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5 don’ts for ladies planning to ‘japa’

Many Nigerians crave to move to the United Kingdom, America, Canada and to other developed countries of the world.

For many, the socio-economic and political air in Nigeria has so much been polluted that they urgently desire a breathe of fresh air in more organised societies.

In the last eight years, Nigeria’s environment has become so putrified that it oozes out some stench that has put the psychological health of many citizens in jeopardy. Hence, the crave by many to vote with their legs.

Last week, we looked at five things any Nigerian man planning to japa must not do. This week, we are also advising ladies who are planning to relocate abroad to look well before they leap.

Read also: 5 things men planning to ‘japa’ must not do

Although the pressure to japa is much more on men than it is on women, there are nonetheless, ladies who are stressed out in Nigeria that they want to see the other side of the universe.

The travel agent, who spoke with BDSunday last week, giving the warning to the men folk, is here again to also advise the women folk.

Number One: Do not be deceived.

“What I found these days is that lots of ladies are being deceived into marriage by mere promise that they would relocate abroad after their wedding ceremonies. Mind you, it is not everybody that is abroad that is rich. My advice is that whenever anybody comes with the sweet talk of wanting to marry you and take you abroad, ask the person what he does abroad; this is necessary to avoid moving from frying pan to real fire.



“We have seen where ladies who claimed they were properly married in Nigeria were taken abroad and be treated like house girls. Or those men who married them in Nigeria had ulterior motive of trading with them abroad,” the travel agent said.

Number Two: Be very careful about sponsoring a man abroad in the name of marriage.

Instances abound of ladies who sponsored their fiances to move with them abroad, which turned sour.

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“A heart-broken mother shared her story with me recently. She said that her daughter sponsored a young man she called her fiance to Libya. On getting there, the young man began to maltreat the lady to the point of bringing other women into the house. It became a serious concern to the mother back here in Nigeria as the man was threatening to kick the lady out of the very house she even rented with her money. The sad story is that the man has mingled himself with dangerous groups and their members are also coming to harass the lady at home at the instance of the so-called husband,” the travel agent said.

Number Three: Do not plan your “japa” on the basis of looking for a husband there.

There are many Nigerian ladies who believe that once they get abroad marriage would be easy for them. It is not always so.
“Ladies planning to leave the country to seek for husband abroad may not be realistic. Yes, it has worked for some women but there are many beautiful Nigerian ladies abroad that are not married yet. The thinking that husband will come because you are now abroad is not realistic I must say. My advice is, play it cool. Do not plan to japa just because you want men to see you are now abroad and get attracted to you. I would rather say that you must be yourself and let people come to seek your hand in marriage for love and not because they see you as their meal ticket,” he further said.

Number Four: Do not make yourself cheap to get sponsorship

Today, many people do unprintable things just to get sponsored abroad. It is even more tempting for women.
Many Nigerian ladies have been deceived into prostitution because of their crave to travel abroad.

Read also: 7 Nigerian celebrities who set the ‘japa’ trend


“A lady shared her experience on a blog I listened to recently how he quest to go abroad led her to prostitution. A man promised to sponsor her and for that reason, she threw herself at the man. According to her, the man later said he had no money to send her direct to Europe but that she should go by road, through Niger to Libya and possibly to Spain. She said her journey to Libya was tortuous and she entered into prostitution ring to survive. That was how the dream to go to Europe turned a nightmare for her. As we speak now, hundreds of Nigerian ladies are going through same experience,” the agent said.


Some parents are in the habit of forcing their children to go abroad and make dollar as if dollar grows on tress that people can pluck.

“When we engage some of our female clients who come to use to help them process Visas, you find out that they have no clear-cut reason why they want to japa. You hear some of them say because their course mates are there they too want to go. Some even are illiterates and have no skill at all. They will tell you that their mother is pressuring them to go abroad and make.


