The problem is I know of someone who tried this dioscovite drug about two to three years ago and this man's crisis only seemed to get worse from that point until he stopped taking it again( about a month later). He's doing relatively well though and married now with kids. It's funny though because when you research online about this supplement there are lots of rave reviews and testimonies of how good it supposedly is especially in children. So I'm beginning to think that maybe it doesn't do so well in adults compared to children due to the experience of this man. But funny thing is he says he may be willing to try it again to see if maybe he did something wrong the previous time. And he also admitted that he wasn't really consistent in taking the drug daily due to its very bitter taste.

Hmmmmmmmmm.... Hot hot hot!!!

LoJ:

Thank you for the advice.

Cheers.

Lol. I like that. You are funny.

holahmihdeh:


My pleasure

Frankly I see nothing in LoJ's comments or questions to warrant such defensive or should I say attacking responses from you. If anything I think he's brave enough to ask some very valid questions that should aid in increasing our faith or help any un-believer in believing. That's the point of testimonies after all. He hasn't attacked your church, you or any other person yet or accused anyone of lying. Well just my opinion.

LOL

basbone:
Chai......govt don die for fear to the extent of flying flag with helicopters.......they no even use fighter jets to display their strength as the giant of africa.....

Na waoooh!!

In your inherent wisdom, have you also bothered to consider the speed at which a fighter jet actually travels? And if that will facilitate the achievement of the set objective, which I may remind you is to hover above & around the place with the Nigerian flag which a helicopter can do, and not to jet/speed through with a fighter jet.

Richy4:


The issue you just pinpointed was not what the OP was talking about.

<<<<<<<KEY POINT>>>>>>>>>

>>>>>>> why was Nigerian staffs not treated fairly?

>>>>>>>>why was it that their appointment were terminated immediately while other countries still have up to 2016

>>>>>>>>why did they replace foreigners to do a job that a Nigerian can do very well while they still operate a business in Nigerian shore. that was the issues. Maybe you should read it again

You guys have gone off topic. Like he stated above, these are the main issues of discrimination. Not whether some people stole or not, which for clarity I'm very much against cos it tarnishes the image of even the innocent ones. But the main issue here is the aspect of discrimination and unfair treatment of the Nigerians, especially the innocent ones.

raayah:
Why do we always say Men are using women for sex?

If two people are in a consensual adult relationship and they both agree to have sex. Why is it flipped somehow that the male is using the female?

Its very evident that most male and female derive great pleasure from sex. In short, i feel like I'm using my boyfriend for sex because I can't keep my hands off my boyfriend especially during sexy times.

Besides, An average Nigerian woman has more men clamouring to her compared to an average Nigerian man. Definitely, its the woman who has the power and ability to chose, approve and discard men as willingly as she wants.

Men on the other hand, tend to cast their net in the dating pool hoping to catch a fish. The average man takes an interest potential female and chases her. He might even be shut down.

Its just the top Alpha males who easily get the women they want.

There are unfair situations a person might be dating someone they do not see a future with. However its spread very evenly amongst all genders.

You know what? I wish I could know you personally! If for nothing else but for the sake of your intelligence and how down to earth you sound. And also to the Alakija reference you made in your response to that BETA male...gbam! Thank you. You just make too much sense!

BerryScott:
this is the reason y everyday i pray that my life would be judged base on 'the golden rule'

#peace

And what exactly is the golden rule if I may ask??

Yeah you are right quite hilarious. Lol. But can you blame him? The list is quite disappointing! It was a total let down for me.

Same old recycled politicians, nothing different. PMB just can't be serious about fighting corruption, not when the very ones that sponsored his rise are corrupt themselves and of course he can do nothing but only reward them for their efforts which is only fair I admit & totally understand. Hmm, here we go again. The cycle continues. Smh
But back to topic...that's some real funny tweet.

TrajansKong:
I SAY AGAIN!!

