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ubunja:
yes, cold approaching isn't totally bad all the time. To add my own:

In a perfect world we cold approach for sex and hot approach for love. Meaning the girls we salivate for, who are the Spec and who make us go "damn!!" - we don't wait for choosing signals but go in direct cause what does it matter they've no real genuine desire for us, we just wanna hit and run. Nothing big.
Problem here is that where we desire and like, we're eager to SPEND. And a lot of the times spending is the shortcut to success. Which then works against us because we start to get invested the more we spend to succeed, and in no time what was meant to be temporary we end up forcing to be permanent because we've invested a lot into that situation.

Let's say you like a girl and she lives far and requires a considerable amount of money to come to you, that money once you spend it, you won't want just 1 night with the girl. You'll want a whole weekend. Which will lead you to spend even more. Then after that weekend you've spent so much you wanna see her again soon cause you feel the sex you got was not equal to the money you spent. Especially if she limited the sex. When you see her again you once more spend and ask for more from her. In the end you're entangled with this girl because you've been spending and it's hard to let go cause there's this nagging feeling that you haven't got your total money's worth from her. You're invested. Sunk Cost Fallacy has kicked in. You feel you've spent too much on her to just hit and run. SO YOU ASK FOR A RELATIONSHIP. And now you're dating a girl you were meant to pump and dump. You date for 2 or 3 years continuously spending on the chick cause you love her, and what do you know!!! After time passes you calculate you could have bought a car by now with all the cash you've channelled to this girl. And now you feel even more invested. She's now too valuable to lose. You've simply spent too much on her to lose her to some other guy. SO YOU PROPOSE. And just like that your life is joined with a woman who never loved you. Welcome to hell. It's how many troubled marriages originate. How men get stuck in loveless marriages.
It's why I personally don't talk a lot about cold approaching. Cause so much bad can result from it. You were smart enough to deduce the game and refuse to put in that initial investment of 20K. Nice.

Modified:
I talk about this extensively, but from a woman's perspective, in this MISEDUCA$HION: https://www.nairaland.com/5521642/ubunjas-miseduca-hin-pleasures-cash

Spot on. Personally i believe cold approaching is dead and belongs to the 90’s but i still do it because it was how i was raised. I don’t know nothing else lol.

1. Women are different now. An average lady walks around with an overbloated sense of self, thus they are mostly rude and ill mannered especially to strangers. Even worse when she is pretty. The fact that an average girl can get a super hot dude also contributes to distorting their sense of self.

2. Women are more receptive to people they have been seeing around and have had the chance to guage with their hypergamic lenses. She will punish you for taking her unawares without giving her the opportunity to assess your lifestyle first. The only option she is left with is on the spot mental assessment which can be misleading. The agony of not knowing whether you may or may not be a catch will bolster her anger towards you.

3. You demarket yourself when you approach as a stranger. Think about it, would dangote cold approach a random woman? She would think herself better than you automatically especially if you donot descend on her with the full weight of hypergamy ( nice car which she better see you coming out from, nice perfume, nice outfit, nice looks, well spoken, etc). Truth is, all these take so much work and most times alot of guys prefer to appear plain even when rich.

4. The onus lies on you to get the convo going, and as such, you are likely to ask questions that would pedestalise her.

5. You end up exaggerating her value and ego which you and another guy will pay for.

6. You can easily fall prey to professional gold diggers (which most of them are) especially if you appear flashy. The exception is if you master the art of luring them in with wealth and then making sure she never gets a bite. Why would anyone even want to be with someone who treats them like there’s a price on their head? Who the hell is she lol.

7. Cold approaching is laced with too many uncertainties for any form of stats to work. She could be having a bad day, her moral upbringing may limit her from sharing her contact with strangers, she may be intimidated by your looks, etc. The variables are just too many.

In closing, i still cold approach and I’m also in the field too but my candid advice to guys is to evolve to transcend petty emotional needs whilst armed with the red pill, stoicism and meditation.

Froshloaded:
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Bro Do they also show shower hour on the nowdstv stream as well?

athenswonders:
In our local music- I still tip D’banjs Oliver Twist as a red pill song...... All those banky W songs better run from them...

