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I married a feminist, and i am ok with her ideas,even though its not easy to take.Recently she is aking for my facebook password.she is on my friends list and sees everything, yet she is not satisfied.she knows my work schedule and movement am suprised she is asking for that. Besides i dont even know hers and dont want to know because i trust her.
Its really getting out of hand bc she is insisting on it.

Woahh

will attend everyday.

As a FUTO graduate , is really sad, this road has been like this my first 1999, the nothing tangible has been done to fix it by those in power. i Pity my Alma Mater, my State and Nigeria in general.

A friends daughter will be 2 soon. I need suggestion for a birthday gift for her. thanks

Finally got the apolpgy. thanks all for your kind words. life goes on.
btw: my wife was never from the gutters

On friday i went to pick my wife and my daughter from school.when we got home my wife complained about headcache ,and asked if i could go and get her some headache medicine,i told her am tired just coming from work,(she is not working)but she can use the car and go and pick from pharmacy,that lead to quarrel and i told her instead of stoping @ the shop to buy ice cream and chocolate,(which we did,although i was against it) we should have bought the medicine on our way home, she was so mad with me that she used the word " your mothers vag....".
I was so mad i never knew she could use such word for my mother(even though my family dont like her). I have asked her to apologise, but has refused to do that. The whole thing is killing me. How can i treat this issue?

wildbubble: In other words, the little girl could have been dirty right? The questions you are asking is exactly what is wrong with child-rape investigations in Nigeria. Let's say you are asked to look into this little girl's case, you ignore the major issue before you and go about 'investigating the baffling issues surrounding this matter', issues like the ones you've mentioned: 'What kind of a girl was the victim, was she a virgin, did she like sex, did her parents watch her like a hawk'. And what exactly would you do with the answers to these questions when you get them? Let me guess, establish that it wasn't entirely the fault of the three he-goats who molested her. The girl asked for it by loving sex at 13, her parents asked for it by not noticing that the girl has been raped, those three innocent young men are the real victims here, they only played into the hands of a young slut and her careless parents.

If there is any other thing on earth your stewpid questions are supposed to establish, except the ones I've just stated, then by all means come out with it already and stop sounding like a perv!

You are right.A child is a child and the responsibility of the society is protect them.It amazes me how some people in this NL want to push the blame to the young girl.Even if she loves sex,or is calling men to come and have sex with her ,does that justify why she should be sexually abuse.The blame the victim is something that has a strong hold on our society.This is one of the reason why children fear reporting abuse,because some how people will find a way to push the blame to them.So because she did not have lacerations in her vagina it stops the act from being rape.Anybody who is having sex with a minor is abusing that child ,even if the child gave their consent.My God they call them children because their mind is not fully develop.It is sad to see that in our society that some adults cannot allow children to be children.

I wonder what has mikel done to Rafa Benitez? after serving his three match ban, Rafa cannot even list him on the bench. IS HE INJURED?
I remember the first post match interview of Rafa, he complained that the Chelsea midfield is slow, i knew he is talking about Mikel and lo and behold my fear has come to reality. Rafa went as far as praising Romeu (fellow spanish) playing him more often than mikel before he got injured.
If rafa dont play him, i wonder the club that will be willing to take him with his slow pace of football. Maurinho killed Mikel`s football when he was using him only to cover lampard at the back, which made him to loose his attacking instincts as we saw in holland 2005.
I hope he will get more playing time once more.

NB:Just my humble opinion.

I need help on how to get police clearance (certificate of non conviction), i will like to where to get it, how much it cost and how long it takes to be ready.

Do they give year book now? Served in 2006 never had one.

I like Dieziani only because of that her eyes. its so charming. i wonder why u guys are jealous of that eye, by calling it frog eye.
But i dont support the killing of the innocent journalist.

Jonathan: I wonder what's going on next door.
Patience: It's a birthday party!
Jonathan: Whose birthday party is it?
Patience: I'm sure it's Tuyu's birthday.
Jonathan: How did you know? Who is Tuyu
Patience: I heard them singing ''Happy Birthday Tuyu!!!

Happy ramadan people.

