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our prayers wont work.... ONLY HER PRAYERS AND REPENTANCE CAN WORK....

she wasn't ready to listen to the VOICE OF WISDOM or what people may call GOD'S VOICE.

so now she has to go through a painful exit... SOME PEOPLE MAY NOT LIKE THIS BITTER TRUTH BUT IT DOESN'T CHANGE THE EXPERIENCE.

Beke2020:
Dear Jzhane,

I have been trying to reach you for the past two months. Well am in an emotional and verbally abusive marriage which has lasted for 4 years 9 months. We and dated for a whole year before marriage.

To be honest, I saw all the red alerts but I kept telling my self he loves me and can’t hurt me. Through out the courtship he will quarrel,yell and get angry at me at the slightest provocation but I thought it was the pressure of planning the wedding.
Plus his mother disagreed to him marrying me so from the start. There were complications but I felt standing by him will solidify our marriage. Just few days after the wedding ,all his characters of abuse intensified but I kept giving excuses for him.
Also he had to collect a loan for the wedding from where he works which couldn’t cover the cost of both the traditional and white wedding. So from day one we were struggling financially. I kept faith hoping he finished servicing the loan things will normalize but still it got worse.
Immediately after the wedding also I got pregnant so all the pressure I was getting from him was affecting the pregnancy. I almost lost it getting prepared for the baby was strenuous but my mum helped providing most of d baby things.
Six months into the marriage he was cheating with a lady whom he introduced to me ...more


https://livelystones.com.ng/i-married-my-husband-despite-the-red-flags-now-i-live-with-his-abuse/



Note: this story was shared October 22,2018.
She reached out to us today saying she still want to opt out after all.....lets put her marriage in prayers. Also leave a word on the blog story.it might make the difference

Kindly

GET 8 ALARM CLOCKS and place them in places in your room that you know are always unkempt and then decide to arrange the place before turning off the alarm.

ensure the alarms have 20 mins intervals to one another

Ilamina:
I was depressed and made wrong decisions

And it affected my daily cleaning habit

How do I get it back

she NOT a relationship ROLE MODEL. but 7 years is LONG O

lexotan:
Media personality, Toke Makinwa, in her new vlog, spoke on long term relationships. According to her, dating the same guy for over 5 years and above is just a waste of time.
Toke who is divorced from ex-husband, Maje Ayide, said she is talking from experience as she has also being in a long term relationship. She stated that having a long term relationship does not translate to a happy married life when the couple decide to tie the knot.

”I do not understand why you should date someone for more than two and a half years. That is my take. I feel like if you meet someone, two years is decent, two and half years is decent, By three years, its like ‘what again are your trying to find out’. What didn’t you find out in the first and second year. I feel like 5 years is taking the piece and for seven years, you are absolutely having a laugh. By 10 years, it’s like ”are you the lord of the rings? I can say this because I have been in a long term relationship so I can tell you how I feel about it. My answer is no because I feel like often times, long courtships do not translate to a happy marriage. Sometimes you find people who date forever and when they get married, they don’t make it past that year or two or three years. You find people who get married in a year and a half and 10 years down the line, they are still together. When people show you who they are, you have to believe them.

If you find yourself in a five year, seven years 10 years relationship, it is enough for you to sit back and ask the guy what is going on and where are we going to? Why would you want to date someone for seven years. In that seven years, some people have gotten together, gotten married, had children, divorced and you are still this person’s girlfriend. There is nothing that you would not find out in three years that you want to find out in eight years.

LOL.... dont take panadol for my headache.

I hail your peppermint sense.

Astrosmart:
your sense is paining you

THE HUSTLE IS VERY REAL

NEXT TIME LET YOUR MESSAGE AND TOPIC have something in COMMON. you just spilled out without purpose... if you hope to communicate a TRUTH or DOCTRINAL CONCEPT TO PEOPLE... then have the wisdom enough to explain your aim or motive in clear terms

akeensbussy:
The proper name Jesus /ˈdʒiːzəs/ used in the English language originates from the Latin form of the Greek name Ἰησοῦς ("Iēsous", a rendition of the Hebrew Yeshua (ישוע‎), also having the variants Joshua or Jeshua. In a religious context, the name refers to Jesus, the central figure of Christianity.


