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Hey Dude,

I can relate with your situation right now. The issue of trust and fidelity is on ground zero at the moment. Alas, came the irreversible bombshell. As a young man I'm certain your first thought is to deny knowing her let alone accepting the responsibility of what there's a chance it is not yours. Being at a cross road in your next line of action is only normal.

The deed is done. Now it is time to face your reality.

Going by your story currently you do not love her and I can understand with you. Especially when you have images of your dearly beloved with multiple "dirty, filthy, strangers" in between her legs be it a figment of your imagination or real life story. However there is a chance you could forgive and forget this negative memory.

MY THOUGHTS - Not Guides nor Directives. It is your call based on what you desire in life.

1. Given your adopted method there is a 50:50 chance you are the father and another 50:50 chance you are not. So it will be unwise if you leave you unborn child in the wild with the mom at this delicate time. On the other hand if the child is not yours you will be respected as a honourable man rising up to face "Responsibility".

2. If you are what next - accept your fate as Father: Be a Father by default and a HUSBAND by choice. Never marry out of the fact that she has your baby and or out of pity. Deal decisively with the infidelity issue ahead of the choice you make.

4 If you are not ... unfortunately, you can only know after the delivery - Accept to be her guardian Angel bear all responsibilities till delivery.

4b. Upon status confirmation that you are not responsible - Immediately redefine your relationship without fear or favour and you keep your dignity cum respect.

My Friend, there are reasons to believe infidelity is in the pipeline by your story; if true child birth won't stop it especially if the candy outta there is sweeter than the sweet at home. It takes grace.

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Catholics do not have neither do they ordain Pastors. However, a lot of people ascribe titles to themselves for many reasons. Perhaps, he could be a praying friend who knows.

Have a fab weekend.

Biko no one has really helped in explaining full, na wao!

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Minister of State - This is you may call "Deputy Minister", "Assisting Minister", "Junior Minister" and or "Under Secretary of State". It is also a political appointment.

Permanent Secretary - This is the highest level of a Career Civil Servant in active service. Promotion normally gets you to Director's level but oftentimes Permanent Secretary is by appointment as well.

I dey laugh o!

"“Imo State of Nigeria, Violence Against Persons (Prohibition) Law Number 12 of 2012”." VAP (Violence Against Persons) Law yet the killing of the harmless and helpless Innocents at their early stages of living is legal. It is a Shame.

Can Rochas and company tell us through scientific knowledge if life exists in man without blood?
If there is blood flowing in a man there is tendency of life irrespective of at what stage the blood is found.

Come to think of it, does a woman really need the government of the day to pronounce an abortion before she decides to commit to one? Can you smell a fish! Perhaps it is a ploy by some randy and lofty politicians and or big wits to conceal their atrocities in the face of the law just like the proponents of the ""Girl Child Marriage"".

It is a shame that a Governor of a state who is also a decorated Knight of the Roman Catholic Church displays in public ignorance of his title "Knight of The Catholic Church". Simply put defend the church and her teachings even if it will cost him the ultimate price.

This is a clarion call to all man 'to thine own self be true' ... Shakespare

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Yes but ensure it hurts no love!
With maturity comes bigger responsibility. I think most of us go into friendship>relationship>courtship>marriage to discover the other person and rediscover ourselves. I'm not sure any sane person commits to such emotional venture with intent to hate the other; if it fails to work out it doesn't mean you must end up as "enemies" (tho with a few circumstantial exceptions).
Hey be glad you guys were smart enough to know on time you can't rock the same boat, move on but with grace & tact: no one knows tomorrow.
In your case, leave him to sulk & moan over your keeping away. If he reaches out to you try to be warm yet firm in all your responses. You 'll earn greater respect & admiration. Besides he's your friend's bro, there's possibilities of more encounters.
A word they say is enough for the wise.