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Imo university/Home State
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Hi, I have the choice to choose btw schools in New bruswick and Nova Scotia, I need infor on these 2 cities interms of survival for international student, eg the ease to get part time work,friendly environment etc. I will appreciate ur constructive contribution.

thanks J20

Hi people, am about to accept admission offers between schools NEW BRUNSWICK and NOVA SCOTIA,canada. am confused here, i will like advised on the city that is better in terms of getting a job, and foreign friendly.

HOW MUCH?

AM REALLY WONDERING IF MOST TOMBOYS ARE LESBOS?

In a continent where half the men do not know their daughter's birthday, their wedding anniversary or the menstrual cycles of their wives, there is a reason these men are the way they are. It is not for the lack of brilliance. These men know the shoe sizes of Diego Maradona, Ronaldo, and Kaka, the shirt number of the world’s most expensive player and the width of the river Nile. But they are disconnected socially from their mothers, wives, sisters, daughters and in some cases from their fellow men. These men look happy, but the women in their lives are miserable. This article is not an indictment against Africa’s great men who are standing in the gap and being great husbands, statesmen, brothers and fathers. This article recognizes that such men are there. The trouble is they are the exception rather than the rule. The hope is that this article will spark a dialogue that will positively affect the next generation so that they are better than the
current one. To be a real man after all is not about being closed away from the world you live in, but possessing a worldview that seeks to understand not only sport and nature, but the opposite sex. 1. They Don’t Communicate: They do not just get it. They only speak when they are angry and when they do they yell and shout. They don’t know how to say sorry unless it is to the revenue authority, the police officer and the fire marshal. Their own communications have no emotion or connectivity. They can talk about bridges and high story buildings but not talk about the stories behind the people who built those buildings. 2. They are Too Angry: They have not seen a Psychologist in years. To an African man, the dread of seeing a counselor is the equivalent to a woman’s dread before a visit to the gynecologist. 3. They Love Sex but Hate Romance: Romance is a waste of time. Romance is just another 8th wonder galloping a tourist money and time. Sex for an
African man is like a science project whose apparatus changes depending on the mood. So the rule of thumb is, “Get it done as soon as you can, get in and get out and make some children while at it.” 4. They Don’t Respect Women: Don’t ask her how her day was, but ask her if dinner is ready. She must respect you but you must never respect her. The only time you respect her is when you are in the presence of her relatives but as soon as you are the two of you, call her all kinds of names as long as they are NOT ‘Sweety, Lovie, Baby or Honey.’ 5. They Treat Women like Slaves: The harder she works, the more womanly she is. She must work until her face wrinkles. She must work until her hands blister. She must work until she has no desire to look beautiful for anyone. Some men have never even cooked for their wives or for their children. 6. Too Much Soccer, Too much Politics: If the passion an African man puts in his soccer and his politics was the
same passion he put in his woman, the African woman would be ecstatic. 7. Don’t Know what to do with Children: An African man has the libido, energy and sex drive to father an entire village of children, but he does not know how to raise those children. He does not know how to show up at the child’s graduation day, sports day, and career day, not even take their child to the hospital or under-five clinic. The African man gets this from his parents and forefathers. African men have no idea what it means to be hugged or loved by their own fathers. 8. Little Accountability: The African man is not accountable to anyone or any organization but to his own ego. He does not want to account for his wife’s or girlfriend’s money. Nor his sisters or mothers money. No wonder the African man makes a terrible politician. An African man wants a free spirit that hovers around the world without anyone telling it where to land though it is past its landing time.
9. Poor Cosmetic Hygiene: The African man does not like to smell good. He likes to visit the barber to escort his friend but he does not enjoy a clean cut or shave. He would rather shave his own head even if it makes him look like a peacock. The only time an African man looks good is at weddings. All the while the women in his life wish he could just use some deodorant, perfume and cologne. But in the mind of an African man, these are all eccentrics of feminists. 10. Too Educated: An African man has more degrees than an American, European or a Japanese. African men have scavenged the world for the best education. They have sold their goods and properties, divorced themselves from social networks and relocated thousands of miles away in pursuit of education. But the real question is what has that education done for Africa? Zero. Some men in Africa have a dozen degrees; couple dozen diplomas, three dozen certificates, a thousand certificates of attendance
and multiple PhD’s. Did I mention MBA’s? Yet education for an African man is a tool for intimidating others with and a bragging right rather than an inner liberation. One of the reasons the Nobel Prizes have fewer Africans and more Europeans and Americans is that Africans are still doing their thesis while the other people are in the laboratory and on the ground putting into practice what they have learnt. CONCLUSION: This article is not an indictment against all Africans. Africa has produced some fine men and great scholars and parents who have contributed to the well being of society. These men have liberated Africa from its historic shackles; they have fought imperial powers that colonized not only the continent, but the African mind. To these men and women we say thank you. We still have a long way to go. Our actions and interventions now will ensure that we liberate the next generation. Human rights in Africa are just another academic work.
Women in Zambia for example work long hours, travel long distances to draw water, still carry buckets to the labor ward for disposal or waste. Children across Africa are still child soldiers, street kids, and child fathers and mothers. All this while African leaders (majority of who are men) fly around in luxury, detached from society, content with cheap political mileage and abuse power with impunity. Systems in Africa abuse women, abuse children and celebrate mediocre men who are otherwise called politicians. Systems in Africa ridicule men who appear like women only because these men care and are connected with their gentle side. This article is not a slander or an attack on anyone. It is a tool bar being used to open a discussion that African men through their patriarchal leadership have avoided for years. But times have changed and it is time for African men to come clean and address this area of their lives. Our women are crying and unfortunately
our men a deafened by bouncing echoes of their own success. Or is it really success? The author, Mubita C. Nawa, admits that he too is an African man who is struggling with his own upbringing. RECOMMENDATIONS OR SOLUTIONS 1. Interpersonal Skills Training: Men must be taught from an early age what it means to relate to others. It must begin with self-relationship. Being in communion with oneself. 2. Redefining Manhood: For generations men have struggled defining who a true man is. Often the yardsticks are number of children, number of women, and the size of you-know-what. But time has come to say that a real man is a man whose emotional intelligence is greater than his IQ or even the size of tires on his car. It is time we told men that it is OK to cry. 3. Women must be Women: African men are a bit confused by African women. Women must go back to being mothers, nurturers, guides and gentle souls that men can count on. If our women are misplaced, so too
will our men. It is OK for a woman too work, make money, and all. But she must never take the position of a man. She will fail. 4. Dialogue: Men must communicate more. Women must listen too without nagging. Let us talk about where or what we did wrong. Let us talk about it with mutual respect and candor. 5. Fall in Love with Humanity: Men must love their children more than their ‘adult’ toys. Men must love their wives more than their side kicks. Men must love being home more than the sports bar. Men must go back to the basics of life. Men must lead. A true man is a true leader. He is a priest, a prince, and shepherded, a lover and sure enough a man. Men must love people and the process of engaging and interacting with people. That for me is what rocks.