What is Jesus name in Hebrew and what does it mean?
It means "Yahweh [the Lord] is Salvation." The English spelling of Yeshua is “Joshua.” However, when translated from Hebrew into the Greek language, in which the New Testament was written, the name Yeshua becomes Iēsous. ... They mean "Savior" and "the salvation of the Lord."Apr 16, 2018


What is Jesus's full name?
The name Jesus is derived from the Latin Iesus, a transliteration of the Greek Ἰησοῦς (Iesous). The Greek form is a rendering of the Hebrew ישוע‎ (Yeshua), a variant of the earlier name יהושע‎ (Yehoshua), or in English, "Joshua". The name Yeshua appears to have been in use in Judea at the time of the birth of Jesus.

What does iesous mean in Hebrew?
The word Jesus is the Latin form of the Greek Iesous, which in turn is the transliteration of the Hebrew Jeshua, or Joshua, or again Jehoshua, meaning "Jehovah is salvation." ... During the Hellenizing period, Jason, a purely Greek analogon of Jesus, appears to have been adopted by many.

does nairaland look like a church or deliverance centre to you? bro find a church o.

Facile17:
How do you handle witchcraft attack.?

we would like to hear your VISION.


language is not something you just PICK UP TO LEARN..... without a vision for it.


so WHAT DO YOU WANNA ACHIEVE or where do you wanna go or relocate to.... then we can tell you.

abi they want to construct a new venue where BENIN witches will meet.... mtchew....

in case you are clueless I said 90%...


SO GIVE PROOF FOR WHAT YOU ARE SAYING.

PoliticalChinex:
Keep quite there!

People are meeting and getting married and also making useful contacts online every day and u are here with your stupid hypothesis because of one ugly incident!!

There are evil every where even in your village!!

pls be careful what you ASK FOR....


you do not need HELP... you need purpose.

dont be asking someone for MARRIAGE when all you may need from her is sex.

Pls have self control

SilentListener:
QueenBelle will you marry me

AWESOME.... innovative nigerian while some are busy complaining and feeling there is NO HOPE for NAIJA

wow at 30 YEARS and yet without sense.... she didnt use jazz... the guy should go and tear his birth certificate. ONLINE LOVE IS 90% FAKE.

lol I GUESS TO YOU SINGLENESS IS LIKE HIV...

Pls have sense.... SINGLENESS IS NOT A DISEASE AND RELATIONSHIP IS NOT THE CURE

NO matter how u wanna do it SINGLENESS is always going to be your PORTION.... either when you or your spouse dies... BOTH OF YOU WILL BECOME SINGLE IN DIFFERENT WORLDS....

orrrr

YOU FINALLY GET CURED OF SINGLE STATUS and your partner's character after sex changes.... YOU WILL BE A MARRIED SINGLE....


So maximize your singleness and be wise.... RELATIONSHIPS CREATE LONELINESS MORE THAN ALONENESS

MissBorn:
Single Girls and Guys, how is life?
How are you coping with your single status?

you have already begun.... at least you got me to visit and more curious people would visit.... browse through nairaland and see the simple means many people use to drive traffic to their blogs and sites then do the same

izzyboi:
Thanks

I'm trying to. Any helpful tip?

brotherly THANK YOU.... later all these funny girls will NOW COME AND SAY ALL MEN ARE THE SAME AS IF THEIR MOTHERS WERE LEZBIANZ and they were artificially produced without a man...

Mrvocabularist:
tripplephi you just said my mind,that lady ehn is something else.
It is either she gave the guy the guy the green light by her dressing or gave the guy the nod by her touching when conversing.

hypocrite.... I even tried to help you... taaa will you shut your mouth?

