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riche007:
Deltan here, Isoko wado, based in Canada.

it is good 2 know that we are much here.

how are u doing Riche007?

which town are u come from in our great isoko land?

am from oleh.

@aussie,

not all eyes that are open can see.

i see dat u are a very handsome guy.

person wen don fine don fine!

i can't marry a guy who doesn't share common interest and life goal with me.

an expensive perfume / roses is OK!

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We all know breaking up is hard to do. But unless you're Ross and Rachel, or some teen romance turned happily-ever-after, breaking up is an unavoidable part of life. And while it's up to you to decide what your individual breakup style is, if you want to avoid future bad relationship karma, you'll adopt a few breakup basics.

STEPS

1.    Pick an appropriate place. The less public, the better. Remember, ending a relationship is a humbling experience. Don't do it in a place where the person on the receiving end is going to feel more vulnerable than necessary.

2.      Choose the right time. Avoid holidays and special occasions like birthdays and anniversaries at all costs. Do you really want your ex remembering your insensitivity every time that day rolls around?

3.   Do it in person. If the relationship is relatively new, maybe you can get away breaking up over the phone. But come on, if you've been out on more than a handful of dates, isn't that kind of harsh?

4.   Be honest but sensitive. No one likes to get dumped. But we at least appreciate the truth when it's over. Unless, of course, the truth is you've stopped finding him/her attractive, you've met someone better, or that you're just plain bored with the relationship.

5.   Keep your emotions in check. Don't seem too happy about the breakup: you'll come off as mean-spirited. Just be kind, caring, and considerate. If you must, you can high five your friends later.

6.   Don't react. Some people don't handle rejection well. Some people yell, scream, cry. Yes, that sucks. But it doesn't mean you should react to their meltdown. Remember, rejection is tough. You've already got the upper hand by being the dumper. Let the dumpee behave ridiculously if they choose to. And if their tantrum escalates, get the heck out of there!

TIPS

Many people feel that it is poor etiquette to break up by phone, e-mail, or through an instant messenger system. It is easier to break up with someone if you don't have to look the person in the eye, but you may lose the respect of your mutual friends if you take the easy way out.

·    If you handle yourself well during the breakup, chances are you'll avoid any hard feelings with your ex. And while that may not seem so important at the time, it's vital to your future relationship karma!

·    The term "break-up" implies a hard stop. But, often, a break-up is really a change in the nature of a relationship, where friendship remains, but a closer physical connection, and a desire to build a life together, is taken away. Try to look at breaking up in a more positive way, and see how it can transform your relationship.

·     Think about why you want to break up with them (e.g., you may suspect/hear rumors that they are cheating on you).

·    Ask them FIRST. Everybody hates when you break up with them for a reason that isn't even true.

·       Think about how maybe if you want out, they might too. Ask them where they think it's going. If something is making being together painful, tell them that being together is hurting you (e.g., long-distance relationships).

.          Although it says above pick a private place, this can sometimes lead to emotional conversations that end in sex and another miserable month of "trying to make it work". If it's really over (see warning one), meet in a quiet public place local to the other person for a drink or a coffee. Tell them straight away and succinctly that the reason you're here is to say its over and why - be honest, give the true reason e.g. nothing you do will make up for the fact that you slept with someone else/the fact that you weren't there to pick me up from the hospital after my operation was the last straw, i need someone more dependable etc. Then leave money on the table to cover both drinks and leave. Do not cry until you're far away. Do not call them AT ALL for two weeks - this helps to get some distance.

·                       Don't tell other people about it until after.

WARNINGS

·      Weigh in carefully on your decision to break up, without analyzing it to death. Is this really what your heart wants? You may not be able to reverse your decision once it's made, and you may burn bridges in the process. Could you forgive yourself if you broke up with the man/woman of your dreams?

