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Romance / Re: I Cooked Better Than My Virgin Girl, What Should I Do? by Welepamilayo: 7:48am On Feb 21, 2015 |
Obviously cooking is a deal breaker for you. Either help her learn or make a clean break now. No reason to string her along. But why was it necessary for you to indicate her virginity? Is their a correlation between virginity and cooking skills? Serious question o. |
Romance / Re: Am In Serious Trouble. She Doesn't Want To Let Go Off Me, Please Help. by Welepamilayo: 7:45am On Feb 21, 2015 |
But did you ask us before you did the deed? No sir. Did you know you had a relationship before you decided to get in bed with her? Yes, indeed. For every action their is a reaction. You, my friend, need to figure out how to handle this reaction. I wish you good luck! Perhaps it is meant to be? |
Romance / Re: Should I Tell My GF My Salary by Welepamilayo: 7:42am On Feb 21, 2015 |
Is that something she needs to know? I wonder. I don't know the dynamics of your relationship though. I think you would know best how to handle it. Worse comes to worst, give a ballpark, I suppose. |
Romance / Re: Help Please.... by Welepamilayo: 7:39am On Feb 21, 2015 |
Adeinfo: This sounds like some teenage type romance. Abeg, both of you should just mind your studies. Out here playing mind games... 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: Pls Why Is Girls Rejecting Me? (my Pic) by Welepamilayo: 7:31am On Feb 21, 2015 |
Keketu: Grammar could be a reason but most likely it's the over-inflated ego. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: HELP She Left Me by Welepamilayo: 10:40pm On Feb 19, 2015 |
Awww. So sorry to hear. You will have to chuck it up to a life experience. A woman that will do that to you, is probably dangerous for your life anyway. You escaped at the right time. You'll meet someone better along the way. Try to avoid confrontations like that in the future. If the girl is entertaining the guy, she was not committed to you in the first place. Better to find out now than in the future. If you are in a similar situation in the future, handle it in a level headed manner. You lose more as you lose your temper. The macho thing is hardly cute in real life |
Celebrities / Re: Comedian Klint Da Drunk & Family In Adorable New Photos by Welepamilayo: 7:39pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Nice! blessings to them |
Celebrities / Re: Meet MayShua, Denrele Edun’s Girlfriend (Photos) by Welepamilayo: 7:30pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
But charley boy dress pass him in his days. he is married with children. I say leave them alone to figure out their lives. 1 Like |
Politics / Re: INEC Cannot Guarantee That Elections Will Hold On March 28 by Welepamilayo: 7:28pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
Shocker! Not. |
Romance / Re: 15 Claims Of Nairaland Ladies by Welepamilayo: 7:25pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
15 Claims Of Nairaland Ladies: My responses (Oh, don't worry, you don't need to agree or disagree. My truth is mine with or without your approval) 1. I'm a Virgin I am and it does not make me more saintly than the person that chooses to have sex outside of marriage. Virginity is one thing, purity is another. There is a lot of confusion about that on this forum. I don't care to hear bout how you've kept your virginity, talk to me about how you're staying pure in a world that's saturated with lust. That is the real challenge. 2.. I Cannot Woo A Guy Why not? If you are both enjoying each other's company, why not state the obvious? What I do not support is chase after every guy that so much as says hello to you. That is a sign of madness. Also, don't be desprate. Desperation smells bad to both men and women. 3. No guy can dump me Why not? Guys dump girls all the time and vice versa. No one is dump proof, some people just dey form. 4. I don't ask guys for money I don't. Personal preference. I thank my parents for instilling the value of money and how much better it is to make your own than to depend on other. I really have a complex against people being able to say it is because of them that I am able to achieve this or that. Turns my stomach. I can't speak for the next woman though. 5. Is Sex Love ? Sex is not love. Sex is often confused with love. If you choose to do it, while confusing it with love, just be prepared to pick up the pieces when things fall apart. If you are mature enough to decide to have sex, you must be mature enough for all it comes with. 6. I don't reply Pms Well that's silly. It is rude to not respond to people's messages. Even if you are not interested. Say your hi and bye. 7. My Husband Owns My Virginity That's also silly. You own your virginity and have the freedom to give it to whomever you want. It would behoove you to not gift it to someone who will misuse it but it is yours, not anyone else's 8. Guys Bash ladies so much Overgeneralization. There are women out there whose behavior make me cringe. Equally there are guys whose behavior is horrendous. NL is famous for putting everyone in the extremes of extremes category. All women dig for gold. All man beat their woman. Seriously, stop. 9. I'm only here to catch fun As someone who prefers to laugh, I get a good percentage of my laughs from NL. There are some funny people here. You get to learn a lot about the mindset of this generation. It's kind of like church. Everyone is there for different reasons, but to each its own. 10. I'm Not A Boring Lady LOL. If the conversation is not stimulating, I would definitely not have a lot to say. If it tickles my curiosity, i won't be able to shut up. 11. I Cannot Date A Broke Guy I cannot date a lazy guy. In whose house are you going to be doing nothing? When I'm out there working and meeting my goals. We both have to have ambitions or the world will pass us by. Ma koja mi olugbala! Broke today is not equal to broke tomorrow but a lazy man today will very likely be lazy tomorrow. 