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crackhaus:
1. Did you know the password to her phone before and she just changed it but refuses to tell you the new one, or was there no password before?

2. Did she only just start having more male friends, or she's always had male friends from the beginning?

3. This close female friend you gave the title 'Director of her life'... did their friendship just start or have they been friends since before you both started dating?

4. Did the directorial attitude of her close friend just start, or has she been directing your girl's life since inception?


You have 15mins, each question carries 5marks each.

lol....1.her fone neva had password before,infact I was d one dat helped her to activate it cos of outsiders who might want to invade her privacy den she later changed it
2.she doesn't keep male friends like dat before and she has always been a responsible girl
3.they v been friends before I know her,but d friend is a wayward type and d type dat doesn't believ in love
4.I tink she has been like dat befor, cos wen I started dating her she didn't let her know abt it cos she said she will distract her,dat she might convince her from falling in love...d friend isn't wholeheartedly happy abt d relationship cos her friend didn't give her a clue abt it wen we started

refreshrate:
I'm not sorry for her losing you. Guess it's obvious now. Calm down, forget about her ( it'll be difficult but it's for the best) & see what God will bring your way. What if she started doing this after marriage?

Forget her.

This is going to sound somehow but just be honest with me here did you guys have s3x during the relationship?

of course we were close couples and we both enjoyed it wit each other...all my friends know her and all her friends know me

suzzy16:
seriously,dis is a bad advice,she will leave u sharparly,when she see u dnt send her again,some women re like dat.

I have done that several times yet she will keep disturbing me again and still won't change

trustedward:
BRo wake up....be a man..trust me u can do without her,within u jst assume you've broken up wit her already,DAT way u can control ur emotions... trust me u telling ur dad,mum,siblings, grand father,great grand father, grand mother et al to beg her is only making things worse,no woman like a cheap guy,you're too available, stop giving her attention, in fact stop calling, if she ask y,tell her notin....the truth is you're freaking out becos you're scared of another guy fucckin her,bt here's the bitter truth she's started bleeping outside for real and she's enjoying it....I know its hard to deal wit dis bt trust me,only space would work for u if there's a chance.

my major problem is that anytime I assume I av broken up wit her already,one way or the other we find ourselves talking again...we love each oda no doubt but right now shes trying to explore,her friends does dat too and I tink she's trying to copy dem...infact when we started dating 2 years ago she didn't let her close friend know about it becos she knows she will convince her about it which she said so herself,infact they fought for like a year and half which made our relationship to grow,now that they are back together she has rili turned to sometin else and they go out together too

dopedealer:
Pharmroyle analysis on page 0 is right. Especially the first two paragraphs...I was also in ur shoes just weeks back
So my gurl's complain was wat pharmroyle analyzed.
so please avoid routine, introduce new gigs, reduce calling her, but maintain chatting but don't disturb, give her a little space

Finally, tell her u guys shuld pls forgive each other that u wanna have a fresh start Cus u don't want to miss what is keeping you inlove. Let her know u r tired of argueing everyday and u don't Wana quarrel either.
My gurl just forgave me and came back by herself she even pings regularly now like nothing happened. And this kept me wondering what a simple sorry Culd do in a relationship... However it took d steps, (advice) I gave to you above.. Just withing a week everything Normalized.. For a week now I've not called her we only chat. And we always chatting.. Cus if I call I am scared I might just start saying same old shit. Don't forget to Crack jokes in ur Chats....she will eventually start missing uand find her way back... Pls don't pester. It wasn't easy for me too trustme if u pester she gets more irritated and start hating you. Gurls re ridiculous

my only mistake was that I showed her too much love and she took me for granted for that...non of her friends belived in love and she has decided to follow dia footsteps even doe she still claims she loves me

refreshrate:
Is getting married to someone not part of the "future" abi what is this one saying?

Everybody now na philosopher

OP meanwhile hard as it may seem, I think it's best you free the girl. She's at that stage of her life where she feels she's unstoppable cos of the attention she's getting from so many chaps.

You need to allow her to thru the period (& be dealt with) I don't think she's particularly smart either quite frankly & nothing worse than having a mumu for a partner ( forever is a very long time)

I've walked this path before. I won't lie to you that it's easy but I swear to you everyday I remember the decision to walk out of that relationship I can't be grateful enough to God. She got married to the boy o but now they're divorced and she don marry another one again.

Is this what you want for yourself?

To be counted amongst the many?

You should see the woman God eventually brought my way, incomparable by every single ramification.

God won't come from heaven and tell you this girl isn't good enough for you he sends f*ckboys to distract her.

You won't see it now, but believe me, your intentions are good & for that I believe God has good lined up for you.

Forget the girl.

You don't need the introduction clause sounds like you're blackmailing her to marry you. Believe me what will come your way after this You won't believe.

Do you know after that eediot for married to that boy she still came to see me by herself (trust your Guy na, I smashed her wella!) then I got thinking so if I had forced my way thru to marry this girl na so she for dey go my back?
Tufia!