CHECK YOUR TOPICS ON NAIRALAND HERE AND SEE HOW A CHRISTIAN SISTER LIKE YOU IS TALKING ABOUT SEX WITH BOYFRIEND AND YET CLAIMING CHURCH GOER AND COMING HERE TO RANT AND ACCUSE A GUY IN THE SAME CHURCH.

IF YOUR NAIRALAND TOPICS WHERE DISPLAYED ON YOUR CHURCH PROJECTOR OR PAMPHLET WOULD YOU SURVIVE?


Church is NOT A PLACE FOR PERFECT PEOPLE.

before you accuse others and claim that one guy did something... CHECK YOURSELF FIRST.

You have no valid point....

we know you on nairaland and how most of you live a double life

greatman55:
Hey you don't know what you are typing,a church is a place for worship and prayer and not a hunting ground for womanisers looking for potential victims to destroy.
You may be one of them because this their way,always defending an obvious fault.

many things can be wrong

1) she does not TRUST any of her friends... because they may TAKE YOU FROM HER

2) HER SO CALLED FRIENDS ACTUALLY KNOW WHAT SHE IS UP TO and may NOT cover for her

3) it would give her a bad name among her friends because they would feel she doesn't know how to treat her man right and keep him

4) she feels it would bring in THIRD PARTY into the relationship.

5) she is already with someone else and just managing you and all her friends know but pity you.

HOPE YOU ARE SATISFIED.

Ismaxtr3:
My girlfrnd wants me to stop calling her friends whenever I'm unable to reach her nos. Please what can be wrong?

lol so because on buka or eatery is dirty THEN IT MEANS ALL ARE LIKE THAT?

HOW MYOPIC IS YOUR REASONING.

You who went to church did you not know that it is a CLINIC and it is a place where SICK and DIRTY PEOPLE COME TO BE CLEAN? and not everyone can be CLEAN because not everyone will ALLOW GOD'S WORD CLEAN THEM?


Why did you insult your BIOLOGICAL FATHER by categorizing all men..... SEE YOU BETTER GROW UP AND KNOW NOT TO EXPECT PERFECTION FROM CHURCH.

IF THE CHURCH WAS PERFECT YOU WOULD NOT BE A MEMBER.

I wonder what nigerian christians think.... DOES THE WORD OF GOD IN THAT SAME CHURCH AFFECT YOUR LIFE... IF YES THEN SHOW IT IN YOUR CHARACTER AND LEAVE THE MATTER ALONE BY REPORTING TO A LEADER.... coming here to speak of it is not GODLY... its back biting and complaining with gossip on a global scale, DO NOT ALLOW ONE CARNAL BROTHER TAKE YOU TO HELL BECAUSE OF ANGER....

BE ANGRY BUT DO NOT SIN.


PLS LET THIS CORRECT YOU... else you are the brother may just be the same.

greatman55:
Nawa o! wonders shall never cease.
See me see wahala,just because a guy asked me to scribble down my number so he can call after church service and i said no,he started calling me olosho and all unprintable names.

I have made up my mind to report him to the youth leader of our group in church.

I have deep respect for this dude because of the polite and gentle way he behaves but with this attitude of his,it shows that every guy you see is a potential womaniser or is already one.

No saint again in church,just hypocrite feigning high morals just to get the naive girl on his Bed.

brother, you are already in OFFENCE.

OFFENCE IS WORSE THAN ANY OTHER SIN because it does not show OUTWARDLY


I understand you but it is sad o.... JOHN 6 SHOWS HOW 70 DISCIPLES LEFT JESUS BECAUSE OF WHAT HE WAS TEACHING AND HOW HE BEHAVED..... see the only church you can join are churches that can COVER UP ALOT and deceive you with FUN AND MIRACLES.


BY THE WAY... who told you and where in the BIBLE is it said that CHURCH is a place that is SAFE? LOL.... in the bible PEOPLE DIED SEVERAL TIMES EVEN IN CHURCH...


