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Politics / Re: Reno Omokri: Why Dangote Refinery Is Buying Crude Oil From The US by wirinet(m): 5:45am On Jan 31
loswhite:
Stupidity is when you are so obsessed with a candidate that has moved on. The dollar to naira is 1500 and your Stupidity is making you focus on a candidate that has moved on. A country that was doing crude oil swap just to import refined products due to none functional refinery...lol now has a functional refinery and now they no longer have crude to supply the refinery so they have to import...smh. Your level of foolishness knows no bounds.

This is the question we should be asking, what happened to the crude used for the crude oil swap agreement?

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Politics / Re: Reno Omokri: Why Dangote Refinery Is Buying Crude Oil From The US by wirinet(m): 5:29am On Jan 31
eddyline:
This guy is trying really hard to see that he is given an appointment in this present government at all cost. He knows he miscalculated his support for Atiku
Omokri is trying too hard to get noticed by president Tinubu. He is desperately seeking for appointment that has now taken up the role of
unofficial government spokes man.

His excuse of Dangote buying crude from US because of future contracts is hogwash. Thar will only pass for Nigerians without knowledge of what obtains in the oil industry. Appart from futures contracts of crude oil sales, there is the spot market. The government is very active is the sport sakes of crude oil. One the spot market, the government can sell to anyone and at any price without a contract.
Furthermore, Nigeria has its allocated OPEC quota for local consumption. What happens to Nigeria's local crude oil allocations? Is it also sold under futures contract, sold on the spot market or simply stolen.

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Politics / Re: Is Colonialism The Primary Reason Why Africa Is So Poor? by wirinet(m): 1:35pm On Jan 28
DaveHarry:
In other words, “Are the events of 1880 to 1960 the main reason Africa is poor today?” And the answer is NO!!! Africa is poor today because of Africa’s failure to manage her resources! And the aim of the pictures attached is to illustrate the difference between the orderliness during colonialism as against the chaos we have today, portraying my initial statement that colonialism should actually be a reason why Africa should be rich if we continued on the good strides the whites left us, like infrastructure, etc.

I beg to differ slightly. Africa is poor not necessarily because it failed to manage its natural resources, but because it failed to manage its natural resources. We rely too heavily on natural resources which in reality cannot by itself make any country rich. Japan has no natural resources, but is one of the top 6 or 7 economies I the world. Switzeland is a mountainous landlocked country with no natural resources, but its one of the top 10 economies by GDP per capita ranking. Congo Has about every natural resource in the world,but among the poorest nation on the planet.
Politics / Re: Nigeria Is SAFER Than The USA. Discuss. by wirinet(m): 10:04am On Jan 20
Sladem05:


Crime in the West is a tear compared to Africa.
You must be joking. The poverty in the US is as terrible if not worse than thar of Nigeria. Have you seen the slums of LA, they are worse than Ajegule. Yes we have more poor people in Africa, bit poverty is also an issue in Europe and the US.
Politics / Re: Nigeria Is SAFER Than The USA. Discuss. by wirinet(m): 9:57am On Jan 20
Sladem05:


Africa is the hotspot of global diseases. Africans only wiped out Polio not that long ago. Disease are far more rampant in Africa
https://www.nbcnews.com/news/amp/wbna3072106

https://theconversation.com/why-so-many-epidemics-originate-in-asia-and-africa-and-why-we-can-expect-more-131657

https://www.vanguardngr.com/2017/10/africa-disease-prone-continent-world-bank/amp/
Not exactly correct. All parts of the world has their own particular disease depending on environment and climate. The hot and humidity tropics harbour more varieties of diseases than the cold poles. The issue is not really about the number of diseases themselves but on spread from one region to the other. Most locals build up immunity and defence against local diseases, the problems is when diseases are transfered to other areas that have the people have no immunity whatsoever.

Many disease were unknown to Africa until the coming of the Europeans. Diseases like Polio, syphilis, corona virus, and other were non existent before the white man. In fact when the white man went to America, imported diseases wiped out a third of their population.