Then foreign music we have quite a lot but I’m always buzzing my ears with Eminem’s songs and Chris brown song ft lilwayne- Loyal


Listen to Sam smith song. At your peril!

Hahhaha @ run from Bankyw. Those guys contributed soo much to the simp culture in Nigeria. Psquare, 2face etc that we all celebrate actually contributed alot towards destroying the masculinity in Nigeria

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Froshloaded:
You want to pay for the pro version?
Do you have dstv now, if you have dstv now, I will give you a link where you can watch it.

Yes I won’t mind paying for the pro version

Thanks so much. I have gotten the dstvnow bro. Kindly help with the link

Ketapu:
Yeah. I'm learning a lot from the way they are treating me. Also, it's best not to attract a woman with your wealth to avoid golddiggers.

Thanks alot for this and great reminder!

Only exception is if you plan to only lure them with it and use it as a mirage which they would never taste.

They aren’t looking for love. We shouldn’t be either!

Why bother even. Abegy, too much stress. We just ignore them and keep it moving,

Calibrator:
Sometimes a very good stoic frame does 70% of vetting because time wasters will naturally disqualify themselves and stay clear of your path.

I was having a banter with a girl who is in her hoeing phase this afternoon and she was trying to pressurise me to get married. I told her that if she sees a problem with me being single, she should go ahead and proffer a solution by introducing me to her friends so I can marry anyone out of them.

In her words "My friends can't marry someone who is no-nonsense and will give them many rules"




I said inwardly to myself "I must be doing something right"




Maintain frame, stay on your grind and let them vet themselves by themselves.

Stoicism and the red pill cannot be divorced

Ketapu:
Field Report

Dude I’ve heard all of this. I end up feeling sorry for the lady.

This usually happens when I purposely refuse to use hypergamy in my cold approach i.e flashing of wealth and status.

Those of us that are high on confidence and cold approach for fun, these are some of the nuances we put up with.

Her real character is not how she treats friends but how she treats strangers. This will reveal her stance on humanity

Froshloaded:
It will open
https://macsguru.com/bbmzansifree1/

Where they ask for stripe (paystack) details, can i use my GT Bank atm details here?

meobizy:
I’ve watched BBMzansi now for about 48 total minutes and I’m already putting names to the faces. So far, the show has been no different from ours apart from the occasional infusion of Zulu when housemates speak English. Their cameramen are bolder as they follow partially clothed housemates, unlike Kayode who always avoided such. The housemates appear to me on the range of razz to average trained status-wise. I have not seen any who stands out as upper class. My assumptions may change from further viewing.

Why is it there are no Indian and white housemates? That is a true representation of South Africa. Maybe the tag Mzansi is meant to promote an indigenous selection for South African black audiences. I honestly don’t mind, though find the situation weird. This is the first edition since the BBSA tag that I’m ready to follow so I might have not realized the change if it started long ago.

When it comes to data and sitting religiously to view the program, I will struggle. It’s not like we have twenty-four hours of electricity to keep my laptop and modem fully charged and always available. I want to watch the program on a big TV screen, but the standard definition resolution presented by ToxicPatat is not encouraging. The feed goes offline during the weekends and resumes Monday through Friday. What is the point when weekends are the highlights of any BB edition? Finally, though I have data to follow the show for ten weeks, my ISP is fond of throttling bandwidth. This means after an hour of uninterrupted viewing I have to wait till the next day for a stable connection. Being Nigerian is a curse — I swear to God.

Pla which app do you use?

Froshloaded:
I mean do you have an account on now.dstv.com

Try this link
https://macs guru.com/bbmzansifree1/

The link didn’t open. I tried adding www even.

No I don’t have a dstv now account yet but can open one

Froshloaded:
Nah you are not getting it..
Do you have dstv now?

Yes i have DSTV

Froshloaded:
Bestteach ers4u.com

I tried this but it’s not moving past the point where i click register after entering card details

BegAt40:
Myself, Satan and winnerly (Charles Ichulo) are all different people. I don't have any issue with Satan but I have issues with winnerly and fatherchristmas on Nairaland.
Winnerly also has issues with fatherchristmas and Satan. And Satan has issues with winnerly.

