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peggygee:
Thank to all the amazing wishes and prayers. The love in this forum is amazing. I can't mention all the monikers, but may my God bless n keep u all and ur household.

My story

I was 41weeks gone last week Monday, Went for ANC last week weds (due to the public hols) , met a doc n was told to come to the hospital this past Monday if I didn't fall into labor by last week sun, according to him the policy is induction or Cs is carried out after 10days post EDD , so I got home told do n MIL, dh was in support so Mil's objection (religious beliefs) was not important.
Fast forward to sun, around 11pm started having contractions, wasn't too sure as I've has 2 false labor, so I started timing n it was abt 4mins apart, I told dh, baby is coming. In fact I was pacing the room till 3:15am wen I told dh to prepare hot water for me to bath, we got to the hospital exactly 5am, baby's hrt beat was checked n was OK , but I wasn't dilating, so I had a hot bath there, was told to go n eat the come bck.
I stepped out for just 2hrs n came bck, na so story change ooooo. Baby's hrt beat couldn't be traced, I said God forbid, went for scan n it was confirmed. My world came crashing dwn, I started crying. I was told to pray instead, I did o, yet nothing g happened.
The labor reduced, so I couldn't push, and the doc said u can't be operated upon, that I have to be induced. Hmmmm, na so I carry dead baby since Monday morning till evening wen I was induced. Tuesday morning, serious contractions but no labor, long and short is the had to augment the contractions ooooo, that was Tuesday afternoon, n was delivered of my hefty looking tall n cute boy by 1:50am on Wednesday morning. Underwent and episiotomy yet couldn't hold my baby. My dh cried like a baby.

I thank God for my life, I surrender all to him. I knw he will give me multiples for my trouble.

Would have luved to rest till next yr b4 trying but dh said for where? Lolsss. Anyways I knw I will come n reg for next yr sha, Cox I knw God will smile on us again.

ABEG MY BREAST ARE ENGORGED. I FEEL THIS PAINFUL LUMPS INSIDE, WAT MEDICATIONS DO I TAKE BIKO? HELP A JJC SABI MAMA'S.

faari:
My heart is full of joy. The Almighty has done me another solid. Even now, I still remain in His warm embrace. Even now, I still enjoy His sufficient blessings.

In my arms, lay my own, my very own gift that only Him can give. Eyes so shiny, cheek with the cutest dimples, skin so rosy and whose tiny grip assures me of God's grace in the few days she joined us.

Welcome God's power in human flesh with me, mini-me and God's own @38weeks weighing 2.8kg... Ni'mah Oluwafirefunmi Ayomadewa Amoke

My beautiful daughter.... D

callola:
sorry about the headache. Mine only stop when I took pcm. My edd is 28th march. @ Olamitie, my teamie, sorry for your MS ooo, this is my third pregnancy and I have never experienced it before. This is the only one that saliva want to kill me but it is not much. The only thing that stop the spitting is a bottle of coke or mint chewing gum and the only food my system can digest very well is the food with enuf scent leaves. Its well.

olamitie:
cool, mine is March 28, 2017
How is ms? mine has not stopped

olamitie:
cool, mine is March 28, 2017
How is ms? mine has not stopped

olamitie:
cool, mine is March 28, 2017
How is ms? mine has not stopped

peggygee:
I lost my baby. Pls pray for me, I'm in serious pains, labor for 3days to bring him out (still birth)
He left me all alone n went bck to heaven.

lexajen:
Oooshey. Chanbaby, I'm on it now.
Will try to get honey and lemon tomorrow.

Dexterush, Besea, Airforcewife
Thank you for your wishes Sisters. I appreciate

Ada243 Mignone Vee992 Akorkor
Ese kukpo Mas

Iomige Happy Sunday Cappo

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UbiR, please could you mail me on permamary28@gmail.com.
Or do you have any supermarket/shop you supply around Ago area?