This is not the African Way.
The Pope is wrong. How can we respect him as a man of God if he travels amongst the common people? How can we glorify one who does not glorify himself? He is a messenger of God!! He should reflect God's power accordingly.We do not exalt those on our own level. A true pastor must SHOW he is above us in every way.

The Vatican has billions and BILLIONS in precious metals and stones but this pope does not display any of this for us to admire. If we cannot SEE and admire a man's power and wealth how can we follow him and give unto his glory?

This pope is a disgrace to Christianity. A man of God cannot be humble. He must be mighty as God is mighty.Fly your private jet, Papa Oyedepo! Wear your Rolex, Papa Adeboye. Wear your Armani suits Pastor Daniel! We cannot judge you as we judge ourselves. You are truly men of God. Our spiritual and earthly masters!

.

I hope you are joking. Cos I'm really trying hard not to say anything offensive to you in response to your post. You could just have easily said you see nothing wrong in the lifestyle of Nigerian pastors and ended your statement there. That would ve been a lot more preferable. Instead of all the ******** stuff you ended up typing. The Bible & the lifestyle of Jesus teaches love, HUMILITY and sacrifice. Sacrifice for the poor, sacrifice for the needy and those around us. Not pride, EXALTATION, and greed / covetousness. If one is wealthy/rich as a true Christian, fine. That's just a sweet bonus. But it should NEVER be viewed as your main calling card to prove you are a Christian. Our true hope & fight & desire is for the rewards in the next life, not on the 'bonuses' we may hope to get in this.

BabyDaddy20:
Sorry.
I don't know what recharge card or credit is.
We make calls & surf the internet like 3 million times, at the end of the month my service provider will charge & collect $60 from my Debit card or from my bank.

God bless America.
God bless At&t
God bless Verizon wireless

Chai! But you can lie sha oooh. Lol. 3million times and Internet too for just $60? AT&T and Verizon only you. Lol. Mehn you must be AAAA+ class. Thank God I also live in the U.S. Jor!

Jeeez.....

Hmmmm.......Just to follow.

aweda141:
same with me in edo state

Which part of Edo State?

Improved light this, improved light that. I keep hearing. But seriously I only hear of it online here on NL. In my area the light situation is so so so so bad. It's worse than terrible lately. To even get light on a good day now, maybe an hour or two, so I keep wondering what's really happening. I know it can't all be propaganda or lies cos the claims are just too much to ignore. So what's with my side now? Abi this na bad luck? Chai! Now when I should be enjoying the improvement like most people it's now the situation is even worse in my area....Chai! Not fair oh And I'm not even trying to hate really because I was one of those very hopeful and dare I say excited when PMB was elected. Hmmmm. Abi Buhari body language never reach my side?

Orikinla:
[size=18pt]There are boreholes and there are boreholes.
What kind of bore holes cost N139 million?

The borehole that Julius Berger will drill is different from the back yard borehole of your house.

Verify before you grudge and judge.
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I don't give a dang if it was Julius berger or agbero construction company that dug the bore hole. No bore hole should cost that much. & if a bore hole can actually cost that much, then it should be frowned at as a huge & unnecessary waste of resources that could be channeled else where to impact the lives of more suffering masses. I'm sure there would be far cheaper alternatives that ll equally work just fine. And that's even IF AT ALL any bore hole can actually cost that much, of which I highly doubt.

Mstcheeeeeeew!!!! How can people be so gullible? Can't they tell it's fake? Most likely staged. One look & I could tell. That guy probably only knows a little bit about some herbs & leaves, & then he uses the surgery stuff to mesmerize some gullible naive folks into believing he's some type of all round guru. Please, people should not toy with something as sensitive as their eyes ooooh. You are liable to have brain!