12. A Mature Man Sees Beyond What A Lady Has Under Her Skirt A mature man acknowledges his physical attraction while being committed to other aspects of the lady's life. 13. Nairaland Guys Are Not Caring Thanks but no thanks on washing undies. I can definitely handle that by myself. Care in other ways 14. Nairaland guys love sex so much Guys and girls think about sex just about the same but man, guys never shut up about sex though. You all just have to voice it. It is funny. 15. I'm A Wife Material I see a lot of NL guys, spewing misogyny, thinking they are husband material too. I say both groups need to do better and be honest about their imperfections. My final 2 cents: Guys and girls seem frustrated on this site because each group keeps trying to present the worst version of the other. My recommendation? Get off the net and go in search of that woman/man that defies all your stereotypes. Then accept them flaws and all. Life is truly not this serious. You are also far from perfect. Relax. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / Re: Bills On First Date by Welepamilayo: 1:49pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
TristanReveur: Or I am just a sensible person. I live my life with the consciousness of what I can bring to the table, not what other people must do for me. It is very unfortunate that most people have this idea that all women are just about the take take. |
Romance / Re: My Deepest Secret: Please I Need Your Advice by Welepamilayo: 1:45pm On Feb 18, 2015 |
I can't tell you what to do here because at the end of the day you need to make a decision you can have peace with. However, I want you to start managing your expectations around outcomes of telling or not telling. If you tell, do so risking rejection. We are all humans, flesh beings. While God is in the business of forgiving and forgetting, humans can forgive but the forgetting part is difficult, unless they get amnesia. It is very difficult to unsee/unhear things. This secret could be too much for him and he has a right to leave if he can't handle it. (As you would too if he told you a heavy secret). If you don't tell, do so risking future exposure. There is nothing hidden under the sun. The truth always manages to come out. Truth just has its own way of not staying secret forever. For him to find out in the future, he will feel betrayal, in addition to all other feelings attached to your secret. You still risk rejection at this point and collateral damages are far greater (children, and businesses could be involved at this point) So you have a big decision to make. Either way, you have a huge feat ahead of you. The choice is yours. |
Dating And Meet-up Zone / Re: TLB by Welepamilayo: 2:14am On Feb 18, 2015 |
Bleh |
Romance / Re: 36 Questions That Will Make Anyone Fall In Love With You by Welepamilayo: 1:04am On Feb 18, 2015 |
Nairaland pals, I salute you for your never ending lists. |
Romance / Re: . by Welepamilayo: 1:01am On Feb 18, 2015 |
Bruh, you went through her phone though? Surprised no one is even addressing that invasion of privacy. |
Romance / Re: Bills On First Date by Welepamilayo: 6:29pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
I prefer that each person pays for their meals at the getting to know you stage. When guys pay, they think they have already paid bride price and start demanding things. If our relationship actually moves further we will discuss how we want to pay for things when we go out. A nice split of financial responsibilities seem fair to me. But hey, that's just me 1 Like |
Romance / Re: He’s Too Close To His Female Boss… by Welepamilayo: 3:14pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
I know your friend might think the boss is her biggest problem but actually her husband is. Any man that respects his wife would know how much grieve this behavior would cause her. He wants to make money at all cost. She better get wise and get her matrimonial home together before the dabarus enter. |
Romance / Re: She Broke My Heart, And Now She Is Back by Welepamilayo: 2:45pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
OliverQuinny: Put her in your sister's shoe. You have to take responsibility somehow. If that means marriage to both of you, then that. Just don't let the child suffer because you both decided to not take pregnancy precautions. |
Romance / Re: She Broke My Heart, And Now She Is Back by Welepamilayo: 2:43pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
OliverQuinny: I am told no one is ever 100% sure when they get married but one should not be this uncertain. I think you both need to talk about your hesitations. I also get the sense that if she was not preggo, you would just want to continue to chop the thing without considering marriage. 9 Likes |
Romance / Re: Why Are Ladies On Nairaland So Rude??? by Welepamilayo: 2:28pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
You are back! It actually bring me joy to see you create another thread. I cannot get enough of you distorted reality. Hahahahaha. Gbowo e! Oshey! 1 Like |
