=You are seeking validation from another human being, you call it marriage, dating, realtionship.

=You care about what people think of you and less about what
is good for you.

=You are mentally weak

Very intelligent people will tell you.

I am telling you for free

Sin your sin and go to hell alone.
Nobody is going with you.

Jewessgratitud3:
It's amazing how I was contemplating making this post before a member here requested or should I say started asking me questions in that line and being a very free and open person, I promised I was going to post about it.

Well... Let me start from my background and up bringing which also contributed indirectly to my nonregrettable actions that has left me in this wonderful marital status.

I grew up in a Catholic christian home where good virtues moral values were instilled in us by engaging us in christian children activities from an early age. The Most social part of my childhood ( apart from school) was around the church then back home with close monitoring. So there was no room for nonsense even up to our secondary and tertiary level. the monitoring was topnotch. So we didn't really get to do shit like our mates who got exposed early to certain lifestyle,; dating number one.

We were overprotected and shaped with these guidelines that a mindset was formed that boy and girl relationship is a taboo ( and it's true). So we knew better than to toll that part.

In the long run, after I have come off age, it became very difficult to date. This was at age 21. Whenever I manage to give a man a listening ear and he mentions sex, I'll run without looking back because that was a danger sign we were taught to look out for. So i was always running away from men because of premarital sex. It got to a point, after looking like that's the only way to get a husband and I was already in my mid twenties, a time when a girl should be getting ready to settle down, I said ok, let me see if I can bend the rules a bit for this one. This man was a chronic responsible bachelor. So I felt it could work out since he's ready to settle down. He was in his mid 30s the and never married. We were in the same compound. So I gave in and we started dating. Mind you there was no pressure from both parents to get married. My parents will never pressure you to get a suitor.

Being a novice in the game, I never knew men could double date or even knew how to handle one when it happens. So, on this fateful day the randy goat came home with another girl. It was our last born that came and told me some girl came to look for him because everyone in the compound knows us together. I was heartbroken and right there I broke up with him without even finding out who or if what they both have is serious. Though I made him cry cos I started entertaining other boys that have been chyking me and bringing them to the compound but I never had anything with them or knew any of their houses. I was just using the to pepper him. Once they say hi, I'll drag them to the compound and we will sit on top of his car sometimes until he now confided in one of our neighbors who now told me to stop that the man is always crying. E never cry. I showed him two can play that game. He tried coming back but I bulshit him.

After that I locked up and never trusted any man. I began to see why my dad was being overprotective. I didn't date again for almost five years and then men were coming but that was when my own shakara increased. I mean responsible well to do men o. That was when men had good jobs from banking, investment and oil companies in ikoyi and vi both staff from five star hotel like Eko hotels and suites, federal palace cos those were the places I worked so I had many suitors and friends but the moment they mention relationship, Ill take off.

Part 2

It continued like that and I was enjoying my life with peace of mind that I forgot about time or didn't bother about it cos I don't care.

When I entered mid thirties, I said let me loosen up a bit but because Ive gotten used and enjoyed single life with peace of mind to that age, I found it difficult to commit again because anytime I tried, I'll start having anxiety. The thought of him cheating on me or even as little as admiring another woman will just make me unsettled and I'll think of aborting mission before it's too late.

So I said to give one man a chance, he too brought another girl in my absence. I found out from the sister and that was it. I called it off he begged and begged that the lady was forcing herself on him and sending him money bla bla.. he made a conference call with his family begging, my mind was made up I dumped him and moved on to a Choir boy Ive been admiring who was also trying to talk me into a relationship. I truly loved this guy and I think I was older than him in age . Though he refused to tell me his age but I was able to deduce from his Facebook profile cos he wrote class of 2006 while I finished 1999 but because I don't look my age, we just looked like age mate and we loved each other.

I met him when he just finished serving and was squatting. I was out of job then but one thing that made me stick with him was, even though he was not working, he shared whatever little he had with me. We were together when a very rich young pastor came asking for my hands in marriage. I told him about it and he started feeling sad that because he doesn't have a bearing now some guy wants to take me away from him. I on the other hand don't really fancy the pastor but wanted to force myself and see if it will work but it wasn't working because I didn't have feelings for him. To now make matters worse, he started showing stinginess. In the three months we courted, we didn't get to sit together because he's a pastor so we only see in church, stand and talk very briefly and disperse and each time he kept posting me about money I asked for to enable me travel for Xmas and the day was fast approaching. It was my Choir boyfriend that wen to borrow money from one girl selling recharge card to give me to travel. Now coupled with the fact that I don't even like him, i just texted him to look for another sister. The highest he ever bought me was two two hundred naira recharge card a stinkingly rich ajebota pastor for that matter ( 2014) but he would always call me.