Hmmmmmmmmm. I think that the guy is actually missing the real deal of what truly went down here. You see, I think that for her to bring it up herself without being coerced, she probably was really a virgin at that time but what oga failed to notice is that the puna was already scratching her seriously hence her decision to bring up the topic of him disvirgining her, indirectly asking him to do the do and take what was supposed to be his freely before she loses her self control. Unfortunately or fortunately, for some peeps , he didn't go for it. She ended up losing her control, CHEATED on him with some other guy and couldn't tell him of course. Her conscience was probably killing her heading into the wedding, she knows all hell could break lose if/when he finds out after the wedding proper and actually devised that STORY and means to tell him before they are done with the wedding completely. At least that way he would ve the opportunity to call it off b4 it's complete & if he chooses to go on, he goes into it without the excuse of feigning ignorance later on. So you see, she just used the excuse of her not being able to wait again after their trad to get him to know the truth before the church wedding. Cos in her head his reaction may ve been worse if he entered the marriage fully with that expectation only to find out otherwise. I suspect her friends may have even advised her to do it this way. After all now the guy don chop him own too before the final marriage and he now knows before, so him no fit come say na when he don marry finish na him find out. Kinda like a twisted compensation. A risky one too. She's extremely lucky if that guy actually stayed.

Of course I could be completely wrong but that's just how I'm seeing it

All I can say is that I pray for God's grace upon you & your home. It's a really tough one & I'm not sure I have the right answers for you. Whatever the final outcome, God bless you & your home.

A friend of my brother actually got his job at Schlumberger by gate crashing. Although he had to go through a tedious process of sending repeated emails trying to convince some senior recruiting or HR manager, am not sure which one again, but he eventually got the job. May I also add that he did really well in their recruitment exam & process.

fyneguy:


Not wrong bro. Habibu was replaced so that Bayero would feign ignorance if asked about past dealings - ''Your Excellency, I am new here''. PMB reinstated Habibu so he could account for what happened. He may be fired thereafter.

ibedun:


If you are correct then I regard this move as a masterstroke!

Sorry but I don't see your point here. To me that reason doesn't follow. Habibu doesn't need to be recalled before he is obligated to give an account of things that happened while he was the head there. In the case of an investigation or a probe, he could easily have been called to give detailed information/account of incidents that occurred during his time. And also, are you now saying that even Bayero who was the new head wouldn't have been able to get access to all information pertaining to issues / dealings that occurred during the last term just before his? I highly doubt that.
It rather seems to me PMB has other reasons. Whether vindictive or other wise, I don't know. But I don't think your stated reason is right.

INTROVERT:
Barcanista must be a prophet.

I pray naira comes back to 160 170 sha coz my business is being affected.

Without being too specific, what kinda business are u into? If i may ask just out of curiosity

dearpreye:
This article is about us developing skills for our today as well as for tomorrow. Our tomorrow is very important to us, and its almost here. Time flies like mad; it has never waited for anyone. It keeps ticking away.

Given the present economic challenges all over the word and particularly here in Nigeria, losing one's job is one of the most challenging thing anyone can experience. Its capable of leading to economic difficulty, especially if the victim wasn't prepared for such an event, and could lead to depression and other issues. A friend called me about two months ago and told me how he had lost his job. Its not being easy for himself and his family. Its just advisable that the gainfully employed must be prepared for such eventualities. I tried to put myself in his shoes and it wasn't funny a though at all. We can learn from the challenges and experiences of others. This event led me to critical thought about the future. Its the ideas from that process of thought I'm sharing here. And majority of the article was culled from: http://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newCDV_81.htm

How will your job be different five years from now? Will your job exist in its present form in five years? In 10 or even 20 years? And over this time, what will happen to the company and industry you work for? We really don't know what the future holds. What we do know for certain is that change is a constant in the workplace. This means that what we are doing NOW will be different in the future.

How can we predict and prepare for this workplace of the future? What should you be doing now to make sure you don't find yourself facing a dead end in your career, with no opportunity to change direction without crashing?

