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Notyourb1tch:
This thread has a lot of generalisations.

My dad is from Anambra and he went on to marry a woman who is not even from the same tribe and even country as him. He married a Ghanaian

People generally marry who they understand and are comfortable with. It's not just limited to Igbos or Nigerians but Chinese, Indian etc. It's normal. However as can be seen by myself, Anambra men can marry outside their tribe if they really love you and you have all the qualities they want in a spouse.

My dad is the best man I know. I am proud to be from Anambra. Beautiful rich culture and people.

Igbo Kwenu

enkay4love:
@ OP,tell ur cousin to simply move on,he simply was pitching tent with her when he had nothing,& now that he has"hammered" he has become over classy to marry her,using the lame cover of "my momma said I shuld marry from my tribe"like seriously? Tell her to ensure he pays her off to compensate her for the time wasted,so that she does'nt lose on both ends. They are very tribalistic & very cunning about marrying outside of their tribe.Imagine som1 telling me once that if an Anambra man marries a non-Ibo,he'll be deemed as being under a spell,hehehe like seriously.It was really a funny scenario cos one expected the person in question to reason differently based on education & exposure. Ibos should marry themselves alone abeg,so that they can understand their complex nature. Ur cousin should just regard it as a mistake & just move on,life is too beautifuul to dwell on disapointment for long.

Caseless:
In my case, I think the reverse is what is playing out; I find it easy to talk to God. I talk to God like I see him standing in front of me. Infact, 80 of my meditation is driven by this mode of communication.

sleekangel85:
A friend of mine has being dating a guy for some years now. She's not an Anambrarian. She's a very lovely lady,beautiful, kind, down to earth and she loves the guy so much.

I'm worried because the guy hasn't proposed and he is from Anambra state . I don't know if he'll eventually marry her because I've heard and I've seen a lot of people from Anambra state marrying from their tribe.

I need to know why they do that even when most times it's against their wish. What's your advice for her? Don't you think that the guy may eventually leave her for an Anambra Lady?

Thanks

Tolexander:
Iya Ijebu



so baba ijebu married the woman at her late 20s when baba ijebu was about 70years?

Well, if money grows on tree, gurls will marry monkeys!

mikporch:
But basket mouth is richer and more popular and he is not misbehaving

johnydon22:
And am sure you know their are thousands of Gods being worshipped by humans...
No Gods is the author of morality, morality is a human concept that has its roots in human empathy towards others and the culture of a particular society.

e.g: The jews endorsed slavery and yahweh their god endorsed it too according to them it is good to keep slaves, But now i see nobody having slaves cus we know it is not right neither is it good to enslave anybody.

Isis and other islamic sects think they are doing the will of allah, thereby their actions are right but we all frown at their actions cus we know it goes against emapthy and humanity.

MORALITY IS HUMAN

dalaman:
How and why is goodness determined only by God? demonstrate to me with clear examples what it means to be good only because it takes God to be good. Why can't a person be good without God? How is God good and what makes goodness to exist only because of God?

Samirana360:
u can be gud without God, but u can't make heaven without God....u wil just die n perish with ur goodness if u dnt hav God

johnydon22:
Our morality comes from our humanity, by contrasting your feelings to that of others you will learn to be good towards all... The human nature is moral and good.

Our intellect guides our thinking and empathy guides our act... Morality do not depend on any book or creed. Those books too are also a product of humans and greatly influenced by their culture.
e.g- You do not need to rush and check in the bible or koran to check if stealing is good or bad, You know taking someone else's thing is not moral.

You do not need the bible or koran to tell you slavery and enslaving is bad even though both clearly never forbids it infact the two books endorsed it in a way.
So our morality stems from our humanity.. our intellect and empathy.

Like i have always tried to tell theists.. Goodness doesnt depend on reward or punishment.
If you are good because of the promise of heaven, you are only good because you want reward thereby you are only good for your own gain at the end.. We call it "Selfishness" and is that real goodness?

If you are good because of the threat of hell, you are only good because you fear hell therefore you are only good for you own gain at the end saving your own skin...its called "Selfishness" is that real goodness?

I that try to be good without expecting any reward or hoping to escape punishment and you that is good cus of reward or fear, Who really is moral?

Real goodness entails being good because you know it is right and want good to happen. cus you believe the earth and humans deserve goodness.

The idea of God was brought to make people not to accept responsible for their actions.
I am responsible for all my actions be it good or bad..

And this issue of forgiveness is that not a deceptive concept to rid people of their guilt?
Take for instance i stole from you, i regret my actions and come back to seek your forgiveness and return the item and you forgive thereby you already cleared your mind of it and it doesnt hurt anymore cus you already forgave me cus i came to you.

I stole from you, i regret my actions then i go to my room and mutter some prayers, come and out and say i am forgiven when you that i took your item is still hurting and doesnt even know i did it.

Which is forgiveness and which is moral?

We do not need forgiveness from any deity or gods we only need forgiveness from ourselves and one another..

Come and tender your own opinion on this

Acekidc4:
A frnd of My Dad who is a Religion Philosopher was arguing with my Dad n some of their frnds that being an Atheist does not mean"anything goes"- infact, quite the opposite. What do you think? Can Morality be Independent of GOD? Can people who don't believe in GOD still be as"Good" as those who do? What govern your own decision about whether and how to act Ethically?

I personally gather that many people believe that Atheism implies Nihilism- that rejecting GOD means rejecting Morality. A person who denies GOD, they reason must be, if not actively Evil, at least indifferent to considerations of Right n Wrong.

Now to my questions Nairalander's.
(1) Where does Morality come from?
(2) What guides your thinking about how to act?
(3) Do you choose to act Morally mostly because of the promise of Reward or the threat of Punishment- from GOD or from some other Authority. Do you agree contrary to what some believe, living your life ethically is even more important if you are an Atheist, since if you do something Morally Reprehensible there is no God to forgive you, and the only value your life has is the Choices you make?

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steppin:
Bro, this ur weed get seeds inside?

farano:
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Well...if you think I'm wrong, post yours!

ireneony:
I have the cutest smile ..check my profile .
In fact I too gallant.
Op I don't care about your list.
I'm here to admire myself

mployer:
A lady can live in the city without a job and without prostituting. The ones You met are probably career prostitutes hiding under the cover of 'no jobs'

fattybombom:
Chaiii! I wish this was sent to me by mj, oga odi why u collect this babe from me naa? poverty na bastard...money must be made!

LyfeJennings:
U and ur likers, i mean those that liked ur post get fish brain

Who are U
Who knows U
Who do U know
Who have U known
Where have you been
Why have U been where U been?
When U tweet, its nothing
As in Absolute N.O.T.H.I.N.G
No one cares



But Kiki answering the questions I asked U
If she tweets, over 100million Nigerians care to if its good or bad...


Now answer your question yourself
What is the difference between your tweets & Kiki's tweet?
(1 million marks)

Dude slow down that tweeter account is fake, is not Buhari's daughter if you don't know.

omanifrank:
After Buhari's Zara.. it seems KiKi is also geting exposed ..

DollyParton1:
That explains your style of reasoning beacaus you were raised by a kid. You could look at your mom who raised u and part of the things that came to ur mind about her qualities is that she is like a kid. She must be bursting with pride now.
All hail the man who was raised by someone like a kid. (Do we sing Kumbaya to you or what).

DollyParton1:
So thats the way u see ur mom, sisters, Aunties and cousin?

DollyParton1:
What sort of girls are u guys dating.
stop dating secondary school kids.

prettythicksme:
lol,thumb up for ur list op!so so true.#guilty of all tho*