·                       Avoid cliches. If the person has heard it before, it may come off as insensitive.[/size][/size]

hmnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn

that is great!

i don bele wise .

nope!

there is nothing like love @ first sight.

we grow into love not fall in love.

2 me, it does work! is it the sex thing that would not make it work or what?

so long there is communication, i believe in it.

take 4 instance,u are wedded and your husband was transfer abroad that later, he will process your papers 2 meet him up over there,and that may take him a year plus.

to those who doesn't believe in it, what would u do?

divorce him or what?

he is work busy!

doesn't have time 2 call.

@ rosquare

leave that 4 me.

it is my secret.

MARRIAGE is too big an issue to be left to the limited application of the intellect.

go and pray very well with fasting and prayers.

it is all about walking in the spirit.

but why in rush?

4 how long have u known him?

ur dream may just be a fantasy as a result of thinking about him b4 sleeping.

my dear, do pray.

ur eyes will be clear if u loose ur job because of her.

let her go!

it is ur choice 2 get her out of ur system or not.

so decide now!

let her be

care

inteligence

love

respect.

she is a fool.

2 one person the world is desolate, dull and empty,2 another the world looks rich, interesting and full of meaning.

let her go!

ur life story is not writting with a pen but with ur actions.

look 4 someone that will love u 4 who u are.

@ poster

it is not a crime, but sometimes a crime!

when u express ur feelings 2 guy u love, he will be relaxed knowing that the babe is in love with him, he start misbehaving.

this is where my problem lies because,i can't love u and hide my feelings. i want 2 repent but i don't just know how 2 go about it. i have this thing they call TOO MUCH LOVE.

how do i handle myself? perharps i want 2 learn and know.ideas are welcome.
thanks.

Time always reveals true motives.

wait, watch and pray.

they shall come in Jesus name!

goodluck .

it is unreasonable and painful 2 contract a marriage that is not God's will.

yes! i can

because, no bi only B.SC dey put food 4 table.

Dear james,

the root of true achievement lie in the will2 become the best that u can become.

evaluate ur personal standards of quality. what ever u thought was good enough for now. add 10% more.

work 2gether with friends and others. Remember the banana; everytime it leaves the bunch it gets peeled and eaten.

until u are decisively committed, there is hesitancy and the chance 2 draw back, followed by ineffectiveness.

decisions are what transform an idea into a reality.

walk 2 a babe and say hello!

AM very sure that u would get 3 at least out of 15 hello!

goodluck .

until and unless one recognize the ability and worth of ur lover, u are not going 2 be as excited about helping yourselves.

until am faced with such condition " God 4bid"

the fear of loosing him can make u do it.

till then

hit the nail!

@ poster

once the head is good, the body is good also.

tell us first.

negative things brings judgement but positive things brings blessings.

no stone! just gist us.

the person interested in success has 2 learn 2 view failure as a healthy, inevitable part of the process of getting 2 TOP.

leave her 4 campus guys.

the greatest resource of any nation is not the minerals in its bowels but it human resources.
Nigeria is richly bless

@ poster.

thank u o jare!

our life is the total aggregate of our time being spend ur time will decide the subtotality of ur life. preparation is made up of painstaking following a detailed plan of action 2 achieve a purpose.

@ Rosquare
yes! self discovery include everyday experience.
man is a spirit, put in a body and given a soul. the moment u stepped into time u became lost and will not rest until u discover ur purpose in life.

wealth is an opportunity for all living souls yet only few pple can have it. it attracts only those are determine at heart. this is discovery.

love fails but geniue love last 4ever no matter what that happens. misguided way 2 handle a mistake is the failure 2 accept it when it occurs.

@ efuah

HAPPY NEW YEAR.

how is my baby?

i miss him shaaaaa!

there is no security in this life. only opportunity

are u prepared?

if a man has limburger cheese on his upper lip,

he thinks the whole world smells.

!!!

i will make love 2 u ( boys 2 men)

i want 2 match too ohhhh