Get and remain tech-savvy

Much of the change we see has to do with new technology. We keep finding faster and leaner ways to do things. Force yourself to keep your technical skills current, even if new developments don't seem to be related to your current job. Otherwise, you'll get left behind and may have to catch up a huge amount before you can get off in a new direction in the future. If you're in a highly technical field of work, be proactive and stay current-even when your company doesn't.

Develop your competences, skills and experience

Along with technical skills, it is critically important to continue your professional development to remain in demand in the workplace. You need to develop the transferable skills that are universally sought by employers. Leadership, communication, innovation, stress management and interpersonal skills are all fundamental requirements of the jobs of today and tomorrow. Majority of these skills can be learned online. Free. Here are some ways to do this:
* Choose two competencies or skills to improve each year. Monitor and track your progress.
* Develop a five year learning plan to acquire the knowledge and education you need.

The HSE profession is a very dynamic and challenging one. Hitherto this period, it was relegated and limited to identifying hazardous conditions and mitigating their possible outcomes. Now, its gone far beyond that. We now study human behavior, emotional intelligence, statistics, history, environmental modeling and quality management systems. I had to learn all these on my one. And for the past 3 years, I've not failed to ensure I take at least one HSE certification. I must be prepared for the future. The only way to guarantee the future is to invent it.

You've Got to have more than ONE skill

For economic safety of the future, you must have more than one skill. Beyond a certain stage in your career and in uncertain environments, specialization is no longer the route of choice. It can pay off for some; however, it has a very high risk of obsolescence attached to it. Its very risky. Your specific technical skills may get out of date. That's why you see nurses with business skills and technology experts with financial experience. A broad range of competencies, skills and abilities can help you secure a new job or may even open the door to working in a new industry. Aside from being a HSE professional, I can teach music theory alongside the piano( though I'm still maturing). I'm also seriously working towards becoming a motivational speaker. I just need to learn all I can.

Think globally

In many industries, geographical barriers to business are getting less and less relevant. Your co-workers, clients and stakeholders now and in the future can be from anywhere in the world. You need to acquire the ability to work within the international marketplace by:
• Learning about working with diverse cultures.
•Asking for assignments that require international exposure.
•Learning another language.

The more experience you get, the more confidence you will have when working in the global marketplace. This will make you much more attractive to employers of the future. I recall running a safety pep talk. We had a French worker amongst us, who spoke scanty English. It wasn't easy at all. Luckily for us, we had a Nigerian who could speak French fluently. He became the interpreter. The two workers later became very close friends.


Create and maintain a success journal

The time to start thinking about your accomplishments and skills is not when you are looking for a new job. You have to be proactive and take continuous inventory of what you do really well, the accolades you have been given and the noteworthy results you've been responsible for. Employers want to know what you will do for them. When you have a ready list of things you have done, it is much easier to recall your most relevant rewards and skills.
•Track your duties, projects and results.
•Keep a list of professional development activities you've participated in.
•List the training you've completed.
•Note your volunteer work.
•File your performance reviews and the written letters and emails you receive that note your performance.

Build and maintain a professional network

You should be developing relationships with people both within and outside your organization. These people will be invaluable as the landscape of work changes. They can bring you along with them as they weather the changes and can provide opportunities when your current position looks a bit uncertain. When you add a mentor or two to your network, you have the added bonus of learning new skills, technologies and strategies that will help you move your career in the direction you want.
•Collect business cards.
•Keep track of former bosses and colleagues.
•Join professional networking associations.
•Participate in a wide range of activities and build relationships beyond your current career or industry.

Nairaland means different things to different people. Away from the normal political section gists, I've been able to build a vey formidable network of political and career friends. Your networth is equal to your network. Take advantage of the vision of Seun in giving us this platform. Build your friends. Scan the right ones that will make your life more meaningful.

Scan the environment

Be aware of changes and trends in the economy, your profession and the industry you are in. No one can accurately predict the future; however, stay ahead of the crowd by keeping yourself informed and choosing to work in industries and for employers that have long-term sustainability.

