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Otunagum:
This is quite hilarious. So feminism applies now applies in the society, not in the family? You had to twist your feminism card to suit you now because expenses is involved here, eh?

Excuse me, when has feminism ever been involved in the family? I am a feminist, my husband knows that. That doesn't necessarily mean that he won't take care of his family as nature demands. If I wish to support him, it's my choice.

Have you been to Eastern Europe? Have you been to some of our schools where women are treated differently from men? Have you been to some of our hospitals where doctors attend to men first before women? Have you been to Korea? Where a woman must have an authorisation from a man before applying for a job? Have you seen the rules in Saudi Arabia where women cannot enter the football stadium to watch the games? Have you been to lithuania where a woman cannot be more than a secretary in government office? If you have been to all these places and have seen the plight of women you will understand that feminism has nothing to do with marriage as there are more important things that feminism has to address

torqque7:
What esteeem are you talking about?what's your definition of esteem? Everyone has his or her way of viewing the world,you might think being a second wife is shoving your esteem into the gutters while another will think being single at forty is shoving your esteem into the gutter too.

Every one with his opinion dear. When you put corn in a hot pan under the same heat,some become popcorn,while others don't pop,so people are different, it is wrong to use you standard to judge another person.

What you might consider a priority,someone would not even think of the same thing twice,that is how the world works. The hustle is real.

I don't understand. I'm I judging anybody?

Otunagum:
Gender equality means they ought to share and do everything equally.

It doesn't apply in marriage. It applies in society. Don't twist it to suit yourself.

Marriage is between two people! Who agree on anything they do together. If woman wants to take up finance, while hubby does other stuff fine, it's their choice.

But feminism is targeted at the society. Where women have equal rights as men. Equal position in offices, schools and other public places as men such as government and politics

Go and read more on feminism please. It has nothing to do with marriage. Feminists get married and some do nothing whilst their husband does all. It's their private and personal choice.

CarrotAndStick:
Is it right for a woman to be on top while fucking with her man?

If the woman likes it. Sex is between two consenting adults. Whatever is done will be agreed by both. Not one person thing. So if the man likes his woman on top and the woman also likes it, what's wrong in that?

Pervert.

Poseidon000:
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With this your assertion. Make sure I don't catch you screaming feminism, cos na me and you dat day.
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What? Gender equality has nothing to do with marriage young man. Marriage is a separate union on its own. There are marriages where couples agree on now to run their thing. They can agree that man does all the financial while woman does all the home keeping or vice versa. It's different. Everyone marriage to their self.

Gender equality is far from that. Unless you have no idea what feminism is all about

firstking01:
And so what??...[s]for once can't a woman anchor the financial responsibilities of the family??[/s]...all these happens when you married with the wrong reasons tho.

And the man wants the undiluted respect of the woman too right? After anchoring the financial responsibilities.?

Why didn't she expose who got her preggy?

And why would she comit suicide? Maybe she is tired of life though. Wish her luck

Kastonkastroll:
smh. You and your sisters need serious deliverance. Is not about what you think or what you don't think, but marriage is compulsory because the GOOD LORD said so and the society view it as the right thing to do. So who are you to say/think otherwise?

If you despise marriage as a woman, then what will you want to do? To become a hooker or what? Look is none of my business if you choose spinsterhood over marriage, but I won't have you talk down on marriage as if it is bad thing to do.

You have been screaming success success success all over this thread as if that's all that matters in a woman's life. So I ask you, do you think a single, successful, unhappy spinster can ever be more successful than the marriage institution itself?

Smh

I don't care about society. I own my life. Society doesn't own it. Also I don't believe in religion. I'm an atheist.

You sound illiterate. You don't know how to compose an argument. I never said I despise marriage. If I do, I won't be married with a son.

And besides even if I choose to be single, that doesn't mean my life has no other meaning. That's the point of my argument. Those who are single have other things to do in life. Just read what you wrote, "if I'm not married what else will I be". That statement is wrong. That marriage is all a woman's life is all about. That is what I'm disputing. I never said no one should get married. Those who are single have other life to live.

MARRIAGE IS NOT EVERYTHING
SOCIETY DOES NOT RULE OVER OUR LIVES.

I married at 19. Our society frowns at it but did I care?

babs01:
Ur opinion tho

You haven't answered my question. This is why many fail exams

Kastonkastroll:
1st marriage is super compulsory whether we like it not. Perhaps the most devastating social change to occur in recent times is having you girls turn from loving, caring lovers into women who are more interested in securing desk jobs than in raising children and having a family. Go figure, successful women are our mothers who have worked their _asses out just to make us responsible human beings.