Ammy5565:
Thanks for your replies. The thing is i didnt get a rhogam shot when i had the miscarriage cuz i didnt know my blood group then.i didnt also know i was pregnant, just that my period came about 5days late that month and wouldnt stop after the usual 4days, on the 9th day we became worried and went to see a doctor who ran a pregnancy test that came out positive. She called it a missed miscarriage or something like that. I continued bleeding for about 14days during which i passed the tissue. Wen d bleeding stopped i did a scan that showed there were no retained products. The doc didnt say anyti about blood type and me too i didnt know mine then. Nw i'm pregnant again, 25wks gone. No issues at all so far but i'm just worried about baby's well being. Tho my doc has said he doubts if i'm iso immunized and should just relax till i'm 30wk. Bt i'm too worried i cant kip calm. What if m already iso immunized? Doc cant just know by guessing and what if sometin goes wrong before 30wks? God forbid.
Dont know the next step to take, thats why i'm asking here.

lexajen:

I missed this earlier.

Thank you mamas.
Ese gaaann.

If I start to reply mentions one by one, e go just fill up space.

Thanks to those who didn't mention but thanked God with me.

Per sore throat.
I already have ginger and garlic and warm water here.

Gargle ke?
Ah, na swallow o.
The taste is something I hate experiences.

Infact you need to see how I'm clenching my teeth while typing this.

Tomorrow, I will look for original honey. The one we bought is just a mixture of burnt sugar. Smh

Please is there any brand known for producing original honey? Not this burnt sugars they place on super market shelves.

Thank you again. I appreciate your inputs

Ammy5565:
Hi mamas,
Please has any RH negative mama here had to deal with carrying a preggy after a possible iso immunization due to an earlier missed miscarriage? How did u go about it nd how was it managed? Will appreciate ur responses. Thanks.


Cc kaffy4bill,thorpido,soonest,alphahandmaiden,zaynie,liftedhands,helovesme,ozycy,feddy27,sugah.
Kindly help me cc any mama that might be of help or who is a med practitioner in nigeria.

VEE992:
Woww...Abeg mama, educate us more.

LaDivva:
Ahh, I never knew o. Thanks ma'am

LaDivva:
Our dear captain, ko easy rara o but Godwin shaa.
My DH has really been a darling though, I went for my first scan last week (8weeks) and saw my sweet LO so tiny with a stable heartbeat, appetite 0%, always tired, can't keep anything down and I pity my baby atimes .
But at a point I said my baby isn't hungry coz if it is it won't be making me throw up all the time

fruitfulhome:
Don't know if i will say a month gone. I just conceived. My doctor haven't educated me yet on anything. Just routine drugs. Last night we attempted soft penetration ( didn't penetrate deep), funny enough, he refused to release inside #covering my face in shame.

fruitfulhome:
Goodevening mummies and daddies. My doctor guy didn't tell me anything about sex or no sex. Please is it safe for DH to just penetrate without banging. He has been having urges. Or how best should we manage. We are afraid to make mistakes

sweetheart12:
My boyfriend wants us to marry but he does not want a big wedding.
i asked him if it is because of the money involve but he said no, he is ready to give my family the money cash than do the wedding.
He insist we do a parlor traditional marriage, which my family will not accept and i do not want, he does not mind paying any amount for the bride price but he insist he does not want a big,noisy marriage. his family support a big wedding but he doesn't, and i have so much love for weddings, i have always dreamed of how my wedding day will look like,i just so loved weddings since its once in a life time stuff but my boyfriend condemns it and say he hate big weddings cos its like he is showing off, he says he is scared about the guest as he doesn't no who has evil mind or not. Right now he wants us to do only the registry, introduction and traditional marriage only. i am confuse here please. I NEED GOOD ADVISE.....WHAT SHOULD I DO

