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emusmith:
Dear People,

This 'letter' has two purposes: To Warn and to Advice.

The Warning Part
A friend once told me of how a guy was pestering her life with all manner of suggestive texts and suspicious gestures, trying to FORCE her into an unscrupulous relationship.

I was pissed because my dear was being threatened and more pissed because he was ignorantly stubborn hoping he could date someone like my friend- who's got morals.

Some guys of today, go around with the malicious mindset that the size of their manhood can substitute the size of their "mindhood". Simply put: Don't build your life around No girl- It's not worth it. Build around a worthy goal and all these other things shall be added unto you It's plain illiteracy to go after a girl that way!


The ADVICE Part

This is like the body of this thread; REASONS YOU SHOULD NEVER FORCE YOURSELF ON ANY GIRL, in view of a relationship.

Quickly, let's see a few:

1. All ladies are the same

I'm not on the contrary... You see, it beats my imagination how guys move from one girl to another, does she have a different 'privy part' from the other girl? Because, that's the major reasons guys cheat. Don't FORCE yourself on any girl because there is so much more than meets the eye, so carefully take note of the nuances and unspoken words, body movements and gestures. Break Up is an unnecessary evil.


2. We are told to Approach and not to Encroach

In my little time around ladies, whether friends or crushes; I've discovered that you could actually be encroaching thinking you are approaching. Before getting too involved, be sure it's not in vain. "Years Of Friendzoning Makes A Guy Look Like He's Been Duped"
Approach her if you like her. When you discover her heart is elsewhere, dump her.


3. Girls Need Guys More Than Guys Need Them

Am I quoting Scriptures here? Before someone calls me a chauvinist, the Bible spoke about, in the ET, it will be seven ladies to just one guy. Take it or leave it, girls wish they could ask guys out . For many reasons; Protection, Financial assistance, Warmth, Leadership, Companionship etc. Guys, don't FORCE yourself on any lady, whosoever please.


4. It Sends The Wrong Signal

Trying to get her to like you in a short period of time sends the opposite message. Good intention, yea, but it sends a "Desperate Call" to her. Not FORCING yourself on any accords you some form of honour and avoid insults too.


5. The "You Forced Me Into This Relationship" Speech May Surface.

If you didn't understand the rest points, at least grasp this point, don't FORCE a girl into your life and family. If you FORCE her to come, you'll do same to get her to stay. Fine or Average-looking, they're the same; same sexual parts! In fact, let her make the choice of choosing you without any coercion from anyone.


Forcing a girl into a relationship with you is plain stupidity. Who says you can approach?
You can but don't use the law of Force saying, "If I don't have you, I'll die"--- Lielie, is your name Laila?

To me, state your aim for getting close to her, watch her reaction for days. React based on those figures.

Gn'yt

Much respect emusmith.

Thanks for this excellent piece.

Superb write up.

Truckpusher:
These women fake everything these days - it's better to know that you've got one slut who isn't loyal than running with a cunning woman that is dressed like an angel - There lies your downfall.

Well said sire!

emusmith:
I'm good. Nice thread btw

Thanks and urs too. Sarcastic words.. bla bla

Farano, is that u in year 2020 pounding yam for lalasti..

Meanwhile u no dey sabi reply person pm ni. u deserve to be ban

Truckpusher:
It is better to have a slut to yourself than a boring cunning woman masked like an angel.

This is hilarious mehn!

emusmith:
Wow, did you just say that?

Bro, I pity the life of a guy that will marry this lady.

It's being a while bro. How are u?

TheSonOfMark:
You always complain about Nairaland guys 'bashing' girls. Just know I'd use this comment as proof that you girls are _sluts.
♦ ⚡⚡⚡

Damn! What a bomb!

EroticAngelina:
some Nigerians and their sick mentality I'm done arguing with u.

Same here.

EroticAngelina:
how do u know she's married? if she's married, he should keep off.

Well someone in her age should be married, divorced or a single mother.

Ask yourself. Do u think his mum will agree to such union?

A lot of things will destroy biko!

Op no mind people encouraging you to go ahead. Dem no wish u well.

Annybens1993:
Ahahahahaa..... This post is so hilarious.
On a more serious note, ladies need to learn how to take care of themselves financially.. I totally disagree with relying on a man for survival when you can earn money yourself... Get A Job!!!

Thanks dear. I hope ladies can borrow sense of leaf from you.

ilovecritics:
Thing is; I'm actually nice but I have two personalities and it depends on how you treat me that'll determine how you'll be treated!

You stay real, I stay real. I had a GF I was dating before I bought a car, we stayed glued till we broke up without drama.

There are still some that I've dealt with (The ones that took me for granted when I used to trek).