Lastly, in 2016, my bobo got a job in Chevron with a nice apartment in lekki. Before then we had a small quarrel and we're not in talking terms because I requested for money for hair to attend my twins introduction and he told me no money but he didn't tell me he was saving for an apartment. Even then, how much? So, after months of not talking, he called and invited me over to see his new place. A surprise I guess. I got there and we had a nice time. He tried to make it up to me. He gave me his short and polo to wear that day and took me to a pepper soup joint. **Smiling**
later we got back and ad I was about to shower, I saw a used shower cap in his bathroom. He now handed me a new one from his wardrobe where there were many more. I asked him who used the one in the bathroom, he said baby don't start again. I held my peace.
The following morning he did something that I can't say for sure what really happened.

I slept over because there was no way I could go back from lekki to the mainland that day. That night he came to disturb me and I told him you know we can't be doing this. Please let wait till everything is formalized. When he wouldn't let me be, I left him and went to sleep on the floor. In the morning he woke up and was saying you, you, I was just looking at you as we were talking someone knocked on the door. It was a ladies voice. My ex went to meet her and they were together for almost 30mins before he came back inside. Me i didn't talk. I suspected he went to do nonsense because his thing was up when he left only to come back and it has come down.

We prepared and left together that morning for work. When I got home, I called and told him off. Na small thing dey vex me. He didn't believe it. So many things on my mind that made me take that huge decision. Men are not worth my type.

Since then till date, I stopped anything relationship especially if it's not a born again and I must like him. I faced my God ever since and decided to give myself peace. I can't stand a cheating partner. Disease dey town and I don't want to end up a baby mama.

Now, with the way things are, no jobs, the few decent men can hardly fend for themselves let alone catering for a family, I just decided to let sleeping dogs lie. Make person no come enter from fry pan to fire. Some family men now are dumping their family and running away from their responsibilities leaving the women to carry all the burden. So tell me what will make marriage enticing to me again? Abi na domestic violence? Biko Biko.

It is now beginning to sink into people.
I have always known this:
If you need another human to be and feel complete, whether you call it marriage,
relationship, dating, you are weak.
Build yourself to be good company to yourself.

I love her and i love her writing prowess.

Marriage is nothing, singleness is nothing,
everything is nothing.
Live your life.

LIVE WHOLLY!
LIVE INTENSILY

On a lighter note, do you have SM account.
Sorry, I'm Sapio.
I am sexually attracted to intelligence.

It is now beginning to sink into people.
I have always known this:
If you need another human to be complete, whether you call it marriage,
relationship, dating, you are weak
Build yourself to be good company to yourself.

I love her and i love her writing prowess.

Marriage is nothing, singleness is nothing,
everything is nothing.
Live your life.

LIVE WHOLLY!
LIVE INTENSILY

Gerrard59:


Whether they have children or not, is that why he had to FORCE HIS WIFE'S NIECE TO GIVE HIM BJ?! There is nowhere in the civilised world where such is acceptable! None whatsoever. With the responses I have read from useless bastards such as you and others, I am EXTREMELY ELATED the UK and the entire Western world deal with you people.

Throw the black monkeys into the jail and the keys into the Atlantic Ocean. Develop their societies, they cannot. Na only fvck dem sabi. OK, fvck adult women? Mbanu! Na to dey fvck their house maids and wives' nieces!!


Jail the bastards!!!!!!! Kill the bush monkeys whose only achievement is dangling their smelly preek chanting alfa meil, alfa meil. alfa meil!

Easy my brother.

The offender can still turn out useful to the society.
Remember, we all are connected

obaidan:

Life imprisonment is technically not forever(except it is without parole, which is not the case here,).
@boldened I see.......meanwhile the essence of prison is also rehabilitation and correctional OR u want them to build a special facility for him where he can be rehabilitated, since he is an offender after your heart

All humans are after my heart. We are all connected.
Life in prison is never commensurate with the offense.
Let him serve certain time, given community service, monitored and
then be reintroduced back into the society.

I know there is not love in an average Black African. But, people can still
turn out good and changed.

I guess
Allah is not hakubaing again

Obsessed foool

obaidan:

God forbid, if na your daughter, will the penalty still be too much?

