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Uyi168:
nothinq reali special abt being a virqin...my thouqhts tho....

OP come see this one o!

For the ladies only. I'm available, free and wanting to settle down soon. Twitter @bouncekennedy

Hardworking and independent women indeed!


God is watching us all!

Ele e gidi gan!

This is their reaction when they heard the news.

Descartes:
*In NgeneUkwenu voice *Another propaganda from PDP. Ndi ara!

My grandma once told me that "the death that will kill a dog will not allow it to perceive excreta"

dOnLarich:
so what

They are not the cause(s) of your predicament(s). So why the hate.


Cute baby in a lovely family.

God in heaven I'm not greedy to ask you for a fair lady I just want this skin colour for a wife in 2016...Amen!!!

sashaa:
A thumbs up for this post. You spoke well and you are right about that being a SE mentality. Am from there and you won't believe the number of people that have given me the same advice.

For me, I know what I'm waiting for. Once I make good on a few investment plans I'm getting myself a car because I need one. It's a necessity and not luxury like people here think. Like the OP i'v also worked for almost 3years.

@ topic, sweetie get yourself a car and remain a good person inside out. I will be buying your asoebi soon. Cheers

Thumb's up to you too for not allowing that mentality be-cloud your mentality. I love good life and that's my wish for everyone including the OP and you. Season's Greetings!!!

babylawyr:
Uncle watered, please how do I get my amstel malt. I'm taking this offer very seriously oo.this is the first time someone on NL is offering me anything.

Well I know it will be difficult through a courier service I would have done that. Let me request for your state of domicile. I'm waiting

babylawyr:
Truth be told and I'm speaking from experience now, driving in a car will limit the number of guys that will have access to you.

However, it will improve the quality of guys that approach you.

So its quality over quantity. You choose.

Babylawyr: you killed it and I owe you one bottle of amstel malt (though not cold)

I'm sure this lady must be from SE cos that's their mentality down there that single women are not supposed to live big because they are waiting to be taken by one ingrate or less than a man in the name of marriage.

Babe, pull over such cheap and irrelevant talks and live the good life. Some men too are irritated by "low lifers". The car is nothing, even house; what matters is your attitude and your carriage.

So please dearie be of good conduct, do not drink alcohol excessively, club or smoke cos my kind of men are put off by such things.

When the suitor comes please bring it up to this forum and give us an invite. Till then, I wish you a happy married life in 2016.

Make I buy one plot of land for this match here.








I'm hopeful tonight

I love the NPF, how about you guys?

lastpage:
God bless you too Sir!
I am your friend and will always be. Feel free to discuss with me.
It takes "one" to know "one" and l am sure that l will also be enriched by association with you. Your words already shows you are so well-grounded.
Blessed are those who raised you and blessed are you too, for allowing to be raised properly. its a two-way thing!

I try to keep "online things' ...online.
Between me and my family members,w e have agreed that we would remain "anonymous", online.
I have been asked to do "Mod" duties in my past six years or more on Nairaland but l politely declined for the same reasons.
A lot of people have asked to meet me in person, Mods have requested to do a "personality profile" on me and for the same reasons, l have politely declined the offer. Most of the things l write about are "real life" scenarios and l have a duty to protect other family members who may be identifiable from my posts, especially my wife.

So, please bear with me if l cant meet you in person, it's just my way of ensuring the "Lastpage family" remains anonymous and hence can speak their mind freely, online. But it does not diminish our communications in anyway. You can always "PM" me

Merry Xmas to you and a happy 2015 in advance.
Bless you.



Lastpage!

Same to you sir and happy 2016 in advance. I'm lost in words to express how I feel meeting you online.

God bless the lastpage family

lastpage:
Generally, you should never shout at your Parents... even if they say hurtful things to you, TRY and WALK AWAY!
Bible says we shoudl obey and respect our Parents so that our days may be long!. That is a command with a Promise.


The Bible also admonishes PARENTS not to EXASPERATE their children. Exasperate means "to provoke beyond control".
I guess no one remembers this passage as l see no one has mentioned it at all?

It is difficult to know exactly how to advice you because we need to be sure of certain things like:
1.) What were the "exact words" you used?
This will allow one to judge and measure the level of "hurt' she might be feeling. trust me, "some" Mothers also play on the emotions of their children to the point of Blackmailing them, so they can always control them. Some mothers still want to control their married son/ daughter like s/he was a ten yr old. Now, dont get me wrong, like l said, you should never disrespect your Parents.

2.) What did she say to you, that made you say those words to her?
I ask this because l want to know whether it is a case of "child exasperation" ..or a case of "delinquency" on your part.
In both cases, you still must not be disrespectful to her. She is your Mother!

If it is a case of delinquency on your part, l would urge you to retrace your steps back because what you do to your Parents (Not just your Mother), may come back to hunt you, when you have your own kids. You then need to kneel down, ask God for forgiveness and try to make her happy ... not because of the threats people are writing here ... but because it is THE RIGHT THING TO DO.
Never act out of fear, but do that which is right before God and man, that your conscience may set you free.

Buy her a gift (nothing expensive to cause you financial headache) ...something to show her that you are remorseful and want her to forgive your bad behaviour. henceforth, keep being a good lad.

If your outburst was as a result of "genuine exasperation".... (forget, we are all humans and we have feelings and emotional threshold) ... it still does not excuse your being disrespectful but one can understand that "you dont mean it but you simply lost your head". That is "human".
Next thing to do is to learn to control your "emotions". I mean, in the face of provocation (it may come from anyone, your DAd, Mom or wife in future, inclusive), learn to remain calm and focused.
Promise yourself to always "be in control' of your feelings. It is a very important virtue in life. It will help you in future.

