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There's this fruit called Ugiri/Ugili in igbo. Don't know the English name, but I hear ogbono is gotten from it.

Nasty smell. Nasty taste.

Na wa o

Were you prepping for a day at the farm?

I hope someone gives him a punch for being stupid. Nonsense.

She's such a beauty

KingTom:
Calm down, I was excited about meeting a vegan, but since you said you're not, I guess I'll file you under "Sometimes meat, sometimes no meat",

Do we even have vegans in Nigeria?

Ihedinobi2

What did I do biko?

Nice. I agree that being nice is the minimum requirement. What we nice guys find irksome is when a girl accuses us of being too nice for her. That is what I don't quite get. Is it too nice to pull out chairs, open doors, listen to you and give a damn about your opinions?

Erm 'Too nice' some times is a subtle replacement for 'boring' (subjective again).

No one says nice is bad. Nice is good, if nice means polite and attentive and giving a damn (which we want anyway).
Nice is not a couch potato.
Nice is not 'smothering' love (I could punch someone like this).
Nice is not always agreeable.
Nice is not "you can do no wrong".
Nice is not 'no spontaneity'.
Nice is not 'lets talk serious all the time'.
Nice is not a bunch of things people think it is.

If people complain about 'nice guys' (nasty name), it's because a good number of people who describe themselves as such just spend way too much time trying to please the woman, and less time being the guy they are. So it's no longer anything new, and it's not exciting.

That's not to say 'bad boys' (who are these anyway?) call dibs on being all of that. They just appear to be more in touch with their masculinity (maybe while being jerks because they're scared being any better would make them lose it ....a lot like bullies) and women want that masculinity.

It's just like you already said, being nice is the bare necessity, so what else is new?


I don't know why a guy can't be nice and cool though. It would seem men confuse themselves just as often as they claim women do. And yet the latter feeds off the former.

KingTom:
Oh a health freak then.

No! It's just preference.


Sheesh why must EVERYTHING be defined?

jahstech:
@Uj
If I should go by your definition of "being nice" I could conclude that being nice is not actually the reason why most girls turn down some guys I would rather say is that they are aware all guys are nice to them, big deal cos they are girls, but some guys show a lack of interest in a girl cos they have lots of fish to fry. I don't think there is a guy out there who is a dumb head, there must be one thing or the other that make that guy stand out even if he is not funny, adventerous, or whatever, there must be an altitude that makes him stand out from other guys and that's is his selling point. If you don't like him for that and you friend zone him, there are definitely other girls who may find that altitude very appealing and loving

Perfect! The sooner guys understand this, the better.
You are just not it for her, but could be for some other woman.
There's no need to make her feel like a terrible person for having a choice. Where would we be without the option of choice?

Mynd44:
Most girls?

There are more 3 billion females on the planet madam. Using most is highly inappropriate.

Yes, I love pulling the generalization card when it suits me

Akuko

I want sharwama

Mynd44:
I dont have a problem when she uses it as her own choice.

When she uses it to talk about a non-existing zone you folks have tagged friend zone, I do a face palm......because there is a reason guys scream friendzone.

**buries himself back in reading Guy code 2012 release**

hilarious stuff

Hehehe like guys didn't invent the friend zone


*goes to take a shower*

MzNelly:
Girlfriend, i couldn't have said it better. That's a very intelligent way to look at it. If the boys still don't get it, just let 'em be.

Lol Couldn't think of anything else.

Mynd44:
This was taken from Number 5. The OP did not say you also have to be ......smart, chatty, witty etc......" the OP said "Girls dont like nice guys" which means she does not like nice guys.

She wants a taste of adventure which even though it is her opinion and choice, it is what she wants.


And we all know that there is a different between want and need

CC Ujsizzle

Did you miss the 'douche bags' too?

They are side by side. What does that tell you?
That most girls want something more. Doesn't have to be the 'taste of adventures. It could be something different tailored to her needs.