Hey Op! Killing in self defence is no premeditated killing. All through the scriptures u ve instances where God gives his people charge over their enemies. I try to empathise with your friend who is not "murderer", so it's normal to feel some level of guilt taking another's life.
However, it is only God who sees the heart and judges the intentions of men. Please encourage your friend not to commit the greatest sin of all. "The Sin of Judas". - It grieves the Holy Spirit. By refusing to believe that the Love of God for us is greater than all of our actions put together.
I pray @ this moment that may almighty God grant your friend the needed grace to overcome this guilty speedily. That the intention of the devil to make him/her think such action is sinful is a lie from the pit of hell and the LOVE of Jesus christ has exposed and disgrace such false guilt from Satan. In the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth. Amen!

Truly, I fail to blame the Op but the guys celebrating Op's ignorance. He obviously missed his problems. A girl eats 3 square meals na wahala she fat na issue, she no do @ 2am na case. May be u r draining her energy, get real & look for real ssues to work out with her. Have u tut if she's got eating disorder or something? No single gal has it all. If don't like it talk to her about it if u ain't bold enough to discuss it then stop fooling yourself that you "love/like" her.

Hey dude!  Let us begin with this “shall two walk together except they agree” Amos 3:3?
My uncle once said to me begin with the end in mind … what do you intend to achieve by having this person in your life. Are you seeking a heart breaker of a future partner? To trust you must first learn to trust yourself, if you are cheating on her then you are likely going to expect her to do the same even if she's not and if she comes out clean to you it’s difficult for you to believe. The truth is you might be creating a mountain out of a mole yourself. Albeit, if a woman wants to cheat on you long distance or short distance relationship she most certainly will even if you share flat. This is something totally out of your control if she decides so.
It all comes back to you, what are you scared of losing; is it her beauty, her love, her money, care, attention or sex? On the other hand, do you think you have invested so much money in her thereby thinking you “own” her? What will happen to you today if she calls you to say, “Dude, you have been a wonderful lad but I have decided to move on”. Are you going to drop dead? Hell no! No one is ready to love until you are ready to be hurt that is what makes it worthwhile.
Give her breathing space as well, let her mingle with friends easily, permit her to hang out with the girls occasionally without monitoring their every move per minute. Because if you do not desist from this your imaginary thoughts you will most certainly loose her. Like Uncle Job once said, what I fear has come to me … and what I greatly fear has come upon me.
Learn to trust even if it is difficult, if she is unfaithful, you will be amazed how swiftly you will know. Communicate you feelings to her see if she will downplay the issue or she reassures you with love and care of her faithfulness to you, watch overtime lf she comes around to calm your fears. On the other hand if she consistently brushes away your concerns, then you have something to think about …, Start finding an exit door.
Lastly, Pray and do not be a naggy dude. Believe if it will work, it will most certainly work out well but you will not give her an excuse to call it a quit!

Hi Peeps,

There is a friend who just bashed MSc in Project Mgt. This dude has over 5yrs working experience in naija (including banking) though with little or few project mgt experience. Studied this course with the mind of adding value to entities and to self.

Please any idea of what salary scale to expect in project mgt field. e.g serving as a business analyst / project coordinator / administrator / manager / e.t.c. He needs this info to bargain for an upcoming interview (not in a bank)!!!

Cheers!

Hmmmmmm ,
The hard truth is "there is little he can do about it". The girl is the one in the ring but he can encourage and support the girl to do what is right (morally / spiritually).
If he denies the girl doing it and she wants to , you know the rest. And if he supports her to go ahead wao, I think it will be better to Boko Haram yourself

But if they both are prayerful, the lecturer will be like the Egyptian the Israelites saw no more.

Shi ke na.

@tpia
whatever's important to you both. == to me I guess Love, Family, Friendship, strong and active Spiritual/religious view, leaving a life of purpose. I dunno know if am answering you right. What do you think?

Hello,

I have this lady I am thinking of advancing our relationship into something stronger union. It all seems well and going smoothly but like they say "life ain't a bed of roses"
What must I seek to see / know / discussed / agreed with this lady before the nuts are tied. Your meaningful contributions will be greatly appreciated.

