NCAN President, Reporting from Jakarta, Indonesia.

All I see is NOT NOT....

Without wasting time, here are the six ways you can easily spot an emotionally unavailable guy.
Our pretty ladies in the house, learn something from this.

1. They're always (I mean, always) doing their own thing.
If you're only spending one or two nights a week with your partner, and they spend the remaining time going on independent vacations or just straight-up not including you, then you might be dating what Dr. Parker calls The Iceberg. The Iceberg partner is constantly distancing themselves from the relationship, avoiding conflict, and brushing off affection.

2. They avoid all emotions.
As you may have guessed, emotionally unavailable partners aren't so good with the mushy-feely stuff. Or, any kind of feely stuff. The partner Dr. Parker describes as The Emotional Silencer doesn't just back away from their own emotions but yours as well, no matter what kind. You want to talk about your hard day at work? Your insecurities? Your relationship? Sorry, but they're not going to engage with any of that. This makes it super hard to connect, and super hard to talk about not connecting.

3. They're always looking for faults.
A negative attitude solves nothing, but it's especially toxic in a relationship. The Critic sees everything you do in a bad light. You make reservations at a restaurant but they don't like the food. You haven't responded to their text fast enough so they think you're hiding something. The apartment is messy and they blame it on you. If it seems like no matter how hard you try, you're constantly messing up, then it sounds like your partner fits the bill.

4. They're always holding up a shield.
Dr. Parker says that partners who fall under The Defender category are constantly trying to hide from any issues. Rather than shutting off full stop, they just get dodgy whenever there's a hint of conflict. When you express your worries, they're deflected by blame and criticism. If you push, it turns into yelling. Before you know it, it's a full-on argument about something that should have been a normal discussion. Communication is a huge part of a relationship, so if you're with a partner who just won't, it's no wonder things are rocky.

5. They're scared to show you who they really are.
Sometimes, it's really not you, it's them. The Fearful Fraud, Dr. Parker says, is so insecure with themselves that they can't imagine anything they have to contribute to a relationship is worthwhile. That's why you're having so much trouble breaking through the surface and seeing what's underneath. It's not because they don't like you but because they're worried about being vulnerable if you don't like them.

6. He's rarely satisfied.
If you feel yourself giving and giving but getting nothing in return, then you might be dating a Sponge. Dr. Parker says The Sponge always needs more (be it time, assurance, anything) to try and fill the emptiness. Sponges have a negative view of themselves and never feel understood. It can be exhausting to be in a relationship with someone who makes you constantly feel like you're not doing enough.


Mods, this is really educative, please move it to the front page so that more people can read it.

Will continue to follow till the end of this news.

CC: lala, Seun and Mods, do the needful

Nigerian barrister Aisha Wakil is calling on the Nigerian army to explain the reasons behind the decision to declare her 'wanted'. On 14 August, Colonel Sani Usman, army spokesman, said Wakil, activist Ahmed Bolori and journalist Ahmad Salkida were wanted due to their "close ties with Boko Haram" terrorists.

The army also alleged the three people were "in possession of information" regarding the whereabouts of schoolgirls kidnapped by the group in the village of Chibok, Borno state, in April 2014.
The army made the allegations shortly after Boko Haram released a video purportedly showing some 50 Chibok girls and calling for the release of militants in in return for the release of the girls.

"How can they declare me wanted when they know me very well and they know my house? Wanted for what? If they think I have information on the Chibok girls, why did they not come and ask me? Now that they declared me wanted, did any information on the Chibok girls come out?" Wakil told IBTimes UK during a phone conversation from the federal capital of Abuja.
Wakil is known to locals in north-eastern Nigeria – the epicentre of Boko Haram's insurgency – as "Mama Boko Haram" due to her connection with the group.

She advocates for dialogue rather than the use of military force to defeat the insurgents and was appointed by the country's previous president, Goodluck Jonathan, as part of a team to trace the 300 Chibok girls after the abduction.

Wakil was also part of a Boko Haram Amnesty Committee, established in 2013. The year before, she and her husband had been nominated by a Boko Haram "representative" to negotiate a peace deal on behalf of the group.

"I have been in this, trying to bring peace between the government and Boko Haram, for the past seven years. I am known to the media, I am known to Nigeria, I have had meetings with them [the army] and told them what the boys [Boko Haram] are saying they want them to do so that this ends. They should know that I am a good asset to end this problem," Wakil said.

"The boys told me that the girls are alive and I believe them, the boys don't lie. These boys are our kids from the north-east. I know them, we all grew up there, I know many of them who started this," she continued. "But the army believes they can do things by themselves, by bombing people, but this is not the right way. All I want is peace in my country. they should meet us instead of declaring us wanted."

A way to distort attention[b][/b]
Activist and peace ambassador Ahmed Umar Bolori, who was approached by Boko Haram in a failed recruitment attempt, believes the army is trying to distort attention from the latest Chibok video.

"In the video, one of the girls said the army had killed many of their fellows. So the army now wants to clear its name and that's why they are trying to frame us and divert international attention from the problem," he told IBTimes UK.
Bolori alleged that the military offensive against the insurgents has resulted in the death of innocent civilians who are being held hostage by the group.

"Bombs cannot differentiate between insurgents and innocent people. If the army and Boko Haram really want to fight, let them go and fight, but this cannot be at the expense of innocent people. This is what we have been calling for – we had several meetings with the army but at the end it didn't work because they army showed very little interest," Bolori said.