Romance / Re: This Big Question Is For All The Ladies by Welepamilayo: 2:24pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
This is no different from saying "I am driver. My boss told me to get the car ready for a trip. What does it mean?" Silliness. |
Romance / Re: My Girlfriend Is Cheating On Me by Welepamilayo: 2:21pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
*In my chigul voice* don't be a weiste. Move on. How much cheating must happen before you wise up? If the story truly happened like so, wake up from thy slumber. |
Romance / Re: She Broke My Heart, And Now She Is Back by Welepamilayo: 2:15pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
Why did you not remember how much she hurt you when you were carrying out the deal? Pikin don enter matter now. I strongly believe you need to actually talk out the issues that led to your intial break up. If she really left you because money no dey flow, that is a huge problem IMO. If both of you cannot fully resolve that, you will go into a marriage where you are already skeptical, hesitant and suspicious of her intentions. I hope it all goes well. 21 Likes 3 Shares |
Family / Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by Welepamilayo: 2:05pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
oshaosha2014: See that is the problem right there. When men are go into marriage thinking "my wife must conform to my ways since I am the head" the marrriage becomes a dangerous and toxic place for the woman and the children. Why? The moment she does not do things his way, she will reap a consequences as determined by the man. This takes responsibility away from the husband and alas it is the woman's fault. We quickly forget that both entities come from different backgrounds so they will share differences and both must be committed to working out the best way for the differences to not clash. It does not make him less of a leader to acknowledge that, yes I do get to make the final decisions in the home but my opinions and ideologies are not the only ones that matter. You are quick to pounce in saying giving this respect to your wife is a western thing. No my friend, it is a Christ like behavior to do so. Now will there be times the husband will still make a decision that does not sit well with the wife, of course. However it is much easier to accept that when you know that both parties have actually weighed the options together. Women's minds truly needs to be transformed from this "less than" mentality. Your voice matters in your marriage. You deserve to be heard and respected while still honoring your husband. Your children will either thank you or curse at you for the kind of atmosphere you raise them in. |
Family / Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by Welepamilayo: 7:35am On Feb 17, 2015 |
Since they have said you provoked him, I say the next tome he provokes you, throw a couple of slaps his way. Gahhh! Utter nonsense. For a nation that is so obsessed with weddings, Nigeria has no clue about what a healthy marriage should look like. There are boundaries that should never be crossed by either party. Physical abuse is one of them. These are things that should have been discussed in marriage counseling. |
Family / Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by Welepamilayo: 7:30am On Feb 17, 2015 |
oshaosha2014: So marriage is a wife conforming to the ways of the husband because the husband is the head? Father Lord, I am truly afraid of marrying a Nigerian man. This ideologies of my people sef. A husband that wants to be treated like the head must love his wife like Christ loves the church. Last time I checked, Jesus does not condone domestic abuse. |
Family / Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by Welepamilayo: 7:25am On Feb 17, 2015 |
If he slapped you over something like sex, biko when even more major life issues come, won't he throw punches? Pray and be wise in how you handle the matter. It will determine the course of marriage. Please note that prayer is not a substitute for taking action. A word is enough for the wise. |
Family / Re: My Future Wife Must Be From The Village. by Welepamilayo: 7:20am On Feb 17, 2015 |
Basically, you want a woman that will blindly follow you and never challenge your opinions and choice. Sounds boring. How will you grow if all you get is praise and no criticism? Man, you have not seen wicked village girls sha. They gbo 'gboro past some of this city girls. Stay there looking like boli and epa. I hope you find a good one because it would suck to face the reality that your idea of village girls was all wrong. 8 Likes |
Romance / Re: 9 Things Guys Think They Know About Girls But Don't by Welepamilayo: 7:02am On Feb 17, 2015 |
We! We!! We!!! Where can I find this "we" that continue to speak rubbish on behalf of my gender? Speak for thyself. Don't count me into your silly games. |
Music/Radio / Re: What Music Are You Listening To Right Now? by Welepamilayo: 4:09am On Feb 17, 2015 |
Robert Glasper Experiment - Black Radio |
Romance / Re: A Thread for Single Ladies :) by Welepamilayo: 3:49am On Feb 17, 2015 |
carmelion: Why do you keep referring to ladies as "dolls"? You are dehumanizing and objectifying them, forcing them to fit into your neatly created social constructs. Ugh! 1 Like |
Romance / Re: What Are Those Killer Words Women Fall Repeatedly To? by Welepamilayo: 1:52am On Feb 17, 2015 |
ITbomb: Chei! See love playbook. Me sef I don fall just from reading. Naija men! Una dey try oo. |
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