Saw the "husband" a few days later before they had divorced with the girl behind him the guy was feeling like a terminator. How do you think I felt? Anytime I feel low I remember that moment and I scatter laugh.

God is saving you, you're doing stiff neck.

As you can see my advice isn't with sentiments or emotions, experience they say is the best teacher & a wise man learns from others.

It won't be easy leaving her but trust me you're better for it.

right now I have even made up my mimd, I asked her to use our pics as her WhatsApp dp,but she couldn't use it of which she always use it freely before

[quote author=kallmemrB post=41350047]When a man makes a woman the center of his world,this is what usually happens...

She makes u feel like crap and unappreciated right?? Then u gotta reduce the way u make her a priority...sometimes don't even bother calling her ,let her know you can survive without her....you need to get ur acts together.....
If she's truly urs she's gonna realise her wayward ways and try to make things work with u..

That's why I usually tell people that most relationship are build on the "idea of Love"
Its just 2yrs and she already giving u BP,so try to imagine if u were married...
Having male friends ain't bad but been secretive and having attitude abt it is disgusting....male and female are bound to have both sex as friends but ur hubby or Bf should be show their respects

Don't make her ur Focal point,life's short anyway and pls don't follow sick advices of people telling u to break up with her immediately,not all ladies double date.....sometimes when we feel so comfortable with people we sometimes believe they will never abandon or leave us which makes us misbehave [/quoteI told her this nite but she's saying she wants to have friends and dat I can't stop her from having friends.she has become so bold now and disrespect me...nobdoubt she loves me but she's becoming sometin else probably because of the friends she walks with now and they are convincing her

kallmemrB:
When a man makes a woman the center of his world,this is what usually happens...

She makes u feel like crap and unappreciated right?? Then u gotta reduce the way u make her a priority...sometimes don't even bother calling her ,let her know you can survive without her....you need to get ur acts together.....
If she's truly urs she's gonna realise her wayward ways and try to make things work with u..

That's why I usually tell people that most relationship are build on the "idea of Love"
Its just 2yrs and she already giving u BP,so try to imagine if u were married...
Having male friends ain't bad but been secretive and having attitude abt it is disgusting....male and female are bound to have both sex as friends but ur hubby or Bf should be show their respects

Don't make her ur Focal point,life's short anyway and pls don't follow sick advices of people telling u to break up with her immediately,not all ladies double date.....sometimes when we feel so comfortable with people we sometimes believe they will never abandon or leave us which makes us misbehave

I rili appreciate ur advice

I have been dating my girlfriend for 2 years now and we both loved each other so much,we were best of friends and we both enjoyed each others company. But lately for about 6months now we have been having issues.
She has a females close friend who is now like "d director of her life" .
She has always been a decent,what baffles me now is that she won't even let me know her phone password,if I ask her she will say she needs privacy.we fight alot on dis and she's always busy on WhatsApp and bbm one way or d other.infact she now has alot of male friends and we never I ask her she tells me they are just her friends.
She now nags at every little issue dat she gets me so annoyed everytim..last week she was still with my family when she came visiting and her family likes me too,yet she claims she loves me but she has totally changed..she doesn't even respect me again and when we talk about the male friends she claims shes having,she said I can't stop her from having them,and this is because her females friends have them too.
Right now am so confused about her and she doesn't even make me trust her again.I love her and I don't want to loose her but she's driving me really crazy.
What do you guys think I should do..mature advice please,how do I change her back and how do I handle her situation.am tired of everyday quarrel

jemype:
I went through a very similar issue last month and I asked guys for advice. funny enough d advice actually worked. give her distance. dont call her again as often, dont giv her d attention u usually giv her as often and act very forlorn about everything she. is doing as though u hav made your decision about her. then pray about it underground. my brother d truth is that if she is urs she will change but if she isnt urs then that is Gods way of saying u deserve somthing better gently walk. out of the relationship unofficially but I sense a major quarrel among her and her friends later so jus make sure u leave an openear so she can explain everything later to u

thanks bro,tho I always wish I can control mysef not talking to her but I find mysef still talkin to her afta some days,I trully love her and she knows dis,attimes I feel she takes me for granted cos she knows I love her...I always try to let go of her but I find it difficult.I av talked to her several times,even wen she came to my place my mum talked to her too also my dad on phone...but yet I don't understand her behaviour anymore...dis is a woman I already planned marriage wit,infact I asked her to use my pics on WhatsApp,but she wouldnt, she told me I want to drive her toasters away,can u imagine

bronzegoddess:
hw old is she abeg.