Keep a clear career path open

You may be fortunate enough to be in an organization where there's a clear and attractive career path ahead of you. For many, this will not be the case.

This may not be a problem if you're in a fast growth industry – if you're good at what you do, opportunities will most-likely appear with alarming regularity. However if you're in a slow growth industry or are one in decline, then this is a problem: There may be no onward path, and development may be blocked, however hard you work. This will lead to frustration, boredom and, in the long term, failure to achieve your potential.

This is where you need to review your options and take action to unblock your career, even if it means a job- or career-change.

Develop resilience

Because the future is uncertain, you will probably encounter setbacks no matter how much you prepare and plan. People who will emerge successful are those with the ability to bounce back and consider such setbacks as learning experiences.
•Evaluate and affirm your strengths on a regular basis.
•Develop realistic and achievable goals, monitor your progress and identify what is holding you back.
•Build your flexibility and maintain your enthusiasm despite what is happening around you.

All of these techniques can be very useful as you begin to plan and prepare for your future career(s). And they all have in common the elements of risk management and career planning. You need to become good at both to secure your future career.

If we must secure our career, we must plan TODAY. While we do not pray that people lose their jobs, we encourage them to be prepared for the worst. These sad events happen. We must be proactive with our lives. And for those who are believing God and working hard to get a job, I wish you all the best.

Cc: Ishilove, Lalasticlala, ideykwum, Truckpusher, barcanista

THANK YOU.

Really nice one. Thanks for the info and your time.

SammyHoe:
[b]FOUR MAJOR REASONS WHY JONATHAN ACCEPTED DEFEAT EASILY


No Civilian President would have done lesser than what Jonathan does(Accepting defeat). All the other presidents who stuck to power in the past have military background, so Jona hasn't done anything spectacular and I don't think he has made any history contrary to the songs many people here are singing.

Now here are my reasons for saying he hasn't made any history:


1. There are international observers everywhere and any nonsense will get him Gbagboed into International prison because they have declared the election as FREE AND FAIR. Remember Charles Taylor, Laurent Gbagbo and Gaddafi. They are all soldiers who are not scared a bit of prison or death, that's why they never stopped fighting. But for GEJ, he is not strong; a civillian like you and I, not ready to languish in prison. Obama himself made allusion to Nigeria election a day before it held, so that is enough to send some sensation of fear into the spine of any African president who has no military background. Jona himself has been made to sign peace treaty twice and also interviewed internationally and made to vow that their would be a credible election.


2. The earlier he agrees with Buhari, the better for him because no matter what he does, BUHARI is ready to suck him dry of the national wealth he has amassed for himself over the years and possibly dump him in prison. You will remember his wife shouting that she wasn't ready to feed her husband in prison. Jonathan is not a strong person at heart, so you should expect him to be scared of prison, unlike the likes of Buhari, Obj and other military converts.
So, calling Buhari on phone isn't a big deal at all, since that would be the last appeal he could do so that his punishment could be lessened. With this, by the time Buhari start crying out loud that Jonathan has done this and that, we the gullible Nigerians will start calling Buhari a wicked man and saying "upon how Jona called this man on phone, yet he is still exposing him that way." That is what we call APPEAL TO PITY(Fallacy)

3. With JEGA's intellectually calm and astute response to Mr Odubebe's bei bei bei, the whole world has already judged the man as a very shrewd and unbiased man, so I don't see any court case or rejection of the election result standing at all. Surely, Jega will defend himself and win in all cases. Also, everyone knows that Jona would have made many advances to Jega in attempts to bribe him; surely JEGA will reveal those advances in court and the story would be 'no story at all.'