“So, parents must be careful not to push their daughters into danger. We hear of parents telling their daughters ‘your mates are in Canada, UK, Italy what are you doing here?’ These are the pressures that some ladies now face. But my advice is, do not cave in to such pressures because, most times, they do not end well.”


https://businessday.ng/news/article/5-donts-for-ladies-planning-to-japa/

Nigeria Lady advices foreign students planning to move into Nigeria for studies



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BjHqA4E6Gts?si=lFk1PPJRsKdIW6Am

Lady advices students planning to move into Nigeria for studies pic.twitter.com/LvhaOJKmNh

— Intel Region (@IntelRegion) November 14, 2023

garfield1:
Learn from dino before end up like him boy

boy you are a kid in this game. Gawuna don lose woefully in the Court of Appeal too

garfield1:
But we told you before,you were talking rubbish

it’s you now. It’s still the court of justice that will declare who owns the mandate. You did worse on senator Natasha Akpoti case, in the end both you and APC lose woefully in the court of justice. APC and gawuna are losing woefully in the court of Appeal in Abuja too

garfield1:
You boasted so about dino and anyanwu

with the ill treatment of Nlc President, Ajaero in IMO state, one will know that The Supreme Court governor, Uzodinma will rig the poll. Besides it’s the court of justice that will decides who wins in the end.

garfield1:
Dino was disgraced,why not keep silent

As if the collation of results was credible and fair? The election went on tribalistic way in which Dino tribes are minority in Kogi State

garfield1:
Zamfara is an apc territory boy.the gov will wail like dino

guy Zamfara will still go Pdp way. The governor of Zamfara State, governor Lawal is doing extremely well in governance in Zamfara State. Matawalle will be disgrace and shamed in the poll as usual

garfield1:
Tinubu needs zamfara for reelection

Tinubu and matawalle will be disgrace in the Court of justice and the rerun election 🗳 too

Hmm what a good helper

garfield1:
Pdp is leading by 62000

Pdp will defeat matawalle mercilessly if there’s any form of rerun in the 2 LG

garfield1:
Tinubu wasn't supporting sylva,he was on his own.matawalle won't be on sit for the rerun

😂 Tinubu won’t support Matawalle too cos’ he’s a minister under him

Why lieing in the first place

Oladips refused to release his album until he got justice for Mohbad.



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AxEV4rtYzXA?si=rVdiRs4BPnPfeT92

garfield1:
Oga,learn from kogi and stop embarrassing yourself.mstawalle will rig like kogi

same way APC find it difficult to rig in Bayelsa last weekend. Dey play. Governor Dauda Lawal will defeat matawalle mercilessly in the rerun election 🗳

MyMouth:
Win a sitting minister of defense in Nigeria!
Hmmmmm

yes, he will defeat him mercilessly. Matawalle isn’t love by the good people of Zamfara State now

bdon123:
How u take know say na virgin?even if na virgin her eye go open at some point.easy na gold digger.refused to sign instead he use toto do him own hustle.i blame otedola.his too easy n carefree.he should hav refused this marriage

temi Na virgin babe now

Wow 🤩
“Messi or Ronaldo” – Nigerian superstar Wizkid picks his G.O.A.T
Ronaldo and Messi have been battling it out for years as the best player in history.

Nigerian music artiste, Ayo Balogun, popularly known as Wizkid, has joined the discussion about who is the greatest player in history between Cristiano Ronaldo and Lionel Messi.

The Grammy Award winner said in a social media video going viral that he doesn’t watch football but would support Ronaldo.

More than a decade ago, the Ronaldo vs. Messi argument began to gain steam, and even certain Nigerian stars, like Mikel Obi, chose the Argentine striker over the illustrious Real Madrid player.

While Ronaldo was welcomed to the Saudi Pro League after making a stunning transfer to Al Nassr, Nigerian goalscorer Odion Ighalo declared his adoration for the Portuguese ace.

The Essence crooner, who has made waves across the globe, answered an interviewer’s question in a quiz when he was asked “Messi or Ronaldo” on Red Radio.


“I don’t watch football (laughs), Ronaldo I guess” ,the Nigerian musician replied, laughing.

The Nigerian artiste might not be a fan of football due to his dedication to his music, but the 32-year-old have had his songs played in several soccer stadiums in the past.