Mynd44:
now you are introducing exclusivity. No one mentioned being exclusively nice.

No one mentioned otherwise either.

I'm simply working with the stuff I read online, and the reaction people have regarding the whole friend zone ish.

If a guy says he was nice to her and she friendzoned him, maybe she wants a bit more excitement. It doesn't have to a party banging excitement. It could be whatever for her.

If she wants attention, then she should choose a nice guy who gives her attention.

Being nice now isn't the AND for her, it's the OR.

Mynd44:
@ujsizzle, The problem with the number 5 is that a lot of girls wants the "homely" guy who will snuggle and be there but their curiosity gets the better of them, they are willing to let go of the homely traits for something a lot more adventurous, then there is also the urge to change someone. The urge to turn an hopeless case into a shining light. They want the dark knight and yet expect him to also have the emotional traits of superman. Quite laughable

And dont we all love the curiosity of a lot of women? Can be cute and also fatal but hey, that's just me

Why don't you let the OP explain what she meant by no.5?

You're a guy, and as such may see it from a guy's perspective.
I'm a woman and see it from a completely different angle.

I don't consider being nice the best of all virtues. It's still something I think is inherently wrong with this world. People should be nice. Naturally.
So just because I see a lot of douche doesn't make me swoon when I see nice too. I expect nice, so I treat nice and douche like what they both are: Humans. Only one is slightly more appealing than the other. Shineka..

That's why I used virginity to explain this stuff to the other guy.

People want a number of things, and well most times there's never really a complete package. Now's when you need to prioritize, set out what's most important and try achieving that first.

Dont I know how hard that is eh? Still has to be done anyway.

Mynd44:
Not really. Dont bother asking why.

I'm not about to. If you had something to say, you'd say it.
Otherwise you'd respond to the question I asked in an earlier quote directed at you.

KLand:
You must be watching your height?

Lol the quantity of meat we eat in this country is barely enough to make you fat. Hell, I'd barely a sufficient source of your daily protein intake.

KingTom:
Not many Nigerian vegetarians exist my dear

I'm not a vegetarian. I eat meat, just not crazy about it. That means I can afford to eat without meat.

It's joblessness, boredom and a poorly exercised thinking faculty.

Quite easy for lazy minds to argue over useless pointless stuff, than think up simple concise thoughts to back up meaningful arguments.

Of course they'll tell you it's just playful banter

sukkot:
it is easier to detect cat meat in the daytime. at night all meat is the same

They sell cat meat too?

KingTom:
Why?

Of suya? It's meat and I'm not crazy about meat.

Biko why is that surprising

jahstech:
Honestly I don't get the "girls don't like nice guys" anthem, else some one explains better the aspect most girls look at it from makes me sick

Okay, it's a lot like virginity.
Most people believe virgins are the coolest thing in God's green earth, but if it came down to making a choice, would a girl whose only appeal lies in being a virgin make the cut?
Think about what else you'd love in a woman.....a functional brain, good sense of humor, smart decent dresser, beauty etc (very subjective to individuals). So now you can say, all these other traits attracted me to her, but then she also turns out to be chaste and that super duper cool
Ok I'll take her.

Now imagine a girls simply thought to herself, "I love him. I'm a virgin. He has to date me because of that." Wouldn't you think that really odd?

It's the same way with guys. We except you to be nice. Big deal. We want you to respect us and be gentlemen.....that's being nice. But when it comes down to making choices, what really attracts a woman to a guy to start with? Smart looks, quiet confidence, good sense of humor, a functional brain etc (again very subjective).
Now there are probably a zillion and one nice guys out there who like/love/wants her. Who do you think she'll choose: A random selection from all that 'niceness' or someone who fulfills other criteria?

That's what no. 5 means.
Being nice doesn't guarantee you THE girl. It only means you're nice. What else have you got to offer? What else is appealing about you?