Poster, am sure by now u wish u r from the east, bc no igbo girl will take that in her house, bc the igbo girls control their homes. i hope u will ur husband will do something on it. goodluck.

Its really absurd that a lecturer will want to do this kind of rubbish to a student, let alone a married woman. maybe u can give his infor to NL and we will occupy his office and give him the clear message, after u might have talked to another lecture as someone pointed out here. i hope u get through this .

unfortunately, there was no paper showing i gave him a car to sell for me, am based abroad, and he knew am not coming home today. its really killing me, seeing me sweat going that way. The police is asking for 50k for mobilization. I have not contacted any lawyer since there is no document proving the deal between us.

Am having the worst time of my life now, i reside here in SA, and i met a Cameroonian girl and we fell in love, in short we have a daughter together, and i love this girl and i told my family about my plans to marry her, and they told that over their dead body will they allow that, that if i insist in marrying her, that they will disown me.
They give flimsy excuse that Cameroonians are promiscuous and have low moral upbringing, even as much as i try to explain that this girl is a nice girl(a doctoral student), they still dont give ground. they told me to tell the girl to go with the child and i should come home and marry a Nigerian. I told them i cant throw away my daughter and behave as if she never existed.

Am really worried here, am confused on how to handle this issue.

A friend help me in selling my car and refuse to give me my money, he has stopped picking my calls and i dont know what to do. i need advice on how to go about it pls.

NO, My mum applied in August - September 2011 and she was given Feb 2012 date. so u must be extremely lucky to get that Feb.