HerteEnUke26:
Our birth gist.......
According to LMP, edd was 17th sept, but scan gave me 8th twice at diff centres and 5th once, so I chose to stick with 8th. Wasn't sure about gender until about 36weeks.
8th sept came and pass, no show, went for be, nurse said cervix wasn't open at all, I was worried, hubby consoled me by saying cervix can open within seconds(as if he was sure). Eventually I stopped sweating it and was prepping for sallah. Didn't go to pray that morning of sallah cos of bad mood.
We later went to family house chip all chopables and went back home at night.
I couldn't sleep so decided to update my apps with leftover data that was to expire the ffg day.
Afterwards, I was watching TV at around 1.10am when I started having the urge to poo, I pooed like thrice until there's no more. I started having this painful tightening that would squeeze my vjay and anus at the same time. The contractions were 5mins apart. I started pacing the room to and fro, when it starts again I stop walking and breathe faster.at 3mins interval, I decided to leave the room for the sitting room so as not to wake hubby and Ds cos I already switched off the TV. Hubby heard the door opened and followed me. I told him its time but I wanted to wait it out a little(cos of fear of VE), so he should go to bed, for where, na him my oga carry Quran begin recite. At about 4.20am I told him I was ready cos the contractions were much more regular and faster, I stopped timing, still no rupture, bloody show or mucus.
The 15mins drive to the hospital felt like 15hours, my file was checked and I entered the labour room to be checked at exactly 4.45am, I was already 8cm dilated, see me smiling, my water was broken and real deal started.
The thing go hook me like say make I cry but I no gree cry, I was just breathing heavily through my mouth. I was checked again and the mid wife told me after two more contractions I'll be ready to push.
As she said, I pushed the first time, holding my ankles and staring at my navel, no show, the second push brought my princess at exactly 5.24am sept 13th 2016 through VD weighing 3.4kg with shikini tear. I was injected and placenta came out, my lil mama was cleaned and dressed while I was getting cleaned too, I padded, changed and twerked to the ward while raising one yansh up like tolotolo. We were discharged at 3.20 pm and went for bcg and hep injections ystday morning. It can only be God..........
Easy and supernatural delivery to all waddling mamas, it will end in praise...
#teamseptfor5minsdelivery

mumsjoy:
Hi mama's, Feels good to be here. Am a first time mum. Team March though.

Mosesbutez:
We are capable of seeing her through her university in terms of finance even her older sister is in 300l in university but her own case is really different... My uncle, some of our relatives and some of my mum"s friends the guy begged for them to convince my mother to release the girl for him had came and advice my parents to allow the guy to marry her... That it might be God's doing.

I had really made up my mind to find a way to oppose the marriage but from some comments I saw here, I rethink and thought maybe that's how God wants it for her bcoz the guy came and when insulted and chased away but he still came back for her again , that alone puts double thought in my mind, if it was the first time for the guy to propose to her I will never and ever accept that, I don't know her future .

And what if she went to university then and she was get carried away by university guys and become deceived or become pregnant out of over enjoyment of her university previledges but God forbid!! Then we might regret ever never given the guy his chance to marry her

Besides I had asked her private if she loves the guys and she said that ever since the guys normally visit her in the shop and chatting with her on whatsapp , she has been developing love for the guy gradually.... So I had leave the matter in God's hand. ...

Liftedhands:
Rukkington where my own share of the fried meat You fry and chop am finish come dey call liftedhands and co to help you leave me alone I no get solution

Blessedmum:
Congrats teamie, d devil is a failure.

Dandy1:
Thanks so much. It hurt more when I went home to get some stuffs in the baby room and saw all those things we bought in pairs. Cots, wardrobe,carriers, baby car seats, and the stroller which my baby just forced me to assemble the second one just yesterday evening. When she said she might give birth anytime soon.
For pregnant people I'd like to give this advice:
It turned out the baby had been dead for over 48 hours before today. For a set of monozygotic twins(sharing same sac),the doctors thought it's a miracle there were no complications. To think we still went for checkup on last week Monday when she felt pain overnight,where the doctor advised to opt for CS that it is safer as against what people think. Especially for multiple births. She said the babies were perfectly grown and were just waiting inside. That they will be fine if delivered right away. But my wife felt she could do it by herself. It's all good though we'll get over it. I'll start deleting those pictures from her phone and dispose of those double things we won't be needing so as to make it go away quick.

