₦airaland Forum

farous: Pls what type of business can one establish for ones wife with two hundred thousand naira,that can be generating income instead of sitting in the house idle as a house wife.Please advise.

ask4double: Guyz calm down, the season just got started. They gonna re-enforce pretty soon.

Theblessed: [b][size=16pt]Sorry, I think you got it wrong somewhere!

It seems you're confusing the term 'marriage' with 'parenting'.

Once you're clear of the terminology and distinct meanings then, you'd understand that in marriage, you don't protect a mature 'adult'. This is why many of you still think women, as their possession to control/treat as you please.

Yes, it is acceptable for responsible adults/parents to protect a toddler, young children and vulnerable adults e.g. mentally sick/retarded and the elderly etc how could you come here to tell the world you're protecting a mature woman with her own mind and the ability to look after herself, and do as she pleases.

This is where the problem lies - 'misconception'.

But, it's no ones fault, it's our culture that raises us (men/women)to believe/expect the men in our lives to provide whatever our needs are. Are we crippled or handicapped that we can not make our way in life, except if we are married or belong to a man?

Again, that's a proven lie, and that's where the insecurity in our men over their women independence, could be traced!

That a woman is as good as they are, if not 'better' given all the opportunities men have in this world.

So my dear, it is not your role to protect an 'adult' (us) - it is the role of society to do that, through effectual laws of the land e.g every country has laws that protect innocent people (men/women alike) from being abused or carelessly murdered whether in marriage or not.

So, how could you then, protect an adult if the laws are effective?

It's only in the 3rd world would people accept this idea as no one enforces the laws of the land thus, it is ineffective.

It is not unusual to see a Nigerian man slap a woman in the public and walk away free without any challenge/charge. Evidence of this of this sort of behaviour, abound everywhere including their politicians are doing it - imagine then, a street fellow!

Perhaps, that's idea behind your comment as the 'primary protector' of a woman since the laws are not enforced to protect people as a result, people form their own, vigilantes thereby, thought it their role to police society.

However, perceiving this from both sides of the ocean, I am saying you're not her primary protector rather, that of a child/vulnerable adult in your care and your wife is not in this category - rather, your mate and should be treated as such!
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coogar: chelsea are going about their business quite efficiently but acid tests lie ahead!!
congrats to blues for taking all the 9 points in their first 3 games!

mylunch: Listen to your self,why should't they?are you her father?did u bring her to life?from no where u show up from d blue,she marries u,so she should eliminate d name she has known all her life,the man that has cared for her all her life,the man that made her existence possible.Do u hv any idea of the sacrifices and pain involved with raising a child?i believe a good man should say to her father inlaw thank u for raising her for me,to show a bit of gratitude,she will keep your name.Am settling for a compound name.