All the plagues of the past emanated from Europe or Asia.
Foreign Affairs / Re: Thousands March For Gaza In Washington, DC (Video, Photos) by wirinet(m): 7:59pm On Jan 14
Fineman2:
the thing here is that Israel is actually wiping out Palestinians and not hamas

See the Hamas Israel is wiping out below. According to you guys every building in Gaza including Apartments, schools and hospital is Hamas rocket firing site and must be levelled. Meanwhile, the Israeli Defense Force have not been able to free over 100 Israeli hostages from Hamas

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Foreign Affairs / Re: Thousands March For Gaza In Washington, DC (Video, Photos) by wirinet(m): 3:31pm On Jan 14
tctrills:

So can you mention any war since 1949 without civilian casualties?
If you cant then it's ok if you just say that you are opposed to all wars.
I am watching Benny Sanders taking the same view as I right now on CNN. He condemns Israels strategy of killing, starving and displacing innocent Palestinians using US weapons. I hope you are aware that Bernie Sanders is jew, a holocaust survivor and his entire family was killed by the Nazis.

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Foreign Affairs / Re: Thousands March For Gaza In Washington, DC (Video, Photos) by wirinet(m): 2:31pm On Jan 14
Procashtips:


Lol

Expelled by the Romans in what year and according to what record?

Which historical book of fact are you quoting from?

Even the Zionist of today wouldn't even spew what you have just done. Never have they brought up such a narrative before.

I wait you.
Dude, get a history book or better still use Google. The Jews were driven from the land in AD70 by General Titus who later became emperor of Rome.
Foreign Affairs / Re: Thousands March For Gaza In Washington, DC (Video, Photos) by wirinet(m): 2:27pm On Jan 14
godguy:

Those people you mentioned are not up to 2% of the population of Americans.
Americans are happy with the invasion, they are angry with Biden for other reasons but definitively not because of the invasion because Trump will even do worse
You people are slimier than a snake on grease. You can be held to any one position. If the conflict should spread and drag the US into a war in the middle east, its still you guys that will blame Biden for dragging the US in a war.
Foreign Affairs / Re: Thousands March For Gaza In Washington, DC (Video, Photos) by wirinet(m): 2:24pm On Jan 14
blancsn1:
Of course all the hospital Isreal claim where HQ of Hamas how many Hamas fighter have they discovered there ?
That's the irony. Of all the hospitals, apartments, schools labelled Hamas HQ, rocket launch sites and command centres that have been bombed, non of the hostages taken by Hamas has been rescued. They are still negotiating for their release till date.
Foreign Affairs / Re: Thousands March For Gaza In Washington, DC (Video, Photos) by wirinet(m): 2:15pm On Jan 14
DONFRANSKID:
When Hamas attacked first, you people didn’t protest
Bunch of hypocrites
You guys have selective amnesia. When israeli soldiers kill Palestinian youth for protesting or throwing stones, you form amnesia, but when Palestinian militants (some call them terrorists) attack Israeli soldiers, you form outage and call for the extermination of all Palestinians.
The war between Palestinians militants and Israeli military never ended they sign ceasefire to pause the war and resume again from time to time. Its like the same situation between North and South Korea and between China and Taiwan, they are only observing ceasefire. The war can resume anytime.
Foreign Affairs / Re: Thousands March For Gaza In Washington, DC (Video, Photos) by wirinet(m): 2:08pm On Jan 14
Realguyman1:
Many Innocent people have lost their lives in the cause of the Nigeria forces fighting terrorism and banditry in the North( that's war for u). The innocent are the most victims during war and everybody knows that.

So u guys should stop all this blackmailing and call for peace. Did Hamas stop firing missiles into Israel and call for peace and the Isrealis refuse?
Nigerian forces don't set out deliberately to kill innocent civilians. They don't enter a town harbouring terrorists and start bombing or shooting everyone in sight. The innocent civilians killed was definitely done in error or caught in the cross fire.

The bone of contention is land and the rights of Palestinians to own and government their land. Without resolving the land issue between isreal and Palestine, there can never be peace, not in the next 1000 years.
Foreign Affairs / Re: Thousands March For Gaza In Washington, DC (Video, Photos) by wirinet(m): 1:59pm On Jan 14
tctrills:


So if you condemn the Hamas attacks but still are opposed to Israel fighting back, don't you see that you are only supporting Hamas?
If you are truly against the Hamas attacks then you would be in support to the destruction of Hamas.
And yes, because Israel is a free state with human rights, Israelis are free to show displeasure with their government and opposing views and I love that
But claiming that you are against Hamas but still you are against Israel fighting back it's just funny.
Since you choose to behave like a broken radio, I pass.