TheSixthSense:
This is my story. It is quite long but quite interesting. I hope to do in 2 parts. Please read

I was baptised, as a child, in an anglican church, had a couple of years as a pentecostal then as soon as I became a teenager, attending church became optional. I only went if I really had to, but there was no compulsion. Attendance waned to almost zero as time passed. But I didn't discard my belief in God, and if I had to pray I would in Jesus’ name. Besides, how could there not be a god? when you’re never too far away to hear spooky stories from boarding school students, villagers, and people with haunting experiences; and if you, by any chance, didn’t, there was always a Nigerian movie to bring it all to your living room.

Going further, with the amount of information accessible on the internet, I started having questions about christianity, especially about the type common in Nigeria, although I wasn’t really keen on seeking for answers. But, one thing was that I became increasingly irritated by preachers living in opulence, using bullet proof cars, body guards, and jets, like pop stars while they had many poor and struggling people in their congregation, especially when I found that most of these preachers owned virtually nothing when they had started.

Didn’t the european missionaries who brought christianity, free education, healthcare and the bible - the same one we use till this day - leave the comfort of their countries, homes and families risking persecution and death for what they believed? I thought. Certainly, this couldn’t be the same Jesus, these preachers and their followers become so excited talking about. The Jesus I knew as a child from my A&M hymn book was a friend to the poor, meek and lowly; and I doubted if He were physically present, He would be the one in Armani suits using the most sophisticated gadgets. He certainly wouldn't live and act like these preachers did.

For this reason, I preferred devout muslims - not that I ever considered becoming one but because they were principled, kind and generally nicer in my experience - to the christian counterparts.

As a young lad predisposed to politics, psychology, science, and real hip hop -‘real recognise real.' I became savvy with Google search for almost every question that crossed my mind - and being a thoughtful person, I usually had a lot about everything. So, in 2014, while following the Israeli-Hamas conflict on the news - you didn’t have to watch the news for long to know about it because there were only two issues at the time and the other was the missing MH-370 - seeing the killing of people, including children by air strikes - although the Israeli claimed that they always fired warning strikes to allow for evacuation before actual decimation of targets-. However, I vividly remember an interview of a doctor, after a bombing of a UN reserved hospital by the Israeli forces, absolutely furious at the damage and injuries inflicted by the strike and how he said “...this is a hospital for God’s sake.”

I felt so much empathy for the doctor and the injured, thus, a barrage of questions started coming into my mind. I wondered if this Israel is the same one talked about in the Bible, If God supports this country, regardless, because they are His people, and from a song, or bible knowledge as a child, we were told Saul killed thousands and David killed tens of thousands: I wondered if these people killed were real people, I wondered which tribe they would be if they still exist in present day; and having those images in my mind, I wondered how God could support the murder of thousands by David because he loved God and is described as ‘a man after God’s heart.’

So, I got curious, I started my search with ‘How many people did King David kill?’ coupled with other search leads, I came across a book “God’s killings in the Bible” by Steve Wells - it counts the number of people God killed directly, and indirectly as recorded in the Bible - and bought it. To cut the long story, I didn’t finish reading the book before I became entirely uninterested in christianity. I no longer wanted to be identified with this ‘God’ that kills and supports the killings of the innocent.

However, I didn’t become an atheist after that, not yet. I only didn't want to be identified as a christian or be associated with it. I also looked up arguments, watched videos and got books from some of the most vocal atheists like Richard Dawkins and Lawrence Krauss. Highly intelligent scientists although they’ve become more known for atheism than science. And as a scientist myself, I was impressed by their knowledge and arguments, and it only made science more desirable and fascinating to me. I am one of them, I would like to think.
Something noteworthy is that the more you know about science, you almost know evolution isn’t even an argument, you would feel stupid if you argued for creation, as an undergraduate, maybe you would get a pass, but afterwards No, just no. In fact, having faith or being religious only limits what you can achieve in the sciences. Especially with the recent discovery of the Higgs boson, the ‘God particle’ described by a scientist as ‘another nail in the coffin of religion.'