24

pharmroyle:
OP... U are in a similar boat as I was in few weeks ago... LET ME TELL U HOW THIS WORKS
Boy meets girl
Girl likes boy cos he's exciting and fun etc
They start dating and relationship becomes routine (doin same thing over and over nd over again)
Girl gets bored nd starts wondering what life would be like with another guy (GIG effect)
Guy suddenly realizes that his gf is 'changing' and tries to NAG her back into his life by arguing, begging, groveling, stalking etc
Girl gets more irritated and asks for SPACE
Guy becomes hrtbrken....
OP, ur relationship with this girl as u know it is over if u continue bugging her or pleading with her to go back to how things were ... She has obviously entered the 'i need space' phase so respect her decision and give her an entire 'GALAXY'.... This is the only thing u can do to increase the chances of u guys ever being together again....
If u have always been nice to her nd never offended her nd the relationship fails due to a fault of hers, trust me she would miss u at some point in her life when everything goes south for her.
Walk away nd dont contact her, act like u are better off without her (i know ur thinking she's the best girl ever, but nah, there's even better) ... Let her experience other guys nd see what she lost... She may come back (plz experience other girls as well, life is short)... U may not even want her again wen she comes back (I know u would take her back tho, cos u think she's ur 'soul mate'...well she isnt! ).

we were already planning about marriage before,I even asked her dis evening maybe we can start planning our introduction and she told me dat we should wait until we are balanced..until we settle our issues,but dis issues cant settle wit her having this male friemds., she just wouldn't understand

bronzegoddess:
I am pretty sure d "other guy" has not spent 100naira on her, I'm very sure. She's just being a woman, enjoying the attention from the "other guys". I like men who have control over their women, I mean u are the man here, teLl her to quit paying attention to these "other guys".

Her heart is probably not innit anymore.

I told her this nite but she's saying she wants to have friends and dat I can't stop her from having friends.she has become so bold now and disrespect me...nobdoubt she loves me but she's becoming sometin else probably because of the friends she walks with now and they are convincing her

oselixir:
You claim she has change, you should also change, drop acting as if she is your all in all, you are not married, free her alittle that will also make her feel jealous

Give her some space n stopped being jealous, if you don't you will end up loosing her my friend.

We have a nature that attracts us to what we can't get, or control. Make her jealous bro, she will regulate.

Goodluck

how do u think I can do that,I have really talked and talked to her and d issue is getting complicated...her wahala is too much and she wouldn't even gimme attention again.

I have been dating my girlfriend for 2 years now and we both loved each other so much,we were best of friends and we both enjoyed each others company. But lately for about 6months now we have been having issues.
She has a females close friend who is now like "d director of her life" .
She has always been a decent,what baffles me now is that she won't even let me know her phone password,if I ask her she will say she needs privacy.we fight alot on dis and she's always busy on WhatsApp and bbm one way or d other.infact she now has alot of male friends and we never I ask her she tells me they are just her friends.
She now nags at every little issue dat she gets me so annoyed everytim..last week she was still with my family when she came visiting and her family likes me too,yet she claims she loves me but she has totally changed..she doesn't even respect me again and when we talk about the male friends she claims shes having,she said I can't stop her from having them,and this is because her females friends have them too.
Right now am so confused about her and she doesn't even make me trust her again.I love her and I don't want to loose her but she's driving me really crazy.
What do you guys think I should do..mature advice please,how do I change her back and how do I handle her situation.am tired of everyday quarrel

What would you do?

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Thanks bro

MyCuteANGEL

Sabrwahaqqo:
The questions are;
- What kinda chat is it?
- hope you're not boring to chat with?
- do you have time for her?
-What can the guy do that you can't or you haven't been doing?
-how old is she?
-how close are you guys?
-do you have complexity issues within yourself?
-her friend, have they been friends before she met you?
Answer these questions within yourself. The problem might not be with her anyway, it might just be that your assumptions are wrong afterall.

#Augur_Well!

4.i do not have any complexity issue and am neva boring
5.they av bin frends b4 we met bt shes a bad infleunce.my gf even dated 2guys tru her before we met and the frend dont believe in relationship or love.its nt her way and shes wild.

Sabrwahaqqo:
The questions are;
- What kinda chat is it?
- hope you're not boring to chat with?
- do you have time for her?
-What can the guy do that you can't or you haven't been doing?
-how old is she?
-how close are you guys?
-do you have complexity issues within yourself?
-her friend, have they been friends before she met you?
Answer these questions within yourself. The problem might not be with her anyway, it might just be that your assumptions are wrong afterall.

#Augur_Well!

1.D guy callin her for like 30mins by 11pm at night at times and she callin him too cos we r into distant relationship and i got to knw cos i gave her a surprise visit
2.i visit her at least once in a month and i spend at least a week and half or 2
3.we ar very close and we once live togeda in skul.she hs introduced me to her dad and mum and i av introduced her to mine too.infact she spent last dec in my place

Pls i need your advice,anytime we have issues,
1.my girlfriend talks to her ex,she just cant let her ex go..and that has always been our problem..she did it once and we fot and i forgave her,she stil did it again..shes 24 and am 30
2.she has a bestie dat is too wild,she once fought her but now they ar now back together.the bestie is not too happy wit our relationship and has tried 2 separate us once,at a time,she was giving guys her num.how do i separate them witout hurting my girls feelings.thanks