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Foreign Affairs / Re: Thousands March For Gaza In Washington, DC (Video, Photos) by wirinet(m): 1:58pm On Jan 14
tctrills:

Stop acting like you were born today. Please mention any war that women and children were not affected? It's unfortunate but it's just the nation of war. The innocent are caught in the crossfire.
Then what use is the Geneva Convention if women and children is fair game in war? Why is there something called war crimes or crimes against humanity?
Article 3 of the 1949 Geneva Conventions prohibits "violence to life and person, in particular murder of all kinds, mutilation, cruel treatment, and torture" when perpetrated against persons "taking no active part in the hostilities."
Please note, Israel ratified the 1949 Geneva Conventions.
Foreign Affairs / Re: Thousands March For Gaza In Washington, DC (Video, Photos) by wirinet(m): 1:50pm On Jan 14
EconomistXplain:


who told u its 20,000 killed Hamas hospital...? hahaha...u fell for hamas propaganda...lol
I fall for hamas propaganda the same way you fall for IDF propaganda.
Foreign Affairs / Re: Thousands March For Gaza In Washington, DC (Video, Photos) by wirinet(m): 1:49pm On Jan 14
tctrills:

Stop the lies. You claim you don't support the Hamas attacks then why are you against Israel destroying Hamas. So you are against the Hamas attacks and at the same time against Israel fighting back? Are you confused? Please in your own words explain the apartheid in Gaza. Your own words please and not UN talking points.
Where did you see me or anyone else for that matter supporting Hamas attacks against Israel? I support no one. I only condemn Hamas attacks on innocent Israeli civilians, the same way I condemn Israeli indiscriminate bombing of innocent Palestinian civilians. Even I do not identify as a Christian, I identify with Jesus's pacifist philosophy of restraint and not the mosaic philosophy of an eye for an eye. Why? Because at the end of the day, it will render us all blind.

You guys just have a misguided sense of loyalty to Israel because of religious sentiments. Many israelis including a former prime minister are against the indiscriminate bombing of Palestinian homes, schools and hospitals.
Palestinians and Israelis are in a perpetual state of war, as a result, military targets on both sides is fair game. But either sides or both sides targeting civilians is inhuman and a crime against humanity. That's why I am impressed with South Africa for taking Israel to the international court to answer for genocide. Other are also free to take Hamas to the same court to answer for their own genocide against Israeli civilians.
Foreign Affairs / Re: Thousands March For Gaza In Washington, DC (Video, Photos) by wirinet(m): 10:01am On Jan 14
EconomistXplain:


the innocent dead are casualties of war....but majority killed are terrorist
You can provide evidence for this.
Of the estimated 20,000 people killed by Israeli bombs in Gaza do far, how many are Hamas terrorists?
Foreign Affairs / Re: Thousands March For Gaza In Washington, DC (Video, Photos) by wirinet(m): 9:19am On Jan 14
Mandate1:
so what Hamas did in isreal is what? Pantecide.

Both countries must come on a round table to negotiate a way out. But this constant Hamas dropping bomb in Isreal won't stop the war. Take out iron done for instance, what do u think will be the remains of Israel today?
No body support Hamas dropping bombs (crude bombs that can hardly do much damage) into Israel. But, why then do you support the apartheid going on inside Gaza, why do you support Israel government building settlements on Palestinian lands?
Foreign Affairs / Re: Thousands March For Gaza In Washington, DC (Video, Photos) by wirinet(m): 9:15am On Jan 14
Ravenna:


You take the good with the bad.

Its called collateral damage.


