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Behind every Dark Cloud,there,lies a star

Any corper posted to Ibnorth or northeast..ill be happy to lend a helping hand in the best way I can.
I'm still in IB at the moment after passing out in oct.
Ill be glad to help in any way.

linclon: Am much as sometimes we don't want to attach tribal differences to our marital issues, it still tends to play some factors in some marital issues. Am not saying here that marriage to the same tribe is problem proof aswell, just that one gets judge by others at times based on their tribe and this affects the growth of some inter tribal marriages. Am also a yoruba lady and my partner is ibo, though my partner and his sibling know little of Nigeria or even speak the dialect, the fact that he is originally from the east is creating problems in our home presently.
Recently she visited us and from the moment his mum discovered I am yoruba, she always complain about one thing or the other about yoruba people even to the other "foreign wife" in the family. She doesnt even want to call our daughter by her English or Yoruba name which I and my partner named her. She insist our daughter be called by her Ibo name. I almost ask her what issues she has with Yoruba people even though she spent all her life in the village.
While she stayed with us,I took good care of her, took her shopping with my own earned money, made her hair for her, and my partner who doesn't really bother much with her at times had to appreciate me which she also did once in a while. We gradually developed a good relationship since we were the only real Nigeria people in the family as I grew up in Nigeria. When my partner decide she should go back, I was not too happy as she was for the sudden return to Nigeria and I tried seeing if we could extend her visa.
I am just soo shock with her recent attitude when she was leaving and I and my partner talked about her going to see my people for family introductions she started making up some stories about igbo traditions versus yoruba traditions which never existed during her visit when she was enjoying my hospitality. We were a happy home before she came and we were planning to visit Nigeria for our traditional marriage since we met abroad. Now she has gone back, she caused problems in our home and she put our future plans together on shelf. She made up stories and presently, I and my partner are still not on good terms. What kind of a mum will derive joy from wrecking her son's home?
I am soo disappointed with her that after I empathized with her as a mother when she told me how her children rarely visit her in Nigeria, and I made up my mind to convince her children to visit her in Nigeria more often, my partner rarely calls her when she is in Nigeria and I was planning to constantly keep in touch with her but with what she just did, she just lost her support from me.

If I had been an igbo lady with the worst attitude would she have wrecked my home before going back after enjoying her stay? my guess is NO.

Yes it is true marrying from another tribe has its own issues..but let me tell u my mom nd dad are from the same LG in the east nd my father's mother didn't like my mom one bit until recently.now my parents hve been married 4 33yrs. Now give me one reason y ur case and their case is diff.

coogar: it's more pronounced in igbo states! a woman could be sent out of her husband's house not because she's barren - but because she has no male child! at least the other tribes give up as soon as the woman puts to bed - in the east, having a child does not pacify the inlaws, the child has to be male!

Y do I get the feeling u are just trying to be tribalistic about this. Can I ask which tribe u are from

Let's be honest with ourselves ...issues with inlaws hve little or nothing to do with Tribes...ppl talking about her giving birth to a male child,seem to be born in the 60s.

Then there is the issue with living. Very close to ur inlaws..what do u expect. Familiarity
The further u are from them the better

But OP..ur issues with them have nothing to do with ur tribe,if not u would have faced a whole lot of negativity from them b4 u even married ur husband.
Think about it

I think there is nothing wrong in breastfeeding your child in church ,but there is also nothing wrong in getting a scarf to cover ur bosm from the eyes of ppl that won't mind their bizness.

I just finished in Oyo state...I served in IBnorth ...Agodi precisely....
It had its ups and downs,but it ws ok.

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NICE...concept!Kip it up.

We don't need a Hurricane to knw the incompetence of our GOV
If we hve been conscious of the Floods in Nigeria Recently..then we would knw the extent to which -in many years to come- our Gov nd the country at Large won't be able to hndle such...
We r is still on it...watch as the US will deal with their Hurricane Aftermath..and we(nigerians)still wandering what will hapn to the Flood Victims.