Most people think I'm the same person as winnerly and Satan because we have common enemies. Vomited that into your empty brain and you that can only research how to scam people with weak format went ahead to devour it like a common almanjiri boy (the likes of jeon kids)

I created a thread to blast fatherchristmas, you jumped in, winnerly with his alt, Drmrsfunmi which he uses to act friendly with me also jumped on the thread. I blasted you because I'm too smart not to notice that you're fake right from day 1. And Drmrsfunmi (winnerly) also acted like he supports it and he decided to make you suffer by cloning your greatest assets (your Nairaland accounts)

I'm only explaining up to this extent because of dumb people like you that will believe in your jargons without proper research.


BASTARD!

Don’t ever mention me again

BASCARD!!!

kunkelhanspeter:
Haven’t fix it the man I gave to fix I did not trust what he was doing I ask him to stop let me be using it like that.
It’s automatic I haven’t had any reason to check for number

Ok thnks

kunkelhanspeter:
My Avalon 2014 Reverse camera � just stop working what can I do about it ?

Hey man. Have you fixed this yet?

Please how were u able to get your engine number for this 014 avalon? Can’t seem to find it in the bonnet.

Is it in the car manual?

noobody:
The fact you can't verify some Lagos numbers on the portal does not indicate they are fake,it takes time before they are updated.i can't bet you most of the new G series plate number from last year are yet to be updated,not to talk of the H series that are just been released.just ensure you get your plate number and all necessary documents attached with it,reciepts,one police document like that and the likes,make very clear photocopy and keep original at home,you are good to go.

And as regards docuement,

Your full name,phone number,full address,state of origin,your vehicle vin,engine number,etc

And check the auto section there are like 4 confirmed Monika's who help people get original documents.


Cheers.

Thanks buddy

Hey guys please where can i get original license plate number in lagos? I’m in area.

By original number i mean a number that i can verify on the portal

Also, what documents do i need?

Dozieson:
Call kingreign. He is one of the best in Abuja

Search his profile here.

This is beyond fluid and solenoids.

Proper diagnosis is needed for your car

Many thanks

Dozieson:
Well you bought a car with gear issues. Where is your location?

So i hear transmission fluid and solenoid can also produce thesame effect if it’s bad

Location is abj

Dozieson:
Bro, did it drive well when you buy ? Was it reaching 120-140km/hr without hard shift when cold and very hot?

I want to narrow it down to either gear box or ECU/aka brain box

It’s been driving this way since i bought it bro. It’s not accelerating.

Dozieson:
These close are pointing to gear shift. Did you do any work on the transmission/gear box recently?

No work done atall. Bought the car this way. All gears are shifting well and reverse works fine. It’s Just moving forward very slowly.

Could this be valve body or solenoid problem

Do you think it may involve clutch as my kazeem is suspecting?

Dozieson:
What car?

Lexus es 309

Dozieson:
Do you rebuild gear box?

Hi morning. My car wont go forward when i accelerate and i scanned

kunkelhanspeter:
My Avalon 2014 Reverse camera � just stop working what can I do about it ?

Hey man. I just bought a 2013 Toyota Avalon.

Can we talk please? How do i reach you?

Seun:
I watched many upsetting videos in which the boy's parents tortured their son out of ignorance, but I managed to miss that one. It's so sad.

Hi Seun. I mentioned you in my thread please. This is the wrong thread but i’m unable to send a pm.

When i click change email, i keep getting an error 404 message. I’ve spoken to some mods but they seem to be unable to help.

davide470:
I think it is a generic issue. You can send a PM to Seun.

Okay many thanks

Hi Seun

Please assist to resolve or give an advice please.

When i click the change email button, the screenshot attached is what i keep seeing for some months now.

How can I resolve this please?

My email addy is fine and i can log into it from another device

Hi davide470

Please assist to resolve or give an advice please.

When i click the change email button, the screenshot attached is what i keep seeing for some months now.

How can I resolve this please?

My email addy is fine and i can log into it from another device