Some girls can be mean! So they get treated the way they present themselves. #MyPoint ..

Well said bro

EroticAngelina:
Age is nothing but a number. its love that matters. good luck

Madam abegi! Is she not a married woman that u are saying age is nothing but a number.

Meanwhile if he is 40 and she is 65 or 70 looking haggard. Won't he marry a shooting star then?

RedBenson:
You must be an agent of darkness. Which kingdom of witchcraft do you belong?

Bro, when I saw her comment, I sent a PM to seun requesting he deactivate her moniker immediately. Don't know what's stopping him from doing so.

prettythicksme:
I just cant help but lmao wen i saw this thread!u guys sha,anyway me dey enjoy uuuuuuu

Lol. Na so e funny reach! Abeg make u free guys oo

Every day for the thieves, one day for the owner. Time don come for the thief make him enta prison.

prettythicksme:
in djkhalid's voice**another one!! cc:Thesonofmark,wristbangle,Tosyne2much
vizkiz!i am suspecting u guys theses days!shey una babes don show u pepper nii?

What do u think? . U did not include ronald4lif to balance the equation.

Gelengelen:
to all those ladies that ignored, insulted and made me a fool when i had nothing then, may the thunder of God strike and blind your eyes from seeing me.

i don mâke am now YES..i don make am




to all thé guys in nairaland i salute you all. may amadioha cripple those thief thief ladies from coming close to you.


when théy spot you on your Lamborghini....before they Côme close to your car a big trailer will clear thèm off thé road.


those ladies after discovering you have made it and
wants to use their brains to strategize on how to get
you. May sango rendering thèm mad and inflict infinité madness to thèm all.




Amin...Amen.....Iseeee.
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My guy dey vex oo!

Truckpusher:
You do have a point bro but doing what they've been doing to you only reduces you to their level and IQ .

You can't build a better society by paying people the same way they treated you before.
Revenge is sweet but how sweet?

Hmmm. A good question. Even after the revenge, does it change the situation.

But bros, the life of a broke guy is highly frustrating becos everybody will hate him.

RedBenson:
Harbosede02 has been a broke and hungry lady since 1464BC

Hahahahaha

kunzaar83:
I guess Ūя̲̅ d kind of brat that follows after rich ready made guys.. I m very sure u must have experience even worse than the 8 tell us more pls... For me if u humilate me cz I m broke I will speNd anything to get Ūя̲̅ best female friends

Don't mind the yeye geh. Na her type go still end up with broke guy without knowing

Truckpusher:
Only small men with an average mindset does all this .

When you're big , you forget about the past and just let people understand that money and fame doesn't make you at all but your personality and what you've got to offer that has been inside you.
The same ladies and guys that you treat with disdain are likely to be better than you tomorrow - That's the way it is .

Life and human nature is so dynamic and dysfunctional that whatever you have shouldn't move you but what you can't have at least for now.
Learn how not to pay and make your perceived enemies constantly trying to figure out what you are.

Dear sir,

You have aired a tangible point but don't forget that humans are rational and some tends to payback the evil deeds people have done in the past. Until they have their share of coin, their mind will not rest.

tosyne2much:
9. They Start Acting Like Buhari

When they become rich they go around with the mentality that they can get any lady at the tip of their finger. They start commanding ladies even the way Buhari cannot control his surbordinates

Lmao... They start acting like buhari

lilmax:
these are the ones that tie guys destiny in coven

U dey mind the hungry lady!

tosyne2much:
Roflwkmd


OP, this one funny gan ooooo


Wonderful write-up jawe

Thanks bro.

Freemanan:
THIS LIST IS SO INCOMPLETE WITHOUT DRTV AND DBS... OBITUARIES ARE THE ORDER OF THE DAY.... DELTA NEEDS A STATION... BOTH TV AND RADIO.





LTV is the opposite of what Op wrote tho... I do watch it on GoTV sometimes...

Eh ehn! U don't mean it @ LTV?

lagmostkuit:
Cos u're not in osun state

Can it be more boring than OGTV? chai Nigeria TV stations.

madridguy:
You just wanna finish LTV for your list sha ?

No b b fault na

lagmostkuit:
OSBC osogbo, very dry and annoying station

Never watched It before

madridguy:
Which one be otapiapia abi na Gonmole 20 advertisement ?

Hahaha Na Now u dey see am? Yes oo. Just watch the TV station for one hour, u go come here share testimony

xpac01:
My brother, every state owned television stations are as boring as cow nose. Your list is supposed to be far more than 36.

My brother, To list them all no easy

not true in all cases

madridguy:
@OP NA LIE GO KILL YOU WITH YOUR FALSE ALLEGATION ON LTV.

I lie for the others