4. Jona had to act this way(you all know he is a Nollywood actor) just to buy the apathy of many gullible Nigerians (especially the 'prophet says' and the 'Jona is a gentleman' type). He hasn't done anything well for the past six years, so by gently walking away, he wants to use that to gain last-minute popularity. Well, good luck to him but I ain't buying his ideas.[/b]

EWE. What ever you think doesn't really matter. Just give the man some credit. Which ever way you see it the truth is that its always difficult for anyone to concede defeat no matter how small not to talk of a seating president especially when the stakes were so so high. At least he has saved possible unnecessary bloodshed of lives by this singular act. Who knows what could have happened if he hadn't done it this way. That alone is enough to give him some respect.
Whether scared or not he's still the very 1st one to do this so far. Only God knows if you yourself or Buhari himself would ve been so gracious if the tables were turned.

sprinkles14:

As I write you this letter, I'm not happy and not fulfilled. I'm getting married in less than one month to my boyfriend of 4years, but I must confess that nothing and I mean absolutely nothing interest and excites me about this guy. I don't feel complete with this guy at all..
I've been turning deaf ears to this inner voice but I kept pretending and forcing it on myself hoping I will get along sooner or later.
I must confess, this guy is a complete gentle man with a good paying job, full of ideas, loving and caring and everything about me is his priority. He's loved by all my family members and everybody around me. Calling of the wedding ceremony will be an outrageous thing to do because of the embarrassment to our families, friends and the guy in particular.
Have made a conclusion within me...after getting married, I will convince my the guy to allow me travel out of the country, maybe if I'm away, I can start a new life out of Nigeria chore and if this doesn't work, I will either file for a divorce after one year or cheat on my husband to make me happy.
Please a very constructive critics and advice will be highly appreciated.
Thank you.

unfulfilled bride to be.

I feel sorry for you,but most of all I feel sorry for that guy. The absolute best thing you can do for him now and yourself is to seat him down and tell him the truth. If you guys end up sorting things out and being able to go ahead with the wedding plans, fine. If not, you both will absolutely be better off for it anyway! It will hurt like hell but he ll get over it eventually and will actually be happier and thankful in the long run. Trust me, I was once in a similar situation as this with my ex. Don't think she completely stopped loving me per say but she began to have 2nd tots about our relationship and also I think was getting attracted to other guys who succeeded in making her confused. I was devastated when she opened up to me but was grateful. We carried on for a little longer after that but I summoned up courage and finally ended the relationship of well over 5 yrs, when I saw things weren't really improving. And I think she was also okay with the decision.

Today I'm indeed happier for it, a whole lot more happier and even grateful that I was lucky enough to have found out. Unfortunately, shes the one now regretting cos shes found out that good guys are hard to find and she was being immature back then (may I add that i was her 1st ever so she was really naive back then but more mature now, If you can call a 25yr old lady naive...). But I'm now with someone else who's showed me what I was indeed missing and i can't even imagine now, how I could cope back then without the 'real' truth.

My point is this. If you are doing this out of pity for him because you think he ll hurt too much, don't bother. He ll surely move on and may end up being happier without you, than you ruining his life by going into a marriage you already plan to cheat and possibly divorce. You ll only end up regretting even more then, than if you call of the wedding now.
If you guys can sort things together, with EVERY ISSUE laid out and still salvage the wedding plans, that's still fine but PLEASE my dear don't hope on it!

The answer is +3 not minus. U re welcome

acidtalk:
Its been long I made a comment here. I will do so because even though you are young, you really sound mature and humble.

Now this is my 20 shillings;

* I totally understand your feelings for your boyfriend, but truth be told, the feelings appears to be so strong because he is the first you ever given a yes to his proposal.

* Your boyfriend is still too young to get so committed to. For crying out loud he is just 23 and just starting life. Aside the issue of settling down which I doubt he won't be ready for in the next 5years, before he can be termed a REAL MAN WITH EXPERIENCE he will need almost 7years or more of "hard knock life", rejection, betrayals, boss/employee politics, businessman/client relationship, family gimmicks and lots more. Being a man isn't all about graduating from school, getting a job, buying a car, living in your own apartment and sexual experiences. Maturity comes with age and time. I still believe your boyfriend hasn't attained that stage.