Anyway, when I returned to Nigeria, I noticed the proliferation of churches in every space like a malignant tumour, with competing ubiquitous billboards of ‘this and that’ ministry with smiling faces of pastors and their wives at every junction. Also those of politicians saying ‘God has given me the divine mandate' 'God has blessed,' 'God has appointed,' 'Power is from God’ ‘the voice of the people is the voice of God’ even by the ones in the occult, that were prayed against the previous year had turned around to become favourites of the same people. Worse still, they even get more celebrated in these churches.

Another thing I noticed was that this ‘christianity' despised the poor, that my childhood Jesus loves. I could remember in my younger days, churches used to offer hope, especially to the poor and downtrodden, but not these ones, they not only oppress the poor but also persuade them to rejoice with their pastors in their greed - I’m sure they would call it inspiration/motivation for semantics. They would tell them that it is their fault they are not rich because 'poverty is a curse’ ‘Jesus was very rich on earth’ 'If Noah wasn’t rich how did he build the ark?’ ’No faith’ ‘salt of the earth’ ‘...everything would be added on you’ and these come from same people that ask their congregation for money for every project they can think about, even for their maintenance.

The same people who had nothing and depended (often depends) on the benevolence of members to start and maintain their churches would after some time miraculously have wealth and finance tips to share - always a triangle of ‘faith, sowing seeds, and tithing’ and trust they don’t tell those without curse-laden threats attached ‘You invoke curses on yourself if you don’t pay/give...’ ‘you rob God’ ‘You can never reap if you don’t sow’ ‘You will become poor if you don’t give to God’ and ‘You are joking with your future/life if you don’t give.’ Thus, creating a society of avarice and impatience in the hearts, even among people with no skill or and qualifications, little if any. 'Everybody wan hammer', even the ones that only know a few bible verses and every detail about their pastor’s rag to riches story.

I often asked, even if this was God - because these guys often didn’t go without their wonder works that were usually propagated by their members - is it moral for someone who always asks for, not borrow, money for everything s/he is about to do to live in ostentatious opulence, brazenly up in your face? I know every nigerian is familiar with the derogatory term ‘borrow-pose’ and that’s even for borrowing.

Witnessing all these, I got even more incensed, I would have to lose a lot of brain cells to join this madness. Isn’t this why we are regressive in our development as a people and as a nation? There had to be no god, if not, why hadn’t he struck these people like described in countless occasions in the bible. There has to be no god, even the politicians knew it and they use it as tools to garner support in spite of the evil and wickedness they inflict in our society. There is no god.

I couldn’t bear all the madness anymore, better to use my time for sleeping than pray to this god that doesn’t help anyone except these preachers. So I quit and became an atheist, but remained informed about my decision.

Then came the stigma, once you say 'I don’t believe in God’ it strikes fear in almost every christian in Nigeria. They don’t ask you why, they never even, they fear you more than a known murderer and thief. In fact, keep saying that and you would find you have no friends left. Some would invite you to church, most times they don’t even know why they are going themselves, can’t even articulate what they believe in, you ask even basic questions about their faith and they would be unable to answer, but they get very uncomfortable if you refuse to go to church with them. Convince me, and I would go but no, they won’t even try, they just want you to follow them like sheep.

One thing I can take away from Steve Wells book is that most christians haven’t read the whole Bible - although he thinks, like many atheists, that if they actually do they would become atheists themselves after they find out about all the violence, ‘immorality’ and prejudice that is never preached about in sermons.- In Nigeria, it’s even worse because we don’t read at all. Probably, why many times anything that a pastor says is ‘it is written' and final, just about anything.

winner01:
TheSixthSense, I praise God for your life. I've also been in such a situation. I stem from an islamic background and later professed Christ (after someone preached to me) even though I didnt even know what I was into. I sought to know the reality of the scriptures. Nigerian churches were not helping matters. During my service year, I had to stop going to church because the preaching and testimonies and even seats were clear show off, no single regard for the poor and needy. They had few churches around and most were the same. I remember my older brother who had just got converted telling me to just seek God and keep an open mind. I had told him earlier that i'm okay and I live a good life, I didnt need anybody to tell me what to do.
I didnt want to be affliated with religion or even atheism. I just wanted to be that free intelligent and self-reliant human. My parents also encouraged freedom of religion so that made it easy.