Most moslems are terrorists of all forms while others are terrorist apologetics.
less than %1 are liberal eg Yoruba moslems.
So non combatants civilians - women, children and babies are now accepted collateral damage according to your judgement?
Foreign Affairs / Re: Thousands March For Gaza In Washington, DC (Video, Photos) by wirinet(m): 9:11am On Jan 14
Botragelad:
They can carry on wasting away their time hoping these protests will stop Israel from wiping out Hamas!
Israel is not wiping out Hamas, Israel is wiping out Palestinian women and children including christians, and Palestinian buildings and lands.
With all the bombings of apartment buildings, hospitals and schools in Gaza, how many Hamas fighters had been killed since the war began?

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Politics / Re: EFCC Revives 13 Ex-Governors’ N772 Billion Fraud Cases by wirinet(m): 9:06am On Jan 14
thisisit:
after the misadventure of premature PETROL SUBSIDY REMOVAL..... the comes scene two.... WITCH-HUNTING!!

WITCH-HUNTING will keep gullible Nigerians glued to their MULTIDIMENSIONAL POVERTY for the remaining 3 years...

That is what governance is all about in Nigeria!

Subsidy removal was/is inevitable. The issue was the manner and timing with which it was done by Tinubu.

About the witch-hunting. At least we will have a few less witches. Its generally acknowledged that Witches are bad for the prosperity and development of a people. There are too many witches in Nigeria. If other presidents had hunted a few witches like Obasanjo, I am sure we would have much less witches today. So I encourage Tinubu to continue hunting witches.

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Politics / Re: EFCC Revives 13 Ex-Governors’ N772 Billion Fraud Cases by wirinet(m): 8:31am On Jan 14
PrinceofSarcasm:
Hmmm if this is true real and not the usual media trials we have seen in the past then I will stan Tinubu .

If for the first time we have sincere persecution of corrupt looters who stole Nigeria's money then I will become the world's strongest tinubu supporter.


If for the first time we have true unbiased persecution of looters and they are sent to jail not Orji uzor kalu type of jail where they are still.paid salary but real jail then truly I will become the world's top Tinubu fan. I will change my daughter's name to Tinubu and I will use my.money to print 1.million I love Tinubu tshirts and share in different states .

But alas we all know this is all fake drama to distract from bad governance. When since 1999 has any corrupt official been made to face the law? When even the judges are corrupt?

The fact is tinubu has too much corrupt bagages to persecute.anyome sincerely. Look at Betha Edu's case. In any honest sincere country by now she would have been in handcuffs because the evidence is overwhelming. But this is Tinubu government so she is free. Forget all these noise true governance doesn't need media to talk. You will just wake up to see arrested bot media telling you efcc said they will do this and that.

It's all lies.

Same sentiments here. I have been an ardent critic of Tinubu because of his shady past, but I am beginning to have a change of mind. I am impressed by the way he is tackling corruption. This is the first time since Obasanjo that an administration is tackling high ranking members of its own administration in issues of corruption without any political undertones. I supported buhari mainly because of his anti corruption image only to be disappointed at the end of the day. He ended up being worse than Jonathan.

I will continue to watch Tinubu to see if he will maintain the tempo and actually prosecute high ranking politicians including those close to him and former governors who have lost immunity.
Tinubu could end up being a blessing to Nigeria.

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Politics / Re: Kano: Supreme Court Affirms Gov Kabir Yusuf (NNPP), dismisses APC's suit by wirinet(m): 12:37pm On Jan 12
HausaIgboYoruba:
All praise be to God! Thank you Tinubu for not influencing the Supreme Court. For this singular act, I will vote you in 2027!
Tinubu would not have been able to control the Riots should the supreme court give victory to APC. Kano people no dey hear words o and dey no de fear death. Tinubu could not afford to add another crisis to the myriads of security challenges beseting the country.

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Politics / Re: Kano: Supreme Court Affirms Gov Kabir Yusuf (NNPP), dismisses APC's suit by wirinet(m): 12:33pm On Jan 12
Racoon:
Why should the electorate suffer for the iberiberism of INEC?
This is a long settled case.

