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@iya

They told me I wasnt romatic enough!! so I went to the religion section.

I need to cast votes as a politician now. I have 3 free votes and I am giving the bottom 3.

I am nt even voting myself but  to those who voted nway.

so bottom 3,here we go.start smiling.

@ kenyan star

yes you are right . This great E.A country has been very instrumental in ensuring sanity and peace prevailed in sudan.

enormous challenges lie ahead.

AFRICA is developing yes and poverty is reducing faster than you imagine. Many small countries have emerged as good investment potentials.

It may not look like so on the surface because we rarely hear anybody talk good about this continent.

We have cited several factors that slow down our progress and I would like to add and say that we also have a problem here where wealth is held by a few

minority and this inequality creates a huge gap btwn the rich and the poor resulting in oppression rearing its ugly head.

If anyone has read the 2011 Africa Attractiveness survey, by Ernst & Young then they will hold a different opinion. And the research was conducted by Africans

themselves so its not baked.

I am an African and live in africa and part of my work is to prove to our parent company why they should invest in Africa.

In the course of my work I have noticed one area of weakness among us Africans is. 'Attitude'.  We have a defeatist/inferior mentality most times and dont

believe in ourselves.We waste lots of precious time and believe in doing things 'tomorrow' or in the future and not now.We expect foreigners to come and

jumpstart us and as soon as the leave we slow down again or go back to square 1.

AFRICA development starts with change in our minds. I always imagine of wht good use would shoes be to a person who doent believe in wearing them.

I read coffee and brightened up.

I am in love with coffee and can drink as many cups a day if the quality is good yet it has nevr affected me.

would love to know too.

@ signature!!??

Singing to cuddle ' count your blessings name them one by one and it will suprise you what the lord has done'
whistling the tune*
brb 4 offering.
gota do sme work now.

;d

^^
get my mind?wink if u do.

chill out.
love is a heart and mind thing and u must connect in everyway.That wasnt love 4 me.
am happy satani hs found true love.check his signature.
My love is far away. In short am taken.
have fun pple.

wow

completely lost. What again was the thread title?

I thought it read 'life and times of 190'.

talk of derailment.

@ OP

And that above is wht I describe as being 'blindly in love' You just choose to be blind and ignore the warning signs.

The result? 190's thread (if people change after marriage)

Ignorance is no excuse. Refuse to be blind.

^^^
who shocked you?
and no animal pliz

@ op

Love and sympathy are 2 diffrent things.

exxplain to her early enough to avoid disappointments and heartbreak,

That is why the words 'for better or for worse in sickness and in health till death do us part' were put there.

I once wondered if its all a fallacy but c marriage is some covenant.

Truth is,those things u just mentioned there are not even the major causes of most breakups. If anything,the reverse is true.They end up strengthening

not breaking the 2 cz the cancers in breakups are the usual, infidelity,finacial stuff,etc etc. Not physical defects or such.

Having said that. Its up to you and ur conscience really. conscience at times is a good teacher whenever we feel justified to do what we think is right

Lol @ light.

So who's gonna marry your women?  cz the ratio of light to dark must be smthing like 1:50.This is Africa .

And the men are black themselves? funny.

They want flesh you say? But dont u think this is just an 'ego' booster to the man for society sake?    cz  he still eyes the pettite woman outside

the marriage. C'mmon.marry the pettite too and fatten her up!!! Its not that hard.

Understanding and independent,those are basic standards that apply in most countries especially in these hard economic times.

nway must you marry within your community? try getting ur eyes outside at times or cross border even.

@op

I trully applaude you 4 these topics u keep coming up with.I used to think ur all 'nyansh' all the time.
Back to topic.I read this card one time and laughed cz it was true in a way

I discovered somthing abt people.They 'dont change' at all after marriage.People are soo fake during courtship and prefer to hide their inadequacies.

They dont expose their faults/weaknesses to each other for the fear of getting rejected or dumped.

They call it 'being blindly in love' which to me is the most dangerous state to be in.

So when they marry and start facing 'real issue/challenges' they discover they cant fake anymore.After all you already have him/her in the box.

Then your true self resurfaces. Your anger starts showing. Rem,its been there all along just lying dormant 4 the sake of the relationship, but now since you v

got nothing to lose,it manifests. That sweet angel u were courting with an angelic voice suddenly curses like hell and gets violent.She dint change.Its been in

her throughout waiting 4 the proper time to manifest.

I tell anybody to pliz put their relationship thru a test be4 they get married. Provoke each other to the core at times and see how the other party reacts. Then

ul never complain and say u never knew.

Ok.Those r just my views. cheers

op

I can relate. Its never that easy especially if u arent the type tht hopes from relationship to relationship

Thing is this,when u hold on to pain,it keeps you in bondage. The person tht hurt you on the other hand is moving on wth life so why shud urs come to a

standstill? learn to love again by 4giving whoever hurt u and opening ur heart to embrace love.

At times we spend time gazing at a closed door, we fail to see the one that is opening infront of us.

Just let go and let God.

the animal again??/

cuddle this 'thing'cracks me up like crazy.

oP

Wow thts a major issue u got in there .

Back up your prayer and fasting with some real action like anger therapy.

If ur mum came out of it then you too can. Get busy with life and whnevr u find urself in a situation ,walk away fast and try not to react.

keep doing that til u learn to tame urself, cz truth be told ul will always come across very tight situations.

yes you can

lolest dyt!!!

I only saw one word 'DELUSIONAL'

I know who takes the crown lol.His name starts wth 'C'

@R

Oh yes.I can attest to that.The deeper you love the deeper you hurt when it falls apart.

All these 3 you mentioned are very key to any stable relationship.They are related in a way,

But which one is the strongest or mother of the 3? I think love.

love guarantees attention and fidelity.

fidelity doesnt guarantee love or attention

attention doesnt guarantee love or fidelity.

^^^^
What is with this pic!!! everywhere I go I come across it!!

My ribs will crack!!

@op

I would say love. When love dries up,other issues begin to creep in slowly thru the mind and later manifest thru deeds.

If you LOVE me, (I hope claremont doesnt read this) ,you would give me undivided attention and not entertain thoughts of infidelity.

Having said that I know theres stuff that quickly 'erode love' in any relationship and once we are aware of them then we need to work hard to eliminate them.

love is the key to a stable relationship cz that word is a 'world' in itself.

^^
The only thing I know abt nigeria is the geography, history and nollywood.
Here on NL I have come to understand the social side.
not bad forum though
but u guys make one think tht all wmen there r golddiggers.
aggresive yes,but the rest noope.

na, upendo stands for love .
Nt my name though.

Keep up the good fight.

lol @grandma

Av been around trust me lol.
I left the field for a while to take a breather.
People dont like hearing real life stuff.They want to talk about farts and BB and bosoms and bashing your women
I love the advise people guys except those for MMM.(this one I cant risk)
nwys cheers.

mmh I forget my bthday so its hard.

And correction.Its UPENDO not UPENDU  ;

I nevr read tht thing. Its same thing as doing it.Tricky if u dint get tht part.

mmh
I have been reading ur comments .Gal ur a fighter!!
You against several men is no easy thing. lol
A visitor on NL would be tempted to think that 9ija wmen are all that people say here.

The first time I gave out my IM to smbody here? the dude asked to see my bosom !! I was disgusted!
Instead of trying to understand smbody first the first thing smbody wants to see is ur boobs!!
I said hell no,get out of here.Thts crap.You have reduced your women to boobs and butts then you come bashing them.