I believe savings account is acceptable @ the embassy. Ensure you 've sufficient balancce in the account and more than enough documents to back up your source of incom e.g employment letter,Staff ID,promotion letter,confirmation letter e.tc Again, depending on the purpose of your travelling (visistation, study) send all documents. It is better to 've more than enough than not having sufficient documentation.

Above all Pray,Pray,Pray coz sometimes those guys might jst loose a screw upstairs.

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Perhaps,

Boredom.

Haba guys! una too try. After all the begging no one has offered to help a brother.

Feel free to express yourself whenever there's a need, believe you have people to offer you a hand.

I believe your body structure is secondary if you 've got the skill of attraction. Some like em Tall others love em short, some love the Orobos while others seeks the Lepas, some prefer rich dudes and others love the "one day i go make am guys" (joking). In any case you must fall into the class of one but most likely not all.

Going by your statements you sound like MR NICE GUY. "Unfortunately life is unfair", it is a fact.

You may need to answer few questions;
- what you want/like in a lady
- why
- where can you find someone with these qualities
-when you can find your desire
--is it real

Perhaps, you are seeking for the qualities that might not last in the long run. Intelligence/intelligent is a relative quality, a She might score a 9 on your scale of 1-10 and score 5 on mine. I advise you to know your own rating on the same scale.
Outgoing person, now let's figure this out together: are you an outgoing / indoor guy. Are you looking for a lady to always take you out or one who will be ready to paint the town red with you? are you willing to 've a babe who enjoys outing more than staying with you @ hom probably leaving home affairs to the maid?

My G, redefine what you are seeking in a lady, change your approach (if there's any need), keep it cool and roll out your dragnet. Above all pray coz the more you look the less u go see o!

HEY GUYS!

I NEED YOUR HELP WITH GMAT EXAMS.

I WILL BE WRITTING THIS EXAM ON THE 29TH OF FEB, I FIND IT BORING TO STUDY AND IT'S KINDA DIFFICULT TO GET THE TECHNIQUES RIGHT.

I'VE GOT AN ARCO AUDIO CD AND A 30 DAY TO GMAT TEXTBOOK THAT I  AM USING BUT TWO WEEKS TO THE EXAM IT FEELS LIKE I VVENOT READ ANYTHING.

IS THERE ANYTHING YOU THINK I AM NOT DOING RIGHT?

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Hey Guys,

If you have a test to write with GTBANK just go ahead to write it. As long as you 've been invited do not entertain any fear. Remember if you are asked any question about your docs make sure you tell the truth. Discharge cert, birth cert e.t.c can be produced later. .
Hint - Go for speed and accuracy.

For those of you that are having oral interview congratulations! When you get there be confirdent, real,smart, composure matters too and above all appear as neatly as possilbe. Often than not the interview is not to "eliminate" applicants but to select the right people.

Cheers!

If You Are Overpaid By Your Bank? a big question with a short and simple answer.

Before we advance consider these questions
- who loses?
- who gains?
- why are you being asked to confim cash before leaving the bank?
- why are you not being repaid if you leave the bank and even return minutes later before complaining?


possible answers

- the paying teller / customer account debited could lose, ask me why? a teller may erroneously debit your account with   53k when you actually issue a cheque of 35k. NB: he/she is human.

- definitely the gainer is not you, because you shall reap you fruit in a bumper harvest of deceit. remember the paying teller most often accounts for all loses and gains to his/her superiors.
- if you confirm the cash before leaving the bakning hall most banks 've circuit cameras to ascertain the truth in the event of any litigation of what actually transpired
- it is most often difficult to ascertain how many times the cash withdrawn has changed hands before you return to the bank to your complains

if you have an account with customer centred bank and driven by professionalism, I am sure you will not experience hazzles as such.

every thief thinks he is an honest man, opportunity makes the thief [b][/b].

I will definitely return the money because it is my value not to steal.

Hey People, I don't think bank most bank CEO's should be on this list. Moreso, we need to affirm the basis (i.e. yardstick) of your rating.