Then how do you explain the Amaechi case where the party nominated Celestine Omeha but the supreme court installed Amaechi who did not even contest the election?
Religion / Re: SCOAN: TB Joshua’s Church Counters BBC Investigation by wirinet(m): 5:25pm On Jan 09
Yungdragon:


My issue with this is that why would the whites do a BBC do a documentary, where did they get there facts , who talked to them and who did they interview? Just put out a documentary like that
They should be sued
These are allegations that have been swirling around the media for over a decade. BBC is the best organisation to investigate and carry such a story, as many British nationals are affected. Local media houses and their journalists would have their safety jeopardised if they dare attack someone as rich and worshiped as TB Joshua. You can feel the anger of some of his fanatics here.

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Religion / Re: SCOAN: TB Joshua’s Church Counters BBC Investigation by wirinet(m): 5:18pm On Jan 09
Kobojunkie:
Kept quiet ke? Before you post anything else.... check the following attempts made to reveal the man dating as far back as 2009 here in Nairaland alone.

https://www.nairaland.com/270874/t.b-joshuas-miracle-fake-unverifiable#3849234
https://www.nairaland.com/394395/tb-joshua-country/3#5536846
https://www.nairaland.com/5276232/pst-biodun-bisola-evil-motivated#79852869
https://www.nairaland.com/3500873/man-tb-joshua#51625150
https://www.nairaland.com/767191/tb-joshuas-secret-exposed-ex-muslim/5#45986110
https://www.nairaland.com/858513/ashawos-atempt-seduce-tb-joshua#10080579
https://www.nairaland.com/819463/must-watch-tb-joshuas-evil#9710765
https://www.nairaland.com/792409/tb-joshuas-critics-pharisee-chronicle#9443131
https://www.nairaland.com/779122/bisola-johnson-red-light-district#9314025
https://www.nairaland.com/768372/paid-lie-against-pastor-t#9268027
And you think sheep can't think for itself? A sheep can only follow its shepherd to the slaughter House, bleating gleefully while being slaughtered.

No matter the evidence, even if you show live video of TB Joshua raping a 12 year old girl, they will rush to his defense with their lives. We have seen this with Jim Jones, we have seen this with David Koresh, we have even seen this with our own reverend King, whose church is still going strong despite him being on death Row.

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Religion / Re: SCOAN: TB Joshua’s Church Counters BBC Investigation by wirinet(m): 1:53pm On Jan 09
Edusouls:
LGTBQ people from the west don come again, what are they looking for in this man of God that impacted millions of life and helped millions all over the world? Or because he is a Blackman? Why is all these fake allegations coming out now after this wonderful man has gone to rest after finishing his earthly work?
Stop worshiping a fellow mortal like you. Michael Jackson is considered one of the greatest musical icon in our time, that did not excuse him from answering allegations of sexual abuse of minors.
You can use LBGTQ as an excuse to justify all alleged crimes.

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Religion / Re: SCOAN: TB Joshua’s Church Counters BBC Investigation by wirinet(m): 1:49pm On Jan 09
clefstone:
I only wish the documentary was done when the man was still alive


Emman08:
The man is gone. He can't defend himself nor be pronounced innocent or guilty.

These allegations are not new. In fact these allegations have been in the media for close to 10 years. Paul Agomoh who was his number 2 man and started the ministry with him made these allegations when the fell out about 8 years ago. Bisola also came out to speak publicly about how she was raped and how T.B. Joshua raped three little sisters along with other girls in 2016 or thereabout, TB Joshua sheep came for her head then. So it's a surprise that his sheep are behaving as if they just heard these allegations.

Sheep will always be sheep.

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Foreign Affairs / Re: American Politics Thread - 2024 Elections — Biden’s Presidency! by wirinet(m): 8:01pm On Jan 08
Obrigardo:
Pedophiles Alert!

https://nypost.com/2024/01/08/news/new-batch-of-jeffrey-epstein-court-documents-are-released/
I am certain someone as shrewd as Epstein had the tapes of all his clients, and that was why he was murdered. I am also sure that was why he got the sweetheart deal when he was first arrested.

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Romance / Re: Broken Up With My Nigerian Boyfriend by wirinet(m): 4:57pm On Jan 08
Jackie999:
Hi all.

I want to start off with a few important pointers/ disclaimers.