A woman's success only makes her more entitled, materialistic, and narcissistic and nothing more. Her "success" also makes her attitude suffers as well as she believe that acting up like an osho equates to being an achiever which isn't so.

Marriage makes a woman complete and that's how it is. Don't be deceive by all this "successful spinsters" . Btw no sane society will accord respect to a single successful woman to a married woman

What makes marriage super compulsory please? My sisters are single. Even one is 48 and she is single. So I don't think it's compulsory.

Marriage does not make a woman complete. You haven't been able to provide any valid points to support your claim. All you are saying is women should sit and raise children without any valid logical points to backup your theory.

Can't argue with someone like you. (Importance of education)

It's fun.

RoyalBlak007:
Your dad's must

[color=#EAC359]be tough[/color]

Yea he is.

Kastonkastroll:
Here you go again, confusing yourselves with success and marriage institution. To some of you girls, everything is about success and frowning at marriage(that's why a person like me will never date/marry the too-smart/intelligent girl). A woman is only successful and earns some respect when she is in her husband's house . A career woman without a husband will/can never be compared with a sweet loving, home-sitting wife who trains and look after your kids.

@embolden

That's your belief and you are entitled to it. But know this, marriage isn't compulsory. There are single women out there who are more successful that an entire married couple with 10 children combined together. One single successful woman is more respected than a hundred married women who are not successful. Stop deceiving yourself

So you african men should stop shoving it up women's ass like if they don't marry they will die in 2 hours or something to the extent that they should be 2nd wives. Who does that?

If a woman wish to get married, she will. If she doesn't, she won't. It's not by force. It's optional. And definitely not a yardstick for success.

I actually loved 3. And the 3 wanted to marry me.

My dad handled the situation well

Loyalblak007:
it's a lie....
How will yu throw a one month old baby in the air?

One month!! Haba!

Even a 2 year old can be thrown in the air.

ufotty2001:
please why did u say so!

Its obvious both couples are sex starved. Either the man or the woman. And getting married when sex starved doesn't make marriage last because it's like getting married for the sake of that sex. And when the sex has been accomplished beyond measures, They loose interest in theirselves .

However, an old man told me this though. And I've seen it manifest in lots of homes

Rubbish.

Pornography isn't harmful. Pornography is as fake as James Bond 007. It's Hollywood who doesn't know that? So remove that from your list. What matters is that it does the job of putting peeps in the mood for sex.

Also remove that fvcking spiritual stuff from your list. Can't you guys just be logical for once? Must religion and spiritual be involved in everything?

And please tell me how it's strips one of the most important aspect of intimacy

And how does it create unrealistic expectations?

Useless topic

This marriage won't last. Seen it already. I give them 10 years max. Divorce on the way.

One thing Nigeria women should understand is,

"Marriage isn't by force"

If you are single at 40 you won't die. If you are single at 40, does not mean you won't be successful. Why shove your esteem into the gutters because "you must be married"?

It's saddening

Zceesneh:
racist

Lol I'm not. If I am, I won't be on this forum.

Zceesneh:
i have flavour's kind of body, before we start sef, u gonna wet already

I don't even know who flavour is. Like i said, i prefer caucasian people. So not possible

Zceesneh:
i can do the same thing to you, if i have the money, and killer looks

Lol. I'm way richer than you are. I can bet that. And also your looks cannot flinch me. Because I prefer Caucasian men

Arthurwinner:
Is nasty joor

Watching people do what you do is nasty ?

Arthurwinner:
Wat!!

Yeah. My phone is filled with over 320 Porn Videos. My laptop, same.

Porn is cool. Give it a try

10000000

FreeBSD:
A woman is not allowed to be loose

Shut up.

A man is allowed to be loose right? Dude don't let me use words on you.

I wonder what this world is turning to.

You are no different from a lady who you meet and lay same day. It's your shameless urge for sex and also her own urge too. You are no different from a woman. A woman has right to her body and feelings.

123CarZ:
Hmm really! Convince me

Never mind

Most men are shameless

123CarZ:
Oh yes... U can't find one man wit all these qualities put together except when u creat one for for urself

That's a lie.

Alright.

First of all, I am not against sex before marriage as long as you and your partner agree. However, sex before marriage has advantages and disadvantages but the advantages are more than the disadvantages.

So I support it.

Indeed.. just as she is in love with your wallet.