get married but stay SINGLE. Let the ANKO(same clothe wearing tradition) stay with just clothes.... LIVE YOUR LIFE NORMALLY.... attachment is not the goal of marriage but COMPANIONSHIP, RESPONSIBILITY, HOME BUILDING, VALUES, SHARING MOMENTS, etc. But none of those things should ROB you of your individuality o.

Be able to be WHOLE whether your spouse is available(emotionally, financial, sexually,relationally) or NOT.

The concept of 'BETTER HALF' is false and its wrong. NO ONE IS BETTER of anyone... We are both WHOLE and only break into one another when we FUSE in the union called marriage.

Meaning MARRIAGE IS MEANT TO BREAK YOU, break your ego, pride, or any thing that you may not have known was not really nice, it is in marriage we see ourselves through the eyes of another and begin to make some amends.


Change is necessary hence it should not be feared but be prepared for, know the limits of CHANGE. Any CHANGE that CHAINS you is slavery, break free from it. The CHANGE marriage is meant to bring, is supposed to be the one that will make you at your BEST SELF.

So sir, yes, you can go for conferences alone, your wife too may do her own thing with other good women AND there you will have your free "single" space for that period... then you will miss her and long for her... That is the beauty of the union and it goes both ways.

Yungvc:
Thank You sir. But Sir will my budget be enough to set up the solar Panel? (200k)

errm yes sir, but pls its JUMIA you should check. and you can check google for this name before you go to jumia

Mini Portable Refrigerator Fridge Freezer Cooler Warmer Auto Car Home

you can use your car to charge it.

Yungvc:
Good day Nairalanders. I have a biz idea that I would love to start very soon. Capital is not my issue.
Ramadan is coming and cool chilled sachet water would be the talk of the day. So my plan is to set a pure water shop. But with the problem of light we ve in Nigeria. It will be very difficult to set up.
So need an advice on how to go about it and be getting power running always to power the refrigerator.
Thanks

I believe you have heard of SOLAR POWER,

kindly get a solar powered deep freezer or a large set of solar panels and you would soon be selling by the minute and may soon become a distributor of ice blocks even after ramadan

go to police station and be sure the VIN number is not among their list of stolen vehicles.

go to police station and be sure the VIN number is not among their list of stolen vehicles.

Swinger60:
You are making us fear marriage.

Now you are ready for it. The sensible fear for marriage is the wisdom needed in preparing for Wedding.

firo08:
you didn't go through the thread before jumping into comments section. He said no money for postgraduate studies and no capital to start up a business. So where do you expect him to get money to learn a skill.

Oga read my comment well before tagging me..... DID YOU NOT SEE THAT I MENTIONED SKILLS ARE FREE?

IF YOU DO NOT KNOW, SIMPLY ASK FOR HELP

Who even told you that post graduate is a SKILL, see forget about school and get a real practical Education.

All ICT SKILLS ARE FREE ON YOUTUBE and other good websites, even on Nairaland, you can learn to be a web or app developer for FREE..... there are SECTIONS and TOPICS that have long been uploaded here with FREE COMPLETE COURSES. I mentioned that he only needed his mobile data for browsing them out.,

Azazeal007:
This is really a sad moment for every Nigerian students out there, when you fit into a job description and then you found out they only want people with higher degree.Graduating with a 3rd class or pass degree i believe is no sin. But employers out there would not even look at your CV when you are below par, no matter the amount of experience you are bringing. Some unavoidable things must have happened in school that led to that,but nobody cares.
How then do you tell that to the people around you?
Especially your parents or guardians who’d be feeling like their investments on you went down the drain. When people finish from the university with a third class or pass degree, they most times feel like their whole world came crashing down on them. How then do one get to a good job?
I personally fall into this category due to some unforseen circumstances but who cares. After searching fruitlessly for jobs for a year now, i just have to sit back and think about my life. My fellow nairalanders what is the way forward?No job, no capital to startup my own business, no money to go back for a postgraduate course. Its just me myself and i (Owusagi)

You are either in the wrong field or you are thinking wrong.

In today's workplace, SABIFICATE is higher than CERTIFICATE.

"Na who PASS KNOW book but na who get JOB KNOW THE WAY"

Learn a practical skill and be the best at it and the same employers will beg you to be employed

Another factor is WHO DO YOU KNOW..... some names are higher than BSC and even MASTERS.....

YOUR NETWORK IS YOUR NETWORTH



So if you are still running with the old brain mindset that your paper from school can affect your life, then you are either very very ignorant or just unfortunate.