1. I am NOT Nigerian and do not claim to know everything about Nigeria.
2. Please do not be xenophobic or rude to me. I'm not strong enough lol
3. I will be as respectful as possible💞
4. I'll call the man in the story "Sam"

Okay so I'm a lady from a Southern African country. I met a Nigerian man who came here for "japa"/ "looking for better opportunities". I met him after he had arrived within 2months. I was walking into the club with my friends and he was in a vehicle with his friends. The driver stopped me to greet and he said hello. Sam greeted me and the driver asked for my number on his behalf lol. It was cute.

First thoughts, he was handsome in the face but definitely not anyone I'd be interested in talking to. He was unkept and clearly struggling financially just from his appearance. Anyway, he called that night to see if I'd be willing to chill with him and his friends, and I agreed. They came back around. He came into my car but I was put off by him telling me I'm so beautiful, calling me babe and saying "I'd wish to kiss you". Omg I was sooooo freaked out. Anyway I told him to leave my car and never call me again. Within an hour, my car's tyre burst ON THE flipping HIGHWAY😲. I called my father but he was almost 2 hours away so I called him and he came within 20minutes. Him nd his brothers came and fixed it for me.

From that day, we spoke and discussed every single day. I had never been with a Nigerian man or any serious relationship before but I liked him. I supported him financially for the longest time because I saw potential in him. I bought him his firs new clothes here, took him to all the nice places, and helped him with personal hygiene etc. I saw him as a friend. He is genuinely a good good person and I fell for his soul. His just so normal and pure. I am considered pretty, intelligent and independent so I won't lie and say that I can't find anyone else but he has my heart tbh.

Everything was going good but after 3months of being together everyday, he obviously wanted the Bleep. It was such a huge deal for me because I take that seriously. But anyway our relationship progressed in that direction - positively.

He would share the little money he had with me and food with me etc if I had recklessly spent my money etc lol. I was giving him a salary to start a business. Mind you, I studied psychology and I'm smart enough to know when I'm being scammed just because I'm a paranoid/anxious detective type naturally 🙈 anyway, we had the most incredible times and I know without a Shadow of a doubt he loves me.

Fast forward 2 months then I find that he is married with 3 kids. I knew about the kids - after finding out. Buti understand why he'd be hesitant to share that. My father is from a polygamous home so I do have strong feelings about that arrangement and single probably thought it's a bad idea to tell me. Well I found out, I was upset af. But I got over it. He never forced me to or anything but I genuinely thought I'd figure it out.

Well it's been 3 years. We have NEVER argued once about anything. We have the most compatible personalities. His calm, sweet and soft spoken. Same with me. His business is doing good and he has put me on a salary as I resigned, and want to start a business.

Nigerian men are the hill I'm willing to die in lol. I had Nigerian friends in the past (Yoruba) but Igbo men are just built different. They're natural born providers. I have access to his phones and vice versa. He knows everything about me and so do I. Including his marital issues (which are unfortunately plenty).

I know my family would not accept me marrying him although my mom adores him. My father would probably have a heart attack. They worked hard for us to be very well balanced, mentally strong women so I'm so surprised that I landed up in this position. I have an incredible family and lack nothing. Financially, emotionally, mentally... Everythingally...my family is able to provide.

Maybe because his my first actual relationship, I am failing to see the big picture. Truth is... I know he'll forever care for me but I also know that his wife only loves him for money, and uses his children against him. She literally told him she'd use juju on him and deny him access to the children if he leaves her.

I thought it'd be easy. Divorce in my country is so accessible and in a situation where a husband has suffered immeasurable abuse from a woman, he definitely has grounds to divorce her. Mind you, I know this because I went through his old messages from 8+ years ago and she was always berating him, accusing him, being hot and cold etc. She's so ungrateful and her only obsession is money. She compared him to Obi Cubana😅 calling out his supposed incompetence. Well I don't know, men aren't just money. They're people with feelings and lives, they deserve love regardless.

For an example, we bought his dad motorcycle and she complained that her dad didn't get one 😩 him and I are now financially good and blessed but I know deep in my soul that I cannot be a second wife.

This post is because I broke up with him yesterday and I know for a fact his not allowed to divorce since this was a marriage introduced by his dad. She has a child from another relationship but nobody even knows. I mean she's a liar liar. He knows but his family don't. And the kids is like 15.