I "enjoyed" my life to the fullest. What we call enjoyment is actually killing us. I lost 2 of my friends to alcohol. One drowned while drunk, the other died while driving him to the hospital. I remember we had an accident while coming back from a club in lagos, the car summersaulted from overspeeding, no one was injured, we all got down laughing at our drunk friends who drove.

Recently one of my very close friends called me to tell me that she does not have a womb anymore. Do I need to talk about my battle with glaucoma. Most of the friends that I had are either addicts of alcohol, marijuana e.t.c. So I smile when atheists are telling me to enjoy my life. I actually live a better life right now than the sick, unrestrained and devil controlled life I've lived as a young man. I've noticed that the devil is in control of most of the lives of those people who think they are directing themselves.

My being sober still did not lead me to Christ, an ex-cultist made me see the world for what it really is. A man who was active in a spiritual realm controlled by demons started to tell me the inner workings of such government. I started to think to myself "are these things real?"...

Bros, lemme just stop here. I've seen things in this life. I'm more than convinced that Jesus is Lord. Maybe I should just open a thread on why I am a Christian.

suleiman16:
Thank you for this weekend this wonderful advice, hopefully she would graduate before this year run out, I have an apartment she can stay, thou will like her to stay with my parent since I won't be around... My fear is just how she will cope with her final year n pregnancy...

suleiman16:
Hi Nairalander,

I am going through one of the toughest stage in my life, my Fiancée is pregnant (13 weeks), and we have decided to keep it, I am presently doing my NYSC and she is a final year student in a Federal University.

Both family is aware of our relationship and we have been together for a very long time, she is very supportive and I really love her.

But where the problem lies is that am presently faced with the challenges of keeping a family and other responsibilities that are attached to it, Thou I have a business am doing but the business has not been doing well as we all know the economy challenges facing the country now.


Pls I want the member of this forum to advice me on what to do, abortion is out of it, because if we want to, we would have done that before now,also I don't want to keep baby mama, but my fear is how will my self and my Fiancée cope by starting our own family now


Pls good people of this forum that have gone through similar stage or known someone that has gone or going through similar problem should advice on what to do and how to face challenges of this nature...

Please help me out of this...

GurlFriend:
Nollywood Actor Gets Badly Burned In Fire Stunt Gone Wrong (graphic)


A near death incident was averted on a Nollywood set recently when a promising actor, Ani Iyoho was badly burnt while playing a fire stunt on the set of movie director, Stanlee Ohikhuare.

An actor on set with Ani said while the actor was burning, the fire extinguisher on set did not work and Stanlee shocked everyone by continuing filming with the intention of adding the real fire incident to the film.

Ani, as we write has been hospitalised, with his colleagues running around to raise money for him.

All efforts to reach Stanlee has proved abortive and the producers of the movie Kelechi Udegbe and Ugochukwu Azikiwe have been on the run.

NB: This statement is for record purpose.

See the photos of the badly burned Ani on the hospital bed. Graphic photos


http://www.lailasblog.com/2016/07/handsome-nollywood-actor-gets-badly.html

OEmiohe:
I got a job as a school administrator within my area two months ago without knowing I was already pregnant. I enjoy my job and every day I am researching on how I can improve the school but suddenly I observed I was about 2 months pregnant and I told the director due to the fact that I work directly with her as her PA and School administrator .

one major reason I told her was because I felt she was a pastor and she might not be angry but to my surprise after I told her attitude changed towards me she instructed the principal to issue a probation letter of 3 months to me, and also she told me DAT I would go and rest and DAT I would not be benefitical to
them. the worst part is DAT she had be acting cold towards me and has taken off most of my duties from me. I feel bad and I don't know what to do now.
pls do you advice I do especially now secure it a job is only by God's grace.

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