Now, despite how you feel, your Parent is/are your Parent. You MUST respect them.
Write her a letter. express yourself "freely but respectfully" to her, let her know how you feel about whatever she has said, that brought out the "beast" in you. As Parents, we are also not infallible and we like other humans, offend our children but what we wont accept is for them to use that to disrespect us.
My first son is your age, an undergraduate. I slapped him a few years back and he just winced and walked away! Afterwards realised l did it in anger for he did something very wrong. I went to his room to speak with him and found him crying. I asked him if it was the "one slap" that is making an adult like him cry like a baby? He said "No, that he was crying because he felt hurt that he annoyed me to the point where l had to slap him".
Now, that clipped my wings seriously. I said "look son, l am sorry, very sorry for slapping you. I should not have done that. I am deeply sorry".

He held my hands, knelt down and said l should pray for him. I did and blessed him afterwards. In my own heart, l knew l have erred even though he did not utter any word..... but his tears were like a stab in the heart, for me. Since then, we are like 5 & 6... our relationship can never be better. I am sure the "bagger" would eventually read this before the day ends as he knows my i.d!
Son, when you read this, know that you are a wonderful son to behold. I love you deeply.

So, you see, keeping quiet as a sign of respect to your parents, could mean even more and have better effect than words can have, even when they exasperate you.

Go to your Mom, ask her to forgive you and to pray for you. tell her you are sorry and would work on your temperament.

I also hope your Mom will be magnanimous and stop saying you are not her son. Since she wont be reading this, there is nothing l will say to her here
I noticed you said "You both are drifting apart" meaning "somethings" have been going-on for some time now?
Thats a bad sign and maybe you need to speak with Dad and ask him to "settle" whatever is the 'deep-rooted cause" of the issue.

But generally, we parents need to know how to manage our "grown kids". "space", "time", "respect" (not fear!) are things we need to give them and we should be 'calm', being the adult, in dealing with them.

Ask you Dad to also plead with her, on your behalf and let her know that you dont mean whatever hurtful words you said and it will NEVER repeat itself again.

Remember, if you cant remain calm in a situation... WALK AWAY FROM IT. get some fresh air, take a walk around (day time only), come back in and play some soothing jazz music.

Dont also forget, kneel down and pray that God give you wisdom, as you grow older.
Be strong and be good.


Lastpage

Caveat: Sorry, if l dont fall into the category that will blame a child,... just because they are a child. I try to be objective.

God bless you so much sir. Please I want us to be friends that's all I want from you. You are such an incredible person. God bless the day you were born and the womb that conceived you.

I observed that only ladies were condemning her dressing especially ladies of hate who have got no hope for the future anymore. Because she ain't any of them and they can't be her they are hating.

Ladies of hate my advice for you is "go get a life and stop hating" If you like talk her down from now till you enter 6ft she's made and there's nothing any of you can do about that.


Tiwa you are my 4th love (God first, my mama 2nd and my bae 3rd).

Destined2win:
Ladies and Gentlemen,
Let's welcome,
The Egberipapa of Bayelsa,
The love of Yorubas,
The friend of Igbos
and the educator of Hausas.

Let's give it up for....

You called him 'the love of yolobas' and 'the friend of Igbos' Bros , its about that time you search your conscience. If not for the risk of being banned I wud have spewed fire here. Seun you need to re-address rule #2 cox its against freedom of expression

I must say I didn't even bother to read your post because I'm of the opinion that. 'Broken relationship is better than broken marriage'. If he feels for whatever reason(s) he doesn't love her anymore and wants to call off the supposed wedding he should do so to avoid being enlisted among the long list of divorces.

Ewizard:
And why shud I ask a baga or a hoe y my contact aint saved?

Na me buy fone giv em?

If dem save my contact dem don save my life??

Who givs a flyin cock either??

Dunno y people find it dificult 2 understand diz simple life.

Free me!

I subscribe to this your idea 100 percent.

preetyb:
Still not reason enough for the guy to have shown the girl's nude pics to his frnds and even have to upload it on his watsapp.
don't u find fault with that?

Now re-read what you wrote Honestly I can't even accept an unclad pix from any girl. Why will any sane girl send unclad pix to her lover?

I hope you don't do that cox you sounding so pricked at the guy's action.

preetyb:
How can a woman rape a man when its obvious that men are stronger

My dear women drug men to sleep with them; isn't that rape? More than one woman can hold on a man; isn't that rape?

The truth is that women too rape men

preetyb:
Why then didn't u condemn the action of the guy when u knw it was his action that led to wat the girl did or may be its because women are worthless to u.

I'm sure you know you haven't answered my question "don't women rape men?"

Girls will always be girls.

[quote author=preetyb post=41254735][/quote]it doesn't sound funny at all. BTW don't think its all men that are sex maniac cox I'm one of the men who really careless about sex.

If its not making money then it ain't making sense

Who can see that broken seat please? NASS spends N120bn annually but can't fix that seat. Which way Nigeria?

preetyb:
That means u ve been doing it to ladies

My dear I've never imagined it cos I for one see rape as the greatest act of crime to the human body. Again I detest most allegations of rape cox women hide under it to indict men that have angered them.

Don't women rape men? Swear it...

As dem like make dem do! I've been on holidays even before their date.

efilefun:
Your entire family will soon pass away

I'm happy I got you provoked

Shoki shoki

ril19:
SIMPLE just punish the culprit for neglegence of duty.

buh my brother me i fear for naija o. you'll finally see that nothing will be done and this will repeat again.

Now I know you are really a Nigerian . One Tom Tom sweet for u

efilefun:
On a GEJ's budget You can only hold PMB responsible when his own budget fails to yield results

You shall soon pass away

xreal:
After this, I expect to see more positive changes in the country.

but before now all you guys wanted was just CHANGE