Some ppl are even Up to Date of the Hurricane Sandy..than they are of the Floods that happend some weeks ago in their own country...and someone is talkin about 'if it were to happen'...It hs happend already.

stacomaster: Pls Darey Whats Hurricane Sandy??

Do u use a BB

shadrach77: this is embarrasing for Nigeria - we bring this embarrasment on ourselves by trying to force ourselves on nonentities - This was the same way an unknown footballer turned down Nigeria years ago when the NFA called him up to play for the Eagles. It's time we stop allowing unknown entities like this to rubbish our name

Why call them nonentities just because they are being honest..we r the nonentities that embarrass ourselves by trying to attach ourselves to ppl that have made it in life..instead of grooming our own ppl to be that which we so desperately want.

Funny enough there are many black Americans of Nigerian Heritage who don't knw they are of such heritge
So even if these ladies were....how would they even knw

If I'm not mistaken...hurricane Irene and almighty Katrina affected some parts of the Us coastline...erm but did we get riple effects in Lag.
Just asking for clarifications.

Many must have started it in the past..but
I'm hoping to Fight the idea and concept that the Knowledge of English alone will take u evrywhere.

From bad experiences I've learnt a hard Lesson....U NEED TO KNW A NIGERIAN LANGUAGe.it gives. Sense of pride and belonging.
Even iF its not ur Mother Tongue. But a Nigerian Language.
Hoping to Address schools,Churches nd the likes as time goes on.the next generation deserves to enjoy this gift of unique speech.

Ijebu State....Because

Here we go again on A BOOK..and A COMMENT.
I'm sure more than Half of us have not even seen the book yet read it.

Many Countries have had novelists write about the History of wars,opened some secrets, told some truths,some lies...its the controversiality of Life. Evryone has their own side of the story...Free them
Must it be turned into something Tribal...Y do we allow such thing to bring unnecessary Tribalism.
20pages and counting...its just sad.

Achebe just told his own story.

pro01: Look, some of us understand these things very well. I'm somewhat amused by the silly theory that they "stole" laptops and phones, and that was why they were lynched. That is improbable. There is a critically important contextual difference between "steal" and "rob" - while the former implies a non-violent, non-forceful means of unlawfully taking what belongs to another, the latter implies the use of coercion, frontal intimidation, and outright violence to dispossess someone of his or her property - along with added 'perks' of raping, brutalising, maiming, and killing the victims for extra effect.

I don't think these chaps would have been so mercilessly killed if they merely "stole" laptops and phones. They would probably have been badly beaten and then handed over to the police; petty thieves receive this kind of beatings everyday in Lagos, hardly are they burnt to death. However, if they were indeed cultists who used arms and violence to intimidate, rob, rape, and brutalize innocent people in and around that community, then I would say they fully deserve whatever consequences their actions produce.

Those demanding for 'justice' for these guys are obviously suffering from selective amnesia. The greater question is: If these guys had escaped and kept on committing their crimes with impunity, who would deliver justice to their victims? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ?

In 2004 I watched an 11yr old boy go thru this same turture and fate...because he was suspected of trying to kidnap a baby for ritualists...
This happend in lagos..channels aired it
Now just like it is not possibl to believe that it couldn't have been merely laptops and phones these boys were stealing to have faced such...tell me how I wiLl explain a mere accusation of an 11yr old boy being a Ritualist.

Now no matter the CRIME. Rape or Even Murder...Jungle justice is a worse form of Murder...there is no reasoning about that.

At what point in our lives are we supposed to apply all these corrections both from the OP and other added contributions as to the mistakes women make...it seems like everything we practically do with our men are mistakes .....so I'm wondering.

hammedkola: Wake up!...The ring is on the right hand

I wonder how the OP didn't notice that..

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Holy family cathedral Sokoto-while in school
St jude catholic church Ibadan-presently as I'm serving.


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St charles Boromeo catholic Orratory-as a child
Holy family cathedral Sokoto-while in school
St jude catholic church Ibadan-presently as I'm serving.


CATHOLIC all the way....I've seen my light.it shines bright. Glory to Jesus and honor to Mary.

living the faith