Yes!

He did not kill nobody. He should be rehabilitated. The Sentence shouldn't be unlimited

I know that an average monkey in Zoogeria does not value life.

3ice9ce:


Igbo girls are forging Waec so they can get a chance to enter Lagos in their lifetime, this beggar is here saying he has a choice.

To enter Lagos? Does one need any form of qualification to enter Lagos?
Or is it you being idiotic?

But traders pay money to have the place cleaned up.
Useless Sanwolu, Stupiid country.
I know it is directed at Igbos
Igbos, make una remain there. You hear
Dont come home.
Stay there and be crippled

When they tell them to allow their children to
mature before going to the university, they will say
"get behind me"

They only stopped the document release before the
slated date.
Agbodorians, Druggies, stop orgasming.

theforemost:


To be sincere. It's most predominant among south-easterners but they always settle amicably. Impact, their girls are sooooo used to sex From as young as 7. A lady told me she had her fists sex at 9 when she was in Enugun. I ran. Me wey I was looking to marry a virgin. But just exchange money and it's all settled. If this happened to Ibos, #1m and it's settled. See all these baby factories in the east. They are all under-age.

Are you that you are sane?

The penalty is too much for the offense.

Men! Control your compulsions.

Righteousness2:
When you look at events happening before us, you see The HOLY BIBLE, God's script is Playing out live Before our eyes.

Scriptures have been Unsealed.
The wise will understand, heed the signals and do the needful.
The wicked will go from bad to worse.

Birth pains are Pedal to Metal!!

We are in the Final minutes before the RAPTURE.

It is a risk to live outside JESUS CHRIST right now.
Get your seat belt on
Settle the matter of your Eternity now that you have the opportunity.
One of these days, it will be too late to do it.

Shut up!

Arrogant religion.

The Earth that has been in existence for billions of years,
will now end because a man called Jesus came and lived
his own life.

Are you not stupiid?

id4sho:

, comrade reduce volume na

Tribal Sentimental fool

Bukola94:
Be fooling yourself, or Biden went there for faster operation of Hamas massacre by Israel. God will judge us all by our intention. May what is happening in Palestine happens to your country and life if you think what Israel is doing to Hamas is justifiable

May what is happening to Hamas happen to Nigeria Zoogeria if she
invades a neighboring country and start slaughtering women, men, children and babies, unprovoked

id4sho:

Nigeria is USA/UK allies

Nigeria is USA/UK ally slave
Here, corrected

robosky02:
But what is wrong in using NPFL goal keepers

The Last time out


Vincent Enyeama went from Enyimba straight to Korea 2002 world cup

Even Ezenwa was very superb until uzoho and Oloye came with their calamity


At present Reno stars Kayode Bankole is the best in Nigeria

Can we give him or even Rivers United Sochima a chance

They wont give him a chance. He is Igbo

Tinubu being the president

Ten06:
Maybe your wife was a man before he change his gender

Marry another wife. Stop eating her food or eating anything from her.
She de phuck outside.
You can joke about this.
But, it is staring you in the face.

Aturu

"make i do marry"
"make i do marry"

Fiaaam, you go marry empty and stupid vessel.

SamAfrik:

If dem born Iran well make we hear pim. The 2 war ships US sent to the region is decoration abi?

Leave these mumus make dem de orgasm

PDPdestroyer:
I see Nnamdee Kanu dying in jail

And you? Where will you die and at what consciousness level?

accordadoga27:
Hehehe

Tinubu has flogged them again.

A bad night for the pigs.

Only tonight two big punches.

You call people pigs because of your irrational sentiment for BAT.
Yea! Your Principal doesn't make sense. He is bad for you.
I know he urinates into you. But he is still not good for you

1 Any man or woman can have another sexual preference
outside his or her marriage. That they are married to you doesn't erase it.

2 Marriage is a glorified boyfriend-girlfriend relationship

3 Do not invest too much emotions on something that has its own
emotion. This one goes to married people. Or else, you will act irrationally.
This might land you in eternal regret and sadness.

illicit:


I don't even understand you one bit

Why did God gave Adam, Eve

He looked and saw that it's no good that man should be alone

Why do you think people marry?

How is that even needs That needs to be reduced.... Reduced to what?

🥴

God gave Adam to who?
Adults making historicity outta folktales

Oga, go and handle your business.
Stop looking for someone's child to labour

The fear of Wagner...