CHURCH IS A FAMILY OF GOD.... and in family our differences keep us together and not tear us apart... but it all boils down to your personal relationship with God sha, no one can force you.... there is no FOURSQUARE or RCCG or LIVINGFAITH or EMBASSY in heaven.... only those that JESUS IS NOT ASHAMED OF.

IF GOD'S WORD DOES NOT AFFECT YOU IN A CHURCH then you can go to another church. serving God is NOT A FEELING.... you didn't feel like being born again.... SERVING GOD ALSO SHOULD NEVER BE AFFECTED BY ANYONE'S OPINION OR ATTITUDE TOWARDS YOU.

I WISH YOU WELL BRO.

neonly:
Well said my bro but honestly my heart isn't with the particular church again
Church is to me suppose to be a safe haven were u are safe and one not a place to start showing class and level my family's are Der but no offense abt any issues
But personally I want try another church I pray God help me out thks
To be my heart is just no longer der

AWESOME DESIGN.

DRIVE TRAFFIC TO IT

izzyboi:
Hello guys,
I'll be really grateful if you could help me review my blog www.listdorm.com

Thanks in advance!

its a local dog na

WOW.... this is why i really cant cope with Nigerian churches... HOW COME YOU CLAIM TO BE A CHRISTIAN and a member of a solid church like FOURSQUARE and you have not read your bible enough to know that NO CHURCH IS PERFECT... NONE!!!

Do you even listen to the message or you went there for COMFORT rather than for GOD?

So the devil made you remember what someone said in YORUBA MORE THAN WHAT GOD'S WORD WAS SAYING FROM THE PULPIT.... chai na wa for u o

People always expect GOD LEVEL PERFECTION from PASTORS hence they are criticized ruthlessly. So your pastor told you to pay your tithe then you took offence? Its sad, I feel sorry for you.

See lemme help you, the GREAT COMMISSION in Matthew 28 CLEARLY says that JESUS TOLD THEM TO GO INTO THE WORLD TO MAKE DISCIPLES (not CHURCH GOERS)...... you decide NOT to go to a church because of how you were treated ....lol... WHO IS AT LOSS? the church or you?

YET
if you went to a shrine AND the servants there were RUDE to you, you wouldn't mind....
if you went to a PROPHETIC/SEER/MIRACLE SHARP SHARP church and the prophet gave you accurate prophecies and worked wonders for you then you experienced what you claim to experience sitting inbetween a couple... NOTHING WILL MAKE YOU DECIDE TO LEAVE....

Just as there are FAKE PASTORS so also there are FAKE MEMBERS o so pls do not be among them.

YOUR GOING TO CHURCH IS STRICTLY AND FIRSTLY for GOD and not MAN. whether you tithe or you do not tithe GOD WILL BLESS YOU and GOD DOES NOT CONSULT YOUR PASTOR OR PROPHET BEFORE BLESSING YOU.

I hope this correction helps you. Check your heart and discover if there is offence in you and repent.

neonly:
Join Four square like 5 years now really nice church
My question is now is it right
1. U are in distress you go and meet the pastor and he said he can't help you except you pay tithe
2.it is right for you to sit down later a husband and wife come and sit beside you then you are just in between them mind you you were Der 1st only for some body to come and whisper to the husband why are you allowing some one to divide you not knowing you speak yoruba very well
Well me I have made up my mind not to go Der again to avoid
Am not telling my family to leave but they can make Der own choice
It Really sad how church were you are supposed to be the same is now reduce to nothing less
God bless has u read
Advice pls

he may have BLOWN HER MIND FUSE during sex to a point that she had to CONFESS, orrrrr she is afraid of loosing him.

in either way... SHE IS ALREADY HIS WIFE... if he breaks her heart he should expect vengeance because HELL HAS NO FURY LIKE A WOMAN SCORNED.

olursolar23:
Please I need a serious advice.
This happen last weekend my friend called, told me that his girl came over for the weekend then things got on going at night during the s@x make out the girlfriend was crying telling him she Loves him unconditional.. So this make him confused that he was asking her if anything was wrong.Or if she want to tell him anything. But she said no..
So he was asking what could be wrong. Pls I need a sincere advice. Thanks

find a doctor and she needs medical help fast.... it is a case of HORMONAL IMBALANCE.

you could have helped him rather than point out errors.

