₦airaland Forum

Amelian:
Try read the op story very well and the part where the wife wants to trade in a small way, so she can be sure the kind of business she plans to delve into. She didn't ask her husband for N1.5m for biz. He is the one coming up with wholesale business. Which she virtually have no idea about.
I know women on the streets selling stuffs from roasting yams, plantains, selling tomaotes making money and also helping us get these items on our streets.
So try cool down and read to understand.. Don't just pick few words from what av said to the op 2 justify your thoughts.

Hello?? Am not the op, neither am his wife. Am simply a stranger who read what the op said and making him realise he is forcing his type of dream wife on his real wife at home due to what he complained about . So simply place your misplaced agression on his wife or better still go to his house and question the wife. Seat her down and tell her what u feel is right or wrong in her decisions on her life career.. Even seat the op down in his home and lecture him..
So pls don't even start on me today. Am not your problem.

I know you're not my problem, don't make this about me and you but you make it seem like what he's asking of his spouse is too much (herculean task indeed), his fear about the potential failure of his wife proposed business is not unfounded given her lackadaisical attitude to life, how can she succeed when she easily gives up, you think business is for the faint hearted? You made this personal when you said you detest people like the op when you don't know Jack about him or what he's been through

ThierryJay:
Hey Toks, you and many other nairalanders are making generalizations and superficial simplistic assumptions without proper analysis of the facts presented by the Op.

I agree with you that the situation does not warrant divorce as it can be resolved. However, saying that it's largely the Ops fault may be a little narrow-minded.

The key issue to the Op is that his wife is intellectually inhibited and not motivated to improve herself. To this end, the Op desires some sort of continuous improvement in his wife to personally enjoy the marriage. There is no rule or law in marriage that stipulates that the interests of a particular family are important while those of another are mundane. Consequently, wanting your spouse to improve in a certain area is not condemnable by any standards.

In essence, the personal elements that the Op considers vital to a successful marriage may be different from yours or others. You cannot however limit or condition the Ops familial happiness within the context of your own personal preferences. That would be parochial.

By buying brighter grammar for her and pledging 1.5m for her business, the Op has actually taken concrete steps to enable her improve, but marriage is a two-way sacrifice. The wife should not be comfortable in being unprogressive, even in her own areas of interest. And her excuse cannot be child-bearing and cooking skills as some are insinuating!

The Op desires to enjoy his spouse and not "endure" or "manage" the lifelong situation as many Nigerian families are currently doing. Indeed I know of a few families in the Op's situation where the husband does not see an issue with his wife's actual or relative illiteracy or lack of ambition; and others whose marriages are threatened as a result or others who simply manage the situation by deriving satisfaction from external quarters. Saying his wife should be left stagnating is not healthy for the family development, especially when the husband and the kids are progressing.

In summary, the Op should be more diplomatic in dealing with her and try to win her over before actively participating in the developmental initiatives they both agree on. I agree with you on the dressing. However, the Op is right to insist that she learn under an experienced dealer to increase the chances of success at her intended trade. There is a reason why feasibility studies are done even if it is tomatoes you want to sell. Moreover, the Op is simply adding value to her from his own knowledge of financial management.

All the best Op.

The best reply here so far. I wonder why he'd blame the op for wanting some kind of improvement in his spouse, and by learning from experience he means the op should give his wife N200k to go and throw away, the wife's attitude to life clearly shows she's not motivated to do anything to improve which means she is more likely to fail in the business than succeed

Amelian:
No baba for this story.

The op is manipulative.

Smhh such men I detest..
He knows the capacity of his wife, he's giving her herculean task to do and achieve..
J
Make he bounce !

Which one be herculean task? How can you suggest upgrading oneself is a herculean task? PGD e no gree do, computer e no wan learn, oya learn trade, she say mbanu. You think say dem dey pick N1.5m for ground? You think her job is just to pop up children for the man without contributing in anyway to the upkeep of the family, imagine an accounting graduate can't even help her primary school child do homework. What rubbish

Flat tommy augmented with sizeable melons

kishimi8:
Graphics design on the go. Compiling software on the go. Substiture for desktop workstations

Thank you

Kbworld:
but how much is hot 3

I don't know that

kishimi8:
Most workstations are designed for professional level work. The hp elitebook series is usaully built with military grade ruggedness specs. I think mil-25/26std build. And the processors on workstation class machines are usually the highest speed and amount of compute cores you can get.


And difference is graphics normal consuer grade machines@@usually have graphic cards geared towards gaming and light business applications. I.e geforce grphic cards . cant really write much about graphic card differences on my phone

Thanks for the enlightenment, but if I may ask, what kind of work will require such specs if you're not a military man?

Kbworld:
are u sure its 35k?

Between 35-39k depending on location and dealer

WhyNa:
I have both. I think only those who do not have an active sub can enjoy this. If you have 4g enabled fone n sim that is

That's sad, it means you'd have to exhaust your active sub to enjoy this bonus which will expire after nine days. I no dey ever trust mtn bonuses, they seem more like giving with the right hand and collecting with the left

Infinix hot 4 Lite
1gb ram
16gb rom expandable to 32gb
8mp back camera
5mp front camera
4000mah battery
5" screen
You'll enjoy the phone

WhyNa:
Pls do you active sub? cos I'm being charged from my active sub and not the vinus

You need to upgrade to 4G sim if you have a 4G enabled phone

The last four digits of an ATM card number is useless. It is even printed on pos receipts, when you make a purchase using pos

adeoyeyemi:
Guy ...it's 220k. My zbook(Refurbished) is 1350 dollars without the two ssd disks. Those machines are workstations not for play play o. Except if u intend to buy them for playing computer games.

What exactly is the difference between a workstation and a normal laptop. Pardon my ignorance

Is that twenty two thousand or two hundred and twenty thousand?

You try OP

It's hard to take a pick, the battle will be won by the best team on the day. If team Samsung adopt a counter attacking style, they should carry the day.

All these experiences d make me dey laf like mad man. I remember falling into their trap twice, I just played along and used the perfect time when their guard is down to escape.

wizzywisdom:
The price of the pro version is a bit high yet the difference is only the camera

Not just camera but higher ram and it's 4g LTE enabled

Lexmane:
Apapa, Lagos. #40k. You?

too far, I'm in warri

Adeoba10:
Hot 4 lite.... 1gig n 4000mAh...

what's the price

Adeoba10:
Hot 4 lite.... 1gig n 4000mAh...

what's the price

Adeoba10:
Hot 4 lite.... 1gig n 4000mAh...

what's the price?

Lexmane:
I want to sell my own L8. One week old. Whatsapp me on 08142776573

price and location

how much is each phone here?

I'm also looking for such a phone, with battery life of 4000mAh. Any suggestion is welcome

Youngzedd:
I wonder the government She wanna go and serve when She never voted for any.

lol, tbh Nigerian graduates dey disappoint me, how can you not have any valid means of identification as a graduate, they want the government to beg before they get off their lazy ass to do what will benefit them

when they say apply for these things you see it as a waste of time, so you don't even vote and you want a federal government job

horllamy:
depend on the area

thank you