I think because the market is an evening one. Most people who patronise suya sellers are daytime workers. So it only makes sense that the meat is kept fresh enough for after work hours.




Not a fan though.

1,2,3 are sooo right!

I still don't understand why they feel so threatened even when there isn't any sign of a threat looming.

jahstech:
Makes no sense at all. This girls keep over flogging this nice guy issue, let me ask who of you girls would marry an agbero cos he is not Mr Nice guy? So you girls are trying to tell me you would prefer a guy who rather mistreats you while sleeping with other girls out there? That you would prefer a not so nice guy who works in a car park to a really nice guy who is quite and decent and works in a bank? Too much reading of foreign materials is affecting you all.

This one thinks you're pretty much confused

naijaboiy:
so I cannot just have a normal friendship with a girl that does not involve any feeling of any sort

Apparently not. I blame guys for that though

Mynd44:
Blood of Zeus.

The number 5 is hilariously silly.

I hope the OP does not have that mentality oooo. Na from there you go marry cheat, abuser and claim he did not show the signs

What's silly about it pls?
What's wrong with a girl refusing a guy whose only legitimate appeal lies in his 'being nice'

You were the one who wrote about AND and OR gates in explaining romantic affiliations. So what if 'nice' doesn't cut it for her?
Does that still make her point moot?



Just curious.

ihedinobi2:
There's a link I found. I perused it quickly and I think it does the job very well. I don't have the time right now to do more than share the link with you. You should read it.

www.desiringgod.org/sermons/beyond-forgiveness-blasphemy-against-the-spirit

Found my answer. Thank you

Why This Particular Sin Makes Repentance Impossible But why does this one particular sin, this one blasphemy, make it impossible to repent and be forgiven? What about blasphemy against the Son of God, or God the Father, or angels, or Scripture, or the church? Why do these not put us beyond repentance and forgiveness? Why only blasphemy against the Holy Spirit? I think it's because of the unique and decisive role the Holy Spirit plays in our salvation. If we look to God the Father and then turn from his glory to embrace sin, that is bad. If we look to his Son Jesus Christ whom he sent into the world and then turn away fromhisglory to embrace sin, that is doubly bad. But in either case there is hope. The Father has planned redemption, the Son has accomplished redemption. This wonderful redemption is outside ourselves and available to us if we repent of our sin and turn back to Christ in faith. But it is the unique and special role of the Holy Spirit to apply the Father's plan and the Son's accomplishment of it to our hearts. It is the Spirit's work to open our eyes, to grant repentance, and to make us beneficiaries of all that the Father has planned and all that Christ has done for us. If we blaspheme and reject the Father and the Son, there is still hope, for the Spirit may yet work within us to humble us and bring us to repentance. But if behind the Father and the Son we see and taste the power of the Holy Spirit and reject his work as no more precious than the work of Satan, we shut ourselves off from the only one who could ever bring us to repentance. And so we shut ourselves off from forgiveness.

She's beautiful!

Wish them a happy life together.

Hope this one knocks off Bob Geldof's (BandAid 30) Do They Know It's Christmas In Africa.
Oh wait, it won't. The world prefers an image of a suffering and dying Africa, than one where its people are united against a killer disease and better yet HAPPY.

Seun:
I weighed 104.5kg a few months ago, when I first bought a bathroom scale in order to start 'watching' my weight.

Sweet mother of Jesus.

Mynd44:
I rebuke you in Obatala's name

Jesus pass am

ATMC:
ur last statement got me laughing hard. I ain't pondering anymore, I did once but now it's clear. One who rejects the witness that Jesus is the son of God today would hardly come around tomorrow to say 'I believe...' That's why there is no forgiveness actually because there is no repentance. grab now?#winks

Now that's just wrong.

You've just said there is no hope for the world then, no repentance, no forgiveness, no 'choice', nothing at all.

Have you read Mr Anony's conversion story before?