THIRD CLASS PEOPLE THESE DAYS ARE THOSE WHO UNDERSTOOD LIFE EARLY AND KNEW THEIR PATH IN LIFE WAS NOT TO CARRY BOOK ON THEIR HEAD, and after school, it is the 3rd class persons', that becomes rich and better than the first class.

SO gbe body eh, shake of that quack mentality your experience has given you and go get 3-5 relevant self employable skills and watch how your life will change in a matter of months.



NB: The skills are FREE if you know how to use your MB data well. Some may even be here on nairaland in the business section.

Well, I do not know what you mean by LOVE in your own language, BUT LET ME BE BRUTALLY HONEST....

The dreadful part where ALL BUTTERFLIES HAVE EITHER DIED OR FLOWN AWAY and HORNnINESS is now a memory AND THE PRESENCE of your spouse feels like a burden cos singleness become so so attractive again like a LIFE GOAL, yet you have to just KEEP FAKING IT AND DOING EVERYTHING when you know it is no longer how it felt like in the beginning.

its Haaaarrrd

This is just wrong.

do your research man.... stop speaking like a biased person

MRcocaFanta:
Please keep quiet there Mr man.

Stop writing like a man that has not seen the four walls of school.

First you said because of our hot weather, it cannot survive.

Is the middle East not hot, is Nigeria hotter than Saudi Arabia?

But it's already in Saudi Arabia and have killed lots of people in Iran.

And what do you mean Blacks are immune to the virus.

This was what you people said about HIV, Malaria and Ebola.

And now AFRICA is the den of HIV and malaria.

mekaboy:
Virus is virus. Once it's in the body, there is no way to differentiate.

Let's hope it does not survive our weather.

You speak so ignorantly pls do your research and see what W.H.O says and what CHINA has reported about BLACKS being immune and having stronger immune systems...

I can not come and be arguing with an ignorant person.

Ebus12:
Nairalanders
Please help

My dad and mum are married for at least 23 years now

I am the first son of the union
My mum complains my dad isn't caring, all he cares about is how much money she has and how he can gain from her


While my dad complains that my mom disrespect and talks to him anyhow

They have been having issues since December Cuz my dad didn't even sympathise with her when she fell sick
Just this small issue has raisen up more troubles
They now live like cats and rats in the house and this is really affecting me
I just got admission and their problem is becoming a great distraction to my school

What do I do ??

Are you done with school?

Do you have a good job?

the probabilities of them listening to you is actually low.. until you are making money and supporting them financially, YOUR WORDS MAY HAVE NO EFFECT.

So I suggest, you get someone mature that they both respect to come and talk to them... maybe your pastor if they are religious or an elderly uncle or woman.

Pls do this and be free.

Focus on your life and do not let it affect your progress.

mekaboy:
The virus takes few to 14 days before the symptoms appear and that is when the spreading takes place. If there is no new case in 14 days then we are safe. But if there is, God help us. Because Nigeria is in no way prepared for this.

it can not survive in out HOT WEATHER... so relax. It is not the END.

Besides it is a human engineered virus

Jacqueline22:
Hello guys
Please I need your help. what kind of business can I start with 5million?
Note: I already have a mini market.

Cc: lalasticala,myd44.

REAL ESTATE
AGRICULTURE
CRYPTOCURRENCY TRADING
COSMETICS BUSINESS


I only do 3 of these... and even if you are not making any money, you will get 30% every 6 months.

SO please do your research and do the one that best fits you. I wish you well.

nwakgr8:
I have an Instagram account with over 5k followers for sale

Followers are from African countries.

how much... state your price here

IT IS FAKE

IT IS FAKE


THIS FALSE NEWS WAS PUT ON THE INTERNET ON MAY 4TH 2015 AND AGAIN IN 2017.


Pls stop spreading fake news.

Newjasy:
I'm a Catholic that started having third party voices in my head ever since I visited Shiloh 2018.
And I also attended salvation ministry which is a sister church to winner's chapel to look for cure but no way.
The two prophets David oyedepo and David ibiyeomie have been disturbing me ever since then in my visions.
Today they put a call to my friend that wants to be a pastor in their church to get to me and they started questioning me.

Something that wasn't done to other applicants they keep disturbing my Life.

Through my visions, dreams and also they bombard my Head with their third party voices, they are coming for my life but it won't work.
I no longer solicit for their programs so they should take it off. I'm a Pure Catholic and they should leave me alone.

If it continues I'll go public with it.
Carrying placards to protest.

wow... see new convert o. Maybe it is GOD and since ya'all in catholic do not experience God in unusual ways, then you are scared... lol. Enjoy it well. It will increase

Babprosper20:
Please i don't know if anyone here knows of any andriod Alarm App that wakes you up with a motivational quote instead of the regular alarm ringing tone.