* Before you can start comparing your boyfriend with this other guy, you need to spend more time with your boyfriend as you do to the other guy. Long distance relationships are always the SWEETEST. But a NIGHTMARE when both parties see themselves regularly. What am I trying to say? You still really don't know your boyfriend as much as you think you do.

* NEVER EVER vouch for anyone, not even your own mother. Saying your boyfriend will never leave you is a bloody lie. You are inexperience, naive and too deep "inlove" to think any man/woman can not dump you at anytime without any explanation.

* This other guy might not love you more but he is likely to be more serious and committed to the relationship due to his age and maturity. And bearing in mind you are young, a graduate and MOST OF ALL a virgin, any right thinking guy will want to grab you fast and marry you while he copes with your immaturity rather than settling for most of the "breathing PUBLIC PITS" we have walking all over the nation right now.


If you aren't ready to marry in the next 5-6years, stick to your boyfriend even though no guarantee he won't dump you before then, otherwise, give the other guy a chance.


Kiah! My fingers dey ache. Come buy my book LOVE TALK BY ACIDTALK if you want further advice. Lol!

All the best.

Seriously one of the best advice for you I have seen so far. Long distance relationships are really the 'sweetest feeling' but can be nasty as hell when both of you finally are together and see frequently. Talking from experience. So be wise. I'm not saying you should dump ur current bf outright, but the sad truth is that chances are that you guys will eventually break up anyway. You are both just too young and trust me when I say you cant be absolutely sure he wont be the 1st to dump you later on as the various twists and turns of life comes. And also whats to say that once he takes ur virginity he wouldn't leave? Trust me that's probably the greatest factor he considers. And NEVER say he is not or has not cheated on you. You just cant vouch for any guy like that. The new guy may not even be your best choice in the end but truthfully he most like is a better and safer choice for you right now especially if you are willing and ready to settle down. I don't know his mind but i sense some truth in him, though blunt, but absolute truth. I may not like the idea of him asking you to leave ur bf for him but I understand his actions cos he does love you and really wants to be with you hence he can't always hold himself back from acting like that. And besides, he knows you are a VIRGIN and wants to quickly snap you up sharp sharp. Which mature man wouldn't want that?
Unfortunately, both guys already know u re a virgin so you can't avoid having to hurt one of them deeply and maybe eventually lose both. Your present bf may take ur virginity and still eventually &most likely leave you later on, and once the new guy finds out may be too disappointed to continue with you and also leave. Unless he loves you like mad, he will leave. OR You give this new guy your virginity and your present bf leaves you from the hurt of losing out like that. He may even just decide to stay a while and suck whats left of ur cherry as much as he can just as a small form of consolation price for him but he ll definitely dump you later on. So the best thing for you to do then may just be to keep your virginity while sticking with the new guy until you are absolutely sure he's marrying you. And that's a factor of your own readiness for marriage too.
Absolute BEST thing to do, keep your virginity till marriage. Whomever it is you eventually marry. It may end up not even being any of these 2 guys you ll be surprised how life works. But I know that's hardly possible these days. So best of luck with what ever you decide.

Seriously, she looks really UGLY to me. I don't see what guys are complimenting on. And I make that statement without bias.

Now on a more personal note, I find it really surprising and just appalling at the way Nigerians have given these people celebrity status when they should do the exact opposite. If a thief comes to steal from ur family, and not just chicken change but almost ur entire family savings, and also murdered some of your family members in the process, will you go clapping and hailing that thief's family members? Especially when his family where in full support of his actions and even flaunt his ill gotten wealth? WOW! Nigerians never cease to amaze me. THINK people. And for once please have some dignity and self discipline. I mean I see some comments on here that tells me that some peeps actually wouldn't mind being in their shoes. One fellow here even sounds like he worships them/her....

lol. Some dudes are funny. My thoughts later...