However, the Brown Skin girl featured artist will be taking his music to the Tottenham Hotspur stadium on the 29th of July, 2023.



https://soccernet.ng/2023/02/messi-or-ronaldo-nigerian-superstar-wizkid-picks-his-g-o-a-t.html

“I don’t normally watch football but Ronaldo is my Goat, Messi is too dull for my liking” — Wizkid


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SrRVJn-AdDw?si=7r_77lgeTbX1aP8a

The incumbent governor will still defeat ex governor matawalle

garfield1:
Which bvas? What of the invalid ballots thumbprinted for him? So kogi never humble you

Appeal court will set aside the kangaroo tribunal judgement

Governor Abba Yusuff will win in the court of Appeal. Bvas machines application will helped him in the Appeal court of justice and Supreme Court of justice

SSFeedsNigeria:
Lol, they keep shifting goal posts after being pummeled mercilessly, now it's about industries

Dude, the oil industry in Oguta is 100x more valuable than whatever industry is in ile Ife. What are the industries available in ile Ife? Can they be up to the number of industries in just one street in Nnewi

😂 oguta is still a glorified village with the oil you have, there’s gold reserves in Ife too. Ife better oguta ok

Nazgul:
This post was triggered by a friend of mine who is passing through hell in his 3 year old marriage. His wife made him believe that money isn't everything and he ignorantly got married to her in his indigent state. She stopped respecting him a long time ago. As I'm typing this, she has left him with their 1 year old daughter in Lagos and relocated back to Uyo.

So let's talk about money in courtship, Because you will need plenty of it in marriage.

Those who are of the opinion that all that matters in marriage is love not money are not serious! In fact I'd like to term them as jokers. Why? Because love won't pay your bills and put food on the table.

Women naturally respect financially buyouant men. Or in simpler terms, men who have money.

So don't let any woman manipulate you into marriage when you are not financially ready simply because age is fighting against her, because if you succumb to her pressure and get married to her, you are in for a Shocker

Women can sweet tongue you into doing what you don't want to do and blame you for being stupid to listen to her in the first place.

Before any lady corner you and tie you down in forced matrimony, ask the following questions...

1. How much do you both earn monthly? How much will you require to run your marriage monthly? Take inflation into consideration, and calculate how much you will spend on rent, feeding, utility bills, transportation, medicals among others.

2. Who pays the running bills monthly? The husband, the wife or both of you? At what percentage? 50/50, 60/40, 70/30? Discuss it with your Partner.

3. How long will you both work as salary earners? Any plan to invest in other businesses? What does it take? How much of your fiance will it take? What type of sacrifice will it require?

4. Will you engage in monthly savings? If yes, how much percentage of your salaries would go into savings?

5. Will you be operating a Joint or Separate accounts? Discuss this with your partner.

6. If you are running a business; How much does it generate monthly? Would she join you in running it when you get married? If yes how best can you two grow your monthly income?

7. What are your yearly Financial goals? How do you both plan to achieve them?

8. Do you believe in paying tithe, first fruits, offerings and sowing special seeds? You need to discuss this with your partner, so you can both plan ahead whenever the need for such financial commitment arises.

9. What percentage of your income will be going to your parents or siblings monthly? Discuss this with your partner. It's very important.

10. When CHILDREN start coming, how MUCH will you need to take good care of them monthly? Would you want them to attend public school or private school, are there affordable Private schools in your neighborhood where you can enroll them, what percentage of your earnings or savings would they require monthly to see them through nursery and primary school. Would government secondary school be better for them or private? Would public universities be better or private or abroad? These are things you must iron out with your partner before getting married.

Plan your FINANCES before getting married.

Set up your self for Financial growth not Financial failure in marriage.

Most broken marriages occur due to lack of finances or poor financial planning from one or both couples.

what a great write up here

sageb:
A sad loss 😢
R. I.P oladips

Rip 🪦 to the celebrity rapper

😂 who merger help? Suffering and smiling is the order of the day. Selfishness in the heart Nigerians will never promote good governance. Tinubu will do his 8 years in power and other politician from the north will emerge in 2031. Nigeria people should sit tight and focus on their works and destinies .

May his soul rest in perfect Peace. Why our your promising musicians dieing at young age. Nawaoooo