I need an alarm app that can probably wake me up saying a speech like this:

"It's better to be rich and broken hearted, than to be broken hearted and broke, Wake up and go make that money"

Anyone please?

go on google play store and download MOTIWAKE

neuronalkaycee:
I'll keep it real short. Met my fiancé through a friend a few months ago. We love each other but I know love is hardly enough.
She has way more male friends than females. She has lots of the guys calling her their girlfriend, lover, or baby albeit jokingly. It appears she could fall readily if ANY guy tried wooing her, often smiling flirtatiously with nearly every new guy she meets.
She loves clubbing, even though her meeting me has made her stop.
I just have a feeling she has this nasty history that I do not know about and would hunt me after we tie the knot. I've asked her for full disclosure, so I could know what Im up against if anything... But again I've caught her lying on some occasions and I can't take her word for it. Attempts at running a background check on her yielded no results as it appears many guys these days do not want to be named amongst those who fuelled a "gossip".
She has a fairly decent family background, but we know that counts for nothing in terms of morality. She is a nice girl generally, hardworking, smart and respectful. My family isn't totally into her though.

How do I make sure she is full proof? I've thought of quitting severally but after 2 failed relationships in the past I want to be sure I'm not the problem.

Bros, I hope you know that girlfriend is NOT fiance
she is behaving like a girlfriend NOT a fiance because both require very different levels of commitment

Anyway, the soul of every relationship is COMMUNICATION, So communicate with her and see how it goes. Discuss with her and let her know that you are not comfortable with it, if she calls you insecure and tells you not to worry then smile and say OK..... then go and get more female friends... let them know she is a friend and then have them call you and chat with them late into the night and you will be shocked she may not be able to handle that, then you let her know it is exactly what she did to you and she will understand how you felt.

Then redefine the relationship, I feel she is jovial but also keeping her options open, if you both have a spiritual foundation then you may need to seek a female more mature spiritual counselor that will be able to reason with her and counsel her on how to behave.

Age is not an excuse, there are 21 years old ladies who behave more wise and mature than 29-32 years old ladies. So pray for her to be understanding before you have the TALK and follow it up from there.

wedding is not a proof of love.
love is only proven in marriage NOT how glamorous the wedding was.

paranorman:
I want to be able to browse the internet on any android phone using Bluetooth of the phone like you'd normally do with wifi.

The android device becomes the Bluetooth client and while another device, say a PC, becomes the server. I am sure you get my analogy.
In other words, I want to browse on the android phone via Bluetooth connection to a PC with an internet connection. Please, understand this situation.

Any help, please... Anybody?!

why not just get a WIFI phone.... bluetooth technology doesnt work that way

YOU CAN NOT USE ANY PC TO BROWSE BY ITSELF... all PCs connect to something external via cable or wirelessly before they can browse...so why do you now want to connect to the PC which is not the main internet carrier... a CLIENT CONNECTION can never give you access to browse.... it is just not possible... YOU NEED A DIRECT CONNECTION BEFORE YOU CAN BROWSE.

Sixfeetbelle:
Hi, everyone. I wasn't sure where I should post this but this section seems like the best place.

Anyway, I needed your opinion on this matter. Today, on my way back from an errand, a car drove past me and the driver shouted from his car "I want to borrow your laps". My response reaction was too slow as I didn't even get a good look at the driver. Now that I think about it, I'm not certain what my response would have been tbh.

To help your judgement, I'd explain what I was wearing. A mid thigh gown that I supposed accentuated my legs.

I'm not sure why I'm posting this here or what I want from you guys, except that this is the first time ever someone has made such comments to me. I'm repulsed and irked by this.

Has anyone ever encountered such? How did you react? How did you deal with it?

As long as its NOT love, sister go and pray and be very security conscious.

Were you deaf? A fellow human is complementing you NOT in a manner for love or relationship BUT for your body parts like as though you are an OBJECT.....

Do you not know there are CANNIBALS in naija?
Do you not know there are ritualists here?
Do you not know there are people who know the price of body parts?

Such sentence is a DARK SPEECH.... and no one can come here to make it seem harmless, else they are suspects.

Those who do baby factories use certain words too that can be used to identify their motives.

SEE, FOR YOUR OWN GOOD BE VERY SECURITY CONSCIOUS, GO AND PRAY FERVENTLY AND WATCH HOW YOU DRESS.

Am not taking this too serious... it is overly serious and the way naija is now, everything should be triple checked with caution.