He added he did not know the whereabouts of the Chibok girls and Boko Haram.
"I tried to link Mama Boko Haram with the current army administration and the army should listen to us. All we have been asking for is peace. It is not just about the Chibok girls, but all of the people who have been abducted and the hundreds of thousands of people displaced in IDP camps, with no food," he continued.
Salkida has not responded to a request for comments. On his blog, the journalist, who is not based in Nigeria, said he planned to fly to Abuja and "avail myself to the army authorities".

Army's position
The Nigerian army and the spokesperson for President Muhammadu Buhari have not responded to a request for comments on the claims. Colonel Rabe Abubakar, spokesperson for the country's ministry of defence, declined to comment on the claims against the army.
However, he told IBTimes UK the fight against Boko Haram was successful. "We are investigating on the video and the allegations made in the video. In the meantime, the operations against Boko Haram have been very successful, we are making progress and we will not relent," he said.
Following the emergence of the video, Nigeria's information minister Lai Mohammed said the government was "on top of the situation".

Source: http://www.ibtimes.co.uk/mama-boko-haram-army-knows-where-i-live-why-did-they-declare-me-wanted-1576119?utm_source=yahoo&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=rss&utm_content=/rss/yahoous/news&yptr=yahoo

Any which way na way

Synagogue recommended, don't waste time. Find your way to Ikotun

K for Knacking and K for Kenya.

Change change everywhere.
Click like if the change has touched you and share if it hasn't touched you.

My dream car, I know why.
What's ur last?
What's d mileage?
Can I see d engine?
What's d location?

Kindly answer all.

Thanks

Those working in the field, rig, etc.

Nice ride.

Let him stay at home and gain d experience. Greed.
Does he think paper has anything to do with real life experience?
He had better take d job for d sole purpose of experience.

who e epp?
click like if u have d shape and share if u don't

Talk to God. You have spoken to men, no results, talk to God.

U can look for a school and teach. I started the same way and in less than 4months, I got a job.
Also, Be positive in every of ur doings.

.

Naija I hail oooooo

I was wondering why Tithes should be recorded in churches since it is meant to be between you and God.
Some churches even tag your participation in some activities to your tithing.
As for me, I don't think it is right for churches to take record of how much you pay and when you pay your tithes.
What is your take on this?




cc: Seun, Lala, Mods, what do you think?

In my house as an operator searching nairalanders and nairaland on the web.

I guess u studied the course because your friends were studying the course.

Ndo, kpele, sorry

proddey:
I wrote the PMP paper based test in Lagos on May 7th 2016 as CBT has been cancelled in Nigeria for some years now, and I passed at first attempt! I'm here to assist those who are also seeking to obtain this global certification.

How I prepared
I spent exactly 5 weeks of study. Developed a study guide/ daily time table and was reading for about 5-6 hrs per day since I wasn't working so I studied full time.

Study Materials I used
I used Rita Mulcahy's book "PMP Exam Prep" which I read over once and revised it once. I watched all the PM prepcast videos by Cornelius Fitchner and listened to all the audio CD's in Andy Crowe's "Conversations on the PMP exam" these three materials were all very very good and I strongly recommend them to anyone preparing to take the exam. I never read the PMBOK guide as it was too boring and difficult to understand so I only used it as a reference guide. The PMBOK guide in itself is inadequate as it only covers about 70% of the curriculum of the PMP exam. You'll need to use additional materials as well.

I took all the tests in Rita's book and scored on average 77.5%. I also took all the assessment tests in the end of all the prepcast videos and scored an average of 79%. There are lots of tips, tricks and secrets for preparing and getting the answers right in the exam which I learnt from the study materials I used.

Before the exam
A week to the exam I felt I hadn't studied enough so I was scared that I might not pass so I tried to postpone / cancel the exam but I found out that it wasn't possible on the PBT . To cancel or postpone a PBT you'd have to do it 35 days prior to the exam. I eventually just decided to take the exam anyway based on what I had studied so far.

The exam day
The invigilators didn't allow us to use the dumpsheet before the exam started unlike on the CBT that you are given 15 mins before the exam to use the dumpsheet. There weren't more than 4 calculation questions and they were quite easy. Overall I felt the exam was very difficult as I only answered about 185 questions out of 200. I had to just guess the remaining 15 questions. I felt my chances of passing were 50:50. I had made up my mind that if I didn't pass, I would just resit the exam 3 months later in August. So I hoped for the best but prepared for the worst.

The results came out after 10 days by email as it was a PBT. I passed and I'm PMP certified now!!


Are you preparing to take PMP exam in Lagos? Would you like to have the study materials I used? then send me an email a2space2015@gmail.com and request for the materials.

I will also share with you some tips and tricks for passing the exam on the first try.

What's your last name, I need to confirm your certificate and also recommend for a job.
You can inbox me your full names asap.

.

The young man on samsung shirt...check his I.D

@Seun, Lala, Mods, what are your actions and reactions?

Sincerely, I always find a way to show them that I am busy.
I don't know if I have been fair to the JWs.
Nairalanders, what are your reactions when Jehova Witnesses knock on your door?

Source of light is Street light. Taps some lines of the street light.

I thought they are not Nigerians...according to Buhari. Why are the northerners crying?

Is the Lion of the Tribe of Ubima aware?

Bag of Pure Water
Before = 65 Naira
Now = 150 Naira
Change is real, It's still on the way.
What we are experiencing is the wind, the real change is on the way.

Seun, Lala, Ishilove, have you seen these pictures

10. Toilet Paper– Check this out, you are dressed to the nines. High heels, tight dress, and looking find. You are out with a bunch of friends perhaps, and you go to the powder room to freshen up, but you leave with a little souvenir. Toilet paper trailing down your leg. You don’t look so hot anymore, do you?