Anyway, I wasn't to know what you guys think of this situation. Just chat honestly. I know he won't divorce and she would kill him but I also don't know what it's like to be a second wife or partner to a Nigerian. It sounds like a really bad idea because I like being the only one for my baby.

Normally I don't comment on relationship issues, but I see you are a beautiful soul, but you are also confused and conflicted. Besides, I don't like the bashing and bad name Nigerian men are receiving. So I am writing this advice to stop you from making a grave mistake and to redeem the image of Nigerian men.

Before I start let me give you a fundamental advice.
You happiness should be your utmost concern and goal - not your family, not societal norms, not what others think. It your life, and only you will suffer the consequences of your decisions.

Having gotten that of my chest, my candid advice is to Marry him (as an second wife) if certain conditions are met.

Let me give my reasons.
First of all Nigerian men are very hard working men. They can do almost anything to make it - both legally and illegally. Now most take the legal route, a few take the illegal way.

The main reason Nigerian men japa is to make it. Opportunities for making it in Nigeria is very slim and so they need to japa to countries with better opportunities. Now, to find your foot in foreign lands, you need help, and the most sure and reliable help is a relationship. A love relationship with a fairly well to do lady will provide the stability and financial start up to quickly make it. This was where you came in. You help the guy start up and he is now in a very stable financial position. In a few years he will even be 10 times better off than he is today. To me it does not make sense for you to leave now after investing so much resources and emotions on him. Believe me if you stick with him, you will reap bountifully from him both financially, emotionally and family wise.

Now let's get back to the polygamy concerns. Even though polygamy is undesirable and presents its own challenges, it's a fact of life. Over half of marriages experiences either direct polygamy or indirect one. The indirect one is the issue of side chicks/ mistresses and baby mamas. These indirect polygamy is as old as time itself. It's only hidden in western nations. One way the west hides polygamy is by making divorce relatively easy. In europe and the US a woman can divorce and remarry another person within a year. In Nigeria and in most African societies divorce is very difficult and tedious. The two families are involved, it involves ceremonies and the return of bride price. Even the courts frown at divorce. Divorced women and their families are stigmatised.

Anyway my final advice is to sit down with the guy and give him conditions for you to agree to marry him. You marriage is in South Africa and the other one is in Nigeria - the two should never mix. I hope the Nigerian marriage is traditional only and yours should be court wedding. Court wedding supercedes traditional marriage in terms of rights. Properties and assets obtained in the course of your marriage in South Africa should be jointly owned and controlled.

I had a neighbour that was in this exact situation. The husband japa to the US and married into a rich family without revealing to the US wife he was already married with 2 kids in Nigeria. When the US wife eventually got to know, she did not divorce him. She only laid the ground rules I listed above. Today they are stinking rich and everybody is happy.

I know I am not making sense and many feminists will come for my head.
Crime / Re: Gistlover Replies The Police Over Arrest by wirinet(m): 6:12am On Jan 06
Hotice085:


That is why you very mumu and remain jobless, of the problem the police has to solve yours is to make journalist scape goats if you were the police boss
Omo you mumu o no be small
No mind am, just yesterday bandits killed six innocent traders in Kaduna going about their legitimate business, him no go find scapegoat there, na journalists be him main problem to scapegoat.

https://www.nairaland.com/7959586/terrorists-kill-six-traders-katsina

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Crime / Re: Gistlover Replies The Police Over Arrest by wirinet(m): 5:32am On Jan 06
joseph1832:
I don't know what actually transpired between the Nigeria police and gistlover, but, if I was at the helm of affairs of the Nigeria police, I'll make a scape goat of the editor(s) of gistlover.
But you will not make scapegoat of the Jos terrorists that murdered hundreds, not even a statement of efforts to catch them. You will not make scapegoats of kidnappers that have taken over our expressways and have now moved into the city. You will not make scapegoat of politicians stealing the country blind with reckless abandon. Its bloggers and editors that you want to waste limited money, resources and personnel to be making scapegoat.

Even the FBI with 100 times the budget of EFCC and police do not have time to be running after small time 419 boys and romance scammers in the US, but here the police and EFCC waste all their time and energy running after small boys doing romance scams.

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