CuTTiieAngeL:
You Brock Up

GET a faithful girl and have peace in your life.... she is coming back to you as FAIRLY USED and may even have STD... you do not need to have carryover into 2019.

start afresh and move on in peace. She is only coming back to you because you are too EASY and SOFT and you can accept her rubbbish but the truth is YOUR MUMU DON DO... it is time to be WOKE.

BE A SHARP GUY AND REJECT WHAT OTHERS HAVE USED AND DUMPED. It is not your portion

atikuobi2019nig:
fellow nairalanders, pls dont mind my grammer for i an not too educated, i meet a girl some years back and we have been dating, and along the line i began to notice her with other guys each time i comfront her all she keep telling me is that they are just friends and later she will appologies not to get close to them again, she was close to people i do business with in the market, but now its has taken another level with other people, she will tell me she wants to go and visite the mother in benue not knowing she's going to a mans house, and once she comes back she will be unessesary geting mad at me that i am cheeting on her, she will be acting strange as if she loves me so much at a pont i will be comfuse,for her to be jealous and showing me signs of love, but why cheeting on me is what i dont understand, one of her boyfriends whom she was planning to get pregnant for disaponted her, her close friend she confided in told me, she came back that day to vent the anger on me thruogh another means by accusing of cheeting on her again, for that reson we broke up,she was beggig i refused, i puched her away, but the problem now is that i am missing her now, i love her so much, i dont know if i am actually going insain,pls i need a matured advice, should i accept her back, my heart is trobled, i am ready to accept insult.....thanks

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Hmmm
Let me share a little wisdom with you PEOPLE DO NOT USUALLY KNOW WHAT THEY WANT TILL THEY SEE IT

Don't go into BUSINESS or any kind if you have to ask people what they want, because If i know what I WANT, why will I tell you and then wait for you to come and sell to me.... meanwhile in that duration of time I could go and get it myself..... I HOPE YOU GET MY DRIFT?

Am impressed a damsel like you is taking up the responsibility for financial wealth BUT maybe you can add a little wisdom....

* IMPORTING can take you only 5 days INSTEAD of your proposed 3 weeks and its will be far far cheaper than if you buy from some wholesalers in Naija.

* THIS IS ALREADY CHRISTMAS season so buy something that everyone would need for christmas if you wanna sell fast without selling on credit

* TAKE GOOD ADVANTAGE of online market places like JIJI or OLX even if you are not importing clothes shoes or gadgets... THEY ARE A GREAT PLACE TO START

* TAKE ADVANTAGE OF SOCIAL MEDIA .... buy a facebook page with thousands of naija followers and join at least 20 vibrant naija groups daily... then POST YOUR WELL DIGITALLY DESIGNED ADVERTS(share from your page to the group) THERE and watch how you will get lots of orders and sales.

* ALSO USE INSTAGRAM... it is a great way to start.

during these sales remember it is your RELATIONSHIP with the customer that counts and not what they buy.... BECAUSE, this is the ONLY TRUE WAY you would know what they NEED. People can tell you what they wish for... BUT only a sharp business person can notice what they NEED.

I wish you well, your man must surely be proud of you. Remember if you sell what is common then people will buy on credit and hurt you over time.
STAY WOKE

queenice7:
good day blessed people... i want to do a small survey. am starting a business of bags, shoes and accessories, but am in a dilemma now on whether I should order the stuffs from the wholesalers based on what I perceive people will like, which will reach 3weeks b4 I get it, so wen I post it online, I get to sell it to people that order for it that same day... or if I should post pictures of nice items available in the wholesale store, stating the price and make people solicit for orders and wait for 3 weeks for the items, after which they'll pay on delivery... plss o as a customer which will u prefer?